My friends, lets grow up. Lets stop pretending we dont know the deal here. Or if we truly havent noticed, lets wake up and notice.
Look: Everything that can be lost, will be lost. Its simple how could we have missed it for so long?
Lets grieve our losses fully, like ripe human beings, But please, lets not be so shocked by them. Lets not act so betrayed, As though life had broken her secret promise to us. Impermanence is lifes only promise to us, And she keeps it with ruthless impeccability. To a child she seems cruel, but she is only wild, And her compassion exquisitely precise: Brilliantly penetrating, luminous with truth, She strips away the unreal to show us the real.
This is the true ride lets give ourselves to it! Lets stop making deals for a safe passage: There isnt one anyway, and the cost is too high.
We are not children anymore. The true human adult gives everything for what cannot be lost. Lets dance the wild dance of no hope!
"If we could literally reach into you and remove all your fears – every one of them – how different would your life be? Think about it. If nothing stopped you from following your dreams, your life would probably be very different. This is what the dying learn. Dying makes our worst fears come forward to be faced directly. It helps us see the different life that is possible, and in that vision, takes the rest of our fears away.
Unfortunately, by the time the fear is gone most of us are too sick or too old to do those things we would have done before, had we not been afraid. […] Thus, one lesson becomes clear: we must transcend our fears while we can still do those things we dream of."
As a long-time meditator, I’ve learned that stillness is not just an external posture. Well, it’s that too. But there is a deeper dimension to stillness. Knowing how to access that stillness through meditation can turn impatience on its head. Here are 4 simple tips for how to be still when you meditate and 5 key lessons I’ve learned about the life-changing power of stillness.
"If you’re anything like the typical human, then you have dreams and goals in your life. In fact, there are probably many things — large and small — that you would like to accomplish. But there is one common mistake we often make when it comes to setting goals. (I know I’ve committed this error many times myself.)
The problem is this: we set a deadline, but not a schedule.
Instead of giving yourself a deadline to accomplish a particular goal and then feeling like a failure if you don’t achieve it, you should choose a goal that is important to you and then set a schedule to work towards it consistently. That might not sound like a big shift, but it is."
Aloha: If there’s a single lament-slash-question I get most often — and most pointedly — lately, it goes something like this: “Listen, Deepak Kafka. I’ve read your stuff about living a meaningful life; I’ve followed your advice; I’ve even spent long evenings at dive bars, just like you recommend.
But what the blazes do I do with mine? I’ve searched high and low, looked far wide, listened long and loud, but I still can’t find anything even vaguely resembling my purpose.”
By Leo Babauta I was talking to a loved one yesterday about her fears, and several times made the comment, “Everyone has these fears. Everyone.” And this is true. The fears and problems you have are not unique to you.
"Hwansan Sunim is anything but your typical Harvard grad. After college, he earned a post-graduate degree in psychology at NYU, and then rerouted his life to South Korea, where he became a Buddhist monk and spent 25 years in a monastery studying the principles of Seon Buddhism.
"The past few years have been marked by two major trends in the science of a meaningful life.
One is that researchers continued to add sophistication and depth to our understanding of positive feelings and behaviors. Happiness is good for you, but not all the time; empathy ties us together, and can overwhelm you; humans are born with an innate sense of fairness and morality, that changes in response to context. This has been especially true of the study of mindfulness and attention, which is producing more and more potentially life-changing discoveries.
The other factor involves intellectual diversity. The turn from the study of human dysfunction to human strengths and virtues may have started in psychology, with the positive psychology movement, but that perspective spread to adjacent disciplines like neuroscience and criminology, and from there to fields like sociology, economics, and medicine. Across all these fields, we’re seeing more and more support for the idea that empathy, compassion, and happiness are more than you-have-it-or-not capacities, but skills that can be cultivated by individuals and by groups of people through deliberate decisions.
Here are 10 scientific insights published in peer-reviewed journals from the past year that we anticipate will be cited in scientific studies, help shift public debate, and change individual behavior in the year to come."
"I have two anchors for my soul and sanity each day, and they are meditation and exercise.
Every morning before I go to work I turn down the noise in my head on the meditation cushion and tune up my body at the gym. Until recently, I never thought much about the relationship between these two practices, but now that’s changing.
As mindfulness enters the mainstream, there are new approaches to meditation coming into view. One popular method is called moving meditation or mindful exercise. That is, the notion that you can bring meditative awareness to your active life—mindfully walking, running, and even hitting the treadmill."
Buddhist roshi Joan Halifax works with people at the last stage of life (in hospice and on death row). She shares what she's learned about compassion in the face of death and dying, and a deep insight into the nature of empathy.