Summary In this conversation, Curt Dalton discusses the critical role of parents in guiding their children towards personal responsibility and happiness. He emphasizes the dangers of victimhood, explaining how it can lead to a lack of accountability and ultimately result in unhealthy coping mechanisms such as substance abuse. Dalton encourages parents to teach their children to recognize their role in situations and to take responsibility for their own happiness, rather than blaming others.
takeaways Parents should protect and guide their children, not control them. Victimhood is a significant concern for children's happiness. Children must learn to take responsibility for their own happiness. Blaming others leads to helplessness and unhealthy coping mechanisms. Teaching children about their role in situations is crucial. Self-confidence and internal validation can prevent substance abuse. Parents should be aware of the language their children use. Encouraging children to be whole by themselves is essential. Victimhood can lead to a cycle of blame in adulthood. Understanding the impact of parenting on future relationships is vital.
Sound Bites "Victimhood is by far the number one fire extinguisher." "They have no shot at happiness." "Victims can never be happy in life."
Summary In this conversation, Preeti and Curt explore the themes of personal growth, the impact of past experiences on current relationships, and the importance of modeling healthy behaviors for future generations. They discuss the cycle of repeating past mistakes, the challenges of setting and maintaining boundaries, and the courage required to make significant life changes. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness and the responsibility individuals have for their own happiness, ultimately advocating for a healthier approach to relationships and personal well-being.
takeaways People often vow to never repeat painful experiences, but they frequently do. Transference from past relationships can affect current ones. Understanding your role in past pain is crucial for growth. Boundaries are often violated by ourselves more than others. Change usually requires a significant trigger or 'bottom'. Staying in unhealthy relationships can model codependency for children. Healthy relationships require individuals to be secure in themselves. Courage is needed to break free from toxic patterns. Many who leave toxic relationships find greater happiness. Self-acceptance and solitude can lead to personal growth.
Sound Bites "I am never going to fill in the blank again." "There's a lot of pain in it." "Definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over."
Chapters 00:00 Understanding Pain and Non-Negotiables 02:31 The Cycle of Repeated Patterns 05:11 Boundaries and Self-Responsibility 08:02 Modeling Healthy Relationships for Children 10:42 Embracing Change and Self-Discovery
In this conversation, Curt and Preeti discuss the challenges children face with social media, emphasizing the importance of understanding the pressures of external validation versus internal validation. They explore how MAYA For Life helps empower youth to navigate their identities and self-worth in a digital age, encouraging them to use social media as a tool for self-expression rather than a source of validation.
takeaways Social media is an integral part of children's lives today. Parents often react negatively to their children's social media use. There is immense pressure on kids to be popular online. MAYA For Life encourages setting social media accounts to private. Understanding the difference between public and private social media is crucial. Kids often lack awareness of how their posts may be perceived by adults. Impulse control in youth is often low, affecting their online behavior. Chasing likes can lead to a cycle of desperation for validation. Empowering kids to discover their values can build internal validation. MAYA For Life aims to help kids articulate their identity and self-worth.
Sound Bites "Social media isn't going anywhere." "There's a lot of pressure for them to live out loud." "Impulse control is high and awareness of consequences is low."
Chapters 00:00 Navigating Social Media Challenges for Kids 05:01 Understanding External vs. Internal Validation 07:44 Personal Branding to Reinvent Teen's Social Media 09:40 Empowering Kids Through Personal Branding
Keywords social media, parenting, youth empowerment, validation, MAYA For Life
In this conversation, Curt and Preeti discuss the phenomenon of school avoidance, particularly as it relates to mental health, cultural influences, and neurodivergence. They explore the reasons children may not want to attend school, the importance of recognizing mental health needs, and the impact of societal expectations on both parents and children. The discussion emphasizes the need for open communication between parents and children, understanding neurodivergent challenges, and finding a balance between work and family life. They also highlight resources available for parents and teens to navigate these issues effectively.
takeaways School avoidance can stem from various factors, including illness and mental health. It's important to assess whether a child is physically sick or facing emotional challenges. Mental health days should be normalized for children, just as they are for adults. Cultural pressures often prevent parents from taking time off for family needs. Children may struggle to articulate their feelings, leading to school avoidance. Neurodivergent children may face unique challenges in school that go unrecognized. COVID-19 highlighted the importance of family time and self-care. Modeling self-care for children can help them prioritize their mental health. Finding balance in life is crucial to prevent maladaptive coping mechanisms. Resources like MAYA can provide support for parents and teens dealing with these issues.
titles Balancing Work and Family Life Cultural Pressures and Their Impact on Kids
Sound Bites "Kids who don't want to go to school." "Is saying, I don't want to go to school today." "We don't take our sick days."
Keywords school avoidance, mental health, parenting, neurodivergence, cultural influences, work-life balance, children's health, education, emotional well-being, MAYA program Chapters 00:00 Understanding School Avoidance 02:39 The Importance of Mental Health Days 05:05 Navigating Neurodivergence in Children 08:00 Cultural Influences on Work and Family Life 10:32 Finding Balance in Life and Parenting
Traits of a Healthy Relationship? Trust and Acceptance are First Two "Must Haves" for HappinessTraits of a Healthy Relationship: Trust and Acceptance TranscriptCurt Dalton (00:00)Hello, Preeti how are you? I'm good, I have a question for you.Preeti (00:01)I'm good, Curt how are you?Alright, shoot.Curt Dalton (00:05)We make a lot of videos about what's wrong with relationships, what's unhealthy, what are the red flags, don't look for a but I love you, but I'm a good person, get out of jail free,
How Do You Get Your Kids to Forgive You as a Parent? In this conversation, Preeti and Curt discuss the complexities of father-son relationships, particularly focusing on the importance of forgiveness and emotional wellbeing. They explore how setting boundaries can be a crucial step for young individuals dealing with parental trauma, and emphasize that forgiveness is primarily for the individual seeking it, rather than for the person who has caused the hurt. The discussion also highlights the role of support systems like MAYA in helping teens navigate these challenging emotional landscapes.
takeaways Forgiveness is primarily for the person doing the forgiving. Setting boundaries is essential for emotional health. Resentment harms the person holding onto it. Emotional wellbeing should not be tied to others. Forgiveness is a complex process, especially for teens. Support systems are crucial for navigating parental trauma. MAYA provides practical solutions for teens. Developmentally, forgiveness is an advanced skill. Therapy can help in the healing process. It's important to let go of negative energy.
Sound Bites "Forgiveness isn't about the other person." "Resentment is like drinking poison to spite another person." "Your emotional wellbeing cannot be tied to another person." Chapters 00:00 Introduction: A Difficult Father-Son Relationship 02:30 The Importance of Forgiveness for Personal Well-being 03:47 Forgiveness and Healing for Oneself 05:24 The Advanced Endeavor of Forgiveness for Teens 06:13 Seeking Help for the Painful Journey of Forgiveness 06:43 Conclusion: Maya's Practical Solutions for Teens
How to Help Your Kid Forgive Their Parent Show Notes
Keywords forgiveness, father-son relationship, emotional wellbeing, boundaries, Maya4Life, teen support, parental trauma, emotional growth, self-help, mental health
Do You Apologize to Your Kids? - Role-Modeling That Saying "I Am Sorry" is Healthy and HonestDo You Apologize to Your Kids? TranscriptPreeti (00:00)Hey Curt, how's it going?Curt Dalton (00:01)Excellent, Preeti, how are you doing today?Preeti (00:03)I'm doing well, you know, there's this rumor going around town that says that you, Curt Dalton, apologize to your kids from time to time. And apparently this is really controversial because parents don't always think that they should or are obligated
Your Laundry List of Dating Must-Haves Can Be a Big Turnoff on Your Dating App Profile PageLaundry List of Dating Must Haves Transcript Preeti (00:00)Curt and Preeti here from Konvodating.com to talk more about dating mishaps, missteps and misalignments. Hey Curt, I know one of your biggest dating app pet peeves is when people have a laundry list of what the other person must have on their dating profile. Tell us what grinds your gears about coming across a woman's profile who has a list of 20 t
"But, I'm a Good Person" and Other Ways we Gaslight People in RelationshipsBut, I'm a Good Person and Other Ways we Gaslight in Relationships TranscriptCurt Dalton (00:00)Hello everybody, it's Curt from Maya4Life.com here doing a little follow -up video based on some comments and reactions to a video we made earlier that's called, But, I Love You, is not an excuse to treat someone poorly. And what happens in a relationship, you'll get to a point when there's a back and forth, back and forth, and
When to Let Go of Unhealthy Relationships and Detach With Love - Unfriending a Loved One for Health!The Ultimate Boundary TranscriptCurt Dalton (00:00)Good morning Preetilicious.Preeti (00:01)Good morning, Curtafer.Curt Dalton (00:03)I was wondering, I have a question for you that you would be a great person to answer.Preeti (00:07)Okay.Curt Dalton (00:07)When is it okay to detach with kindness or love or end a relationship with a friend or loved one? At what point do you know you can give yours
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Parent's Biggest Worry When Raising Kids Today? - Victimhood: A Death Sentence to Their HappinessVictimhood 5 Min TranscriptCurt Dalton (00:00)Hey everybody, this is Curt here with maya4life.com and we're going first class tonight, suits only, just to talk to the parents. One of things I wanted to bring up and I get asked is what is the number one concern I have being a father of three to protect my children against? And remember parents job is not to control your children but to first and forem
Well, I am Never Going to Do That, Again - Why We Say It and Why We Do It Again, Over and Over!I am never going to…again TranscriptPreeti (00:00)Hey, it's Preeti and Curt from Maya4Life.com. we're talking about, hey Curt, have you ever said to yourself, I am never going to fill in the blank again? Like you've been through the wringer, you've learned your lesson and you vow that you are absolutely never going to get yourself into that situation, do that thing.Is this something that's resonating w
I Hate My Kid's Social Media Posts - From Short Shorts to Drinking, What Can a Parent Do to Help?Hate Your Kid’s Social Media??? TranscriptCurt Dalton (00:00)Hey everybody, this is Curt with MAYA For Life with our Purple Princess today, Preeti, and we have a social media question for you. All right, Preeti, if you hate your child's social media post on Instagram or Snap or whatever the latest thing is these days, what are your options? Should you A, take their phone away, shut their accounts dow
My Kids Don't Want to Go School, But Do You Know Why? Sick Day or Mental Health Day?School Avoidance TranscriptPreeti (00:00)Hey, it's Curt and Preeti from mayaforlife.com and we are talking about school avoidance. That is the phenomenon that I'm sure many of you are frustrated over being that it is September of kids who don't want to go to school. Curt, that never happens in your household. Kids being sick, wanting to stay home sick from school, possibly not being all that sick. How do you deal
Are you an alcoholic if you have a few drinks a few times a week? How about every night? How do I know if I am an alcoholic and what can I do about it if I am an alcoholic? Preeti Davidson discusses her journey into alcoholism and how she knew she was an alcoholic, get the full video with comments at https://www.maya4life.com/post/am-i-an-alcoholic-how-do-i-know-if-i-am-an-alcoholic-or-not
Traits of a Healthy Relationship: Trust and Acceptance Show Notes Full post with comments at https://www.maya4life.com/post/what-does-a-healthy-relationship-look-like-3-traits-all-healthy-relationships-must-have Summary In this conversation, Curt and Preeti explore the essential elements of healthy relationships, focusing on trust and acceptance. They discuss how giving the benefit of the doubt can strengthen bonds, the complexities surrounding trust, and the importance of accepting partners as they are rather than trying to change them. The dialogue emphasizes the need for emotional intelligence and communication in fostering healthy connections.
takeaways Healthy relationships are built on trust and acceptance. Giving the benefit of the doubt is crucial in relationships. Triggers can lead to misunderstandings and conflict. Trust, once broken, can be difficult to rebuild. Acceptance means loving someone as they are, not as you wish them to be. Healthy relationships involve mutual understanding and shared values. You cannot change someone; you can only work on yourself. Manipulating a partner to change is unhealthy and destructive. Open communication is key to resolving conflicts. Seeking help from professionals can guide relationship growth.
titles The Power of Acceptance in Love How to Foster Healthy Connections
Sound Bites "What does a healthy relationship look like?" "Trust being the first one and acceptance being the second one." "Giving somebody the benefit of the doubt is such a loving act."
Chapters 00:00 Introduction 02:32 Giving Someone the Benefit of the Doubt 03:26 Rebuilding Trust: Honesty and Time 05:13 The Significance of Acceptance in a Healthy Relationship 06:51 Avoiding the Pitfall of Trying to Change or Fix Someone 07:28 Conclusion
How Do You Get Your Kids to Forgive You as a Parent? - Parents Make Mistakes, But Do Kids Forgive?How to Help Your Kid Forgive Their Parent TranscriptPreeti (00:00)Hey everyone, it's Curt and Preeti from Maya4Life.com. Hey, Curt. So I had a tough conversation with a young person recently that I wanted to share with you and our viewers. I was talking to a young man in his late teens who has had a very fraught relationship with his father over many years. And mostly because his father has been in
In this conversation, Preeti and Kurt discuss the importance of apologizing to children and the positive impact it can have on their emotional well-being. They explore why parents may be hesitant to apologize and the benefits of validating a child's feelings. Kurt shares his advice on how to apologize effectively and the role modeling effect it has on children. They also discuss the reciprocity and unity that can be fostered within a family through sincere apologies.
takeaways Apologizing to children is important for their emotional well-being and helps validate their feelings. Effective apologies involve taking responsibility without making excuses or dismissing the child's experience. Apologizing to children can foster unity and reciprocity within a family. Modeling sincere apologies teaches children how to apologize and handle conflicts in their own relationships. Apologizing to children can correct stored trauma and prevent it from being passed on.
titles The Power of Apologizing to Children Validating Feelings and Fostering Unity
Sound Bites "I'm sorry that that negative thing, fill in the blank, happened and I would have done it differently, but that's on me and I'm going to do better." "It's actually really easy and, and, know, it disarms the situation." "Get the butts out, right? But I love you, we did the video on, but I'm a good person. Just say, hey, I'm sorry." Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Rumor about Apologizing to Kids 01:30 The Importance of Apologizing to Children 02:56 Apologizing Even When You Don't Think You Did Wrong 03:53 Disarming Situations with Apologies 04:53 The Power of a Genuine Apology 06:12 Empowering Children through Apologies 08:21 Reciprocity and Modeling Apologies 10:06 Apologizing to Correct Stored Trauma 10:42 Conclusion and MayaForLife.com
Keywords apologizing to children, validating feelings, emotional well-being, role modeling, unity within a family
In this conversation, Curt and Preeti discuss the issue of having a laundry list of requirements on dating profiles and the healthier way of approaching dating. They highlight the problem of entitlement and transactional expectations that arise from such lists. They emphasize the importance of reciprocity and focusing on what one can bring to the relationship rather than demanding certain qualities from the other person. They also discuss the need to learn from past mistakes and not bring the baggage of previous relationships into new ones. The conversation concludes with a mention of Konvo Dating, a new dating app that aims to change the dating scene.
takeaways Having a laundry list of requirements on a dating profile can come across as entitled and transactional. Reciprocity and focusing on what one can bring to the relationship is a healthier approach to dating. Learning from past mistakes and not bringing the baggage of previous relationships into new ones is important. Konvo Dating is a new dating app that aims to change the dating scene.
titles Reciprocity: A Healthier Approach to Dating Learning from Past Mistakes in Relationships
Sound Bites "What grinds your gears about coming across a woman's profile who has a list of 20 things that the person must have in order to date her?" "Ask not what you can do for your dating profile, but what can you do for the other person's dating profile?" "Is self-worth in dating reduced to materialistic things?"
Chapters 00:00 The Problem with Laundry Lists on Dating Profiles 01:23 Reciprocity and the Healthy Approach to Dating 03:35 Self-Worth Beyond Materialistic Expectations 04:50 Actions Speak Louder Than Words in Relationships 07:50 Taking Responsibility and Doing the Work 10:24 Introducing Convo Dating: A Fresh Approach to Dating
Keywords dating mishaps, dating profiles, laundry list, entitlement, transactional expectations, reciprocity, self-worth, past relationships, Konvo Dating
But, I'm a Good Person and Other Ways we Gaslight in Relationships - In this conversation, Curt and Preeti discuss the phrases 'But I love you' and 'But I'm a good person' as red flags in relationships. They explain that these phrases are often used as excuses to treat someone poorly and deflect accountability. They emphasize the importance of taking ownership, apologizing, and making corrective changes in relationships. They also discuss how these phrases can be toxic and a form of gaslighting. They conclude by mentioning their program at Maya4Life.com that helps teens learn about accountability and have a great life.
takeaways The phrases 'But I love you' and 'But I'm a good person' can be red flags in relationships, as they are often used as excuses to treat someone poorly and deflect accountability. Taking ownership and apologizing are important in relationships, as they show a willingness to make corrective changes. Using phrases like 'But I'm a good person' can be toxic and a form of gaslighting, as it dismisses the other person's feelings and experiences. Teaching teens about accountability and taking responsibility for their actions can lead to healthier relationships and a happier life. Maya4Life.com offers programs to help teens learn about accountability and have a great life.
titles Teaching Teens About Accountability for Healthier Relationships Red Flags in Relationships: 'But I Love You' and 'But I'm a Good Person'
Sound Bites "But I'm a good person, but I have a good heart." "But I love you or, but I'm a good person, I have a good heart. Are those red flags or is there something else going on?" "I don't think it necessarily makes you a bad person. I think what it does is that it makes you short-sighted and it makes you not necessarily somebody who is looking to grow and become better as time goes on."
Chapters 00:00 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships 01:07 The Impact of Excuses on Relationship Dynamics 02:33 The Importance of Accountability and Understanding 05:07 The Toxic Nature of Gaslighting 06:09 Maya4Life: Teaching Teens about Responsibility and Happiness
The Ultimate Boundary Show Notes- The conversation explores the topic of when it is okay to end a relationship with a friend or loved one. It emphasizes the importance of self-care and setting boundaries for emotional well-being. The speakers discuss signs that indicate a relationship may be unhealthy, such as feeling drained or fatigued. They also highlight the need to prioritize one's own emotional sobriety and the impact it has on other relationships. The conversation touches on the challenges faced by teenagers in setting boundaries and the importance of teaching them emotional well-being skills. The speakers conclude by providing information about the MAYA program for teens and how to get in touch with them.
takeaways Ending a relationship with a friend or loved one can be difficult but necessary for one's emotional well-being. Signs that a relationship may be unhealthy include feeling drained or fatigued. Prioritizing one's own emotional sobriety is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships. Teaching teenagers about setting boundaries and emotional well-being is essential. The MAYA program offers resources and support for teenagers to develop emotional well-being skills.
titles Navigating the Decision to End a Relationship The Importance of Emotional Sobriety in Relationships
Sound Bites "Protecting my emotional sobriety is just as important, if not more important than protecting my sobriety." "Is this relationship a net positive or a net negative in my life?" "There's not, one of you is going to build up disdain and anger toward the other person."
Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Question 01:23 Emotional Sobriety and Setting Boundaries 03:20 Protecting Emotional Well-being 07:58 Making the Best Decision for Yourself 13:43 Learning from Past Mistakes 16:20 Maya for Life: Empowering Teens
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