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Meeting Misbehavior with Acceptance and Empathy

Meeting Misbehavior with Acceptance and Empathy | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

Using acceptance and empathy as the first step to overcome a challenging moment can go such a long way. If a child has a tantrum, throws something, bangs, breaks or otherwise does something that we may view as unwantted or unaceptable behavior we can:

  • Accept that children have limitations
  • Empathize that our child is having a hard time
  • Accept that children have needs
  • Empathize that our child’s needs, in that moment, are not being met.
  • Accept that children will at times be frustrated, angry, mad, sad.
  • Empathize that such strong feelings can be difficult to manage alone.
  • Accept that children will at times be exuberant, loud, annoying.
  • Empathize that our child in that moment has big emotions.
  • Accept that children should and will  at times challenge our reasons.
  • Accept that children have their own thoughts and feeling.
  • Empathize that our children often have no control over what is going on in their lives.
  • Accept that children need an outlet for their thoughts and feelings.
  • Accept that many such “mis”-behaviors are a developmentally appropriate.

by Ariadne Brill

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How Can I Get My Kids to Listen?

How Can I Get My Kids to Listen? | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
When Mom was able to model calm behavior, the child’s mirror neurons (specialized neurons responsible for empathy and understanding of what another person is feeling) were activated and she was therefore able to “mirror back” the calm she was observing in and feeling from her mother.


If you want to be “listened to,” first, try listening to your child.


Consider asking for what you want versus telling what you want and empathize with the fact that it’s hard to stop doing an enjoyable activity, to hear the word “no” etc.


by Debbie Zeichner 

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Tools to Teach Teen Compassion & Empathy

Tools to Teach Teen Compassion & Empathy | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

As a parent, you want to see your child act with compassion and show empathy to others. They may need a bit of a push and some guidance, though, to learn how to show others these qualities.


Teaching compassion and empathy to children can start when children are very young. However, if you haven't discussed these ideas and values with your children until the teen years, it's not too late. While the sooner you start mentioning these qualities as a family value, the better; you can still give your...


Provide Scenarios...

Discuss Current Events....

Turn the Tables...

Role Model Behavior...

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Empathy-Based Family Life with Hand in Hand Parenting: Craig Appel & Edwin Rutsch

Empathy-Based Family Life with Hand in Hand Parenting: Craig Appel & Edwin Rutsch | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

Craig Appel is the Executive Director of Parenting by Connection that uses the Hand in Hand Parenting approach. They say, "Our mission is to provide parents with insights, skills, and support they need to listen to and connect with their children in a way that allows each child to thrive. We do this through easy-to-access support, classes, and literature. We offer vital information to help parents deal with issues from children biting and kids' temper tantrums to learning issues and bullying on playgrounds and in schools."


"I started to see that helping parents and changing the dynamic in the family and how children are raised is a huge leverage point for changing the world. Raising empathic children... has huge butterfly rippling effects in terms of changing the world...

We model the behaviour of listening with empathy, and that is how we help them grow into social and emotionally intelligent children."


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Yawning budgies can make other budgies yawn too, study suggests

Yawning budgies can make other budgies yawn too, study suggests | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
Budgerigars, also known as parakeets, are susceptible to catching the urge to yawn from watching other budgies do it.


[What yawning bonobos can teach us about empathy]'


Some researchers, including Gallup, believe that contagious yawning behavior in different species could be connected to a primitive form of empathy.


Frans de Waal of Emory University in Georgia told the New Scientistthat "contagious yawning by itself is not exactly empathy, but it hints at the tendency to mimic and synchronize with the bodies of others" and that the "process is probably the basis of mammalian empathy."


Although Gallup's experiments don't tell us everything about the contagious yawning behavior among budgies, it has potentially interesting implications for future experiments. "Since contagious yawning may represent a primitive form of empathy,"

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Nurturing Empathic Family and Parenting, Part 1 & 2: Robin Grille and Edwin Rutsch

Nurturing Empathic Family and Parenting, Part 1 & 2:  Robin Grille and Edwin Rutsch | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

Robin Grille is an "empathy farmer", father, a psychologist in private practice with twenty years' experience, and a parenting educator. His articles on parenting and child development have been widely published in Australia and overseas.


Robin's first book: 'Parenting for a Peaceful World'  has received international acclaim and led to speaking engagements around Australia, USA and New Zealand. 'Heart to Heart Parenting' is Robin's second book.

A passionate speaker and social change activist, Robin's extensive research has led him to feel that improved attention to babies' and children's emotional needs is the most powerful way to move societies toward sustainability and peace.


"The human brain and heart that are met primarily with empathy in the critical early years cannot and will not grow to choose a violent or selfish life."


"Building of human empathy is one brick at a time and sometimes the bricks come down in the building process.
 

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In Preschoolers, Generosity Linked to Empathy

In Preschoolers, Generosity Linked to Empathy | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

“The children who had a greater awareness of how badly one feels when others fail to share with one were more generous in a subsequent resource allocation task,” said researchers Markus Paulus (Professor of Developmental Psychology and the Psychology of Learning in Early Childhood) and Professor Chris Moore of Dalhousie University (Halifax, Nova Scotia)....


Paulus’ latest work shows how one can foster children’s readiness to share with others: “It helps if one makes clear to them what someone else feels when left out.”

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Mindfulness for Meltdowns: Give Your Kid a ‘Time-In’ Instead

Mindfulness for Meltdowns: Give Your Kid a ‘Time-In’ Instead | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
As parents, it's hard to see our children in distress, unable to simply "fix" it. Teaching our kids basic self-regulation strategies can ease everyone's pain.


So … what, exactly, should a parent do during a time-in? A time-in is a perfect opportunity to practice mindfulness with your child to help regulate emotions. I work with kids all the time on breathing techniques and muscle relaxation strategies to help them reduce their feelings of anxiety, frustration, and disappointment.


But when they get home, they don’t use them! Their parents suggest, “Have you tried the breathing that you practiced at counseling?” Almost 99% of the time, this simply leads to increased frustration for the child as he or she insists that it doesn’t work.


 By Emily Kircher-Morris


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How to Connect Emotionally with Your Spouse » productivemuslim

How to Connect Emotionally with Your Spouse » productivemuslim | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

How empathy benefits your marriage

When you practice empathy in your marriage, you will transform your marriage into a stronger, more real and more enjoyable union. Spouses will actually know and love each other for who they truly are In sha Allah, when they are able to bond at an emotional level.


Most people agree that open communication is the cornerstone of a healthy marriage. However, marriage therapists believe that ordinary communication is not enough. What a marriage really needs to thrive is emotional understanding, or empathy.


How can we practice empathy in our marriages?...

1. Empathizing with others starts with self-empathy...

2. Recognize and validate your spouse’s feelings...

3. Help your spouse empathize by genuinely expressing your feelings...

4. Use empathy during disagreements...


Sheima Salam Sumer has an MA in Counselor Education, author of two book

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Empathic Familly: TEACH through Love: Why Empathy Doesn't Work

Empathic Familly: TEACH through Love: Why Empathy Doesn't Work | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

When you make the switch to being more conscious and aware of your words and actions - using empathy becomes your "first aid" for negativity.


Empathy allows us to move through our emotions so that we can regain control of our thoughts and behaviors, but this is a skill that takes time to develop in children.


You may want (or expect) immediate changes. When you are new to this shift (and even if you aren't) you may find yourself thinking, "I'm using empathy but s/he still won't listen."  


Lori Petro


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Empathic Parenting: How Children Develop Empathy (use acting and role play)

Empathic Parenting:  How Children Develop Empathy (use acting and role play) | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
We can help our children cultivate empathy.


When we say, “Look at the dog; it seems like he is hurting when you hit him,” we help our children focus on the inner feelings of others to help guide their behavior. In this way, we play an important role in helping support the development of empathy.


But here is the good news: it is not all up to us. Mother nature supports children in naturally developing empathy while FREELY PLAYING WITH EACH OTHER.


Their internal drive for ROLE PLAY and PRETEND PLAY lead them to playfully experience many different roles, naturally growing their capacity feel the internal world of another."


 by Carmen Gamper

Image" Charles Hunt, Children acting the ‘Play Scene’ from “Hamlet
http://j.mp/1HiUjSN


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Little Hearts - Gentle Parenting Resources -L.R.Knost. to be an empathetic, responsive parent

Little Hearts - Gentle Parenting Resources -L.R.Knost.  to be an empathetic, responsive parent | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
Many people believe that gentle parenting is a form of unparenting, but nothing could be further from the truth. Gentle parenting is involved parenting ~interactive, engaged, active parenting.


It takes focused attention, planning, participation, research, and so much more to be an empathetic, responsive parent who is in tune with their child’s needs and who is prepared to make whatever sacrifices are necessary to meet those needs.

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Fill Your Child's Tool Box with Empathy and Compassion

Fill Your Child's Tool Box with Empathy and Compassion | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
It’s sort of the same with teaching empathy to our children – especially to the under 5 crowd, who tends to be a bit more spirited, as I like to call it, than the rest of us.


Nothing wrong with spirit, nothing at all. As parents and caregivers though, our own actions are often what make a toddler go from “spirited” to “unruly” or “mean”.

Empathy is a tool. It is one that doesn’t come easy for young children, but can be taught. We must model it. When a toddler hits his parents or another toddler, and we respond lovingly and patiently, we are giving that child a tool.


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(Empathic Family) Using Empathy to Connect with Your Kids

(Empathic Family) Using Empathy to Connect with Your Kids | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
Positive parenting educators and mental health therapists talk a lot about empathy. When when parents want to know how to respond when their kids are angry or anxious, I suggest responding with empathy first.

I tell parents to think of empathy as “finding the feeling” in what their child is saying or experiencing.


If your child is upset, you could say, “You’re so mad that Sophie took the marker without asking!” When you respond with empathy, you help your child put their feelings into words and make them feel that you understand.


Here are some empathy tips:

  • Be Present:
  • Wait for Calm: 
  • Connect:



by Nicole Schwarz

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CNN: Are 3-year-olds mind-reading, justice-seeking superheroes? Learn the building blocks of empathy and a sense of justice

CNN: Are 3-year-olds mind-reading, justice-seeking superheroes? Learn the building blocks of empathy and a sense of justice | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

If you want to learn the building blocks of empathy and a sense of justice, just look to the nearest 3-year-old.

While these two traits seem like they might require years of experience and observation to acquire, a new study published in Current Biology reveals that children as young as 3 have a strong sense of restorative justice.

Researchers in Germany observed individual 3- and 5-year-olds in a situation in which they sat at a round table with puppets and a few items, such as cookies or toys. The children had the ability to pull a rope to turn the table. One section of the table was dubbed "the cave," which was inaccessible and could hide the items....


Origins of empathy

What are the origins of this intuitive sense of empathy?

Family environment and cognitive development, according to Dr. Norma Feshbach. There must be a family context that allows and encourages empathy for it to flourish. And cognitively, children must have a physiological readiness that allows them to see someone in an emotional state and elicit a similar response. This also enables them to see the world from another perspective, and feel and experience those emotions.


By Ashley Strickland

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Empathy-Based Family Life and Parenting with Love and Logic: Charles Fay and Edwin Rutsch

Empathy-Based Family Life and Parenting with Love and Logic: Charles Fay and Edwin Rutsch | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

Charles Fay, Ph.D. is a parent, internationally recognized author, consultant and highly skilled public speaker. He is, President of the Love and Logic Institute, Inc. The Love and Logic Institute is dedicated to making parenting and teaching fun and rewarding, instead of stressful and chaotic. They provide practical tools and techniques that help adults achieve respectful, healthy relationships with their children. All of their work is based on a psychologically sound parenting and teaching philosophy called Love and Logic.


In this interview we discussed the role of empathy in family life, parenting and the Love and Logic parenting model.


"So, that's the limit's part of it.

Now the other end of this has to do with,

how do we do this without losing their love?

 That comes down to empathy.

Remember that word. When you hear

Love and Logic, you think empathy. "


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Family Heath Camp

Family Heath Camp | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
New for 2015, FHC of California comes to Peaceful Pines Eco-Retreat Center, a "unique blend of Zen design, green living and comfort in a secluded creek-side sanctuary." We are excited to bring FHC to the West Coast!

To make it easier for more people to attend, we have extended Early Bird pricing for this camp until June 1. Won't you join us?
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3 Tips for Practicing Empathy With Your Kids

3 Tips for Practicing Empathy With Your Kids | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

The good news is that there's a skill we can all develop which can be a big help: empathy. Empathy is the imaginative act of stepping into the shoes of another person and looking at the world through his or her eyes.


Ninety-eight percent of us have the ability to empathize wired into our brains. But we're not always great at putting our latent empathic abilities into practice.


1. Practice empathic listening...

2. Teach them about the Golden Rule and the Platinum Rule...

3. Recognize that we often don't understand our kids..


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Are we raising mean kids?

Are we raising mean kids? | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

When was the last time you made an effort to teach empathy or kindness to your child? Sudha Subramanian says it’s about time parents got their act together.


A recent study suggested that parents are happy only if their kids are high achievers. We are all too wired and focused about our children getting top grades and excelling in activities. We don’t pay any attention to whether our kids are kind or not. We don’t take that extra effort to teach our children empathy or encourage them to do any community service.


Which means our kids may become high achievers in terms of grades, but may not have much to show by way of being a caring human being. And this brings us to the big question – are we raising mean kids?

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Play, Empathy and TV - Hand in Hand Parenting

Play, Empathy and TV - Hand in Hand Parenting | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
A second important determinant of a child’s empathy and flexibility in play is how much TV and video programming he is exposed to. TV and videos offer free “baby sitting” for harried parents who are overburdened with work and the stresses of parenting. But the breather the parents get is a very mixed blessing indeed.
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Brain and Empathy Based Parenting

Brain and Empathy Based Parenting | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
I am crazy-excited to launch this round of PEAK Parenting! In this picture here, I’m hiding out at a coffee shop dreaming of how amazing the next six months will be. I can’t wait! 


On my third go, this will be a smooth road for us all as we aim to bring peace and joy to our homes. We all want calm family interactions and cooperative kids.


PEAK Parenting’s focus on current brain reacearch and empathy makes it a potent combination for bringing about positive change.


Sarah MacLaughlin, LSW

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Empathy-Based Parenting Educators Discuss the Role of Empathy in Different Parenting Styles?

Empathy-Based Parenting Educators Discuss the Role of Empathy in Different Parenting Styles? | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

Our panel of Empathy-Based Parenting Educators discuss, What is the Role of Empathy in Different Parenting Styles? Some of  the  styles discussed are;  Authoritarian,  Authoritative,  Indulgent  (permissive), Neglectful (uninvolved), Attachment, Nurturant and Empathic Parenting.  
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Panelists


"the role that empathy plays is simply that 
it is the super glue of relationships."


"It's about the relationship. It absolutely has so 
much empathy involved both for the child
 and for yourself and for the situation."


"empathy... helps parents and educators to 
get curious about what is happening"

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(Empathic Parenting) Using Empathy With Kids

Read the 5 Rules of Empathy here:
http://mamablog.teach-through-love.com/2014/01/why-empathy-doesnt-work.html
Lori Petro I TEACH through Love Speaker 

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Empathy-Based Parenting Educators on What is the Role of Empathy in Different Parenting Styles?

Our panel of Empathy-Based Parenting Educators discuss, What is the Role of Empathy in Different Parenting Styles?


Some of the styles discussed are; Authoritarian, Authoritative, Indulgent (permissive), Neglectful (uninvolved), Attachment, Nurturant and Empathic Parenting.

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