Yes, Sometimes in Recovery We Go to Bars Sober and It Can Be OkayYes, Sometimes in Recovery, We Go to Bars TranscriptPreeti Davidson (00:00)Good morning. It's Preeti Favorite sober girl. I don't know where that came from. Probably don't try to brand yourself in the middle of a recording. Good note. I had a fun night last night. I went out with a couple of my favorite people to a dive bar in town.Yeah, we go to bars where can be sober and go to bars. That's definitely not what I did on day 10 or
Summary In this conversation, Curt and Preeti discuss the do's and don'ts for a first date when meeting someone from a dating app. They highlight several turnoffs and share personal experiences. The main themes include honesty about appearance, active listening, setting boundaries, and the importance of reciprocity.
takeaways Be honest about your appearance and don't misrepresent yourself in photos. Active listening is important on a first date to learn about each other. Set boundaries and prioritize personal safety. Offer to pay or go half on the bill to establish reciprocity. Normalize the idea of paying your own way until you get to know someone.
titles The Do's and Don'ts for a First Date from a Dating App Paying Your Own Way: Empowering Yourself in the Dating World
Sound Bites "Please match your photo. Please don't show up telling me that you're 5'10 and really you're about 5'5. I don't actually care how tall you are, but now I care that you're a liar." "If you go out with a gentleman, do not talk the whole time. The idea of getting together is to learn about each other." "We're often triggered by men mansplaining to us. And for those of you who don't know, mansplaining is something that men often do when they talk down in a condescending way to a woman to explain something to them that is generally fairly obvious."
Chapters 00:00 Honesty About Appearance 01:06 Active Listening 01:42 Avoiding Condescension 02:48 Setting Boundaries 03:29 Prioritizing Personal Safety 08:17 Etiquette of Paying
Keywords dating app, first date, turnoffs, honesty, appearance, active listening, boundaries, reciprocity
How to Tell Someone You are Dating That You are Sober? When Do You Say You are Sober on a Date?Hey everybody, this is Curt and Preeti with Konvo Dating and we're going to help people talk about how do you tell someone on a first or second date that you're sober? Not exactly what a lot of people want to hear if you like going out for drinks and it's the social lubricant and it gets everybody kind of loosened up. So if you're a sober person, how do you tell someone that you're sober? So Preeti.Wha
Back to School Scaries: Changing Schools or Grades Show Notes
Summary The conversation discusses the anxiety and challenges that students face when transitioning to a new school or grade level. It emphasizes the importance of empathy, compassion, and reaching out to others. The hosts share personal experiences and provide reassurance that these feelings are normal and temporary. They also highlight the tendency for both kids and parents to catastrophize and offer strategies for managing these thoughts. The conversation concludes with a mention of MayaForLife.com, where parents and students can find more resources and support.
takeaways Transitions to new schools or grade levels can be anxiety-inducing for students, but it's important to reassure them that everyone feels nervous and is looking for friends. Teaching kids empathy and compassion can help alleviate their own fears and make them more open to reaching out to others. Time takes time, and it's normal for it to take a while to find one's tribe and feel comfortable in a new school. Both kids and parents tend to catastrophize, but it's important to challenge these thoughts and remind oneself that they are not true. MayaForLife.com offers resources and support for parents and students navigating school transitions and anxieties.
titles Support and Resources at MayaForLife.com Finding Your Tribe: Navigating New School Environments
Sound Bites "Everybody's faking it. Everybody's on their first day." "Having compassion and empathy and teaching your kids to stick their hand out when someone's alone is a big part of it that starts at home." "Everything changes. It didn't take that long for me to find my tribe." Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Back-to-School Anxiety 00:38 Reassurance and Empathy 02:04 Navigating New School Environments 03:51 Challenging Catastrophic Thoughts 04:37 Support and Resources at MayaForLife.com
Keywords back to school, transitions, anxiety, empathy, compassion, reaching out, catastrophizing, MayaForLife
Back to School Scaries - You are Not Meant to Be a Perfect Parent Show Notes
Summary In this conversation, Curt and Preeti discuss tips for parents dealing with back-to-school anxiety and the transition from summer to school. They emphasize the importance of parental responsibility and self-compassion, and encourage parents to embrace change as an opportunity for growth. They also highlight the support available from the community and resources like MAYA. The conversation ends with information on how to access more resources and book a call with MAYA.
takeaways Parents should recognize that they are not meant to be perfect and give themselves grace. Back-to-school is a time of transition and change, which can be difficult but also exciting. Change should be seen as an opportunity for growth and celebration of past successes. Parents should seek support from their community and utilize resources like MAYA. MAYA offers videos, podcasts, and family resources to support parents.
Sound Bites "What could parents do when they're faced with a situation of..." "Give yourself grace, is to not try to be the perfect parent" "Getting back to the routine is not easy. It means that we have to completely shift gears."
Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Back-to-School Anxiety 01:55 Embracing Change and Transitions 03:19 Celebrating Wins and Focusing on the Positive 04:12 The Importance of Community Support 05:00 Resources for Parents: Maya for Life 05:42 Finding Support and Booking a Call with Maya
Can Ozempic, Mounjaro, and GLP-1 Inhibitors Help with Disordered Eating? Show Notes In this conversation, Preeti discusses her personal experience with disordered eating and how it has affected her life. She shares her struggles with extreme food restriction and the use of food as comfort. Preeti also talks about her journey to find medical interventions, including gastric sleeve surgery and the use of medications like Ozempic and Monjaro. She emphasizes the importance of addressing the underlying issues and changing brain chemistry to overcome disordered eating. Preeti highlights the stigma and shame associated with being overweight and the need for support and resources in dealing with this disorder.
takeaways Disordered eating can involve extreme food restriction and the use of food as comfort. Medical interventions, such as gastric sleeve surgery and medications like Ozempic and Monjaro, can be helpful in managing disordered eating. Addressing the underlying issues and changing brain chemistry are crucial in overcoming disordered eating. There is a stigma and shame associated with being overweight, which can contribute to the challenges of disordered eating. Support and resources are essential for individuals dealing with disordered eating.
Sound Bites "I've struggled with both extreme food restriction" "I was feeling great, I continued to lose weight, just looked better and better." "Metabolic issues require medical intervention"
Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Experience with Disordered Eating 02:22 The Role of GLP-1 Inhibitors in Quieting the Mind 07:08 Seeking Support and Overcoming Stigma 09:42 The Journey Towards Recovery 12:41 Taking Responsibility for Self-Care 14:46 The Impact of Disordered Eating on Mental Well-being 17:50 Using Tools for Personal Growth and Recovery
In this conversation, Curt and Preeti discuss the challenges of the back-to-school season, specifically focusing on the issue of mean girls and boys. They emphasize the importance of building up a child's self-esteem and confidence at home to help them handle bullying situations. They also discuss the impact of social media on bullying and the role of parents in shaping their children's behavior. They highlight the need for parents to reflect on their own actions and seek therapy if necessary. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of creating a safe and loving environment for children to thrive.
takeaways Building up a child's self-esteem and confidence at home is crucial for helping them handle bullying situations. Parents play a significant role in shaping their children's behavior and should reflect on their own actions and attitudes. The impact of social media on bullying cannot be ignored, and parents should be aware of what their children are experiencing online. Seeking therapy can be beneficial for families dealing with bullying or other family system issues. Breaking the cycle of generational trauma is an opportunity for parents to create a better future for themselves and their children.
titles The Impact of Social Media on Bullying Breaking the Cycle of Generational Trauma
Sound Bites "It starts when you wake up and it starts how you talk to them in the morning and you talk to them at night." "The role modeling part plays a lot bigger role than I think parents believe, even their comments about politics right now." "Nipping it in the bud early in September is good." Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Back to School Season 01:05 Chapter 2: Mean Girls and Boys 03:31 Chapter 3: Bullying on Social Media 05:10 Chapter 4: What if Your Kid is the Bully? 08:31 Chapter 5: Breaking the Cycle of Generational Trauma 09:13 MAYA Program: Supporting Families
Keywords back-to-school, mean girls, mean boys, bullying, self-esteem, confidence, social media, parenting, therapy
Friends with Benefits - Has It Been a Net Positive or Negative for Women Over the Past 20 Years?Friends with Benefits - Net Positive or Negative for Women TranscriptHey everybody, interesting discussion today, bringing up a subject known as friends with benefits, a phenomena or at least a phrase that maybe started 20, 25 years ago, certainly not when I was going through my teenage years. And we had our pre -show rehearsals, got a little wild. This is only for protection. This is not at all to be
5 Steps to De-escalating an argument with your loved one (MAYA) Show Notes - Preeti Davidson shares five tips to bring down escalating negative emotions and avoid unnecessary drama or pain. The first tip is to pause and take a breath, recognizing that the situation doesn't need to be solved immediately. The second tip is to investigate the thought and determine if it's a feeling or a fact. The third tip is to ask a series of questions: Does it need to be said? Does it need to be said by me? Does it need to be said right now? The fourth tip is to sleep on it and seek the perspective of a trusted friend or family member. The fifth tip is to practice pausing and breathing to override the fight or flight response and activate executive functioning.
takeaways When caught up in escalating negative emotions, it's important to pause and take a breath, recognizing that the situation doesn't need to be solved immediately. Investigate the thought and determine if it's a feeling or a fact before acting on it. Ask a series of questions to determine if it's necessary to say something: Does it need to be said? Does it need to be said by me? Does it need to be said right now? Sleep on it and seek the perspective of a trusted friend or family member before reacting. Practice pausing and breathing to override the fight or flight response and activate executive functioning.
Sound Bites "Bring it back down to center and take away the drama or the pain." "Recognize the fact that you're in distress and that you have feelings and your feelings are valid." "Does it need to be said by me? Am I the person responsible to deliver this?"
Chapters 00:00 Bringing Down Negative Emotions 00:52 The Power of Pausing and Investigating Thoughts 02:30 Asking the Right Questions: Does It Need to Be Said? 02:56 The Importance of Self-Regulation and Taking a Break 06:51 Resources for Healthy Fighting in Relationships
Keywords escalating emotions, negative emotions, drama, pain, pause, investigate, questions, sleep on it, seek perspective, pausing and breathing
Parents of kids going to college: it's not too late to talk about alcohol! As millions of American students head off to college, parents are concerned about topics like sex, drugs, alcohol, and navigating adult life. It's important for parents to have open discussions with their children about setting boundaries and making responsible decisions. The decisions students make about roommates, socializing, alcohol, cannabis use, and sexual practices can have long-term effects. Parents should encourage their children to set their own boundaries and not feel pressured to conform to social expectations. It's never too late for parents to have these conversations, even if they haven't done so before. It's important to address the fear, discomfort, and uncertainty that come with starting college and to normalize these feelings. Students should be reassured that it's okay to not feel okay and that they will eventually find their tribe and feel more comfortable.
takeaways Parents should have open discussions with their children about sex, drugs, alcohol, and navigating adult life before they head off to college. Students should be encouraged to set their own boundaries and make responsible decisions about roommates, socializing, alcohol, cannabis use, and sexual practices. It's important for parents to reassure their children that it's okay to not feel okay and that they will eventually find their tribe and feel more comfortable. Parents can still have these conversations with their children even if they haven't done so before, and it's never too late to start. Fear, discomfort, and uncertainty are normal when starting college, and it's important to normalize these feelings and provide support to students.
Sound Bites "It's OK to set their boundaries, whether they choose to drink, how much they choose to drink, whether they use cannabis, whether they don't." "It's OK if, say, you're in a room of four and two people tend to be quote partiers and you don't want to drink or vice versa, that their decisions are completely internal and support their beliefs." "Talk to your kids about how they want to brand themselves, what they want to define themselves as. And it's okay if other people don't agree or aren't that same brand."
Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Concerns of Parents 01:00 The Importance of Setting Boundaries 02:37 Navigating Social Pressures 05:31 Having Conversations with Late Bloomers 07:06 Preparing for the Change in Rules 08:26 Understanding and Meeting Emotional Needs 10:29 Choosing Your Own Path 12:57 Normalizing Fear and Discomfort 14:34 Resources and Support
Some People are Addicted to Chaos and Drama - Comfort in Chaos as a Way to Cope with Unhealed TraumaAre you Attracted to Chaos and Drama? TranscriptToday's talk is about people who are addicted to drama or addicted to the chaos. Do you know someone who seems to love the energy of just always being in a fight or always creating some sort of drama? It doesn't have to be a big D and be a small D if you know what I mean. So those people, excuse me, my intro, those people for some reason, and it coul
Yes, Sometimes in Recovery We Go to Bars Show Notes!
Summary - Preeti Davidson reflects on her experience of going out to a bar sober and the joys of experiencing things for the first time in sobriety. She discusses the anxiety she used to feel in social situations and how that has changed over time. Preeti also talks about the false indicators of likeability and belonging that alcohol provided and how she now finds true connection and appreciation for art and talent in sobriety. She shares her gratitude practice and the importance of staying present and not catastrophizing the future. Preeti concludes by expressing her gratitude for the recovery community and the support she has received.
takeaways Sobriety allows for the joy of experiencing things for the first time Alcohol can provide false indicators of likeability and belonging Gratitude and staying present are key to a better life in recovery The support of the recovery community is invaluable
titles Experiencing Joy in Sobriety The Power of Gratitude and Presence
Sound Bites "It's so lovely to experience things for the first time. And that's another gift of sobriety." "I'm able to enjoy myself and be myself and whoever that may be." "What a celebration of what it is to be human."
Chapters 00:00 Experiencing Joy in Sobriety 02:19 Finding True Connection and Appreciation 05:30 The Power of Gratitude and Presence 08:11 The Importance of the Recovery Community
Dating Pet Peeves - Rant about Endless Texting, Ghosting, Picture Filters, Men's Height, and More!Dating Pet Peeves TranscriptCurt (00:00)Hello everybody, Curt and Preeti here with konvodating.com. But we're not a dating app, we're a relationship app. Preeti and I are gonna go back and forth. We're gonna tell you the do's and don'ts for your first date Some of the things you should do and some of the things you shouldn't do that lead to horror stories. All right, Preeti, you're up. Give me one t
How do you disclose you are sober? The conversation discusses the challenges of dating while sober and how to disclose sobriety to potential partners. Preeti shares her experiences and strategies, such as mentioning sobriety on her dating profile and setting boundaries. She also talks about the positive responses she has received and how being sober has become an asset. Preeti emphasizes the importance of not feeling obligated to disclose personal information and highlights the support and respect she has received for her recovery journey. The conversation concludes with a mention of Konvo Dating, a relationship app that helps guide users through difficult conversations.
takeaways Disclosing sobriety on a dating profile can help filter out potential partners who prioritize drinking. Setting boundaries around dating someone who drinks or does drugs is important for maintaining sobriety. Revealing sobriety early in conversations can lead to admiration and respect from potential partners. It is okay to not disclose personal information about one's recovery journey to strangers. Konvo Dating is a relationship app that assists users in navigating difficult conversations.
Sound Bites "Putting that I don't drink at all, if a man actually reads my profile, and there's a big if there, ⁓ they're going to self-select and they're not going to necessarily want to go out with me ⁓ if drinking is really important to them." "Being sober was actually an asset and not something that ⁓ felt like a liability, that maybe it was something that could build my confidence and make me feel like there is this really big thing that I've done, that I'm doing, that I'm committed to doing for the rest of my life." "I've been sober for four years now. I've been sober for three years now. ⁓ it was, again, always met with a lot of admiration and respect. And if it wasn't, then you know what? That's not the person for me."
Chapters 00:00 Navigating Sobriety in Dating 02:03 Choosing Compatible Partners 02:54 Deciding How Much to Share 03:20 Sobriety as an Asset 04:12 Gradually Revealing Sobriety 05:03 Konvo Dating: Guiding Difficult Conversations
Back to School Stress and Anxiety - You are Not Meant to Be a Perfect Parent So Give Yourself GraceBack to School Scaries - You are Not Meant to Be a Perfect Parent TranscriptCurt (00:00)Hi, Preeti Guess what week it is.Preeti (00:00)Hi Curt!tell me.Curt (00:03)Back to school week. Parents, kids, not if you're driving around and you start seeing school buses stopping every 50 feet, it tends not to be enjoyable. But the good news is at MAYA we've been covering with students and parents how to han
Can Ozempic, Semaglutide, and Mounjaro Help with Disordered Eating? - The Mind-Body ConnectionCan Ozempic, Mounjaro, and GLP-1 Inhibitors Help with Disordered Eating? Preeti (00:00)Hey, it's Preeti from Maya4Life.com. I'm going to talk a little bit this morning about disordered eating. I've struggled before with extreme food restriction, veering between extreme food restriction, eating 200, 300, less than that.calories a day, feeling really accomplished and good about myself because of it, feeli
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Back to School Fears? Mean Girls & Boys Bully Your Kid from Social Media to the ClassroomBack to School Scaries: Mean Girls & Boys TranscriptHey, Curt and Preeti here from Maya4Life.com. It is back to school season, Curt. How you feeling about that?Curt (00:07)I couldn't be happier like many parents out there, than the fact we have to start getting up earlier and there'll be buses and traffic and all that stuff. I'm sure many parents across America are counting the days until little bundles of j
What is friends with benefits? Friends with benefits means that you are actually friends with somebody and that you also have sex with that person But you're not in a committed relationship. You're not monogamous I think Oftentimes what people miss about friends with benefits is that friends is actually the first word so these you know, these are relationships between people who know each other and want to continue to know each other and have a relationship outside of the bedroom outside of just sex.
Curt and Preeti discuss if that has been a net positive or negative for women over the past 20 years?
5 Steps to Deescalate an Argument with a Loved One - The MAYA Method to Detach with Kindness 5 Steps to De-escalating an argument with your loved oneHey everybody, let's say you're a very mild -mannered person, but all of us get caught up in the moment sometimes and feel ourselves escalating into an area of angst or anger, and you just want to ramp up and get into it. So luckily, Preeti has five tips or five steps you could go through to bring it back down to center and take away the drama or th
Love is Blind UK Finale Show Notes - The conversation discusses the finale of the reality show Love is Blind UK and focuses on the character Catherine, who is adopted. The speakers analyze Catherine's behavior and how she uses her adoption as an excuse for her insecurities and need for validation. They emphasize the importance of taking responsibility for one's own happiness and not relying on others to complete or validate oneself. The conversation also praises Freddie, another character on the show, for his honesty and compassion in handling the situation. keywordsLove is Blind UK, finale, Catherine, adoption, insecurities, validation, responsibility, happiness, Freddie
takeaways Catherine uses her adoption as an excuse for her insecurities and need for validation. Taking responsibility for one's own happiness is crucial and not relying on others to complete or validate oneself. Freddie is praised for his honesty and compassion in handling the situation. The conversation highlights the importance of confronting and questioning one's pain in order to overcome it.
Sound Bites "A true apology is just the statement. I'm sorry for X, Y and Z with a period if you put a but in there, you're still not fully letting it go and giving that person closure." "Catherine doesn't have to be in this much pain. She's carried it for long enough and it's time for her to just drop it to the side because it's really messing with her life and her happiness." "No one is out there to complete you or validate you. You need to complete yourself."
Chapters 00:00 Introduction and the Role of 'But' 02:37 Using Personal Experiences as Excuses 05:34 Confronting and Letting Go of Past Pain 07:19 Freddie's Honesty and Handling of the Situation 09:47 Love is Blind UK Season 1: Complex Characters and Personal Struggles
"But I Love You" or "I'm Sorry, But.." = An Excuse to Treat Someone Poorly or Be Abusive?Love is Blind UK Finale TranscriptHey Curt, so somebody woke me up really early this morning to watch the Love is Blind finales that dropped in America at 3am Thank you for not waking me up at 3 aNo, but it was a very exciting finale. We had made some videos and predictions. You can check it out on the MAYA blog about what would happen and what relationships and we got, I think about 80 % right on our predic
Parents of Kids Going to College - It's Not Too Late to Talk about Alcohol, Cannabis, and RoommatesParents of kids going to college: it's not too late to talk about alcohol transcriptHey, Curt and Preeti here from Maya4Life.com. Curt, it is August and about two and a half million American students are headed to their first year in college, which means that somewhere between two and a half and five million parents are in tears, excited, in dread, I don't know.is seeing their therapist for an ext
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