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October 30, 2013 12:46 PM
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By Dr. David Schnarch One of the most important things in life is becoming a solid individual. And another important thing is to have meaningful relationships. Two of the most powerful human drives are our urge to control our own lives (autonomy), and our urge for relationship with others (attachment). One of the biggest tasks of adulthood is being able to balance these two urges, and one of the most common problems is having too much of one, and not enough of the other. People often feel claustrophobic or controlled in committed relationships, or feel like they can't be their true self in their relationships, or feel like their sense of self is starting to disappear and they don't know who they are any more. Others are constantly worried about "abandonment," or "safety and security," and constantly press their partner for "commitment," and "unconditional love."
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October 22, 2013 9:08 AM
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Two new studies reveal how marital bliss won't just keep you happy; it'll keep you living longer, too.
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October 15, 2013 7:37 PM
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Here's the thing about love: it's hard to put into words. Love brings up emotions that run the gamut from agony to ecstasy. Here are 50 of the best quotes that ever passed the lips of famous lovers. We couldn't have put these better ourselves.
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September 12, 2013 10:17 PM
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The sociologist and bestselling author at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center provides specific, research-tested tips for staying calm when fighting with someone we love.
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September 12, 2013 9:27 PM
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Recently
there was an article in several marital journals as well as SmartMarriages.com
suggesting that if only one of the partners of a troubled couple came to
therapy it could save the marriage.
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September 9, 2013 8:43 PM
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By Adam Hoffman Empathy can be painful. Or so suggests a growing body of neuroscientific research. When we witness suffering and distress in others, our natural tendency to empathize can bring us vicarious pain.
Is there a better way of approaching distress in other people? A recent study...
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September 7, 2013 12:25 PM
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September 4, 2013 1:50 AM
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Wisdom 2.0 2013 by Wisdom 2.0 on Livestream - Livestream.com
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September 4, 2013 1:35 AM
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Practical Tips for Productive Living Writing the perfect love letter can be quite a challenge. After all, love is an emotion, and it can be extremely difficult to accurately transcribe your emotions into a meaningful set of words. It’s easy to spell out the phrase “I love you”, but those words are relatively hollow without a little contextual substantiation.
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August 30, 2013 2:57 PM
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August 30, 2013 4:37 AM
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If you have real concerns about the health of your marriage, here are 7 reasons to begin Marriage Counseling NOW! 1. If you haven’t been able to improve the relationship on your own, it’s time to t...
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August 29, 2013 9:45 AM
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August 28, 2013 10:28 PM
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25 funny marriage tips for a successful marriage! Learn how to make each other happy, and how to put first things first, to build a fulfilling relationship.
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August 28, 2013 7:15 PM
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by: Atiya (TheMarriageTree) Recently, I received a letter from a man who has been married for five years. He and his wife are very well educated, career-driven African-Americans with dynamic jobs. ...
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August 28, 2013 2:38 AM
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Put active listening together with empathy to improve your relationships .. To become an effective communicator, you need to learn to listen just as much as you need to learn to speak. Unfortunately, most people focus more on the speaking than they do on the listening. Whether in a one-on-one conversation or a group meeting or classroom, focusing on what others are saying allows you to present yourself more effectively. When you listen correctly, you also learn more. Being an actively empathic listener means, then, that you not only make sure you're actively paying attention but that you let the speaker you know you are. You ask questions when you're not clear on what the other person is communicating, you try to infer what the person is feeling, and you let the person know that you remember what he or she actually said. by Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D.
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August 27, 2013 12:37 AM
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Relationships and people require intimacy in order to thrive.
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August 26, 2013 12:58 AM
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The 5 Love Languages® Take the quiz here to find out your love language.
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August 26, 2013 12:37 AM
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Research suggests people in long-distance relationships often have stronger bonds from more constant and deeper communication.
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from Marriage Articles
August 26, 2013 12:14 AM
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For most families, life is about to get crazy. If you have children from preschool through high school, you're probably bracing for the onslaught of homework, projects, sports, lessons and activit...
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August 22, 2013 12:08 AM
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being a parent post-divorce
Cooperating with your ex for the sake of your children can seem overwhelming in the early stages of the divorce. Try to put aside your relationship issues, your hurt and your anger towards one another and put your children’s needs first. Your marriage may be over but your family is not and your children need to know and feel that you will both continue to love them and be there for them despite the break up.
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August 22, 2013 12:01 AM
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- Don’t criticize each other in front of us. Rolling your eyes counts. After a few years we might stop telling you how much we hate it. We never stop hating it. And by the way– we overhear about ninety-five percent of your phone conversations.
- If we tell you something bad that happened at the other parent’s house, just listen. Maybe try to be supportive or help us figure out how to cope. We hate it when you have a conniption and run to the phone. Plus, we can tell when you’re secretly psyched that it’s not all paradise “over there.” That sucks, too.
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August 20, 2013 2:57 AM
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Top ten divorce don'ts from renowned marriage expert, Gary Neuman.
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August 20, 2013 2:33 AM
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Disagreements are normal, but positive conflict brings couples closer by resolving differences in a healthy way. Discover 24 Do's and Don't's of conflict.
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from Staying Together
August 19, 2013 10:06 PM
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"Have you been feeling a little emotionally drained lately? Have you been finding yourself responding to the emergencies of others as if they are your own? Perhaps you have been allowing someone to invade your space even though you are not quite comfortable. Maybe it’s time to look at whether you have healthy boundaries. Boundaries are the limitations we set for ourselves and others. They can be both physical and emotional."
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August 17, 2013 6:03 PM
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Have you been feeling a little emotionally drained lately? Have you been finding yourself responding to the emergencies of others as if they are your own?
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The 4 points of balance are: 1) a solid flexible self, 2) Quiet Mind and Calm Heart, 3) Grounded Responding and 4) Meaningful Endurance.
Schnarch offers a simplified understanding of differentiation and how to build healthy relationships through fostering a healthy sense of self when in close proximity to loved ones.