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Sexual Text Messages

But teens generally aren't too worried about that when they are stuck in the moment of having fun, flirting, or setting up a rendezvous. Most are intent on simply having a good time, see it as a fun diversion. Little thought is given to the ramifications of the actions.
Certified Sex Therapist Joyce Joseph told CBS News: "On the one hand it can be kind of fun to get an erotic message over your email or on the phone. But on the other hand none of that is really safe or private."

In other words, sexting someone could result in one's private message, picture, song, poem, etc., getting forwarded to other cell phones, saved to personal computers, uploaded onto the internet and onto social networking sites like Facebook and MySpace, or any other manner of electronic dissemination. It can become a source of embarrassment and scandal.

But teens generally aren't too worried about that when they are stuck in the moment of having fun, flirting, or setting up a rendezvous. Most are intent on simply having a good time, see it as a fun diversion. Little thought is given to the ramifications of the actions.

Joseph says: "They're experimenting with sex but they aren't integrated in a holistic way that would be better for their self-esteem if they really understood what love was."

Sexting, Text Messages Are Not Necessarily About Love

But teens sexting each other is not necessarily about love. It is about belonging. Sexting is communicating, albeit in a sexual context, and has just as much to do with intimacy and companionship as it does with the thrill of doing something that more than likely is forbidden by their parents. Even when sexting leads to nothing, it still satisfies a gratuitous need, perhaps psychological or physical, within the teen engaged in the activity. The potentially detrimental behavior, unprotected sex and/or behaviors that result in personal damage (the posting of nude photos, text messages, private voice-mails) from sexting, could be a sign of something far worse than boredom and parental neglect or permissiveness.

Joseph does have some good advice for teens, though. "It's really important that parents sit down and talk to their teenagers and help them to develop the emotional and intimacy skills. So that when and if they are ready to be sexual that they are much more balanced."

One can look on the bright side of the equation and allow for the thought that sexting is at least a form of safe sex - as long as it stays in the sexting phase. But, as with most things regarding sex, to leave the topic there would be irresponsible, both on personal and social levels. It is the going further phase of sexting that becomes quite problematic for teens, their families, and society. A complete and universal (or as close as can be arranged) understanding of from where sexting activities derive and where sexting activities can lead should be pursued by parents and teens alike.


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Stay In Control with Alcohol

Stay In Control with Alcohol | Stay In Control Sam |

Stay in control, the best tip for staying healthy is to avoid alcohol, but if you do choose to drink, here are some ways to avoid getting out of control:



_Set yourself a limit on how much you will drink and stick to it

_Don't drink too fast - sip, don't gulp
_Remember that alcopops might not taste like alcohol, but they are, and they still have the same effect as any other alcoholic drink
_Have one drink at a time
_Stay active - do something else besides drinking (e.g. dancing, talking with mates, going for a walk, playing games, watching DVDs)
_Have lots of water when you're drinking alcohol
_Don't drink alone - stay with your friends and look after each other
_Don't accept drinks from people you don't know
_Make sure you have at least two alcohol-free days every week


Drinking responsibly doesn't mean that you have to give up drinking altogether. It just means being aware of the risks involved in such a tempting and popular behaviour, and making decisions that will keep you happy and healthy.

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After Prom Party Planning Guide For Safe, Fun, Substance Free Parties On Prom Night.

After Prom Party Planning Guide For Safe, Fun, Substance Free Parties On Prom Night. After Prom party planning guide for safe, fun, substance free parties on prom night. Home The author FAQ BUY the book Party resources Press/Media Links Contact Privacy After Prom Party Planning Guide Some schools pay as much as $100000 to hire a party planner and stage an After Prom party. If your Zip code isn’t 90210, we have a better alternative. Get Help Ingenious ideas – tips – suggestions – explicit actions – and more… This mom’s been there – done that and made it happen, surpassing everyone’s expectations – especially the kids! Lori’s results were so successful, that parents begged her to outline her action plan so they could use it for future After Prom events. Now, Lori wants to make this available to every parent in the country and she has made it surprisingly affordable. Read what others have said… Too Many Deaths In 2004 during Prom and Graduation Season (April, May, June), 713 youths under the age of 21 died in alcohol-related traffic fatalities nationwide according to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) Can You Chance itb Approximately two-thirds of teenagers who drink report that they can buy their own alcohol. ‘ MADD True story, June 2005 Alcohol, no adult chaperones – police end prom party, call parents, make court date. The scene … during a recent morning was almost typical, except that the 45 teenagers lounging by the pool, playing


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Planning Partying Safely

Planning Partying Safely | Stay In Control Sam |

Plan the night out

If you’re going out with friends to party, safety suggestions include:

_Know where you’re going and how you’re getting there.


_Plan how to get home – for example, take enough money to share a taxi or nominate a driver to stay sober.


_Have a plan B to get home if plan A falls through – for example, ask someone’s parent if they will pick you up if you can’t get a taxi.

_Decide to stay together in a group and look after each other.

_Don’t leave drinks unattended and don’t accept a drink from a stranger. Don’t take your eyes off your drink.

_Decide on a drink limit and stick to it. Avoid ‘shouts’ or drinking games. You are likely to make silly or even dangerous decisions when you have had too much to drink.

_Remember that it is illegal to drink alcohol on the street or in a public place or to carry or use illicit drugs. You could be arrested and conviction may impact on your future employment or travel plans.


Safe partying at home


If you are throwing a party at home, safety suggestions include:

_Register your party with your local police at least one week in advance.

_Insist that the party is ‘invitation only’ to reduce the risk of gatecrashers. Ask your guests not to spread the word to others via SMS or the Internet.

_Indicate clearly on the invitation whether the party is ‘alcohol free’ or if alcohol is provided or is BYO. Say whether cigarette smoking is permitted. State firmly that illegal drugs are not welcome.

_Ask parents of party guests to call beforehand for more information.

_Ask parents of guests to provide transport to and from the party.

_Secure all valuables on your property.

_Make sure you have responsible adults on hand to monitor the party.

_Make sure the host (and the host’s parents and other responsible adults) remain sober so that any problems can be dealt with quickly and safely.

_Consider a hired security guard; it may seem extreme, but it could give you (and your guests) additional peace of mind.

_Serve plenty of food. Guests are more likely to get drunk on an empty stomach. _Avoid salty foods, which may encourage guests to drink.

_Serve plenty of water and soft drinks.

_Be vigilant if you have a swimming pool – intoxicated guests may fall in.
_Turn the music down after midnight.

_Have a plan of action if a guest becomes drunk or ill.


_Ask gatecrashers to leave immediately or threaten that the police will be called. Follow through with your threats.


_Call the police if you feel that a situation is beyond your control.




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Binge drinking

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Alcohol is the most widely used recreational drug in Australia. Because of its popularity, people don't tend to think of it as a drug, or even realise that it can be harmful. But alcohol is the largest cause of drug-related deaths among Australian teenagers.

According to a report from the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare, in 1998 alcohol was the cause of 814 deaths and 25,207 hospital admissions for people between the age of 15 and 34.


The term 'binge drinking' can mean different things to different people, but some common definitions are:


_Drinking so that you can deliberately get drunk
_Occasional and irregular bouts of heavy drinking
_Normally being a responsible drinker, but often overindulging

A survey of Australian secondary students in 2005 found that one in ten people between the age of 12 and 17 admitted to binge drinking, or drinking unsafe amounts of alcohol. For people between 16 and 17 the figure increased to one in five. That's six binge drinkers in every average school classroom.


The National Health and Medical Research Council (NHMRC) defines a "standard drink" as a drink that contains 10 grams of pure alcohol. Some examples of drinks that have this much alcohol in them include:


_One pot (285ml) of full-strength beer
_Three-quarters of a 375ml stubby of full-strength beer
_One shot (30ml) of straight spirits
_One small glass of table wine (100ml)
_Three-quarters (330ml) of a bottle of alcoholic soda (alcopop)

This is just a guide. It's important to remember that some venues put more alcohol in their mixed drinks. Also, a big glass of wine is closer to two standard drinks, and drinks served at home generally have more alcohol in them. Some cocktails have more than one shot of alcohol in them too.


In terms of "how much is too much?", the NHMRC says that:


_For males, drinking more than 7-10 standard drinks on any one day is risky
_For females, drinking more than 5-6 standard drinks on any one day is risky

These guidelines are based on an average weight of around 60kg for males and 50kg for females. A person with smaller than average body weight or size should drink less than an average-sized person.

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