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4 Reasons You’re Starving on Your Diet Plan

Feel like you would eat just about anything right now? If you’re on a strict weight loss diet plan, there’s no question that some hunger should be expected. It is after all, a normal and natural part of the weight loss process.

No diet would have you completely avoid the hunger you will experience when in a calorie deficit state. However, if your hunger is becoming so uncontrollable that you struggle to stay focused on the tasks you need to do throughout the day, you should analyze the diet you are using.

Is this hunger there for a reason? Chances are, it is. You are making a critical mistake in your diet programming, which is what is leading to this hunger in the first place.

Let’s look at the top four reasons why you’re starving and what you can do to remedy them.

1. You’re Eating Too Many Carbohydrates

The first reason why you may be ravenous all day long is if your diet is too high in carbohydrates and too low in both protein and dietary fats. While you don’t need to cut carbs out, you do need to make sure that you are getting a balanced diet.

Protein and fats are the two nutrients that will best calm hunger pains, so they should form a larger part of your diet plan for optimal hunger-busting results.

Aim to eat around 30-40% of your diet from protein, 25-35% from dietary fats, and the remaining from carbohydrates.

2. You Aren’t Eating Breakfast

The second reason you may be finding yourself more hungry than normal is if you are skipping breakfast. Think it’s a great way to save calories?

Think again. Those who skip breakfast are far more likely to overeat later, making it harder to sustain their target calorie intake.

Eat first thing in the morning and you should find that your hunger level is much better controlled, allowing you to make smart food choices.

Just be sure that this breakfast is balanced as well. An energy bar or donut does not count as a proper morning meal.

3. You Don’t Fuel Up Post Workout

Another time you want to make sure that you are eating well is immediately post workout. Some people think that skipping food here will help promote faster fat burning.

This is not the case. Immediately after exercise, your body is going to be needing nutrients. If you don’t feed it, you’ll not only recover slower, but you’ll find yourself far more hungry throughout the rest of the day.

Eat some faster acting carbohydrates along with some protein post workout.

4. You’re Never Taking A Break From The Diet

The final reason why you may be suffering from ongoing hunger with your diet plan is if you are never taking a break from the diet itself. While you definitely do want to stick with the diet as best as possible, make sure that every 3-4 weeks, you have a scheduled break from the plan where you increase your calorie intake again.

This is going to help send a strong signal to the body to reduce your hunger level as well as increase your metabolic rate –two things that will make it much easier to keep seeing excellent progress on your diet plan.

Taking a short 2-4 day break is not going to set you back in progress, as long as you control yourself and eat wisely. Instead, it will just push you forward so that you can see faster and greater success into the future.

These are a few of the main reasons why you may be experiencing more hunger than normal. Are any of these applicable to you?

Shannon Clark has a degree in Exercise Science and is an AFLCA certified personal trainer. She has written on the topics of health, fitness and nutrition for almost a decade. Her insights are regularly published on, MyFitnessPal and FitRated is a leading fitness equipment review site offering insights on equipment, workout plans and weight loss strategies.

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4 Ways To Stop Caring What Other People Think

“Fear is the main source of superstition, and one of the main sources of cruelty. To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom.” - Bertrand Russell

Last year, I had a vague idea of what I wanted to do in life. Although it wasn't crystal clear, because I lacked confidence enough as it was and giving the people closest around me a reason to put me down was quite honestly, too much to bear.

I wanted to inspire people. I wanted to travel the world. I wanted to finally join a gym.

But most of my goals seemed so out of sync with what everyone else in my area was doing, that if I tried to take a different path they might never let me hear the end of it. That's where the change came in. I had a bit of an epiphany during the commence of 2014, and realized that I can't live my life in constant fear of what the people around me will think.

There are a few things I had to change in order to let go of this fear of others opinions and become more independent. So this advice is to help anyone else reading who is stopping themselves from doing something purely because of someone else's opinion.

1) Meet New People With Similar Ambitions

They say that more often than not, you turn out just like the 5 people you hang around with the most. Fear is an important factor within this statement, because hanging around with people just like you makes it a lot easier to do what you love and embrace it!

When I first decided I wanted to start a blog, I didn't know anyone else that ran their own blog at all. None of my current friends did that's for sure. That all changed within the first couple of months, as I began to connect with people running blogs who are setting out on very similar quests to my own, and it made things much easier for me as they were always there for support, advice and like-minded conversation.

It's not to say that I forgot my existing friends, because if they're great friends and they've always been there for me, why would I want to drop them for other people? It's just worth bearing in mind that meeting new people on the same wavelength as you, can give you all the support and direction you need from a friend's perspective.

2) Remove the Negativity From Around You

As far as my story goes, many of my old friends had a negative outlook on life, or more of a negative attitude towards it if you like. Which made it incredibly easy for them to put people's opinions down.

For example, when I first suggested that I was going to join a gym, I was met with painful laughter from a few people, which I had to try and shake off. I've bulked up a lot since then and surprised many people in the process, but it wasn't done without first removing this negativity from my life.

I started to withdraw myself from those people that were causing me doubt and emotional struggles, so that I'd be able to express myself more easily within groups and be comfortable sharing my goals with other people.

It's helped me a great deal over the past year and got me further than ever before, so removing the negative and poor friends from your life can be a very important step in becoming more confident within your surroundings and losing the fear of others opinions.

3) Focus on the Friends You Trust

You probably have many different types of friends, but there will always be a select few that you trust highly. The ones that have always been there for you and supported you no matter what.If you're ever looking for someone to talk to, these trustworthy friends of yours are definitely the people to go to because they should be understanding and incredibly helpful.

Back when I first wanted to start expressing my ideas and become more confident as an individual, I would talk to two or three friends singularly. I would share my goals, my new ideas and opinions on things, and they'd listen and it would actually turn into a great conversation.

These talks gave me a huge confidence boost because I now knew that some people understood and didn't go against what I was talking about. So, gradually I began to open myself up to other friends within the circle, and it wasn't long before things changed – I became more relaxed and my goals started to become reality.

Start with the friends you trust completely, and gradually open yourself up to people. It's no good trying to conquer your fear by facing a large group of people right away. Build on your confidence gradually.

4) Remember Who Leads Your Life

The last thing to remember; more of a mental challenge rather than anything else, is to really grasp on the fact that you're the one leading your life. You are free to do whatever you choose. Friends will come and go, and the majority of people you see everyday, you won't see twice.

So go out and be confident, because the only person that will see every minute of your life is you, and your opinion of yourself is always the most important step in living a happy and peaceful life.

This more than anything, was something that hit me hard in 2014. I can go and do all the things above and definitely end up with a great group of supportive friends, but if we don't all grasp the fact that we're the only ones in control of our lives, then we'll always feel captive and buried below the surface of doubt and fear.

It's crazy to realize that most of the things we want to do in life, we end up not doing because we fear of others opinions and take on the situations. We fear talking to new people in case they reject us, we fear acting on our ideas in case they get shot down...
If we all mastered this fear and did exactly what we wanted to, just think how much happier we could all be.

Be confident, stay happy and never let others put you down.

Dan Western is the Founder of Wealthy Gorilla, an ever growing community dedicated to inspiring others to live the life they've always wanted. Dan is an aspiring personal trainer, life coach and entrepreneur, who can't wait to help others fulfill their true potential. Join him on Facebook, or follow him on Twitter.

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The Delightfully Short Guide to Reading More Books

By Leo Babauta I have to admit, reading online has dropped my book reading in the last couple of years. It’s hard to resist the pull of clickbait titles and fascinating longform articles. But a few small habits have changed that for me, and I’m now reading books more. I’m now reading Don Quixote (such […]
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Conflicted: The Survival Card Game + Giveaway

When you read dystopian or post-apocalyptic fiction do you give some consideration to how you would react in a similar situation?  I’ll tell you what. The more I read, the more I assimilate various survival strategies and begin to formulate my own survival game plan.  This is all good and forces me to continue to read serious survival fiction as opposed to the latest John Grisham thriller.

The problem, as I see it, is that reading a book and thinking about strategies is a singular pastime. 

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Birch Essential Oil for Arthritis, Muscle and Joint Pain

Once you move beyond the basic, everyday essential oils that we all know and love, it becomes time to explore some of the more esoteric oils that solve specific ailments.  In my own exploration of essential oils, a specific ailment high on my list was relief from muscle and joint pain.

The oil of choice?  Birch essential oil for arthritis and other aches and pains of the muscles and joints is perfect!

Not only is Birch effective against common, everyday aches and pains, but it is superior if not outstanding in providing relief from arthritis joint pain and those deep, spasmodic cramps that only seem to visit in the dead of night.

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6 Ways to Combat the Failure to Launch in Your Life

Remember when you were a kid and your parents told you anything was possible? The sky was the limit, they said, and you believed them. Being cut from the soccer team, setting fire to your chemistry set, getting turned down by your kindergarten crush — no setback was damning enough to shake your confidence or destroy your faith in the future.

But a funny thing happens as you get older. When faced with a big challenge, you can become paralyzed by self-doubt because you’re afraid of failing. And when you do try and things don’t work out, bouncing back from failure is harder than it used to be.

Asking out the cute girl (or guy) at the coffee shop feels more daunting after a few heartbreaks, and going after a big promotion seems like an embarrassment waiting to happen after being passed over once.

Our setbacks make us fearful. Some people plow through those fears, driving through doubt like a runaway train. Others become prisoners of their own anxieties and stop living their lives because of it.

This failure-to-launch cycle comes in varying degrees. Some have a hard time getting through simple tasks like calling someone on the phone; others are fully functioning in society, just not at the level they want to be.

If you’re caught in the failure-to-launch loop of self-doubt, fear, and low self-esteem, there’s a way out. You’ll have to put in some emotional work and be willing to step outside your comfort zone, but you can do it if you’re willing to try.

Prepare for Takeoff

Here are the steps for overcoming the failure to launch once and for all:

1. Create accountability. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, your mentor, or a romantic partner — choose someone who will push you to follow through on your goals and call you out when you don’t.

2. Exercise. A healthy, active body is directly linked to a healthy, happy mind. Start by taking the stairs instead of the elevator or biking to work. When you’re active, you’ll feel sexier, more alive, and more willing to challenge yourself.

3. Be honest. Own your strengths and your weaknesses, and don’t be afraid to set personal boundaries. The more straightforward you are with yourself, the more likely you are to cultivate honest, healthy relationships that enhance your life.

4. Socialize. We’re social creatures, and being around other people makes us feel needed, appreciated, and loved. If you decide to sit at home and watch TV on a Friday night, you know how that’s going to end: with you crying over “Downton Abbey” all by yourself. If your roommates or friends invite you to a party this weekend, go! If you prefer a less intense get-together, book clubs or lunch with a friend are also great, low-key ways to connect with people.

5. Practice mindfulness. Don’t let regrets about the past or worries about the future cast a shadow on the here and now. Being present helps you get more out of life and feel more positive in general.

6. Educate yourself. Developing a skill boosts your confidence and makes you happier in the long run. Take advantage of online resources to study an interest you’ve been toying with. You’ll boost your self-esteem and gain respect from others.

Everyone has their hang-ups. Take my friend, Vinny, for instance. He was a 22-year-old guy from a good family, but he struggled with depression, anxiety, and a lack of motivation. When I met him, he wasn’t even comfortable talking on the phone and would only communicate through email or text. Vinny was a talented guitar player, but no one knew how much he had to offer because he was too intimidated to perform.

Unwilling to spend the rest of his life on the sidelines, Vinny started putting in work to develop his confidence. A guy who was once too shy to pull out his guitar for a small audience now plays open-mic nights and has performed in front of hundreds of people.

There are a lot of Vinnys in the world — people who are holding themselves back because they’re scared but who actually have unlimited value to offer. If you’re one of them, listen up: Nothing will change until not achieving becomes more uncomfortable than putting yourself back in the game.

Taking risks is scary. But isn’t spending your life feeling trapped and unfulfilled even scarier? Channel your negative or anxious energy into exercising, learning a new skill, or just hanging out with a friend. Small steps make a huge difference in your self-perception, and that’s the key to reaching your greatest potential.

Matthew Arrington is the executive director and co-founder of Forte Strong, the world’s first failure-to-launch program for men who struggle to leave their parents’ home or find it difficult to become independent. Forte Strong uses a proprietary coaching model to help students find purpose and direction, guide parents and families in empowering their sons, and ultimately create a healthier family dynamic. Matthew currently resides in sunny St. George, Utah.



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How To Reset and Make a General Cleaning of Your Life

“Never be a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of you future. You will never be the same.” - Robin S. Sharma

It's impossible to pour water in a full glass.

 This is one of any changes' fundamental principles. It is impossible to change your life and rewrite your history if you act with your unpacked luggage experience only. This fact I've understood after reading The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma.

 Your life puzzle will be always gathered in one and the same picture if you use the same elements, no matter how you mix them at the start.

 You need to start your consciousness and new experience creation from a total reset.

Don't start withsearch for purposes, do not start with a declaration of how you see yourself in five years, do not start with your mission; this entire process will be confused with your past performance and experience which take a lot of energy, too.

 You should start with throwing all the rubbish out of your life: physical, mental, and energy ones. It is December now, the last month of a year and high time to summarize everything, finish and start from scratch; so, a general cleaning of my life has started.

 Uncontrolled hoarding of the past leads to two things:

The endless reproduction of your past; your life becomes something like a deja vu.

The slowdown of your life speed, when you look at those people who have time to do much more things than you do – and you do not understand how they can do that. Success is possible only when your speed is fast.

 It makes sense to clean your life in all three dimensions: past, present and – do not be surprised – future. Yes, you have so many beliefs about your future that it has to be cleaned, too.

 I've decided to start with your present. It is the most objective one, it is here and now. A general cleaning of your present moment will give you a noticeable strength and fresh energy needed for new achievements.


The main thing is to remove all unsettled questions and cases from your list.

 I do not suggest you to polish your present like Cinderella (though it might be useful sometimes); first of all, you need to clean up and close your unsettled questions even if it might end with their total reset. You should remove such tasks from your “waiting” list or put them “into progress” if they are stuck there for more than a few weeks. It will give you a huge influx of new energy.

 Some things you can do the next weekend if you really intend to gather a new picture of your experience. What I have done:

1. Threw out the rubbish

Get rid of all your trash, and start with your house: throw out, distribute, carry away to shelters. Do not leave anything in your list of “waiting”.

What is a rubbish actually?

This is everything you do not use anymore. Let's do the following: everything you haven't been using for more than a year should be removed, distributed, sold, or thrown:

the clothes you do not wear;

most of the gifts, except those ones that really create comfort of your interior (in fact, this is a smaller part of what you have);

unsuitable or old utensil or equipment.

The more you find, the better. You should understand that every thing is a part of your energy; so, take only what you really need and what will make you happy. Just ask yourself a question: “Do I want to save this energy or let a new one take its place?

It's impossible to pour water in a full glass.

You empty your glass yourself. The more you pour out, the more you'll have. And if you are greedy, do not be surprised if big changes will simply have no place to enter. A general cleaning of your house is like a game “How much is my readiness to let a new experience in my life?”

The more things you'll throw out, the readier you are.

By the way, it applies to all your spaces, including your office, cottage, car, and whatever you have. Surprise your colleagues – remove garbage from your desk, start a real process of “uncovering”.

2. Threw out old files

Throwing out your rubbish is just a beginning. It's high time to throw out your files! How much time do you spend at your computer or online? This is your space, too; yes, it is virtual, but it is a part of your energy, too.

We have a habit to store everything at our computers. Why should we throw it out indeed? There is enough place at the hard disk for everything.

The principle is the same here: cleaning is releasing of energy. Leave only those files you like and find important. Why to keep a movie you didn't like? Why to keep any old and useless files? They all are pieces of you; so, should you bear this weight (knowing that the more you have, the slower your speed is) or give a way to anything new?

Such a cleaning would be great not for your personal computer only; do not forget about your office computer and all your virtual accounts: social networks, blogs, websites.

3. Put to rights, gave things their places, systematized files

I've never been an adherent of a strict cleanness, and I always cultivated a so-called creative mess, hiding behind my love of arts.

But I see it a little bit different now: a harmonious order (not a fanatic but systematized one, when all things have their place) is the key to good and effective functioning, especially when it's high time to accelerate. You will not be able to change the speed of your life if there is chaos on your desktop and in your apartment.

4. Filtered incoming information

Your incoming information needs cleaning and order, too. Generally, this is food for your mind; so, the work of your mind depends on this information's quality.

Have you heard of information intoxication? This is a common virus many people are infected with: they read everything on the Web, constantly reposting quotes of famous people and wasting their ability to hear the voice of their own souls.

That's why I recommend to do the following:

Clean your friends list: remove those people who do not inspire you or make you feel bad after reading news from them.

Clean your timelines: remove or hide those people or communities whose news annoy you or make you feel negatively.

Define the list of blogs and websites you intend to read. My principle to do this is a presence of some positive response in my soul: when you read something and feel some kind of value – it is worth reading then.

Choose only those resources that fill and delight your personality; their list should be cleaned and updated regularly, too.

5. Finished all unfinished businesses or reset them all

It is important to finish all works and tasks from your “waiting” lists: either move them to “in progress” status and DO them or reset them all. You should have a feeling that all tasks are finished, all current processes are scheduled, and no “dead” problems are left. This is your first speed to come to the question “What do I want from this life?” and move towards your conscious changes.

Making a long story short, the process of your today's life general cleaning consists of two key elements: getting rid of the rubbish at all levels and organizing your work and tasks, including the incoming flow of information.

Set your channels to receive a high-quality and useful information only, and you will see how much the world will change around you.

Reinventing yourself is possible only if you understand the truth of life: your old experience is not your best adviser here.

And let the cleaning begin! Are you ready for that? 


About the author:

Lesley J. Vos is a novice writer and passionate blogger who is honored to be a guest contributor to many authoritative websites, including Finer Minds, Live Write Thrive, Bid4Papers Blog and others. Lesley writes her first e-book now, and she is always open to new friends and contacts. You are welcome to find her on Google+ and read some works of her at this blog. 

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The Ultimate Guide To Meditation

Meditation. What is it? We’ve all heard of it. Maybe you've tried it a few times, or if you're truly dedicated to it, you do it every day. Meditation is one of the best things you can do for yourself, as it has the potential to transform your life.

The first thing we need to do is clear up some common misconceptions. It is not strictly a "Buddhist" or "Hindu" religious activity, although those religions incorporate meditation into their beliefs. In fact, every major religion incorporates some form of meditation in their teachings. If you don't like the name "meditation," just go with "quieting the mind" or “mindfulness.”

Scientific studies have shown that dozens of positive effects come from meditation. Over 3000 studies in the last few years have shown that meditation improves happiness levels, decreases stress, lowers blood pressure, increases attention span, relieves depression, etc. If you click here, you will be able to see dozens of peer-reviewed scientific studies that demonstrate the incredible benefits of meditation.

There are powerful inner aspects to meditation. A key realization that you will come to as a result of meditation is that you are not your thoughts. You are the awareness behind your thoughts, the "watcher" that notices them.

There are many different ways to meditate. You can should sit cross legged with your eyes open, you can sit in a chair with your eyes closed, lie down, etc. You should meditate in whatever way you want as long as you're relaxed and not going to fall asleep during the practice.

When meditating, there are very few rules. The goal is to quiet the constantly chattering mind and simply be at peace, allowing yourself to be in the present moment. That's it. It sounds simple, but as we all know, what’s simple is not necessarily easy.

Once you start meditating, your mind will begin to wander. You will think of what you need to do later on that day, something that happened earlier, etc. This will happen often in the beginning of your practice. A common experience is getting frustrated at yourself for thinking so much, which is unhelpful. Accept that many thoughts will cross your mind during meditation and just let them float by.

Visualization can be really helpful during meditation. I like to visualize a pool of water, and when a thought comes by, the pool of water ripples outwards until the pool is still again. Try whatever works for you. Some people imagine a clear blue sky, and when a thought appears, they see it as a cloud that quickly disintegrates.

For beginners, listening to guided meditations is very helpful. Eventually, you will be able to just be at peace, without many thoughts entering your mind. This allows you to go deeper and deeper into your meditation, giving you a profound sense of relaxation and happiness. Remember, this takes much practice, and you need to fully accept wherever you're at in your journey.

You have to make meditation a priority in your life; otherwise it simply won't become a habit. While meditating every once in a while is good, it won't make much of a difference in your life unless you commit to it and do it daily.

Starting off, you don't need to commit a lot of time to meditation. To just get the habit started, start off with five or ten minutes daily. It helps if you can incorporate this into your morning or nightly routines so that it can become a habit more easily.

The habit of meditation is not something that you will necessarily notice immediate improvements from. Patience is key here. It takes a couple months of daily practice to noticeably shift your awareness and increase the level of presence and peace you have in your daily life. I can assure you that it is completely worth the time spent, and anyone who’s been meditating for months would agree.

I’ve personally had some amazing experiences while meditating. Many times, indescribable positive emotions flow through me. Flashes of insight and unique ideas come to me. Each time I meditate, I can go for longer and longer periods of time without having any thoughts come up. I promise that you can get to this point and much farther if you commit to a daily practice.

Whenever I talk to people who have been meditating for years, I notice that they are all very calm, and fully present. They seem at peace with themselves and the world. They rarely, if ever, worry about things. These people seem to realize that worrying is mentally creating a possible negative future that doesn't have any basis in the present moment. These people usually don't have much of an ego, as they have realized that the ego is just another mental concept.

I started meditating sporadically a few years ago, when I was in high school. I had read about the benefits, and wanted to see for myself. I meditated whenever I could remember to do so, and when I did, thoughts would flood my mind and I was never at peace. I gave up on it for the time being, until I read that the only way for me to receive real benefits from meditation was if I did it daily. I started to do just that, and made meditation a large priority in my life. I have not looked back since. I’m now noticing many positive results in my life, and I have no doubt in my mind that meditation will continue to improve my life more and more as time goes on. In your meditation practice, remember this quotation by spiritual teacher J. Krishnamurti, "Meditation is not a means to an end. It is both the means and the end."

Since I’m so passionate about how meditation can change anyone’s life, I decided to spread meditation to as many people as possible. I wanted everyone to get a chance to experience the benefits for themselves. I created a meditation service that sends you the world’s best meditation videos for only $5 a month. Check it out at Daily Meditation!

Lars King is passionate about creating businesses that help people perform at their best, whether it's to get you motivated all year long or start meditating. You can reach him on twitter at @larstheking.

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Best of Backdoor Survival 2014

It has become blogging tradition to post an end of the year roundup of the best articles from the previous year. The problem, of course, is what constitutes the best? Is it the most viewed or the most shared? Or, perhaps, is it my own hand-picked favorites?

My choice this year is to highlight the ten most viewed articles since, after all, they are the post popular. Although some of these were written prior to 2014, they do represent those articles that new readers tend to visit and that long-term readers go back to over and over again.

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Three Uses Of NLP in Everyday Life

1  Red alert!

The NLP concept of ‘state’ is one I find useful in many situations.  By ‘state’ we mean the emotional, intellectual imaginative and physical condition we are in at any given time.  NLP teaches us both that states can be changed, and how to change them, this giving us power areas of life that traditional ‘common sense’ says we have little power over.

For example, for many people, ‘getting angry’ is just something that happens to them.  Some annoying stimulus occurs, the ‘angry’ button is pushed and, like Pavlov’s dog, off they go.  NLP taught me to monitor my internal states, to stand back and notice them.  If I feel anger rising, I can choose if I want to use it or not. Usually the best answer is to back off.  States can be ‘broken’ by choosing to act or think in a new way (a simple physical action will often do the trick), after which a new, calmer state can be got to and whatever has caused the anger can be sorted.

You can create a culture around you that uses this: I expect people to be able to manage their own states; if they have their own ‘red alert’ moment, it is OK for them to tell me, then disappear till they have calmed down.

2  As others see us

The above process is essentially about objectivity: being able to stand outside our emotions and old patterns of reaction.  NLP also taught me how to stand outside situations and see others’ point of view – something we are often told we ‘should’ do but rarely told how to do.

NLP uses simple physical space to achieve this.  When considering a situation in which you are involved, you make a physical map of the matter, with different people taking up different spaces in the room where you are situated.  You then simply move to the space that you have allocated to each participant, tell yourself that you are that person and let your subconscious tell you how that person is experiencing matters.  You can have a dialogue with other people (or at least your mental model of them) in other spaces.

Keep some space free to be a ‘fly on the wall’, a total outsider who is watching the interaction. How do things look from this place?

This may all sound spooky, but it often reveals remarkable insights.  It is based on the work of therapist Fritz Perls, who used it to bring about startling changes in people’s lives.

3  A seasonal one: how to avoid a cold! 

Sometimes when I wake up feeling a bit shivery but have a busy day ahead, I use a simplified version of an NLP process called ‘six step reframing’ to keep the cold at bay.  The underlying insight is that when you start feeling ‘coldy’, this is because there is a part of you eager to rest, and which will ensure you get a cold if you don’t do as it wants (as that will finally make you slow down).  This part can be very insistent – but you can negotiate with it.  Try making your right hand the part and your left the rest of you, then set up a dialogue between these two.  Agree things like an early night or a few days’ healthy eating and drinking until you sense the rest-seeking part is satisfied.  Then go to work, do what you have to do, then fulfill your side of the bargain.

Again, this may sound strange, but I have used this many times and it nearly always works.

NLP has acquired a mixed reputation; it can be seen as the tool of dodgy salespeople or of stage hypnotists.  I am very concerned to right this balance, to show that it is actually a set of simple techniques that everyone can use to make their lives better, often in quite ordinary ways.


Robbie Steinhouse is Director and Master Trainer at NLP School in London, and in the past has taught people with every job title imaginable. All have a common goal of using NLP to enhance their work life, professional and personal relationships.

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20 Groovy Life Lessons I’ve learned Before 30

So I'm going to turn 30 this year. Yep. The big Three 'O'. And this is a post compiling what I've learnt and how they can inspire you.

My "credentials"?

My dad died of ALS when I was only 20, exactly two months before I enrolled into college. Despite graduating, I don't work a conventional job. I'm doing my own thing now by being a writer and have finally hit success after a few years. I've been in a long distance relationship for over two years now. To throw in to the mix, I've had my heartbroken many times before.

Basically, I've had my fair share of ups and downs. I'm very grateful for the life I have, but from time to time, I do wonder why I'm dealt such a lousy hand.

Nonetheless, I still and always will fight hard for what I want.

1) Life is a mystery and that is a fact

Frankly, I don't even know why my dad died. He got ALS one day and we knew there was no cure. That was it. After two years, he went away peacefully.

Seeing someone you grew up with go like that is extremely surreal and painful at the same time. It's weird even. And sometimes, it's no use fighting it.

You just try to make do with what you have.

2) Love your parents for they're growing old while you're growing up

And yup. Cherish your loved ones, especially your parents. While you're growing up and learning about life your own way today, they're only growing older.

3) Love is just a crazy energy that comes and goes as it pleases

You know, because sometimes you unexpectedly meet somebody and have perfect chemistry, while other times you're seemingly forced into a breakup for reasons you cannot comprehend.

Love is indeed a crazy energy. So don't be too shocked or sad when it comes and goes. Be grateful for the experience.

4) Don't judge people because people are never what they seem

In other words, don't perceive somebody according to their various labels.

My first girlfriend was a girl I met in church. She wanted the best for me through her religion and I thought that meant she couldn't be that bad.

She cheated on me in the end and I had to find that out from her best friend.

So never judge somebody and base them on your own beliefs and ideas. People are not what they seem for everybody has their secrets.

5) Yet, learn how to judge people the right way

Although judging people is considered wrong by most, I personally think we can't help it, so we might as well do it the right way.

For example, if you meet somebody for the first time and they're extremely rude to the waiter, dump them. You don't need such disrespectful people in your life.

6) Quit your job to do what you love only when it makes sense

I quit my job and jumped into starting my blog without knowing a damn thing. My savings depleted extremely fast and I felt miserable for a long time.

Don't quit your job just because most successful people did it. Do it only when it makes sense. You do need the stability to fund and give you the drive to do what you love. Otherwise, you may end up making desperate decisions just to make money.

7) Money is important, but the bottom line is whether you want to chase it

To say money is important is naive and even arrogant.

Yet, as counter-intuitive as it sounds, if you do work specifically only to make money, you most likely won't make much. It's only when you come across as authentic and provide major value would you be able to make something people are willing to buy.

8) Be very wary of people who use flowery language 

"You're lucky now cause I'm on my break" and "I don't normally do this for others, but for you I will" are a couple of classics I came across many times.

It's extremely easy to use mere words to come across as nice. Be wary of such people. They will be back for favors for sure.

9) People change, get over it

I've fallen out with over a handful of friends because I realized they are pretty toxic. And it was sad because they didn't use to be like that.

But well, people change. It can't be helped. It's best to just move on.

10) Passion is not a golden ticket that solves all your problems

I've heard many people preaching, "Do what you love, and the rest will take care of itself."

I think that's bullshit. Passion or following your heart doesn't solve problems.

Hard work and consistent effort do. That being said, passion doesn't make you feel on top of the world all the time.

11) The world is not a secret place the media makes it out to be

I've been to the rural parts of Thailand myself and also interviewed a fellow location-independent blogger who's been to more places.

Indeed, the world isn't that scary. If you're sensible and make smart choices, you're safe. So don't be scared. Travel!

12) Embrace your introvert side

Feel out of place at a party? Constantly disagreeing with the conversation your friends have? Don't like to go out on weekends?

That's okay. That's great even. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you and you're certainly not weird.

Don't ever let anyone sway you. Embrace your introvert side and keep growing the way you like it, alone.

13) Feel uncomfortable and do it anyway

That's how you get out of your comfort zone. That's how you stop procrastinating.

The main point is, you're not supposed to feel super awesome about it. In fact, you may not even know what results you will get.

But at least, there are results. So just do it anyway. No excuses.

14) You're not your job

You, [Insert your name] is not based on how high your income is, what you do at work, how much time you spend in the office and certainly not what your crappy boss says about you.

You're many more things, like passion, love, ideas, worldviews or the difference you made in someone else's life.

So don't bring your job home. Clock out and that is that.

15) Don't be too quick to criticize or punish somebody

You're not perfect either. You make mistakes too and there's a chance you will make the same mistake as others.

16) You don't have to be first place in your passion

Passion isn't about competition all the time. It's good to push yourself and be motivated by prizes, but remember that passion is about expressing your art, craft and imbuing yourself in it whole.

Remember to have fun too.

17) Success is individual

Thus, stop comparing with others. It doesn't matter if you're not making millions or have adoring fans like a celebrity.

You have your own unique challenges and hence your own unique form of success. Embrace that and your true path will be revealed.

18) Enjoy school while you can

Because when you're out there in the world, it's back to square one. It is only when school is over you'll start to wonder if this (likely your job) is all you're going to do for the rest of your life.

19) Breakups hurt, but you'll be fine

It hurts like mad. You may get depressed even.

But relax. You'll be fine. Everybody goes through heartbreak. If they can get by, so can you.

20) If you don't want to feel like an old fart, then start hanging out with people who don't

Honestly, I always dreaded the big Three-'O'. I thought I would feel old, sluggish and be forced into social norms.

But age is truly what you make it up to be. You can do anything you want. And if you want to feel like you belong, just hang out with others of the same age or older who still do what they love.

Age is just a number, but life can't be made with numbers. You make it with real experience.

So make it awesome, memorable and incredible.

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The Survival Buzz #152

Welcome to this week’s Survival Buzz with an update on my own preps and announcements from the Backdoor Survival blog.

The highlight of this week was a trip off island to the LDS Home Storage Center in Mount Vernon, Washington.  At a Home Storage Center, you will find the lowest prices anywhere on bulk foods for your survival pantry. The best part is that they are open to the public and not just to LDS members.

Nothing bugs me more then when I see other bloggers recommend purchasing wheat, as an example, from Amazon at over $2 a  pound. 

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Pen or Computer: Which is Better for Writers?

For writers of the imagination, what we fear the most is a disruption, a blockage, a sudden dam that changes the course of the river of creativity. Back in the late sixties and early seventies when technological innovation began to creep into the public consciousness, I shunned all the so-called marvels of computers when it came to my writing process. As a novelist, I feared that switching to these new fangled machines might somehow inhibit my ever-reliable muse, but what I feared most was a disruption of my creative process, a drastic change to my internal thinking patterns that would inhibit my imagination. A strange new means of composition at the time, the computer seemed an intrusion or, at best, an unwelcome detour on a well-traveled road to storytelling.

The Old Days

Up to that point, I had been composing in pen and ink before making the transition to a manual typewriter. I had learned to type at the age of seventeen on a clunky old Remington and had become quickly used to the feel of the keys on my fingers. I discovered how great it was to see my words in black type, almost as if it were already a page in a book. I have to admit, that as I continue to work on a keyboard today, I've found that it creates the same comforting sound that once accompanied me during my creative revels on that old clunky Remington.

I grew used to rushing through a first draft, reworking it with pen in hand, retyping, reworking, retyping until I had my manuscript in what I had internally believed was reasonably acceptable for submission to my then agent. I used the services of a few freelance typists who had grown used to my hasty yet elaborate chicken marks. I had long ago discovered that the secret to good writing was rewriting. I rewrite like mad, changing dialogue, characters, plot points, reconsidering different ways of expressing the material; the subconscious is a very busy place, and every nuance, every thought, is constantly changing. Writing stories is like building a house with wooden blocks: remove one, and you must rearrange the supporting neighbors or the whole structure will collapse.

Making the Transition 

Because I spent a vast amount of time composing my novels in my basement writing room, I owned three Smith Corona portable typewriters. One was my primary work tool until its mechanism shouted for repairs, one was in reserve, and one was always in the shop. My fingers were invariably stained by carbon from used-up ribbons that constantly needed changing.

I was still in the advertising business in those days. I would get to my basement writing desk before six in the morning and write for about four hours before hustling off to my office for my regular workday; the pittance I earned from writing was hardly enough to support a growing family.

It was during my time in the advertising business that computers were proliferating. I now had the option to eliminate my freelance typists since I could compose and make changes directly on the screen, but if you were unable to break the habit of making changes on paper, printers were available.

One of my writing friends, a world famous photographer/writer, Fred Ward, was an advanced techie, and assured me that a computer was an enhancement rather than a hindrance, and finally, after much persuasion, I bought my first clunky computer in the early 1980’s. The writing program was called Wordstar and I attached a Hewlett Packard laser printer that could print out a few pages a minute, which I thought, at the time, was remarkable. Of course I kept my three Smith Coronas at the ready in case this technology failed me, and so I chugged away learning Wordstar.

Getting Over the Fear 

Some of my writing friends continued to resist, and they often insisted that they were happy with the old ways of pen on paper or mechanical typewriter. In fact, many of them continued to compose that way and some still do; I have a number of writing friends that have refused to adapt under any circumstances. I suppose it is an age thing. After all, they argue, the greatest works of literature were composed with pen and paper. Were William Shakespeare or Charles Dickens inhibited by the lack of computer technology?

I must admit that it took a while to get over my fear. When I slowed down or met an obstacle while writing, I wondered whether or not the disruption was due to the new process and the difficulties of having to remember the new strokes on a computer keyboard. Thankfully, my earlier typing skills came in handy and after a few months I was able to write and rewrite to my heart’s content, which I continue to do today.

I suppose my story has been experienced by many writers across the globe who were plagued by similar fears. To a younger generation, many of whom are no longer taught the elements of penmanship, my experience could be laughable.

How do You Prefer to Write?

I am totally committed today to writing on my computer. It offers a writer a vast improvement especially in time saving and research.  The creative process remains the same as it always was, requiring deep thought, constant improvement and extensive re-writing. But most of all, in terms of speed and convenience, it is an enormous help. Still, despite such improvements, if suddenly the electrical grid was destroyed and a complete power blackout would occur I would still continue my writing schedules. It is a necessary component of my life.

An old friend, John David Garcia, now deceased, once declared that the goal of life is to evolve into pure mind. He wrote a book called The Moral Society, and claimed that technology might one day bring us to pure mind. But a truly inspired and gifted writer, as has been proven over the centuries, does not need the geegaws of modern technology to create masterworks of great insight and benefit to the human species.

While it has made a vast difference in discoverability and marketing, giving opportunity to emerging writers to get into the publishing fray, I doubt if it has made one iota of difference in the quality of the offerings.

On that note, I want to know, how do you prefer to compose?

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BDS Book Festival 7: The PrepSmart Series from Prepper Press

Early on, when I was a newbie blogger, I was lucky enough to hook up with a boutique publisher who was interested in compiling a series of articles by a dozen or so bloggers.  The project did not pan out but the publisher, Prepper Press, remained in contact.

Many of books featured in Backdoor Survival book festivals have been published by the Prepper Press.  They include books by Glen Tate and the 299 Days Series, R.P. Ruggiero and the Brushfire Plague Series (my favs), and titles from the prolific Joe Nobody and his Holding Their Own. 

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Survival Basics: Be Prepared For Pet Emergencies

When it comes to our four legged friends, being prepared goes beyond having the proper pet supplies in our bug-out bags and in-home emergency kits.  There is also the component of pet healthcare and the need to recognize and then act quickly and decisively during a pet emergency.

In my opinion, this is a topic that is not addressed often enough in the preparedness community.  The truth is that while it is easy to use a proactive approach with our own healthcare, most of us are at a bit of a loss when it comes to our pets.

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BDS Book Festival 7: 5 Acres & A Dream – The Book + Giveaway

Today I share the next author interview and giveaway in the Backdoor Survival Book Festival 7.  Leigh Tate, the blogger at the popular homesteading site, 5 Acres and a Dream, has written a book about the challenges she and her husband have faced while pursing their dream.

Her book, 5 Acres & A Dream The Book: The Challenges of Establishing a Self-Sufficient Homestead, is unlike any homesteading book I have ever read!  In it, Leigh shares her dream of self-sufficiency and her homesteading aspirations along with the disappointments, successes, and failures that happened along the way. 

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9 Little Things That Make A Huge Difference For Your Happiness

9 little things that make a huge difference for your happiness

When it comes to happiness, most, if not all people are always advocating the idea of not letting the little things get to you.

“Don’t sweat the small stuff” as they say.

Let’s flip it around. The little things DO matter.

“A little bit goes a long way” as we all should say.

There’re a ton of simple ideas we can take up on to alleviate our pains, our ills and boost our happiness two to threefold.

1) Cleaning up your room

Because nobody, and I mean nobody will ever be happy living in their own filth. Whoever claims otherwise are probably hoarders and have major issues they need looking into.

A clean environment makes up for a healthy atmosphere, mind, body and soul. This is how you look forward to actually going back home and enjoy being alone.

So clean it up. Get rid of the clutter. Do a weekly thorough cleaning session and your mood will improve for sure.

2) Having enough sleep in a stretch

And when I mean a stretch, I mean sleeping 7-8 hours at a go. You can’t cheat by taking a few naps throughout the day and then back it up with Red Bull or some energy drink.

This may sound obvious enough, but most people don’t get enough sleep due to their hectic lifestyles. As a result, people get unknowingly cranky and unhappy.

You’ll look better too and definitely fall sick less.

3) Dress up. Groom

It’s easy to think and justify that we shouldn’t bother having to look good when we don’t have any engagements for the day. But I think it’s important to look good on the outside at all the times. If anything, we should put in the minimal effort to do so.

You’d want to look in the mirror and know you’re at your best. You do know after all, when you look your best. Why limit it to rare occasions? I don’t dress up at home, but I always shave or put on my contact lenses when I head out to wherever.

Look good for yourself. You’d subconsciously become more confident in everything you do then.

4) Shower

Again another obvious point, but surprisingly, most people don’t do this. I know of many friends who choose to head to bed after a night of drinking without showering. Gross.

So, at the risk of sounding like your mom, shower. Wash off the dirt and feel fresh. Clean behind your ears. This is how you stay clean, healthy and not smell bad.

This isn’t the cavemen era anymore. I bet you aren’t homeless either. Stop living with dirt!

5) Do that one piece of work, no matter where, no matter what

You know what happens when you decide to procrastinate and hold off work?

You feel half-hearted. You think you get to enjoy your newly-found space of free time, but at the back of your mind, you’re thinking of the work. You’re feeling guilty and unaccomplished.

That’s not how you become happy. You HAVE to do the work. So feel uncomfortable and do it anyway. It will make you happy later on.

6) Take a break

Yet, remember that you’re allowed to take breaks. Don’t overwhelm yourself with work and think that you’re have to use up every second of your time being productive.

You aren’t a robot.

7) Get off social media for just a bit everyday

It’s my personal opinion that social media does more bad than good. I think we’re constantly distracted and becoming unhappy because of it.

Now, I’m not asking you to go cold turkey and start hating on technology. I’m saying, take a break from it every now and then. Get off Facebook, Twitter or Instagram for a couple of hours a day.

You’ll start to notice your surroundings. You’ll start to appreciate things for what they are and you’ll fall back in love with things. You can also create meaningful conversations with those around you.

How does this happen? Because you’re no longer relying on updates just to be happy.

Take this small step. You’re fully capable of being happy off the grid.

8) Don’t spend, yet spend

Let me be blunt:

If you’ve a ton of savings, then go ahead and spoil yourself. You deserve it. Life isn’t all about money, but it does make our life easier. And since you’ve worked hard for it, you should be rewarded.

If you don’t, stop spending. Please put that credit card back in your wallet. Don’t even think of going drinking if your idea of spending is only with credit.

Depending on where you are in life, be sensible with money. That’s all. There’re too many, if I may say it, stupid ideas on money by dumb and reckless people.

Be sure to manage your finances and life well your own way.

9) Don’t think about helping people. Just do it

Have you ever walked across a homeless person begging for money and then decide to give some change? But, when you reach in to your wallet, you realize the notes you’re carrying are too big. You then feel conflicted on whether you should give or not.

By then, you’ve walked far away.

And then you feel bad. You feel worse later because you end up spending that big note on some useless thing you don’t need.

That’s the folly in a lot of us. Perhaps it’s time we decide to help others to help ourselves. It DOES work that way!

Stop thinking about it. Stop thinking only for yourself. Use the power of impulse to make this world a better place. You’ll be guaranteed happiness this way.

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Get Organized with the Preparedness Planner + Giveaway

Let’s take an informal poll.  How many of you have tons of preps?  How many of you know you have a lot of stuff, but have no clue how much you have, how much you want, and where it is located?

In the past, I have tried to keep track of my own preps both with an excel spreadsheet and using software and apps sent to me for review.  With all of the time I have spent attempting to get organized, my preps are still in disarray and none of the apps made it to the website for review purposes.

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BDS Book Festival 7: The Avalon Series + Giveaway

I am jumping the gun a day early again this week with the next author interview and giveaway in the Backdoor Survival Book Festival 7.

L. Michael Ruskin, the author of Avalon: The Retreat and Avalon: Beyond the Retreat is a here to answer the initial round of Book Festival questions and to award one lucky reader with a copy of his two books.

Enjoy the interview and be sure to check out the details of this week’s giveaway below.

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