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Advice on dating after a divorce, death or abandonment
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Sex and the Senior Citizen

Sex and the Senior Citizen | Dating after 50+ | Scoop.it
RT @SociologyInfo: Sex and the Senior Citizen http://t.co/uHvFskD5vr #ageism #aging #asexual #elder #elderly #gerontology #sex #sexual
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#Yes You Can.

Never allow your #sexuality to go un attended.

We are sexual beings.

#Sex is a healthy  activity..

To hell with what others think.

Stay young and vital till your last breathe

 

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Cheating Partner?

This may be of help. Great reading
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Are You At risk?

Don't allow this to happen to you. Do you risk losing the most important part of you to hold on to someone? Have you set yourself up ? When a new #partner is subtle with threats to your independent thinking and self expression they are trying to #dominate you. Sometimes you may not even be aware. Don't try to hold on to a partner that tries to always get their way by capitulating. Your integrity and honor is at stake. Beware. Someone that really cares, even when you just begin dating, wants an equal partnership. They don't insist that they are always right and are willing to balance an issue with compromise. Dating is fun (but always remember) it is meant to explore how well two people can meld together and have an equal partnership. Perhaps even a future.
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Dating  or Hunting

What method do you use? Trying to find love with the wrong attitude? Finding #love can be difficult. It's hard to separate the genuine people from the phonies. What you need to do at first is look at what method you are using. #Dating is process designed to weed out people that have little to nothing to offer in the way of friendship and perhaps sharing a life with you. If you are #hunting for a partner you goal maybe to take that person and do as you wish to make them conform to your standards. #Hunting for a #partner was the way the Neanderthals used to get what they needed regardless of how they got it. Dating today can be said to be similar.but not prudent. When you dating you are looking for a potential partner for the future,someone that shares many of your ideals and passions. Which method do you use? Dating or hunting?
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Study: More Older Adults Prefer ‘Living Apart Together’

Study: More Older Adults Prefer ‘Living Apart Together’ | Dating after 50+ | Scoop.it
A new study finds that older Americans looking for love are latching onto a new trend that tempers the demands of a committed relationship.
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Does Love Have an Expiration Date?

Lost Love. Is #love ever meant to last till you take your last breath? When you break up in your 20s you think,that's it. I will never find #love . Years later you fall in love again. You think,this is it. The news is that there sometimes is an expiration date . Many couples do indeed divorce in their 50s & 60s and 70s.The principles you held in the 60's,70's & 80's may no longer apply. You both may have drifted apart and gone in different directions. No one is to blame,yet you have the feeling it was your doing. Placing blame is useless . #Dating again seems so impossible, however you can with a few tweeks.Start that hobby you never had time for. Explore your interests. Get out & meet people that share the things you like. Is love around the corner? You will never know until you step out in the 20th Century.Remember that first love you lost.You moved on and found another didn't you?
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Sexual Anorexia

Celibate by choice?
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4 Simple Rules For First Dates


# 1...Don't talk too much...listen more.

# 2...Don't share personal secrets.

# 3...Don't have sex...

#4...Take a cab...It's too soon to be driven home. Be safe.

Can't be easier than that.

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Past-Present-Future

Where are you?
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Bringing your past into your present when you are #dating or in a #relationship is the worse choice you can make. In order to have a good relationship you need to let go of all the past mistakes, we may have made. It’s time to vamp up your attitude. You last few dates were flops…so what. Did you learn anything valuable to bring to the table for your next choice of future partners? Unrealistic expectation will always fail. Set your own goals and have fun finding out whether or not you would like to see that person again. Base your choices on your compatibility with person. Don’t give the impression of desperation. You will reek of it. Think of the first few dates as an experiment. Chemistry only works when certain emotions are there for both people Leave the past behind you. Step into your present and let the future take its course.
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Dating a Narcissist Part ll

It's you or them..choose If you want to eventually keep dating a #narcissist be prepared. Nothing will ever be about you. Every conversation will be about them at some point…#you really don’t count. They tend to brag about themselves much of the time, sometimes in suppe terms. Are you prepared to always feel as if you are really eyes candy for them? Do you want to spend all your time with them boosting their already inflated egos? Then by all means…keep dating one.To them you don’t really count.
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#Dating a #Narcissist? Part ll

It may take a bit of time to identify an #narcissist. At first you really have no clue. After your relationship has been solidified you may begin to take notice. They may buy you beautiful gifts of clothes, perhaps even jewelry. For every date you find yourself dressing up. Here's the kicker...Your narcissist has already grabbed you into his/her clutches.

You see he/she is dressing you up so that when your on date people admire them for choosing such a fabulous partner. You are merely an extension of them, therefore it is your narcissist being admired for having such great taste. You are never if rarely given a compliment from your "mate." It's all about them...

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It's always about the narcissist.

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Just How Much Do You Value Yourself?

Just How Much Do You Value Yourself? | Dating after 50+ | Scoop.it

 

How ofter do you give in to a partner when you feel you are right just so you don't disagree or argue? Do you realize that by surrendering your #power you place yourself in a submissive position?

Placing your values and morals high on your list is the only way to recieve respect. No one likes or respects a doormat for very long. Never keep silent about your values. They are what you are all about.

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Is love Really Blind?

I see you. Or Do I?

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I couldn't breathe. It was as if all the air in my lungs had been sucked out. I felt as if my heart had stopped beating.

How is it that one person can love another that much? I use to thank God everyday for blessing me with him.

For 10 years I never saw the person behind the mask. I was schooled in worldly things. I considered myself to be a smart person. Yet I never saw what was well hidden.

Here was someone I knew for years before we became a couple. I hadn't been easy prey. I watched him and his interactions with all our friends,their wives and children. He had to fight to "win" me over from being friends to being more than friends.

All men as well as women can chose the wrong partner unknowingly. Are you one of them?

Was there something different I could have done?  NO!

Yet if I had it to do over again and be loved and cherished as I was, I would probably do it again. Everyone should feel loved  as I was. Even if it was just for a moment in time.

Indeed,"love is blind."

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My  Confession

Why I have stayed away from my blogs.
  You realized that I haven't blogged in several months? Let me explain why. This is my confession. As a means to help myself get further down the road to total happiness if it's even possible. As many say..."Confession is good for the soul." Maybe this time I can forget, forgive and move on. I had no way of knowing that this particular day my regressed memories would suddenly jump out of no where and take me to places I had rather never think of again. I sat quietly on my living room couch, made myself comfortable and turned on the television. My plan had been to find an interesting movie. I flipped through all the channels with only relaxing on my mind. I found an interesting movie and settled in. Suddenly a river of tears burst from my eyes as I watched the screen. I was as if I was watching that day in my life being played behind a waterfall. That was the moment I knew why. I was still angry after so many years at the man I thought I would die for and he for me if the need had ever arisen. Our love, I had mistakenly thought at the time, was one that surpassed even the most intense and true love stories ever written. It had been for me, but as I found out after ten years together it wasn't for him...had it ever been? Had I until that day I lived in a dream of my own making? What was it that assured me he did indeed loved me? Was it all those loving and kind thoughtful acts? The way we made love, or the way he was always putting me before all others? Maybe it was the way his blue eyes sparkled when he looked at me so much so that all those around us had often commented about it and made fun of him. Even after all our years together.The small unexpected gifts and flowers and telling me he loved me more than God had fooled me? Perhaps because it had taken me so many years to finally be in love I thought. How could I have been so gullible? However fate or the gods or the universe had waited for my reserved fate until even they could not hold back any longer. I can't even bring myself to tell you what happened, but for me there would be no way that I could ever forgive him. After I asked him to move out I could eventually reconcile his actions I had thought. Weeks of pain and constant crying had drained me of any energy. I dragged myself to work every day. My happy attitude about my job and life had gone down the drain in one traumatic flush. So much so that even one particular co-worked had noticed. I recall how she made me an exceptionally beautiful Christmas cake knowing that I could use a special gift that year. For which I will forever be grateful though in the end it did little to effect my broken heart. I wept at the sight of happy couples hoping that they would never have to live the hurt that I had. A song on the radio even a television commercial would bring me to tears. Months went by then years and after over a decade had passed the pain allowed itself to be buried deeper into past memories. Realizing now that such pain can never be washed away I try not to be angry. There are some days there aren't so bad. On those days there are no memories resurfacing. For that I am grateful. I often think to myself that it could have been my own arrogance that brought hell into my life. Will I ever know? I doubt it. To you I say be vigilant. One never knows what can happen. But I still want all of you to believe in the magic of #love.
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LOVE & THE BALLOT BOX

Your #relationships are not up for a vote from those that try to in influence you. You can't allow others decide for you. Ballot boxes are meant for you and you alone to use as a measuring point. You create the pluses and minuses in your mind needed to make your decisions. You evaluate the person and decide for yourself if this is what you are looking for in a relationship. #Dating allows you to sift through information presented by the new person sitting across you. Your instincts lead you at all times even when you are now aware of them. Having a gut feeling about someone? That's your instincts talking to you. Similar likes and dislike are not all that is required to finding a #partner. #Feelings of comfort on a first date could be a good sign. It is all up to you. What others say may have some validity, however, it's up to you to sift through what is being said. The choices belong to you alone.
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8 Reasons To Masturbate Regularly

8 Reasons To Masturbate Regularly | Dating after 50+ | Scoop.it
Take your health into your own hands by indulging in a little self-love. It's all about procreation, longevity, REM sleep, immunity, libido, and more.
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Men & women that live #alone often neglect their #sexual side thinking that being alone will hurt their sexuality. Here are several reasons to #masterbate.
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This Word Test Will Reveal What You Need To Feel Fulfilled

This Word Test Will Reveal What You Need To Feel Fulfilled | Dating after 50+ | Scoop.it
Six words to unlock you
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Don't Pick Up Strays

What strays want..
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4 REASONS TO FALL IN LOVE & 4 NOT TO

Why makes things complicate? It's simple. THINGS THAT MAKE YOU FALL IN LOVE.
 
 1- They are honest.
2- Kindness comes naturally to them.
 3- They display understanding of people and things.
 4- Compassion is a part of them in all respects.

 DON'T FALL IN LOVE IF ALL YOU WANT IF ALL YOU WANT IS
 
1- Money
2- Power
3- Prestige
4- Eye Candy
Why make life difficult when it doesn't have to be.
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"To Be Or Not To Be, That Is The Question."

You really want to be single?
What is it that you really want? To be a spouse, lover, companion or merely just a friend?..Please don't say booty call.
If I may suggest...this is what you should really be asking  yourself.
When you date you need a goal. What's yours?
Usually men & women don't date just to spend a few hours with the opposite sex and then go home...only to start again with a new person the next day.
There should be hopes and aspirations of someone in your permanent future.
Ask yourself..."To Be Or Not To Be. That Is the Question !
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Your Choice? - Own It!

Rise to the occasion
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Your  new partner is not of your faith,race, or nationality. Own up to your #choice.
 Why do you feel the need to get the okay on your #relationship from others? Haven't you played their way for too long?
 #Love is meant to share with your heart. If others that love you don't agree with your choice, it is their loss
. Hold on to the choice you have made if it brings you joy,love and happiness.
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GIVING OR TAKING ?

WHICH ARE YOU?
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Which side of the question are you on? We date, we search then settle? Is your desperation showing?
If your partner is the one always on the receiving end of the relationship there may be something wrong.
 You make dinners at home and they come empty handed. Perhaps you have bought them small gifts to express the affection you feel towards them. You share some of your friends with them as well.
The question you should be asking yourself is...what have they done for me lately?
 When it is obvious that there is no reciprocity perhaps it's time to rethink whether or not this is the type of relationship you really want.
 Selfish people seldom change. Open your eyes.
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Know Where You're Going?

Still #dating?

Have you given any thought to how long this process should take? Long time dating needs a #destiny. After all, everything we do in life leads us somewhere.

Where is your #relationship taking you? By not requiring that your partner asks you for a formal commitment, puts a ring on your finger or asks you to move in, just where are you? Stuck in limbo!! Is it time for you or them to step up or step away?  You  decide.
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Dating an Narcissist...Part 1

Would you?

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He was so handsome. We met on a blind date. He was dressed like an older man out of a magazine right down to his shoes. He had chosen an upscale restaurant in my neighborhood as well.Opening doors and helping me take off my coat as well as pulling out my chair. His manners were impeccable.

Charm was oozing all night. Our first kiss  was on the cheek when he dropped me off at home. This I thought was sweet and not pushy. He asked me out for that weekend. Naturally I said yes.

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Wishing? Don't

A useless effort..

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Wishing?
Posted on January 9, 2016 by hoardnot

So, They are trying to to inch their way back into your life. Try as you may the chances are  you are thinking about all the great #sex, great times and how they made you feel.This will be your downfall.

Well, I am here to make you stop remembering the good times and remember the bad ones.

How you felt when you were belittled. When there was no #love making. When you were rejected, insulted and left alone while they went on their way.

Are you really willing to go back in time because you are wishing and willing to foresake a better future?

It’s time to find someone that will take you as you are and be willing to do the things that really make a #relationship work.

Remember, you left for many reasons. You are worth the things you need to do for a better life.

Tough decisions are never easy.

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You Being Intimidated To Stay?

You Being Intimidated To Stay? | Dating after 50+ | Scoop.it
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You're too fat. Why don't you lose some of that blubber?

Where the hell did you get that dress, at a rummage sale?

You look like an old frump.

I would rather eat at a dump, your food is disgusting.

The house is filthy. Don't you ever clean?

You're lucky I'm still here. Who the hell else would want you.

All the above are was to intimidate you. Do you really want to be there?.

Ask yourself why it is you are still there.

Don't tell me it's "because I love him."

Unless you are a #masochist it's time you packed and left.

Never let someone demean so that you are #intimidated into staying in a relationship that brings you no happiness or joy.

 

 

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