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Empathy Circles: Phase One: Arriving with Self-Empathy

Empathy Circles: Phase One: Arriving with Self-Empathy | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
How self-empathy differs from self-compassion


Although self-compassion has been researched extensively over the past decade, self-empathy has gained little attention. Maybe this is because the two are often used interchangeably, or maybe because self-compassion is more solution focussed in its relationship to suffering. As with self-compassion, self-empathy requires a 'tuning into' our own current state of being with full awareness.


But unlike self-compassion, in self-empathy we do not focus solely on the suffering within but pay attention to our complete inner experience. Moreover, we observe without judgement but also without the focus of bringing kindness to the observed (as we would when practising self-compassion).


Self-empathy serves to bring clarity and space to our inner experienced world. It is a form of respectful inner listening, with a readiness to take seriously whatever signals arise internally. It opens us up, yet we are not swept along by the experience itself as when we feel overtaken by an emotion. We also do not look for ways to change what we experience in any direction, we only observe and sense what really takes place.



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Amazon.com: Self-Compassion in Psychotherapy: Mindfulness-Based Practices for Healing and Transformation

Self-Compassion in Psychotherapy: Mindfulness-Based Practices for Healing and Transformation

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Filled with illuminating case examples, Self-Compassion in Psychotherapy shows readers how to apply self-compassion practices in treatment. The first two chapters illuminate what self-compassion is, the science behind it, and why it is so beneficial in therapy.


The rest of the book unpacks practical clinical applications, covering not only basic clinical principles but also specific, evidence-based techniques for building affect tolerance, affect regulation, and mindful thinking, working with self-criticism, self-sabotage, trauma, addiction, relationship problems, psychosis, and more, and overcoming common roadblocks.

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See this illustration of Kristin Neff’s three steps for self-compassion

See this illustration of Kristin Neff’s three steps for self-compassion | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

Neff, who has researched self-compassion for the last ten years, says self-compassion has three components: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.


In her article in the Shambhala Sun, Neff writes that “these components mutually interact to create a self-compassionate frame of mind. From this point of view, self-compassion is relevant to all experiences of suffering, whether cause by personal inadequacies and failures or by life situations outside of our control.”

Neff also writes, “Self-compassion means being more willing to experience difficult feelings and to acknowledge them as valid and important. The beauty of self-compassion is that instead of trying to get rid of ‘Bad’ feelings and replacing them with ‘good’ ones, positive emotions are generated by embracing our suffering with tenderness and care, so that light and dark are experienced simultaneously.


BY SAM LITTLEFAIR WALLACE|

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Psycotherapy Networker: 2015 Sep/Oct: Self-Compassion - Self-Indulgence or Self-Healing

Psycotherapy Networker: 2015 Sep/Oct: Self-Compassion - Self-Indulgence or Self-Healing | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Some Forms of Self-Compassion Are Harder than Others
By Richard Schwartz
Achieving a genuine state of self-compassion is a more challenging undertaking than many realize. Far from a little feel-better incantation you offer yourself when stressed, it’s a journey into multiple parts of yourself that may include the good, the bad, the ugly, the confused, the frightened, and the abandoned.


Inside the Heart of HealingWhen Moment-to-Moment Awareness Isn't Enough By Chris GermerThe 5 Myths of Self-CompassionWhat Keeps Us from Being Kinder to Ourselves? By Kristin NeffMoments of MeaningUnexpected Lessons from Practice By Ryan Howes

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Self-Compassion- What Is It?

Self-Compassion- What Is It? | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Self-compassion is the ability to offer kindness and understanding to yourself when you fail or make mistakes, instead of, judging yourself harshly. Instead of just ignoring your pain with a “stiff upper lip” mentality, you stop to tell yourself “this is really difficult right now,” how can I comfort and care for myself in this moment?

According to Kristin Neff, Associate Professor of Human Development and Culture and researcher of self-compassion at The University of Texas at Austin, there are three elements of self-compassion. The three elements of self-compassion are self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.
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Practicing Self-Compassion When You’re Struggling with Anxiety

Practicing Self-Compassion When You’re Struggling with Anxiety | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

When you’re self-compassionate, you “turn toward the emotion with interest and care.” Miller likened this to turning toward a child who’s in pain. She suggested these strategies for being self-compassionate.


1. Give yourself compassionate attention...

2. Explore your fear...

3. Talk to your anxious part...

4. Try the Buddhist practice of Tonglen...

5. Refocus on self-care in each moment...


By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.
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The Powerful (Happiness) Side Effects of Self-Compassion

The Powerful (Happiness) Side Effects of Self-Compassion | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Here are some powerful anti-depressant and anti-anxiety (and happiness) side effects of Self-Compassion:

1) Personal Control – We start to understand that the power to work with difficulty or enjoy life is within us.

2) Self-love and self-worth – As we pay attention to ourselves in a supportive way, we continue to practice caring about ourselves and being worthy of loving attention. What we practice and repeat starts to become automatic.

3) Confidence – There comes a point where we understand that no matter what comes our way, “I can handle it and it’s going to be okay.”


By ELISHA GOLDSTEIN

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Mindful Self-Compassion Training

Mindful Self-Compassion Training | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Open to everyone, including professionals who wish to teach self-compassion to others.


We can learn to respond to life’s challenges with self-compassion, treating ourselves with kindness and understanding even when things go wrong. It’s a skill that can be learned by anyone.


Rapidly expanding research shows that self-compassion is a core healing process. It’s strongly associated with emotional well-being, lower levels of anxiety and depression, healthy habits such as diet and exercise, and more satisfying relationships.


This program is an intensive form of the internationally recognized, eight-session Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) training developed by Christopher Germer and Kristin Neff. Learn to

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Having Trouble Getting Unstuck? Find Self-Compassion

Having Trouble Getting Unstuck? Find Self-Compassion | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Feeling stuck is hard. You want to move forward, but you can’t find the motivation to change. Or perhaps you don’t know how to change! Even in therapy, the very place you expect to see growth, you end up spinning your wheels. Nothing seems to be working, and you begin to wonder how you will ever make progress.

What do you say to yourself when you are mired in uncertainty and disappointment? Do you call yourself a failure, stupid, or worthless? Do you question the value of your dreams or life in general? Or do you offer yourself patience and kindnes
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How to Practice Self-Compassion When You Think You Can’t

How to Practice Self-Compassion When You Think You Can’t | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Self-compassion is powerful. It promotes inner peace. Self-criticism, the opposite of self-compassion and what most of us are used to practicing, “is an experience of inner conflict,” according to Ali Miller, MFT, a therapist in private practice in Berkeley and San Francisco, Calif.. Miller specializes in helping adults live more authentic, empowered and connected lives.


By MARGARITA TARTAKOVSKY 

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Peer Practice program - Self-empathy

Peer Practice program - Self-empathy | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

The fourteen week Peer Practice program “Self-empathy” will start on February 12th.


In this program you will learn three kinds of self-empathy, as well as establish a regular self-empathy practice, and explore any blocks to practicing regular self-empathy. 

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See this illustration of Kristin Neff’s three steps for self-compassion

See this illustration of Kristin Neff’s three steps for self-compassion | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

Inspired by Kristen Neff’s article on self-compassion in the November Shambhala Sun, graphic recorder and Shambhala Sun reader Johnine Byrne created this wonderful graphic recording of Neff’s three steps for self-compassion.

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Self-Compassion: The Importance of Being Kind to Yourself

Self-Compassion: The Importance of Being Kind to Yourself | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Self-compassion is currently a hot trend in positive psychology research, and the outcomes are exciting.


Researchers, such as Kristin Neff, PhD, are showing that increased self-compassion can contribute to increased feelings of wellbeing, and decreased anxiety and depression. Plus, self-compassion is simple to understand and relatively easy to adopt into one’s daily life!   Here is what you need to know to get started….

There are three steps to accessing self-compassion in any given moment of pain. If followed, these steps can ease the pain and suffering of a difficult moment.


Step 1: Recognize that you are hurting and name that emotion..

Step 2: Remember that other people hurt too...

Step 3: Finally, remember to BE KIND TO YOURSELF...  

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Forbes: Science Explains The Link Between Self-Compassion And Success

Forbes: Science Explains The Link Between Self-Compassion And Success | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

by Amy Morin


Treating yourself with kindness can enhance your performance.


Do you ever call yourself names? Do you replay your mistakes in your head over and over again? If so, you’re not alone. Harsh self-criticism is pretty common.


But beating yourself up for your mistakes and punishing yourself for your failures could backfire. Being too tough on yourself may actually hinder your performance. Multiple studies show that treating yourself with more kindness could be the best way to gain better results.


The Key Components of Self-Compassion


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Why is Self-Compassion So Elusive? (And A Three-Step Process for Priming the Pump!)

Why is Self-Compassion So Elusive? (And A Three-Step Process for Priming the Pump!) | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
When I started learning Nonviolent Communication a decade ago, one of my first teachers heavily emphasized self-empathy—that is, sensing into our own feelings and needs as a method to understand and connect with ourselves—as the easiest and most readily available source of empathy and compassion. “Self-empathy is your best friend,” she said.

Her preference made logical sense. You’re with yourself all the time. If you’re in distress, why not soothe yourself?

Except that I couldn’t access self-empathy when I was in acute distress, or even mild distress. No matter how hard I tried, my attempts just didn’t make me feel better. They felt like a hollow, intellectual exercise that left me feeling wors
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Dr. Dan on Self-Compassion

Dr. Dan talks about what is self-compassion, how to get it and how to use it to make your life better. Daniel Gottlieb, Ph.D., is a practicing psychologist and family therapist who is living with quadriplegia
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Self-Compassion -- The Doorway to Wise Leadership

Self-Compassion -- The Doorway to Wise Leadership | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Self-Compassion Cultivation Process

Although becoming a compassionate leader might take practice, what matters is to initiate the journey of personal transformation. Start now. It is never too late to start transforming. Here are some tips to initiate the journey:

Manage the self-criticizer:
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What Self-Care Looks Like

What Self-Care Looks Like | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

One of Miller’s favorite ways to practice self-care is self-empathy.


She described this as “connecting with what I’m feeling and needing when I’m experiencing something challenging, and then making a request of myself or someone else to help me meet whatever needs I become aware of through that process.”

She also gets enough rest, takes baths, practices yoga, meditates, takes fun exercise classes, spends time in nature, attends spiritual services and talks, gets massages, connects with people she loves and laughs as much as possible.

However, she underscored that self-care goes beyond a set of strategies. At its core, self-care is “an attitude toward yourself that you matter, that your needs matter,” Miller said.


By MARGARITA TARTAKOVSKY


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For Your Daughter to Have Self-Compassion, She Must See It In You First

For Your Daughter to Have Self-Compassion, She Must See It In You First | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
In a world of perfect images, competition and constant critiquing of everything from social behavior, body image (diet and exercise advertisements), celebrity and so on, it is difficult to step back and listen to your own inner voice.


Compassion and empathy for yourself are easily taught. We are social animals and we learn from social modeling, practicing and rehearsing.

Self-compassion, empathy, and self-esteem all have things in common, although they are not equal in outcome. Self-compassion and empathy require self-knowledge.


By Dr. Gail Gross 


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How self-compassion can change the way you see the world by Louise Watson

How self-compassion can change the way you see the world by Louise Watson | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

Self-compassion leads to compassion for others

The nicest part of the meditation for me this time was in acknowledging that when all’s said and done, we all want the same thing; we all want to be happy, to have the best life we can have with what we’ve got, and that sometimes, we may go about it the wrong way.


Often, when we make mistakes, we can try to cover our guilt by placing the blame on others; ‘I only did it because of X, Y and Z!’ we cry, ‘I’m a good person; you don’t know what I’ve been through!’

We expect people to forgive us and be compassionate towards us, yet don’t do the same for those who hurt us in some way.

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Loving ourselves more: 10 Tips for greater self-compassion

Loving ourselves more:     10 Tips for greater self-compassion | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it
Self-compassion is extending compassion to one’s self in circumstances where we perceive ourselves as inadequate or helpless. It’s practice is associated with greater well-being, including diminished anxiety and depression, and better emotional coping skills
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Great tips to reconnect and open our hearts towards ourselves.

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Is Self-Compassion More Important Than Self-Esteem?

Is Self-Compassion More Important Than Self-Esteem? | Self-Empathy | Scoop.it

Research shows that low self-esteem correlates with poorer mental health outcomes across the board1, increased likelihood of suicide attempts, and difficulty developing supportive social relationships.  

Research also shows that trying to raise low self-esteem artificially comes with its own set of problems, including tendencies toward narcissism, antisocial behavior, and avoiding challenging activities that may threaten one's self-concept.

This division in the research has led to a division amongst psychologists about how important self-esteem is, whether or not it's useful to help people improve their self-esteem, and what the best practices are for accomplishing that. 


Steven C. Hayes,

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