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November 9, 2012 6:08 PM
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Our Dear friend & colleague Dr. Kristin Neff will be holding a Self-Compassion Workshop Dec. 7-9 at the Institute of Noetic Sciences (IONS) Retreat Center in Petaluma, CA. This is a unique opportunity to be with Kristin and learn first-hand, by participating in this experiential weekend workshop, about her research and work in the field of Mindful-Self Compassion. This workshop uses exercises taken from the Mindful Self-Compassion program, an empirically supported 8-week training course Neff co-created with colleague Chris Germer. The course is relevant to the general public as well as to practicing mental health professionals, and has the power to radically transform the way you relate to yourself and your life.”
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November 5, 2012 2:25 PM
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Self-esteem has long been touted as a key ingredient for success. But psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson says on her The Science of Success blog that recent research suggests high self-esteem does not predict better performance or greater success, even if people with high self esteem may believe they’re more successful. But research also suggest a substitute that may be the key to unlocking your potential for greatness: self-compassion. Harvey Schachter
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October 18, 2012 3:06 PM
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We all deserve self-love and compassion. Here are 3 ways to be nicer to yourself, starting today. “Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to be gentle with others.” ~Lama Yeshe Several months ago, I sat in a large workshop audience being led by Kristin Neff, a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research. She directed us to divide up into pairs for a self-compassion exercise. I turned to the young woman next to me. We introduced ourselves and returned our attention to Kristin. by Bobbi Emel
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October 8, 2012 5:40 PM
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Practicing self-compassion not only makes individuals healthier and happier but also is a good predictor of healthy romantic relationships, according to a new study by University of Texas at Austin educational psychologists Kristin Neff and Tasha Beretvas. Their findings counter traditional views on relationship satisfaction, indicating that being kind and supportive to ourselves helps us to be kinder and more supportive to those we care about. The research may help therapists better tailor treatments for couples with relationship problems and could help individuals learn how to relate to themselves and their relationships in a new way. “Self-compassion refers to the ability to be kind and understanding toward oneself when faced with personal inadequacies or difficult situations rather than beating oneself up,” said Neff,
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September 24, 2012 11:58 AM
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You want your kid to have good self-esteem, right? Any parenting manual will tell you it’s important. Right up there with food and sunlight on the list of what kids need to be happy, healthy & successful. Right? Not so much, an emerging body of research suggests. People with high self-esteem aren’t really more successful than others, though they think they are. What really counts is your capacity for self-compassion BY SIERRA BLACK
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September 21, 2012 6:59 PM
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A growing body of research, including new studies by Berkeley's Juliana Breines and Serena Chen, suggest that self-compassion, rather than self-esteem, may be the key to unlocking your true potential for greatness. Now, I know that some of you are already skeptical about a term like "self-compassion." But this is a scientific, data-driven argument — not feel-good pop psychology. So hang in there and keep an open mind. by Heidi Grant Halvorson
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August 25, 2012 10:58 PM
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Research Contrasting Self-Esteem and Self-Compassion According to a series of studies, self-compassionate people show greater personal initiative in making necessary changes in their lives, including career changes. Unlike people whose primary motive is to protect or enhance self-esteem, the self-compassionate push themselves forward because of the intrinsic interest in what they pursue, not because it will help them feel better about themselves. That's exactly the opposite of what I had always assumed. Self-compassion, as Neff puts it, “is available precisely when self-esteem fails us - when we fall flat on our face, embarrass ourselves, or otherwise come in direct contact with the imperfection of life.” by John Folk-Williams
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August 24, 2012 9:41 PM
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At the surface, it is tempting to say that the cultures of Silicon Valley and Boston promoted a different level of fear of failure. An interesting paper in the September, 2012 issue of Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin by Juliana Breines and Serena Chen suggests that the difference might actually lie in the self-compassion promoted by each region. Self-compassion is the degree to which people treat themselves with warmth and understanding. People are not hard on themselves are treating themselves with self-compassion. At one level, this might feel similar to self-esteem, which is the degree to which people think of themselves positively. But, you can treat yourself with compassion without necessarily feeling positively toward yourself. by Art Markman
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August 8, 2012 3:33 PM
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Do you use self criticism to motivate yourself? Many people do, but self criticism is damaging. Self compassion boosts your productivity & wellbeing. Many people have a strong inner critic, the internal voice that points out every perceived flaw or mistake we make. Other people’s errors may seem like part of being human, while our own missteps feel unforgivable, shameful, or proof that we’re in some way flawed. Do you have different rules for yourself than you do for other people? Those double standards can lead us to feel compassion for other people while we treat ourselves harshly. by NELLY CULLEN
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July 24, 2012 2:57 PM
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The research is compelling: self-compassion (e.g., kind and understanding self-talk) increases people's self-improvement motivation and confidence. However, it’s hard for people to recognize opportunities to use self-compassion.
Here are 15 examples of common guilt, disappointment, shame, and embarrassment traps for parents. If you use self-compassion when these occur, it's likely to benefit both you and your relationship with your child... 1. When you’re not liking your child as a person. When you’ve lost the sense of positive bond... by Alice Boyes
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July 7, 2012 2:44 PM
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In a modern yoga-scape littered with self-development lit and enlightenment-centric teachings, some of yoga’s finer—and more beautiful—teachings may be overlooked. Self-compassion is one such teaching that’s particularly emphasized in the Kripalu Yoga tradition (Kripalu means “compassionate, merciful” in Sanskrit), referring to a deep and affective acceptance of present moment experience as it arises, as well as recognition that one’s suffering is common to all of humanity.
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July 3, 2012 3:52 PM
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Self-compassion means that we understand the myriad causes and conditions that lead us to act as we do. Compassion is wise and sees through the illusion that we have total control over our actions. Compassion acknowledges the truth that we are limited, imperfect beings who are impacted by things over which we have no control -- our genes, early family history, culture, life circumstances. That's why self-compassion is understanding and accepting rather than punitive and rebuking. At the same time, compassion is intrinsically concerned with the alleviation of suffering -- our own and that of others. by Kristin Neff http://j.mp/N71bqZ Expert Page http://bit.ly/m2rCN2
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Edwin Rutsch
June 25, 2012 3:16 PM
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The more I live, the more I discover the importance of self-compassion. I have been pondering this for the last year or so, and for me, it’s an ever-expanding field of inquiry. There is a lot out there in the world of research as well as from the perspective of other faith traditions like Buddhism. But what does the Christian faith have to say on this topic? The journey has sparked several questions for me:
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November 8, 2012 3:38 PM
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Studies say those with self-compassion achieve more and accomplish more goals. Harness your own compassion for yourself in parenting, life and all your aspirations. Jennifer Gaddis, creator of the site HeelsandJeans.com, was recently in a conference with her 9-year-old's teacher. Her son wasn't doing well in class. After the conference, she mentally beat herself up for not doing enough to help him — which just made everything worse.She was lacking compassion for herself. " by Sarah W. Caron
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October 29, 2012 1:47 PM
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Objectives
The aim of these two studies was to evaluate the effectiveness of the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program, an 8-week workshop designed to train people to be more self-compassionate. Results
Study 1 found significant pre/post gains in self-compassion, mindfulness, and various wellbeing outcomes. Study 2 found that compared with the control group, intervention participants reported significantly larger increases in self-compassion, mindfulness, and wellbeing. Gains were maintained at 6-month and 1-year follow-ups. Conclusions
The MSC program appears to be effective at enhancing self-compassion, mindfulness, and wellbeing.
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October 12, 2012 2:06 PM
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Practicing self-compassion not only makes individuals healthier and happier but also is a good predictor of healthy romantic relationships, according to a new study by University of Texas at Austin educational psychologists Kristin Neff and Tasha Beretvas. Their findings counter traditional views on relationship satisfaction, indicating that being kind and supportive to ourselves helps us to be kinder and more supportive to those we care about. The research may help therapists better tailor treatments for couples with relationship problems and could help individuals learn how to relate to themselves and their relationships in a new way. by Stan
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October 2, 2012 12:05 PM
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Self-compassion is better for our health and well-being than self-esteem, bringing more empathy and less harsh self-criticism... Most of us have been taught far less about the importance of having compassion for ourselves as well. A newly emerging set of research studies have demonstrated that having self-compassion has many benefits. These include reducing self-criticism, lowering stress hormones in our body, increasing our capacity to comfort ourselves and to be more resilient in the face of life’s challenges, and helping us to heal from difficult childhoods. A person high in self-compassion sees his or her problems, weaknesses, and shortcomings accurately, yet reacts with kindness and compassion rather than with harsh judgment. What exactly is self-compassion and how is it different from self-esteem? By DEBRA MANCHESTER MACMANNIS
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September 21, 2012 6:59 PM
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One of the most important elements of self-compassion is the recognition of our shared humanity. Compassion is, by definition, relational. One of the most important elements of self-compassion is the recognition of our shared humanity. Compassion is, by definition, relational. Compassion literally means "to suffer with," which implies a basic mutuality in the experience of suffering. The emotion of compassion springs from the recognition that the human experience is imperfect, that we are all fallible. by Kristin Neff
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September 12, 2012 5:13 PM
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We all make mistakes, but should you beat yourself up or show a little mercy? We all have a kind of virtual policeman living inside us. Amongst other things he's the guy that helps us work towards our goals, whether personal or professional. When things go wrong and we stray off the straight and narrow, he reminds us what we were supposed to be doing. But what kind of policeman is he? Is he the kind with a riot shield, a baton and a bad attitude or does he offer a forgiving smile, a friendly word and a helping hand?
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August 25, 2012 10:56 PM
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Strange as it may seem, I find myself fighting therapeutic approaches based on self-compassion. The reasons run deep and reveal a lot about the difficulty of trying to get depression completely out of my life.... The problem is, to be blunt, that I don’t want to be kind or compassionate or caring to myself. I have a visceral reaction when I read about this idea. Engaging the book turns out to be like working on a chain gang. I’ll read a page, toss the thing aside in contempt, try to break away, then feel myself pulled back to read some more. Luckily, she’s on to people like me and articulates exactly what we go through: by John Folk-Williams
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August 20, 2012 5:20 PM
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Sometimes we can be our hardest critics; we need to acknowledge our mistakes and move on. There is nothing noble or productive about smacking your inner self around when you’ve made a mess of things. But a kinder, gentler approach will help you feel better and do better. Doesn’t that make sense? You wouldn’t – I hope – berate a friend who made an honest mistake. You don’t pummel your son’s psyche when he incorrectly solves the math problem. So, don’t do it to yourself. 3
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July 25, 2012 3:37 PM
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What is self compassion?
Researcher Chris Germer said, “Whereas acceptance usually refers to what’s happening to us —accepting a feeling or a thought—self-compassion is acceptance of the person to whom it’s happening. It’s acceptance of ourselves while we’re in pain.”
The topic of self-compassion is rapidly becoming a burgeoning field in psychological research, led by Germer and University of Texas, Austin researcher Kristin Neff, author of Self-Compassion.
by Bobbi Emel,
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July 7, 2012 2:46 PM
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This is a moment of suffering. Suffering is part of life. May I be kind to myself in this moment. May I give myself the compassion I need.” This is a mantra that Kristin Neff, author of Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind, shared recently on my radio show when I asked her how can one be kind to oneself. Self-Compassion is an eloquent mix of strong social science research and her own personal stories of discovering the power of self-kindness during the discovery and healing process with her son’s autism. by Wendy Strgar
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July 6, 2012 2:55 PM
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“Self-compassion is an extension of Jesus’ compassion…”
In my life and work, one of the most helpful pieces of Brene Brown’s work is the way she distinguished guilt and shame.
Guilt says: I’ve done a bad thing. It is behavior focused. It is positively correlated with healthy change. Self is not threatened so it does not need to be defensive.
Shame says: I am bad. It is personhood focused. It is positively correlated with self-destructive behavior. Self is threatened so often goes into defensive survival mode.
By Janet Davis
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June 27, 2012 2:52 PM
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Many of us are all too used to bashing ourselves. And it’s not surprising. In our society, we’re taught that being hard on ourselves and ashamed of everything from our actions to our looks gets results. Self-criticism is the preferred path to success. We rarely think about showing ourselves kindness. Or even if we do, we worry that doing so is selfish, complacent or arrogant. But research has found that self-criticism only sabotages us and produces a variety of negative consequences. By MARGARITA TARTAKOVSKY, M.S
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