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Perspectives Issue 11: March, 2013 In This Issue Self-Empathy Fundamentals Upcoming Workshops Spring into Change: Coaching group starts in April Know... Have you ever attempted self-empathy and found that you just end up getting stuck in unpleasant feelings and a swirl of repetitive thoughts? A number of people have reported this experience to me. Let’s define self-empathy and break it down a bit more into its fundamental elements. Self-empathy is meant to allow space for you to experience all that is alive in you with acceptance and honor for that experience. Self-empathy isn’t meant to be an elixir that removes unpleasant feelings.
Abstract. The aim of these two studies was to evaluate the effectiveness of the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program, an 8-week workshop designed to train people to be more self-compassionate. Methods: Study 1 was a pilot study that examined change scores in self-compassion, mindfulness, and various wellbeing outcomes among community adults ... Results: Study 1 found significant pre/post gains in self-compassion, mindfulness, and various wellbeing outcomes. Study 2 found that compared with the control group, intervention participants reported significantly larger increases in self-compassion, mindfulness, and wellbeing. Gains were maintained at 6-month and 1-year follow-ups.
To gaze at yourself is a joyous and poignant; eye opening and secretive; promising and sobering plunge into self-awareness. Here's a soul stirring exercise! It takes courage to leave behind the projections, prognoses and prophecies of other people and blaze your own trail! Cultivating an authentic relationship with yourself requires mindfulness and compassion. Be kind to yourself and your body — releasing negative behavior and thoughts is the healthy first step. Start now by forgiving yourself … TONY ROBBINS
According to psychologist-researcher Kristin Neff, self-compassion consists of three components: self-kindness; recognizing our common humanity; and maintaining a balanced, mindful awareness. Essentiallyself-compassion is compassion turned inward.
How do we respond when things happen to us? With self-criticism, excessive guilt, and rumination? Or with acceptance and kindness?
In "Self Compassion: The New Science of Wellbeing," two psychologist discuss the evidence that being kind to onesel f enhances relationships, academic performance and emotional resilience. The discussion is open to all St. John's students, faculty and staff:
Thursday, April 11, 2–3:15 p.m. (Common Hour)
D'Angelo Center, Room 306, Queens Campus
Applying self-compassion toparenting can be incredibly valuable, according to psychologist and author Kristin Neff, Ph.D, in her book Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind. It’s especially helpful if you’re raising a child who’s under 5. As Neff writes, “Raising infants and toddlers, with their constant need for supervision, picky food habits, tantrums, not to mention dirty diapers, has to be one of the most challenging jobs around.” By MARGARITA TARTAKOVSKY
Are you your own worst enemy at times? Spend 4 minutes with Nonviolent Communication trainer Rodger Sorrow learning about self-empathy and why it's so helpful...
If you look under the Self-Help heading on Amazon, you'll find roughly 5,000 books listed under the subhead Self-Esteem. The vast majority of these books aim to not only tell you why your self-esteem might be low, but to show you how to get your hands on some more of it. It's a thriving business because self-esteem is, at least in Western cultures, considered the bedrock of individual success. You can't possibly get ahead in life, the logic goes, unless you believe you are perfectly awesome.
How Self-Love Outperforms Beating Yourself Up... Are you highly self-critical? Do you beat yourself up over failures? Do you work too much and push too hard without giving yourself time to breathe? Do you feel the need to compete, outperform others, and move ahead of the pack? We live in a society that regularly sends us the message to achieve more, work harder, win, be perfect, be the best. There is of course nothing wrong with having goals and dreams to pursue. However, most of us don't stop to consider whether our self-critical and competitive attitude is actually helping us achieve these goals or whether it might actually be standing in our way. New research suggests self-compassion may be a far superior alternative. Emma Seppala,
Studies say those with self-compassion achieve more and accomplish more goals. Harness your own compassion for yourself in parenting, life and all your aspirations. Jennifer Gaddis, creator of the site HeelsandJeans.com, was recently in a conference with her 9-year-old's teacher. Her son wasn't doing well in class. After the conference, she mentally beat herself up for not doing enough to help him — which just made everything worse.She was lacking compassion for herself. " by Sarah W. Caron
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The aim of these two studies was to evaluate the effectiveness of the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program, an 8-week workshop designed to train people to be more self-compassionate. Results
Study 1 found significant pre/post gains in self-compassion, mindfulness, and various wellbeing outcomes. Study 2 found that compared with the control group, intervention participants reported significantly larger increases in self-compassion, mindfulness, and wellbeing. Gains were maintained at 6-month and 1-year follow-ups. Conclusions
The MSC program appears to be effective at enhancing self-compassion, mindfulness, and wellbeing.
Practicing self-compassion not only makes individuals healthier and happier but also is a good predictor of healthy romantic relationships, according to a new study by University of Texas at Austin educational psychologists Kristin Neff and Tasha Beretvas. Their findings counter traditional views on relationship satisfaction, indicating that being kind and supportive to ourselves helps us to be kinder and more supportive to those we care about. The research may help therapists better tailor treatments for couples with relationship problems and could help individuals learn how to relate to themselves and their relationships in a new way. by Stan
Self-compassion is better for our health and well-being than self-esteem, bringing more empathy and less harsh self-criticism... Most of us have been taught far less about the importance of having compassion for ourselves as well. A newly emerging set of research studies have demonstrated that having self-compassion has many benefits. These include reducing self-criticism, lowering stress hormones in our body, increasing our capacity to comfort ourselves and to be more resilient in the face of life’s challenges, and helping us to heal from difficult childhoods. A person high in self-compassion sees his or her problems, weaknesses, and shortcomings accurately, yet reacts with kindness and compassion rather than with harsh judgment. What exactly is self-compassion and how is it different from self-esteem? By DEBRA MANCHESTER MACMANNIS
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Applying self-compassion to parenting can be incredibly valuable, according to psychologist and author Kristin Neff, Ph.D, in her book Self-Compassion: Stop Applying self-compassion to parenting can be incredibly valuable, according to psychologist and author Kristin Neff, Ph.D, in her book Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind. It’s especially helpful if you’re raising a child who’s under 5. As Neff writes, “Raising infants and toddlers, with their constant need for supervision, picky food habits, tantrums, not to mention dirty diapers, has to be one of the most challenging jobs around.” By MARGARITA TARTAKOVSKY, M.S.
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A growing body of research, including new studies by Berkeley's Juliana Breines and Serena Chen, suggest that self-compassion, rather than self-esteem, may be the key to unlocking your true potential for greatness. If you look under the "Self-Help" heading on Amazon, you'll find roughly 5,000 books listed under the sub-head "Self-Esteem." The vast majority of these books aim to not only tell you why your self-esteem might be low, but to show you how to get your hands on some more of it. It's a thriving business because self-esteem is, at least in Western cultures, considered the bedrock of individual success. You can't possibly get ahead in life, the logic goes, unless you believe you are perfectly awesome.
Kristin Neff, PhD, is an associate professor at the University of Texas, Austin, and is the author of Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind (Morrow, 2011). She has been practicing Buddhist meditation since 1997, and has co-created a program on Mindful Self-Compassion with her associate Chris Germer at Harvard University.
In addition to her book, she has also created an audio program with Sounds True, Self-Compassion, Step by Step (A Six-Session Training Course for Transforming Your Relationship with Yourself).
We all have issues and problems that cause us pain, but suffering through them is optional. Self-compassion provides another option. Our sorrows and wounds are only healed when we touch them with compassion.” ~Buddha I have always struggled with self-compassion. In fact, I’m not even sure I have been aware of it all that much throughout my life. I’ve always thought the only way to truly grow was to push myself, both physically and mentally, so without even realizing it, I set myself up for that. I would not study for my university exams until the night before. I would take it easy and not make enough money until it got to the stage that I had to almost create a miracle to pay my next credit card bill. I would push my partner until our relationship was at a breaking point so I could then save it. It was almost like I wanted to prove to myself that I was a hero in someway. By Nat Smith
Writer of http://www.stressbubbles.com, presents a new series on self-compassion. The idea of 'self-care' is a strange, uncomfortable concept for most people to grasp, especially women, but not caring properly for oneself figures prominently in stress and health outcomes.
Meet Dr Barbara Markway! She's a psychologist who did a 1 year self-compassion project.
Please tell us about your self-compassion project.
I loved Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project, and I thought the idea of focusing on one thing for an entire year made a lot of sense. I chose self-compassion because I was anything but self-compassionate! I was way too hard on myself. I was perfectionistic. I equated my worth with what I accomplished. And I was battling chronic pain after neck and back surgeries that didn’t work. Trying to motivate myself with the force of a whip just wasn’t working any more. by Alice Boyes, Ph.D.
Metta meditation is a core practice for many people, and if you meditate or participate in a contemplative tradition, the concept of “self-compassion” is probably very familiar to you. Most versions of metta begin with one’s self as the object of compassion. As the well-known meditation teacher Jack Kornfield explained, “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete. The logic of self-compassion is very sound. If you want to be compassionate to others, you must be compassionate to yourself first. You simply cannot give what you do not already have. As Pema Chodron has explained “in order to have compassion for others, we have to have compassion for ourselves.” Strong metta always includes the meditator in some sense. by Ron
Being proud of your work and showing some self-esteem and confidence will get you a long way in life, but at the office, sometimes it's the ability to forgive yourself and learn from your mistakes that's more valuable than pure ego. Self-compassion can help you learn and grow, which is key to succeeding in any career.
Our Dear friend & colleague Dr. Kristin Neff will be holding a Self-Compassion Workshop Dec. 7-9 at the Institute of Noetic Sciences (IONS) Retreat Center in Petaluma, CA. This is a unique opportunity to be with Kristin and learn first-hand, by participating in this experiential weekend workshop, about her research and work in the field of Mindful-Self Compassion. This workshop uses exercises taken from the Mindful Self-Compassion program, an empirically supported 8-week training course Neff co-created with colleague Chris Germer. The course is relevant to the general public as well as to practicing mental health professionals, and has the power to radically transform the way you relate to yourself and your life.”
Self-esteem has long been touted as a key ingredient for success. But psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson says on her The Science of Success blog that recent research suggests high self-esteem does not predict better performance or greater success, even if people with high self esteem may believe they’re more successful. But research also suggest a substitute that may be the key to unlocking your potential for greatness: self-compassion. Harvey Schachter
We all deserve self-love and compassion. Here are 3 ways to be nicer to yourself, starting today. “Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to be gentle with others.” ~Lama Yeshe Several months ago, I sat in a large workshop audience being led by Kristin Neff, a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research. She directed us to divide up into pairs for a self-compassion exercise. I turned to the young woman next to me. We introduced ourselves and returned our attention to Kristin. by Bobbi Emel
Practicing self-compassion not only makes individuals healthier and happier but also is a good predictor of healthy romantic relationships, according to a new study by University of Texas at Austin educational psychologists Kristin Neff and Tasha Beretvas. Their findings counter traditional views on relationship satisfaction, indicating that being kind and supportive to ourselves helps us to be kinder and more supportive to those we care about. The research may help therapists better tailor treatments for couples with relationship problems and could help individuals learn how to relate to themselves and their relationships in a new way. “Self-compassion refers to the ability to be kind and understanding toward oneself when faced with personal inadequacies or difficult situations rather than beating oneself up,” said Neff,
You want your kid to have good self-esteem, right? Any parenting manual will tell you it’s important. Right up there with food and sunlight on the list of what kids need to be happy, healthy & successful. Right? Not so much, an emerging body of research suggests. People with high self-esteem aren’t really more successful than others, though they think they are. What really counts is your capacity for self-compassion BY SIERRA BLACK
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