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In Preschoolers, Generosity Linked to Empathy

In Preschoolers, Generosity Linked to Empathy | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

“The children who had a greater awareness of how badly one feels when others fail to share with one were more generous in a subsequent resource allocation task,” said researchers Markus Paulus (Professor of Developmental Psychology and the Psychology of Learning in Early Childhood) and Professor Chris Moore of Dalhousie University (Halifax, Nova Scotia)....


Paulus’ latest work shows how one can foster children’s readiness to share with others: “It helps if one makes clear to them what someone else feels when left out.”

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Mindfulness for Meltdowns: Give Your Kid a ‘Time-In’ Instead

Mindfulness for Meltdowns: Give Your Kid a ‘Time-In’ Instead | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
As parents, it's hard to see our children in distress, unable to simply "fix" it. Teaching our kids basic self-regulation strategies can ease everyone's pain.


So … what, exactly, should a parent do during a time-in? A time-in is a perfect opportunity to practice mindfulness with your child to help regulate emotions. I work with kids all the time on breathing techniques and muscle relaxation strategies to help them reduce their feelings of anxiety, frustration, and disappointment.


But when they get home, they don’t use them! Their parents suggest, “Have you tried the breathing that you practiced at counseling?” Almost 99% of the time, this simply leads to increased frustration for the child as he or she insists that it doesn’t work.


 By Emily Kircher-Morris


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How to Connect Emotionally with Your Spouse » productivemuslim

How to Connect Emotionally with Your Spouse » productivemuslim | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

How empathy benefits your marriage

When you practice empathy in your marriage, you will transform your marriage into a stronger, more real and more enjoyable union. Spouses will actually know and love each other for who they truly are In sha Allah, when they are able to bond at an emotional level.


Most people agree that open communication is the cornerstone of a healthy marriage. However, marriage therapists believe that ordinary communication is not enough. What a marriage really needs to thrive is emotional understanding, or empathy.


How can we practice empathy in our marriages?...

1. Empathizing with others starts with self-empathy...

2. Recognize and validate your spouse’s feelings...

3. Help your spouse empathize by genuinely expressing your feelings...

4. Use empathy during disagreements...


Sheima Salam Sumer has an MA in Counselor Education, author of two book

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(Emapthic Parenting) TEACH through Love: Why Empathy Doesn't Work

(Emapthic Parenting) TEACH through Love: Why Empathy Doesn't Work | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

When you make the switch to being more conscious and aware of your words and actions - using empathy becomes your "first aid" for negativity.


Empathy allows us to move through our emotions so that we can regain control of our thoughts and behaviors, but this is a skill that takes time to develop in children.


You may want (or expect) immediate changes. When you are new to this shift (and even if you aren't) you may find yourself thinking, "I'm using empathy but s/he still won't listen."  


Lori Petro


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Empathic Parenting: How Children Develop Empathy (use acting and role play)

Empathic Parenting:  How Children Develop Empathy (use acting and role play) | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
We can help our children cultivate empathy.


When we say, “Look at the dog; it seems like he is hurting when you hit him,” we help our children focus on the inner feelings of others to help guide their behavior. In this way, we play an important role in helping support the development of empathy.


But here is the good news: it is not all up to us. Mother nature supports children in naturally developing empathy while FREELY PLAYING WITH EACH OTHER.


Their internal drive for ROLE PLAY and PRETEND PLAY lead them to playfully experience many different roles, naturally growing their capacity feel the internal world of another."


 by Carmen Gamper

Image" Charles Hunt, Children acting the ‘Play Scene’ from “Hamlet
http://j.mp/1HiUjSN


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(Empathic Parenting) Lost for words? How reading can teach children empathy

(Empathic Parenting) Lost for words? How reading can teach children empathy | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

A Cambridge University study by Maria Nikolajeva, professor of education, found that “reading fiction provides an excellent training for young people in developing and practising empathy and theory of mind, that is, understanding of how other people feel and think”.

Neuroscience backs this up. Researchers at Emory University in Atlanta, US, say that fiction tricks our brains into thinking we are part of the story.


The empathy we feel for characters wires our brains to have the same sensitivity towards real people.


Carnegie Mellon University studies discovered that when you get lost in a book your brain lives through the characters at a neurological level.
 

Miranda McKearney and Sarah Mears both work for EmpathyLab.

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(Restorative Circles For Children) 3 Steps That Transform Sibling Conflict Into Sibling Camaraderie

(Restorative Circles For Children)  3 Steps That Transform Sibling Conflict Into Sibling Camaraderie | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

Over the years, I have handled these disputes using a combination of different strategies, including “letting them work it out”, “teaching them effective communication skills (ha!)”, “separating them”, “giving each of them empathy,” “mediating,” “refereeing”, “problem-solving” and “punishing.”


None of these have been as effective, efficient, and satisfying to me (or to them!) as the method described below, a family-friendly form of Dominic Barter’s award winning Restorative Circles, which go by many different names around the world and are called Micro-Circles in our family.


by Elaine Shpungin


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(Empathic Parenting) The Natural Child: Parenting from the Heart - Kindle edition by Jan Hunt, Peggy O'Mara

This approach has been called “attachment parenting” or “empathic parenting”. It is often considered to be “New Age” but it is in fact, age-old. Many of the practices that I recommend in this book were the norm for thousands of generations, and have only been questioned within the last 100 years or less.

Empathic parenting, to put it most simply, is believing what we know in our heart to be true. Children raised with love and compassion will be free to use their time as adults in meaningful and creative ways, rather than expressing their childhood hurts in ways that harm themselves or others. If adults have no need to deal with the past, they can live fully in the present.

It is my belief that through empathic parenting the world can become a more peaceful and a more humane place, where every child can grow to adulthood with a generous capacity for empathy and trust. Our society has no more urgent task.

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(Empathic Parenting) How To Be An Empathetic Parent, Even When It Feels Hard

(Empathic Parenting) How To Be An Empathetic Parent, Even When It Feels Hard | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
Being more empathetic is one of my parenting and personal goals this year, so I started digging more deeply into this concept to understand how to put empathy into action.

Empathy is when a person accurately communicates that they see another's intentions and emotional state. It means watching our child's frustration and focusing on how life feels in that little child's body, while putting our own anger and agenda into the background.

Why can being empathetic be so hard?


by Andrea Nair 


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(Empathic Parenting) Developing Empathy: Raising Children who Care

(Empathic Parenting) Developing Empathy: Raising Children who Care | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

What is Empathy?
Empathy is the ability to understand the feelings of others, feel what they feel, and respond in helpful, compassionate ways. Children who are able to identify with and comfort others make friends more easily, generally perform better academically, and demonstrate a higher level of moral and emotional development.


How do we teach empathy?

  • Infants: (Birth to 1 yr.) ...
  • Toddlers: (1-2yrs.) ... ( name feelings)
  • Pre-schoolers: (3-5 Yrs....) (share) 
  • Ages 5 and up:... (model behaviors).


Model empathy...


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Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, April 24, 11:39 PM

The article makes good points i.e. how adults interact with children and model empathy is important at all ages.

 

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Sophia Tara's curator insight, April 25, 12:55 PM

Model empathy: Above all, remember that parents are their children's first and most influential teachers.  If we expect our children to grow into caring, empathetic adults we must model these behaviors. Let your children see your kind and thoughtful actions, hear you express your concern for the feelings of others, and demonstrate empathetic parenting. Listen carefully to your children and ask questions that help them clarify their thoughts and feelings. 

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(Empathic Parenting): The Right Way to Discipline Your Child

(Empathic Parenting): The Right Way to Discipline Your Child | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

For years, parents have been relying on punishment to transform their kids’ “bad” behavior. The effectiveness of the approach is a debatable issue, but one thing is clear: it’s not good for a child’s development.


Punitive parenting such as grounding or time-out may not help in getting the kids to realize their mistake, feel remorseful, and develop an understanding of right and wrong on moral grounds.


They choose to do the right things mainly because of the fear of punishment. Once they grow out of fear, they’re likely to rebel against their oppressor, which in this case are the parents. To avoid this, positive parenting based on an empathic approach is what you should be exercising.


  • Developing the Parent-Child Connection...
  • Focus on the Problem, not the Symptoms...
  • Encourage Them to Mend What They’ve Broken...
  • Give It Time..



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(Empathic Parenting) The Parents' Corner: Empathic Parenting

(Empathic Parenting) The Parents' Corner: Empathic Parenting | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

Lately the number of studies are emphasizing the positive effects empathic parenting has on children. There are articles, books, websites all advising how to apply the methods of empathic parenting.


However, knowing what to do is not exactly the same as actually doing it. It is so easy to get caught in your own emotions and instead of being reasonable to raise your voice, threaten, punish. Phrases like “Stop this right now or I won't buy you anything” or “Do you want to get punished?” are not unfamiliar to most of us.

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Are we raising mean kids?

Are we raising mean kids? | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

When was the last time you made an effort to teach empathy or kindness to your child? Sudha Subramanian says it’s about time parents got their act together.


A recent study suggested that parents are happy only if their kids are high achievers. We are all too wired and focused about our children getting top grades and excelling in activities. We don’t pay any attention to whether our kids are kind or not. We don’t take that extra effort to teach our children empathy or encourage them to do any community service.


Which means our kids may become high achievers in terms of grades, but may not have much to show by way of being a caring human being. And this brings us to the big question – are we raising mean kids?

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Play, Empathy and TV - Hand in Hand Parenting

Play, Empathy and TV - Hand in Hand Parenting | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
A second important determinant of a child’s empathy and flexibility in play is how much TV and video programming he is exposed to. TV and videos offer free “baby sitting” for harried parents who are overburdened with work and the stresses of parenting. But the breather the parents get is a very mixed blessing indeed.
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Brain and Empathy Based Parenting

Brain and Empathy Based Parenting | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
I am crazy-excited to launch this round of PEAK Parenting! In this picture here, I’m hiding out at a coffee shop dreaming of how amazing the next six months will be. I can’t wait! 


On my third go, this will be a smooth road for us all as we aim to bring peace and joy to our homes. We all want calm family interactions and cooperative kids.


PEAK Parenting’s focus on current brain reacearch and empathy makes it a potent combination for bringing about positive change.


Sarah MacLaughlin, LSW

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Empathy-Based Parenting Educators Discuss the Role of Empathy in Different Parenting Styles?

Empathy-Based Parenting Educators Discuss the Role of Empathy in Different Parenting Styles? | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

Our panel of Empathy-Based Parenting Educators discuss, What is the Role of Empathy in Different Parenting Styles? Some of  the  styles discussed are;  Authoritarian,  Authoritative,  Indulgent  (permissive), Neglectful (uninvolved), Attachment, Nurturant and Empathic Parenting.  
(Sub Conference: Empathic Family and Parenting)


 

Panelists


"the role that empathy plays is simply that 
it is the super glue of relationships."


"It's about the relationship. It absolutely has so 
much empathy involved both for the child
 and for yourself and for the situation."


"empathy... helps parents and educators to 
get curious about what is happening"

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(Empathic Parenting) Using Empathy With Kids

Read the 5 Rules of Empathy here:
http://mamablog.teach-through-love.com/2014/01/why-empathy-doesnt-work.html
Lori Petro I TEACH through Love Speaker 

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Empathy-Based Parenting Educators on What is the Role of Empathy in Different Parenting Styles?

Our panel of Empathy-Based Parenting Educators discuss, What is the Role of Empathy in Different Parenting Styles?


Some of the styles discussed are; Authoritarian, Authoritative, Indulgent (permissive), Neglectful (uninvolved), Attachment, Nurturant and Empathic Parenting.

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(Empathic Parenting) Parenting with Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

CNVC Certified NVC Trainer Inbal Kashtan discusses and demonstrates how to work with the incessant "no" from a child.

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(Empathic Parenting) Journal of the CSPCC 1978 to 2003

(Empathic Parenting) Journal of the CSPCC 1978 to 2003 | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it

Empathic Parenting


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How your children can benefit from owning a pet

How your children can benefit from owning a pet | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
A dog, cat, guinea pig or iguana can be a child's best friend in ways you might not expect. Research shows how pets can benefit a child's physical and emotional well-being.


It's easy to see how pets can teach children responsibility. A child as young as 3 can be responsible for giving pets water, and older children can take on tasks like walking the dog.


"Accomplishing tasks appropriate to their age, when taking care of the pet with their parents, makes a child feel more competent," according to child development experts Nienke Endenburg and Ben Baarda.
In addition to increasing self-efficacy, having pets can develop a child's relationship skills, especially empathy, The Washington Post reported. "The reason is obvious: Caring for a pet draws a self-absorbed child away from himself or herself."


Marsha Maxwell, 


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(Empathic Parenting) A Skills-Building Workshop

Empathic Parenting - A Skills-Building Workshop
Part One of Three 

Natasha Ufema 


  • 1.  A Skills-Building Workshop Part One© 2014 Natasha Ufema, LPC , Family First Counseling Services
  • 2.  All mammals are social animals (including humans).
  • 3.  All mammals rely on each other to get their basic needs met. Wolves hunt in packs. . .
  • 4.  Kittens and puppies rely on their mothers for protection and nourishment.
  • 5. Reptiles (lizards) and amphibians (frogs) are lower on the food chain because they are solitary creatures. Mammals have flourished because there is safety in numbers.
  • 6. You’re wondering what this science lesson has to do with being an effective parent.
  • 7. Because Mammals (including humans) depend on others for safety and nourishment, we have developed ways of communicating these needs to our caregivers. Our “significant others”.
  • 8. A baby elephant trapped in a pool of mud will trumpet for hours until his mother finds him.
  • 9. When a human mother hears the cries of her baby, her breast milk will “let down” (become immediately available).
  • 10.  Without EMPATHY (“feeling” the needs of our offspring), Mammals would have never become the most prolific species on earth.
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(Empathic Parenting) Landscapes of the Soul

(Empathic Parenting)  Landscapes of the Soul | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
The empathic parenting style is based on very different ethics of child raring to the dominant punitive authoritarian parenting of the pre WWII generations, and different again from the permissive parenting style that grew out of Dr. Benjamin Spock’s work post WWII (Grille, 2005, p79, p85).


Both these latter styles of parenting are still the dominant child-raring practices in our society.


The authoritarian style of parenting aims to, ‘train the child to conform to cultural norms…

Where the parent, while (perhaps) not lacking affection, tends to view the child through a moral lens that dichotomises behaviour into ‘good’ and ‘bad’’ (Grille, 2005, p69).


This style of child raring enforces discipline and control in order to bend the child to fit parental and social expectations, which limit self-expression and tries to create the ‘good child’...

The opposite of authoritarian ‘control’ parenting is permissive ‘out-of-control’ parenting, where you, as the parent, allow your child to control you, the parent, through your own compliance, indulgence, or indifference (Paul, 2007, web page).By Gary Caganoff


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(Empathic Parenting: Why Can't My Child Behave?: Empathic Parenting Strategies that Work for Adoptive and Foster Families

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(Empathic Parenting) How Children Develop Empathy (role play)

(Empathic Parenting) How Children Develop Empathy (role play) | Empathic Family & Parenting | Scoop.it
We can help our children cultivate empathy.


When we say, “Look at the dog; it seems like he is hurting when you hit him,” we help our children focus on the inner feelings of others to help guide their behavior. In this way, we play an important role in helping support the development of empathy.


But here is the good news: it is not all up to us. Mother nature supports children in naturally developing empathy while FREELY PLAYING WITH EACH OTHER.


Their internal drive for ROLE PLAY and PRETEND PLAY lead them to playfully experience many different roles, naturally growing their capacity feel the internal world of another.

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