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Tiger Mom Nonsense

Tiger Mom Nonsense | Personal Growth | Scoop.it
Warning: Rant alert. I can be ruthlessly honest and somewhat brutal. Apparently, the word on Tiger moms is that it's actually debatable as to whether or not the "tiger" approach is destructive. We ...
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What brings out the Tiger in you as a mom? Whatever it is you'll ruthlessly protect, there is your treasure and there is what thrives. So, if you're protecting appearances and top notch grades with all the pounce of a killer cat bagging her prey, you're ignoring the soul of relationship and that right there is what won't thrive: relationship. And if it's your control running the show, then your children won't grow their own muscles. They'll grow the avoidance muscle, the one that develops in situations of stress and duress. Knowing who they are? Eh, who cares, they'll LOOK GOOD. Hey they get good grades, right? Sure, control can make for some pretty results wherever you exact it. But at what cost? Besides, there's a way to go about motivating our children beyond control and fear of bad relationship consequences. We don't have to utilize psychologically abusive power-over while implementing good boundaries. Roar at the nonsense and hold onto the relationships of love.

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Do You Have Choice Yet?

Do You Have  Choice Yet? | Personal Growth | Scoop.it
Presence begets presence. Condemnation and fear begets more conditioned thinking and antics to look better but what's real? Presence... or, as Tolle is saying here, consciousness. Awakening... "Cho...
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Choice as free of compulsive mental machinations posing "logic" is born of a level of consciousness which arrives when you do, when you are fully present.

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