"How does a woman deal with a husband spending hours each evening alone with books or games?.......
......."It’s about quantity and attitude, not about the thing itself. A person can emotionally check out of a relationship by nurturing the kids, scrapbooking the very relationship that’s being neglected, getting in shape, saving the world, playing the banjo, knitting, or knitting a banjo. If you’re not listening, caring, making eye contact, noticing your partner’s needs or valuing the other person’s place in your life, then you’re emotionally checking out.
If you are doing those things, then you can nurture, scrapbook, work out, save the world, play the banjo or knit one without taking a risk that your partner will feel neglected. Unless your partner is insecure, but that’s a whole other bowl of nuts."
"Hers has never been a typical advice column. From the start 15 years ago, countless readers of The Washington Post and about 200 other papers have turned to Carolyn Hax for refreshingly frank, at times funny, and always heartfelt words of wisdom. Clever cartoons by Nick Galifianakis drive home her insights. We talk to the duo about their unique collaboration, and the challenges and rewards that come with writing and illustrating an advice column.
Listen to Carolyn and her ex husband who still illustrates her posts here.