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From ecstasy to withdrawal, the lover resembles an addict.
George Bernard Shaw knew the power of romantic love and attachment. Both, I will maintain, are addictions—wonderful addictions when the relationship is going well; horribly negative addictions when the partnership breaks down. Moreover, these love addictions evolved a long time ago, as Lucy and her relatives and friends roamed the grass of east Africa some 3.2 million years ago. 
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What do people in happy long-term relationships have in common? Learn their science-backed secrets to staying satisfied for the long haul.
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Research based tips for couples!
Fuller Life Family Therapy's curator insight,
September 16, 2014 4:55 PM
Optimistic and helpful tidbits on how to maintain a healthy and vibrant marriage. 
Hemanshi Nimavat's curator insight,
March 19, 2015 10:36 PM
I and Amit have been together since 2 months, just in march our relationship will turn into 3 months, yes our relationship has been healthy, we do fight, have some quarrels, but instead of chewing it over and over.... we let go of it and just love each other. After 5 years, all i hope is that my love for him will turn more depper and we will be together forever
Katie Barber's curator insight,
August 24, 2015 2:33 PM
Nice article that reminds you that love at first sight maybe isn't so important.
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Discover what scientists know about happy couples, and your relationship will never be the same--guaranteed. Via billcoffin
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Great Visuals backed by tons of Research! MUST READ for happy couples or wanna-be happy couples!
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February 26, 2014 4:50 PM
21 facts about what makes a marriage happy! 
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July 22, 2014 8:52 AM
Science can't tell us to be kind, appreciative and loving, but that's really what people need and want from each other. Simple!
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By Adam Hoffman Empathy can be painful. Or so suggests a growing body of neuroscientific research. When we witness suffering and distress in others, our natural tendency to empathize can bring us vicarious pain. Is there a better way of approaching distress in other people? A recent study...
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Pairing empathy with compassion helps us cope with difficult emotions.
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Practical Tips for Productive Living Writing the perfect love letter can be quite a challenge. After all, love is an emotion, and it can be extremely difficult to accurately transcribe your emotions into a meaningful set of words. It’s easy to spell out the phrase “I love you”, but those words are relatively hollow without a little contextual substantiation.
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Simple tool with great potential...
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If you have real concerns about the health of your marriage, here are 7 reasons to begin Marriage Counseling NOW! 1. If you haven’t been able to improve the relationship on your own, it’s time to t...
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Ignoring problems does not make them go away. Sometimes people fear being open about negative feelings will cause irreparable damage to the relationship. But how does hiding true feelings about valid concerns help the marriage? There’s a chance these hurts will resolve in time, but at what cost? When it comes to close relationships, open closeness always feels better in the long run. With love, healing is always possible!
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"Have you been feeling a little emotionally drained lately? Have you been finding yourself responding to the emergencies of others as if they are your own?
Perhaps you have been allowing someone to invade your space even though you are not quite comfortable. Maybe it’s time to look at whether you have healthy boundaries.
Boundaries are the limitations we set for ourselves and others. They can be both physical and emotional." Via PAT NOVAK, Sharilee Swaity
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August 18, 2013 1:55 AM
Some good simple tips for setting boundaries. These are good, and could be applied to any relationship. 
Maria Teresa Frezet terapeuta olistica's curator insight,
August 20, 2013 1:57 AM
interessante riflessione sull'importanza di metterre dei "sani" confini tra noi e gli altri. È una delle cose piú difficili da fare perché pressupone il riconoscere i propri bisogni prima di tutto ma, per cultura, siamo stati abituati a proiettarci all'esterno piú che all'interno....
Eppure saper mettere i sani confini è essenziale per evitare di accumulare frustrazione e rabbia e per poter vivere una vita serena, a beneficio nostro e di chi ci sta intorno!
ulteriori spunti di riflessione su www.thaatt.com
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Accepting others begins with accepting yourself. This means respecting others whether you agree with them or not. Accepting others is a concept that c...
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The value of accepting vs judging is immeasurable.
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Do you want to make your husband feel great? From sincere compliments to questions to help you understand your man better this list has 62 ways to do just that.
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Nice list of "words of affirmations" for couples.
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Click here for 3 basic communication skills (for couples) that will stop your disagreements escalating into a full-on screaming matches, accompanied by the sounds of slamming doors and one of you sleeping on the couch.
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These are 3 great skills that I teach couples all the time in therapy and are explained very well in this article on Love at first fight. When couples actually begin to use these skills many relationships issues are naturally resolved.
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If you sit in a restaurant and look around sometimes you can determine who is married and who is still dating. A couple still dating hangs on each other’s every word, while the married folks someti... Fuller LIfe Family Therapy
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A recent study has revealed a refreshing perspective on what really matters for couples is the sincere attempt to understand each other.
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Blending two families? Get tips for easing the transition, bonding with stepchildren, and dealing with common challenges.
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Excellent resource for blended familes.
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Eye contact can signal love, hate, intelligence, creepiness, persuasion, sarcasm and sometimes lies. Via Bobby Dillard
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Finding Common Ground: The Harvard Negotiation Project Here’s the good news:
Instead of suffering the loss of what is most important to you, or unknowingly putting your partner’s needs in jeopardy, you can use a simple approach to change the nature of negotiation. Take Fisher and Shapiro’s advice – focus on these five core concerns. Go through them all: Appreciation, Affiliation, Autonomy, Status, and Role. Do you feel that your needs are being met in all of these areas? Don’t worry if they aren’t. These are not easy concerns to address! Your level of satisfaction with each of them is a result of many complex and long-lasting dynamics between yourself and your partner.
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Wonderful tool for navigating conflict in a healthy manner from the Gottman Relationship Blog:
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Trust has been identified as a key element of successful conflict resolution (including negotiation and mediation). This is not surprising insofar as trust is associated with enhanced cooperation, information sharing, and problem solving. The need for trust arises from our interdependence with others. We often depend on other people to help us obtain, or at least not to frustrate, the outcomes we value (and they on us). As our interests with others are intertwined, we also must recognize that there is an element of risk involved insofar as we often encounter situations in which we cannot compel the cooperation we seek. Therefore, trust can be very valuable in social interactions.
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This essay on trust and trust building is quite through and very informative. Helpful for families and parents with adolescents and couples who struggle with trust.
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Here’s a selection of 60 tiny love stories recently submitted to our sister site, Makes Me Think, that not only made us think, but warmed our hearts and made us smile too. We hope they do the same for you.
Via Happiness Blueprint , Dr. Amy Fuller
Jennifer Hoffmaster Christian's curator insight,
July 30, 2013 11:12 AM
These are the most beautiful little love stories. I experienced tears of joy and gratitude for living in such a beautiful world.
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Relationship problems can keep us awake at night. But new research suggests that sleepless nights also can worsen lovers' fights.
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The lack of sleep is the root of all evil.
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Mom's love good for Children's Brains School-age children whose mothers nurtured them early in life have brains with a larger hippocampus, a key structure important to learning, memory and response to stress. Read Summary here. Read full text: Maternal support in early childhood predicts larger hippocampal volumes at school age
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July 13, 2013 11:10 PM
The importance of maternal nurtuing has been long proven for rats and primates, and now we know that children who experience nurturing in their early years have a larger hippocampus, by 10%. This is actually a followup study on a study on depression in preschoolers when they were ages 3 to 5. Brain images of these same children were taken when they were between 7 and 10. They evaluated the degree of maternal nuturance when the children were younger and compared the results to the brain imaging. . This study suggests a clear link between nurturing and the size of the hippocampus. What's the hippocampus? One of the most important parts of the human brain especially since it sits right in the middle of our animal brain (limbic system) which is involved in managing emotion, threat detection, behavior, motivation and memory. Amy Fuller PhD Hat tip to Donald Cooper for posting this on the Achieve Balance Linked Group. Read Summary here. Read full text: Maternal support in early childhood predicts larger hippocampal volumes at school age
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Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do. Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children. - Alex Haley There is no grandfather who does not adore his ...
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This beautiful post gifts us with images of grandparents working their relational magic from all cultures and with all kinds of children. There is a lovely thought provoking quote about Grandparents between each picture. I think those of us who aspire to be relationship experts can gleam a lot of knowlegde from how healthy grandparenting relationships shape children's lives for the good. www.amyfullerphd.com see the full post: http://stevemccurry.wordpress.com/2013/03/24/gift-of-grandparents/
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From Why Marriage Matters, 2nd Edition. Among the research findings summarized by the report are: About Children
About Men
About Women
Read the full document. Read a summary from Marriage Matters.
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Looking for a reason to stay married? Here it is. These pro-marriage research findings are all in one document. I found it interesting that over five studies "analyzing different populations find that married men (especially married fathers) have lower testosterone levels than do Read the full document. Read a summary from Marriage Matters. @marriage_coc
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Teach Empathy Through Relationships We need to call attention to the role of healthy relationships in education. Then we need a way to bring rigor to the continuous pursuit of building them.
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A school started a lab to investigate empathy in education and discussed what they label the fourth "R"after reading, writing and 'rithmatic which is Relationships. An interesting discussion about empathy follows.
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One of the surest ways to find unhappiness and to limit your creativity is worrying about what others think of you.
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Bryan Hutchinson shares a wonderful metaphor about remote controls in relationships. Thanks @ADDerWORLD
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Most people are aware that men are from Mars and Women from Venus, metaphorically speaking, thanks to Dr. John Gray. When we put the genders together we sometimes end up with miscommunication, hurt...
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Women feel more satisfaction in a relationship when men express negative feeling...according to new research.
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First off, Hollywood lied. Marriage isn’t a magical and wonderful union between two people. It’s messy, hard and emotionally challenging hard work. That is why I personally love marriage (and of course my wife). We need to move the away from the social paradigm where people expect marriages to be happy and constantly blissful and instead move towards the work of creating healthy marriages. "40% Annoyed, 40% Happy, 20% Love = A Healthy Marriage " - http://t.co/Zdxdao4Paa Via Brenda Elliott
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It's sad, but true...Hollywood lied.
Brenda Elliott's curator insight,
May 20, 2013 7:14 AM
That's about right- totally worth committing your life toward- just not how Hoolywood projects it...
Sharilee Swaity's curator insight,
May 20, 2013 10:00 PM
The reality of marriage -- it will being annoyed at your spouse. But then the bliss is unbelievable. |
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if you're curious what happens in the brain and body when you fall in love and what's happening when that same love later hurts...great article by Helen Fisher!