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Rule Your World: Anger Management | National Geographic Channel

Rule Your World: Anger Management | National Geographic Channel | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Learn how to use an unexpectedly accessible part of life to help change behavior.
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How color affects of moods and emotions and contributes to behavior change. If you want to eat less what color will help you achieve this goal? Watch and find out. 

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What If Everything You Knew About Disciplining Kids Was Wrong? –

What If Everything You Knew About Disciplining Kids Was Wrong? – | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Negative consequences, timeouts, and punishment just make bad behavior worse. But a new approach really works.
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Excellent articled focused on education, but I found the theories, and techniques highlighted are applicable in all organizations. let's not forget, that if your brought up in a system, it is highly probably that you replicate the same system if you are leading an organization. The model's that our schools are stuck in  are basically the same models that organizations use to try and affect change, motivation and discipline with employees. I saw this very clearing in the approach that organizations use to get compliance with safety rules and procedures. the carrot and stick approach does not build awareness, self-monitoring, and intrinsic motivation, in fact it kills it.  Deci (Determination Theory) and Dweck (Growth Mindset) have demonstrated alternatives that actually work in building awareness and intrinsic motivation to do the right thing without carrots and sticks. 

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Ingrid Fetell Lee: Where joy hides and how to find it | TED Talk

Ingrid Fetell Lee: Where joy hides and how to find it | TED Talk | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Cherry blossoms and rainbows, bubbles and googly eyes: Why do some things seem to create such universal joy? In this captivating talk, Ingrid Fetell Lee reveals the surprisingly tangible roots of joy and shows how we all can find -- and create -- more of it in the world around us.
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A wonderful review of what joy is, what causes it and how many opportunities we are missing to bring joy into the world! 

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How the psychology of the England football team could change your life 

How the psychology of the England football team could change your life  | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
The era of hard-talking, tyrannical managers is over – both on and off the pitch. “Football, which I love and work in, is really bad at talking,” says Caulfield. “It does instructing and telling off but it doesn’t do talking and listening and empathy that well. It sounds a bit fluffy but that’s the world in which we now live, and the world in which these players have grown up.” Southgate, he says, realised early in his coaching career that instilling fear wasn’t going to work. “We all need a telling-off now and then – and he’s good at that, by the way – but you’ll get far more from putting your faith in people than you will anything else. People had this lazy opinion that he’s too ‘nice’ and they see kindness as weakness, but it’s the most unbelievable strength if you use it in the right way.”

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A great example of a coach/leader utilizing Relationship - Centered Leadership: Presence (EQ), Resiliency, Trustworthiness, Moral Courage, Purpose, Authenticity

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David Hain's curator insight, July 12, 8:53 AM

I know they lost last night in the semi-final, but this article still resonates, and the contents (reframing, learning from failure, etc) will help them go further in future. Positive psychology really works, and tomorrow's leaders need to get on board with it - because the England football team is in effect an analog for every team that wants to deliver collective success and well being!

Jose Luis Yañez's curator insight, July 17, 3:53 AM
How the psychology of the England football team could change your life
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How Oxytocin Can Make Your Job More Meaningful | Greater Good Magazine

How Oxytocin Can Make Your Job More Meaningful | Greater Good Magazine | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Does your job suck? Neuroscience research suggests it might be missing two key ingredients.
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There is nothing more powerful than TRUST! leaders and employers that focus on building, strengthening and sustaining trust create the conditions for success. And a lack of trust creates the conditions for disaster.  

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Can Companies Train Employees to Be Less Prejudiced? | Greater Good Magazine

Can Companies Train Employees to Be Less Prejudiced? | Greater Good Magazine | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Today, Starbucks is closing its stores to educate employees about racial bias. Will it work?
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I applaud Starbucks for undertaking this effort. And most likely one event won't have much of an effect, but it's a step in the right direction. I'm hoping that it is not viewed as a Starbucks' issue or undertaking, but a call to schools at all levels as well as businesses and religious organizations to commit to addressing prejudice. 

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Self-Awareness Can Help Leaders More Than an MBA Can

Self-Awareness Can Help Leaders More Than an MBA Can | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it

Bill George, a professor of leadership at Harvard Business School, and former CEO of Medtronic, says that self-awareness is the starting point of leadership. Self-awareness is the skill of being aware of our thoughts, emotions, and values from moment to moment. Through self-awareness, we can lead ourselves with authenticity and integrity — and in turn better lead others and our organizations.

We conducted a survey of more than 1,000 leaders in more than 800 companies in over 100 countries, and found that leaders at the highest levels tend to have better self-awareness than leaders lower in the hierarchy. This could be because stronger self-awareness accelerates the promotion process, or because, like Vince, we’re nudged toward enhancing our self-awareness as our leadership responsibility increases.

Fortunately for all of us, self-awareness can be enhanced. Simple steps can be taken to complement one’s traditional leadership skills with it.


Via David Hain
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“My ego had run amok. I was leading from my head and not from my heart.” This is not uncommon; it happens not only in leadership, it happens in relationships. We don't teach self-awareness in school; we have to seek it. Yet it is critical to success not just in business, but in life. This article offers some helpful tips, however I recommend exploring and developing one's emotional intelligence. I recommend 6 Second's model of EQ: Know Yourself, Choose Yourself and Give  Yourself. It will help you not only become more self-aware, it will help you put that awareness into productive and useful action. 

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David Hain's curator insight, April 26, 6:28 AM

How self-aware are you? It's not too hard to find out, and it's so important!

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Employees Are 32 Percent Less Likely to Quit if They Get This 1 Thing From Their Boss (It's Not Pop Chips)

Employees Are 32 Percent Less Likely to Quit if They Get This 1 Thing From Their Boss (It's Not Pop Chips) | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Job satisfaction and succeeding professionally both depend in large part on happiness at work. This is a critical and often overlooked part of that.
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Being respectful and feeling respected deeply resonate in our hearts and minds. 

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Why You Should Hire Emotionally Intelligent Employees

Why You Should Hire Emotionally Intelligent Employees | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it

Perhaps you've heard the saying, "hire hard, manage easy." This implies that having a well thought-out hiring strategy can lead to on-boarding employees that best fit your company culture. This saying certainly holds true in today's age, where having a cohesive culture has become essential for a strong business.

 

Making a good hiring decision starts by creating a highly detailed and specific job description designed to flesh out the best applicants.


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There isn't a facet or aspect of any business were emotional intelligence isn't a positive contributor and factor in success. The ROI on EQ is well documented.

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Specific skills and experiences are only part of the hiring puzzle.

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Nine Ways to Help Students Discuss Guns and Violence | Greater Good Magazine

Nine Ways to Help Students Discuss Guns and Violence | Greater Good Magazine | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
In the wake of a mass shooting in Florida, students are taking action on gun control. How can educators respond?
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It's unfortunate and tragic that educators, parents, famiies and children must learn to confront, manage and discuss gun violence, but until we come together and address the problem, which  no other civilized country in the world experiences at the rate we do, we must.  

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How to Find Your Purpose in Life

How to Find Your Purpose in Life | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Are you struggling to discover your purpose? That may be because you feel isolated from other people. Here's how you can overcome that.
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The air is filled with words of disparagement, judgement and even hate. It seems that the ideals, values, principles and purpose that our country purports to be and aspires to in it's documents, songs and pledges is being questioned and tested. What is our purpose? Is it noble or ignoble? The answer first lies in what is your purpose - is it noble or ignoble? It is in our hands if we bring light or darkness to the world. 

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How to Choose Goals That Make You Come Alive

How to Choose Goals That Make You Come Alive | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Research on the components of well-being can help us choose goals that we'll stick to.
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Alive - isn't it the goal we all have? But what is being alive and how do we know when we are alive? I fear social media actually can make us more numb and dead than alive. If you find yourself waiting for your next text and like on facebook you may be numb and closer to being dead than to finding aliveness. This article has a few tips to help put us on the path to aliveness. 

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Research on the components of well-being can help us choose goals that we'll stick to.
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The 12 Emotional Stages of Change - People Development Network

The 12 Emotional Stages of Change - People Development Network | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
What are the twelve emotional states that we all go through when we experience change? Recognising these emotions help us to manage them more effectively.
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This article is valuable because it highlights the emotional side and aspects of change. Most leaders and change agents focus on the strategy and cognitive aspects of change and dismiss or disregard the emotional side of change. Could this be one of the main reasons over 70% of change efforts fail to meet their goals of fail completely. Emotions can be the driving force of change or a disruptive force. In my work with 6 Seconds we assist leaders in using emotions to ensure that their change strategy and goals are achieved.   "The Inside Path to Change" Emotions Drive People. People Drive Change.

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7 Reasons Why Emotional Intelligence Is One Of The Fastest-Growing Job Skills

7 Reasons Why Emotional Intelligence Is One Of The Fastest-Growing Job Skills | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Here’s why hiring managers say they often value emotional intelligence more highly than IQ.
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Reason #7 is my favorite. I still experience reluctance from managers when I discuss how emotions are a critical resource in making decision. But once they open up to the idea and review past decision that didn't go well, they clearly see how they disregarded emotions and the difference it would have made. 

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How Loneliness Changes Across Your Lifetime | Greater Good Magazine

How Loneliness Changes Across Your Lifetime | Greater Good Magazine | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Loneliness can strike at any age, although the cause might be different.
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When I think of loneliness the first remembrance i have is my first weeks at college. I went two weeks before classes for football. I didn't know anyone, I experienced for the first time the depth of loneliness.

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Seven Lessons from Mister Rogers That Can Help Americans Be Neighbors Again | Greater Good Magazine

Seven Lessons from Mister Rogers That Can Help Americans Be Neighbors Again | Greater Good Magazine | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
The host of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood taught kids critical emotional and social skills that are still relevant to adults today.
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Nothing speaks to emotional wisdom more than Mr. Roger's Lessons. 

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Leading Next Level Change With Emotional Intelligence and Storytelling

Leading Next Level Change With Emotional Intelligence and Storytelling | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Leverage the science of emotional intelligence to guide change and facilitate better mindful adaptation.

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Dr. Karen Dietz's curator insight, June 21, 2:59 PM

Change is a constant these days and only speeding up. So how do you weather change, and experience positive business results through the process?

 

More and more business leaders and researchers are pointing to Emotional Intelligence (EQ) as the key. What is less recognized is how storytelling plays a significant role in developing EQ and going through the process of any kind of change successfully.

 

This post shares the 3 essential ways EQ is important during change efforts. For each of these 3, one powerful method to use is storytelling -- because all change is storytelling via conversations. It's a real way to operationalize the 3 ways EQ works during change:

 

  • Storytelling helps access and practice EQ in real time in real work.
  • Storytelling generates social awareness where people can become more comfortable with the new realities via compassion and empathy.
  • Storytelling sets up the collaborative co-creation of successful change because storytelling itself is a co-created experience.

 

There are many more great points this article makes about EQ and change that every leader needs to know about. Enjoy!

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Be Still, Life: A Songlike Illustrated Invitation to Living with Presence –

Be Still, Life: A Songlike Illustrated Invitation to Living with Presence – | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
"Be still, life, be still at the break of dawn, and you'll feel the sun's light when you hear the morning's song."
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To feel presence, to be present requires an intimate relationship  with our emotions. This essay and the resources it highlights, the gift of presence. 

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The Intelligence of Emotions: Philosopher Martha Nussbaum on How Storytelling Rewires Us and Why Befriending Our Neediness Is Essential for Happiness –

The Intelligence of Emotions: Philosopher Martha Nussbaum on How Storytelling Rewires Us and Why Befriending Our Neediness Is Essential for Happiness – | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
"Emotions are not just the fuel that powers the psychological mechanism of a reasoning creature, they are parts, highly complex and messy parts, of this
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“The power of ‘the Eye of the Heart,’ which produces insight, is vastly superior to the power of thought, which produces opinions,” the great British economic theorist and philosopher E.F. Schumacher wrote 

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How Gratitude Helps Your Friendships Grow

How Gratitude Helps Your Friendships Grow | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Abundant research shows that gratitude helps us initiate, maintain, and strengthen our relationships. New research explores the specific information processed in the mind that causes us to feel gratitude, to want to share it, the benefits of expressing it, and why gratitude evolved in the first place.
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Relationship - Centered Leadership is model that emphasizes influence over power. Gratitude is a key trait and practice of Relationship - Centered Leaders. Thank you to everyone who follow my posts. 

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Intuition Is The Highest Form Of Intelligence

Intuition Is The Highest Form Of Intelligence | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Albert Einstein said, "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."
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I would like to reframe this article to be, Emotions are the highest form of intelligence. 

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(Empathic Leadership) Why Empathy is Vital to Building Both a Lasting Business and a Great Company  And without it, you can’t be a great leader.

(Empathic Leadership) Why Empathy is Vital to Building Both a Lasting Business and a Great Company  And without it, you can’t be a great leader. | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it

And without it, you can’t be a great leader.

As I wrote in a previous post, while traditionally viewed as a feminine trait—a weakness, even—empathy has now emerged as a critical leadership strength. Sure, there are some really great minds out there, great thinkers who are renowned for what they do, but without empathy, they’re not great leaders. Great leaders know when to lean someone into their strengths, and when to help alleviate or manage their challenges. And that requires an understanding of where that person is coming from. That requires empathy.

 

Without empathy, you can’t fully meet the needs of your customers.

 

Embracing empathy is not without its challenges, but the result is worth it.


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Julia Hartz, CEO and Co-Founder of Eventbrite


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The 6 Seconds model of EQ highlights the pursuit of Give Yourself - What is my empathic and principled Choice? 

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Emotionally Intelligent Ways To Express These 5 Feelings At Work

Emotionally Intelligent Ways To Express These 5 Feelings At Work | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
No matter what emotions you’re experiencing, there’s a way to channel them to project leadership.
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Remember when emotions i the workplace where taboo. "Business is no place for emotions", and if you showed emotions as a leader there was talk at the water cooler about being fit for the job. Finally, the reality that emotions are integral part of work and leadership. The key is being emotionally intelligent, "Emotional intelligence involves dealing with our emotions so that they serve–rather than undermine–your leadership." 

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The Five Myths of Self-Compassion

The Five Myths of Self-Compassion | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Kristin Neff tackles the misconceptions that stop us from being kinder to ourselves.
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It feels like there's a compasson problem that has descended on the world and its effect is resulting in increased polarization and violence. It may seem counterintuitive, but could one's compassion for others be affected by a lack of self-compassion? There are many cultural narratives that make self-compassion a negative - he's selfish. But what studies reveal is that self-compassion improves one's compassion for others. 

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Vulnerable Leaders Inspire with Authenticity and Humanity

Vulnerable Leaders Inspire with Authenticity and Humanity | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
Tough leaders may inspire through fear or intimidation. But vulnerable leaders who inspire hope, not fear, are more likely to yield better results.
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This article reminds me of the article I wrote, Authentic Presence - The Courage To Be Vulnerable. Feeling vulnerable is an uncomfortable feeling, but it is packed with insight. The key to letting vulnerability be a strength is emotional intelligence. 

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Why a Grateful Brain Is a Giving One

Why a Grateful Brain Is a Giving One | Emotional Wisdom | Scoop.it
The neural connection between gratitude and altruism is very deep, suggests new research.
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The science of gratitude is fascinating and similar to self-compassion, which shows that being self-compassionate improves your capacity to be compassionate towards others . 

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