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This is a better predictor of your success than IQ or EQ

This is a better predictor of your success than IQ or EQ | sports ethics: Frushon, E. |

An unsettling classroom experience near the start of his second year in the Stanford Graduate School of Business MBA Program caused a personal crisis for Shirzad Chamine and led him to the work he’s doing more than a quarter century later. The 1987 class was Interpersonal Dynamics, nicknamed “Touchy-Feely” for the way it has highly analytical students explore the softer side of business. One day, students took turns telling their classmates how each was coming across, and one after another, they told Chamine that he gave the impression of constantly and secretly judging them—even a classmate whom Chamine greatly admired. Chamine’s genial façade wasn’t fooling anyone.



Devastated by this feedback, he panicked that he had no clue how to change. Within two weeks, though, Chamine, who had grown up in a turbulent, emotionally abusive home in Iran, had a helpful insight.


Noticing judgmental behaviors that he thought others might be using as well in an effort to disguise insecurities, he poured out his thoughts into a five-page typed letter to first-year students. The letter touched its audience, especially the many students stressed or saddened by academic and social pressure—so much so that 26 years later, it is still in circulation among students. After receiving “tons of thank-you letters,” the 1988 graduate knew he was on to something. “That’s when I felt reassured that ‘the judge’ tends to be universal,” even if not in the extreme form he saw in himself.



After more reading and soul-searching, Chamine came to think of this judge as what he calls a “Saboteur,” one of several figurative villains that he says can reside in normal human minds. “Your mind is your best friend, but it is also your very worst enemy,” he says, calling the best-friend part your “Sage,” the voice of authenticity, calm and positive emotion. The Saboteurs—which, besides the Judge, include such instantly recognizable types as the Victim, the Avoider, the Hyper-Achiever and six others—undermine you by triggering anger, anxiety, shame, regret and other negative emotions. “Pretty much all your suffering in life is self-generated by your Saboteurs,” Chamine says.



The good news, which evangelist Chamine has been sharing through lectures, a popular book Positive Intelligence, and executive coaching, is that you can choose at any moment which voice to listen to. “That choice makes all the difference in not only how happy you are, but whether you reach your true potential,” says Chamine, who for many years ran the Coaches Training Institute, a San Rafael, Calif.-based company that trains executive coaches and life coaches.



Backed by data


Research in positive psychology, neuroscience and even organization science supports many of Chamine’s claims. Psychologists have long observed a human tendency to attend disproportionately to the negatives, since our ancestors’ survival was aided when they noticed threats. Brain-imaging studies have shown the seats of various emotions, suggesting that creating a positive mental state requires activating one area and quieting another. Experiments on happiness interventions have shown ways to foster optimism, compassion and other good feelings. And studies by organizational scholars have shown that happier people and teams make for more productive workers.



The finding that links happiness with productivity owes much to the work of Stanford University alumna Barbara Fredrickson, who received her PhD in psychology in 1990. Now a professor of psychology at the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill, she is best-known for her “broaden and build” theory of positive emotions. The theory explains why, given that natural selection favored negativity, evolution would have left us with positive emotions at all: Whereas negative emotions narrow our focus to handle an urgent challenge, Fredrickson argues, positive emotions broaden our options, enabling us to play, to explore, to think more creatively, and to build human connections. If negativity aids survival, positivity makes it possible to thrive. As a result, people with higher ratios of positive to negative emotions are more likely to flourish in life, experiencing better health, more satisfying relationships and greater professional achievement.



Chamine uses a similar metric he calls the positivity quotient, or the fraction of all your emotional experiences that are positive. PQ, he says, is more important for your success than your IQ or your EQ (emotional intelligence). Many of the executives he coaches, he says, have tried to raise their EQ, with little lasting success. EQ training teaches self-awareness and self-management, among other skills, but it misses a crucial component, Chamine believes. “What EQ training doesn’t tackle are the Saboteurs, who, left untouched, quickly reclaim their power.”



Helping people raise their PQ


Chamine’s goal is practical: He wants to help everyone, from children to executives, raise their PQ. Through his coaching practice, he’s refined techniques designed to weaken the Saboteurs (for starters, by learning to spot them in action) and strengthen the Sage, starting with understanding that an optimistic attitude becomes self-fulfilling. For example, he recommends a thought experiment involving identical twins who face a setback in opposite ways: One blames himself or others, while the second one says, “I can turn this failure into an opportunity.” Guess which twin will be better able to muster the internal resources, such as compassion and curiosity, to overcome the setback? “When your Judge says you’re screwed, you are screwed,” Chamine says.



Many of the exercises Chamine uses, like the twin experiment, are almost like little games. Others, like the mindfulness exercise that has you focus on a bodily sensation for 10 seconds, sound less fun, and, in fact, Chamine prescribes a number of “reps,” as if you were counting crunches at the gym. Fun or not, you have to stick with the program. The effort, though, can bear unexpected fruit.



“One of the biggest lies is that success leads to happiness,” Chamine says, rather than the other way around. “The biggest insight is that the happy brain is a more capable, more creative, more resourceful brain.”

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See the 'Sportsmanship' commercial about an honest basketball player | |

See the 'Sportsmanship' commercial about an honest basketball player | | | sports ethics: Frushon, E. |
A young basketball player makes a decision that sets a good example of sportsmanship for his team. See this Pass it On commercial at (A sports ethics discussion today on @SportsTalkCHI + on @davidkaplanshow.

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Pablo Nunez's curator insight, November 17, 2013 2:27 PM

Sportsmanship and good sports ethics like this need to be rewarded and praised not belittled, I hope the next generation can bring this type of attitude to the professional level.

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Coaching Youth Basketball: Promote Teamwork

Coaching Youth Basketball: Promote Teamwork | sports ethics: Frushon, E. |

First of all, basketball is a team game.


Start your practice sessions with creating a sound foundation, teaching what basketball is all about: teamwork, fair play, sportsmanship skill development and character building.


A united team will have much better chances to win, whereas if each player plays only for himself, keen on just proving his skills and progress, the overall productivity of the team will suffer significantly....





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Teaching, Learning, and Leading, K-12

Teaching, Learning, and Leading, K-12 | sports ethics: Frushon, E. |

5 Lessons for the Classroom I learned from Coaching Youth League Soccer

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Steve Miletto's curator insight, October 18, 2013 2:13 PM

I coached youth league soccer for over 8 years, it made me a better teacher.

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Sportsmanship and Leadership « k12christinestead

Sportsmanship and Leadership « k12christinestead | sports ethics: Frushon, E. |
Athletics plays an important role in developing life skills. The lessons our children learn during their athletic endeavors often carry them throughout life. In many ways, athletics can be a fast track learning curve for many of life's ...

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The Importance of Responsible Coaching

The Importance of Responsible Coaching | sports ethics: Frushon, E. |

1. This article talks about how to be a responsible coach of young athletes and the importance of doing so. It includes strategies on teaching good sportsmanship and how to set a good example for impressionable young athletes.

2. The most important part of this article for me was the idea of how important teaching good sportsmanhip is. I have always considered myself a good sport so I never put much thought into teaching it, this article will help me relate this message to my team.

3. I will use this research to teach my team good sportsmanship so that we can stay positive and avoid any penalties for unsportsmanlike conduct.

4. This article is from a credible source because it is sponsored by Liberty Mutual, a large company that would only support something that is accurate.

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COACHING ETHICS - Remembering what 's important!

COACHING ETHICS - Remembering what 's important! | sports ethics: Frushon, E. |
Coaching Ethics - Coach Long covers the importance of correctly prioritizing what is really important when coaching youth sports. Learn to be a role model for your young kids.

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Sara M Hall's curator insight, November 10, 2014 7:57 PM

In his article, Coach Long brings up many good points on how ethics should be in youth sports. In his article he doesn't go to say winning is bad, but the way winning is glorified and taught is wrong. Long also points out how playing a game with no score does not make sense either, playing and teaching youth sports is a way to find a balance between winning, having fun, and teaching young athletes about sports in a healthy way. Allowing students to grow and learn life lessons through sports, and most importantly allowing them to learn to have fun. I really think Long did a fantastic job at helping coaches of young athletes get back to the basic ethics and good morals of what youth sports should be about.

Jayme Dannen-Deal's curator insight, April 16, 2015 11:01 PM

This is a great article - as coaches we need to remember that we are role models and there are so many more important things that just winning. 

Christopher Baldwin's curator insight, June 12, 2015 11:53 AM

The following article explains the importance of understanding ethics in youth sports. This article also explains trends among youth sports today such as "winning at all costs" and the importance of sportsmanship.

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Youth soccer: Choose words wisely when coaching kids

Youth soccer: Choose words wisely when coaching kids | sports ethics: Frushon, E. |
As my opening quote suggests, players at the highest levels of the game want to know not only what they doing, but why they are doing the drill. The words we choose are vital because we want to very clearly give our players ...

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