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Mindful Self-Compassion: Core Skills Training

Mindful Self-Compassion: Core Skills Training | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
This two-day workshop is an introduction to Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC), an empirically-supported training program based on the pioneering research of Kristin Neff and the clinical perspective of Chris Germer. 


MSC combines the skills of mindfulness and self-compassion to enhance our capacity for emotional wellbeing.  Mindfulness is the first step—turning with loving awareness toward difficult experience (emotions, sensations, thoughts).  Self-compassion comes next—bringing loving awareness to ourselves.  Together, mindfulness and self-compassion comprise a state of warm, connected presence during difficult moments in our lives. 

 

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Forget Self-Esteem—Try Self-Compassion Instead

Forget Self-Esteem—Try Self-Compassion Instead | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
I recently interviewed Neff about how self-esteem fails us and how we can boost our compassion for ourselves instead. An edited version of the conversation follows.

Olga Khazan: What are some contexts in which we usually hear about boosting self-esteem?

Kristin Neff: Well, it seems like it's just deeply permeated, especially American culture, where we have very high levels of self-esteem and narcissism. I think because of the big self-esteem movement, people just got it in their heads that the key to psychological health was self-esteem. Jean Twenge and Keith Campbell showed that because of this emphasis on self-esteem, we actually got a generation of narcissists. I think it’s generally out there in the culture, but maybe especially among parents and educators.
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Video: Clinton: 'I have a lot of empathy' for Sanders

Video: Clinton: 'I have a lot of empathy' for Sanders | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Hillary Clinton says she understands Bernie Sanders’s decision not to drop out of the Democratic race for the presidency despite his long odds of winning the party's nomination. 

"I have a lot of empathy about this. I ran to the very end in 2008, and I won nine of the last 12 contests, people forget that," Clinton said during a Wednesday interview on CNN. 
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Self Empathy Meditation Live Downing Mindful Communication session 2

A Meditative journey with Mindful Self Empathy to accompany those parts tender, hurt, distressed etc
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Empathy Circles: Phase One: Arriving with Self-Empathy

Empathy Circles: Phase One: Arriving with Self-Empathy | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
How self-empathy differs from self-compassion


Although self-compassion has been researched extensively over the past decade, self-empathy has gained little attention. Maybe this is because the two are often used interchangeably, or maybe because self-compassion is more solution focussed in its relationship to suffering. As with self-compassion, self-empathy requires a 'tuning into' our own current state of being with full awareness.


But unlike self-compassion, in self-empathy we do not focus solely on the suffering within but pay attention to our complete inner experience. Moreover, we observe without judgement but also without the focus of bringing kindness to the observed (as we would when practising self-compassion).


Self-empathy serves to bring clarity and space to our inner experienced world. It is a form of respectful inner listening, with a readiness to take seriously whatever signals arise internally. It opens us up, yet we are not swept along by the experience itself as when we feel overtaken by an emotion. We also do not look for ways to change what we experience in any direction, we only observe and sense what really takes place.



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Amazon.com: Self-Compassion in Psychotherapy: Mindfulness-Based Practices for Healing and Transformation

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Filled with illuminating case examples, Self-Compassion in Psychotherapy shows readers how to apply self-compassion practices in treatment. The first two chapters illuminate what self-compassion is, the science behind it, and why it is so beneficial in therapy.


The rest of the book unpacks practical clinical applications, covering not only basic clinical principles but also specific, evidence-based techniques for building affect tolerance, affect regulation, and mindful thinking, working with self-criticism, self-sabotage, trauma, addiction, relationship problems, psychosis, and more, and overcoming common roadblocks.

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See this illustration of Kristin Neff’s three steps for self-compassion

See this illustration of Kristin Neff’s three steps for self-compassion | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

Neff, who has researched self-compassion for the last ten years, says self-compassion has three components: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.


In her article in the Shambhala Sun, Neff writes that “these components mutually interact to create a self-compassionate frame of mind. From this point of view, self-compassion is relevant to all experiences of suffering, whether cause by personal inadequacies and failures or by life situations outside of our control.”

Neff also writes, “Self-compassion means being more willing to experience difficult feelings and to acknowledge them as valid and important. The beauty of self-compassion is that instead of trying to get rid of ‘Bad’ feelings and replacing them with ‘good’ ones, positive emotions are generated by embracing our suffering with tenderness and care, so that light and dark are experienced simultaneously.


BY SAM LITTLEFAIR WALLACE|

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Psycotherapy Networker: 2015 Sep/Oct: Self-Compassion - Self-Indulgence or Self-Healing

Psycotherapy Networker: 2015 Sep/Oct: Self-Compassion - Self-Indulgence or Self-Healing | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Some Forms of Self-Compassion Are Harder than Others
By Richard Schwartz
Achieving a genuine state of self-compassion is a more challenging undertaking than many realize. Far from a little feel-better incantation you offer yourself when stressed, it’s a journey into multiple parts of yourself that may include the good, the bad, the ugly, the confused, the frightened, and the abandoned.


Inside the Heart of HealingWhen Moment-to-Moment Awareness Isn't Enough By Chris GermerThe 5 Myths of Self-CompassionWhat Keeps Us from Being Kinder to Ourselves? By Kristin NeffMoments of MeaningUnexpected Lessons from Practice By Ryan Howes

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Self-Compassion- What Is It?

Self-Compassion- What Is It? | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Self-compassion is the ability to offer kindness and understanding to yourself when you fail or make mistakes, instead of, judging yourself harshly. Instead of just ignoring your pain with a “stiff upper lip” mentality, you stop to tell yourself “this is really difficult right now,” how can I comfort and care for myself in this moment?

According to Kristin Neff, Associate Professor of Human Development and Culture and researcher of self-compassion at The University of Texas at Austin, there are three elements of self-compassion. The three elements of self-compassion are self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.
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Practicing Self-Compassion When You’re Struggling with Anxiety

Practicing Self-Compassion When You’re Struggling with Anxiety | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

When you’re self-compassionate, you “turn toward the emotion with interest and care.” Miller likened this to turning toward a child who’s in pain. She suggested these strategies for being self-compassionate.


1. Give yourself compassionate attention...

2. Explore your fear...

3. Talk to your anxious part...

4. Try the Buddhist practice of Tonglen...

5. Refocus on self-care in each moment...


By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.
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Self-Compassion Outweighs Self-Esteem for Resilience & Empowerment - Emma Seppälä, Ph.D.

Self-Compassion Outweighs Self-Esteem for Resilience & Empowerment - Emma Seppälä, Ph.D. | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Strive for more, work even harder, aim to be the best! We live in a society that regularly sends us such messages. Meanwhile, most of us don’t stop to consider whether our goals are possible or whether they would even bring us lasting happiness.

 

Even if we were to win a gold medal at the Olympics, our status as reigning champion would only last a few years and would most likely be accompanied by anxiety about losing in the future. On my first day at Yale, one of the deans proclaimed, “You are not only the elite; you are the elite of the elite,” and I still remember the wave of nausea this comment evoked in me. Success, after all, is a precarious position

 

. While we strive to become infallible and to retain our position at the top, we cannot escape suffering.

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Deepening Our Ability To Be Our Own Best Friends: Residential Self-Empathy Intensives – NYCNVC

Deepening Our Ability To Be Our Own Best Friends: Residential Self-Empathy Intensives – NYCNVC | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

As we study and practice NVC, we learn that our ability to self-empathize is a requisite skill for living out our NVC consciousness in the world. Deep empathy, dialogue, mediation, teaching NVC, and perhaps most importantly, knowing what we want to do, versus what we think we should do, are all supported by our skills in self-empathy.


This ability to self-empathize is a key to being compassionate with ourselves, in our significant relationships and in our professional lives. Through self-empathy we can understand what we want and how to get it in a way that is in harmony with our values.  We can hold a more compassionate view of the world more often. We can practice NVC anywhere and everywhere.

 

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Forget Self-Esteem—Try Self-Compassion Instead

Forget Self-Esteem—Try Self-Compassion Instead | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

In 1986, California state assemblyman John Vasconcellos came up with what he believed could be “a vaccine for major social ills” like teen pregnancy and drug abuse: a special task-force to promote self-esteem among Californians. The effort folded three years later, and was widely considered not to have accomplished much.

To Kristin Neff, a psychology professor at the University of Texas, that’s not surprising. Though self-esteem continues to reverberate as a pop-psych cure-all, the quest for inflated egos, in her view, is misguided and largely pointless

 

OLGA KHAZAN

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Join the Empathy Trainers Association - Now Forming

Join the Empathy Trainers Association - Now Forming | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

The Association For

  1. Empathy Trainers who have similar and common interests, activities and concerns about teaching empathy.
  2. Mutual promotion of the welfare of all it’s members.
  3. Protect and advance mutual interests.
  4. Set and maintain standards.
  5. Promote social, advertising and political action to get communities, organizations, businesses and government to support empathy training programs.
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Benefits for Members

  • Access to training curriculum from other members.
  • Share training materials and resources.
  • A directory of empathy trainers that prospective clients can access. For Clients - If you're looking for a trainer you have a place to go 
  • Offer business support and leads to members. 
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What is Self Empathy and When Do You Need It?

Are you your own worst enemy at times? Spend 4 minutes with Nonviolent Communication trainer Rodger Sorrow learning about self-empathy and why it's s
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See this illustration of Kristin Neff’s three steps for self-compassion

See this illustration of Kristin Neff’s three steps for self-compassion | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

Inspired by Kristen Neff’s article on self-compassion in the November Shambhala Sun, graphic recorder and Shambhala Sun reader Johnine Byrne created this wonderful graphic recording of Neff’s three steps for self-compassion.

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Self-Compassion: The Importance of Being Kind to Yourself

Self-Compassion: The Importance of Being Kind to Yourself | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Self-compassion is currently a hot trend in positive psychology research, and the outcomes are exciting.


Researchers, such as Kristin Neff, PhD, are showing that increased self-compassion can contribute to increased feelings of wellbeing, and decreased anxiety and depression. Plus, self-compassion is simple to understand and relatively easy to adopt into one’s daily life!   Here is what you need to know to get started….

There are three steps to accessing self-compassion in any given moment of pain. If followed, these steps can ease the pain and suffering of a difficult moment.


Step 1: Recognize that you are hurting and name that emotion..

Step 2: Remember that other people hurt too...

Step 3: Finally, remember to BE KIND TO YOURSELF...  

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Forbes: Science Explains The Link Between Self-Compassion And Success

Forbes: Science Explains The Link Between Self-Compassion And Success | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

by Amy Morin


Treating yourself with kindness can enhance your performance.


Do you ever call yourself names? Do you replay your mistakes in your head over and over again? If so, you’re not alone. Harsh self-criticism is pretty common.


But beating yourself up for your mistakes and punishing yourself for your failures could backfire. Being too tough on yourself may actually hinder your performance. Multiple studies show that treating yourself with more kindness could be the best way to gain better results.


The Key Components of Self-Compassion


Amy Morin


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Why is Self-Compassion So Elusive? (And A Three-Step Process for Priming the Pump!)

Why is Self-Compassion So Elusive? (And A Three-Step Process for Priming the Pump!) | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
When I started learning Nonviolent Communication a decade ago, one of my first teachers heavily emphasized self-empathy—that is, sensing into our own feelings and needs as a method to understand and connect with ourselves—as the easiest and most readily available source of empathy and compassion. “Self-empathy is your best friend,” she said.

Her preference made logical sense. You’re with yourself all the time. If you’re in distress, why not soothe yourself?

Except that I couldn’t access self-empathy when I was in acute distress, or even mild distress. No matter how hard I tried, my attempts just didn’t make me feel better. They felt like a hollow, intellectual exercise that left me feeling wors
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Dr. Dan on Self-Compassion

Dr. Dan talks about what is self-compassion, how to get it and how to use it to make your life better. Daniel Gottlieb, Ph.D., is a practicing psychologist and family therapist who is living with quadriplegia
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Self-Compassion -- The Doorway to Wise Leadership

Self-Compassion -- The Doorway to Wise Leadership | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Self-Compassion Cultivation Process

Although becoming a compassionate leader might take practice, what matters is to initiate the journey of personal transformation. Start now. It is never too late to start transforming. Here are some tips to initiate the journey:

Manage the self-criticizer:
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