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What Your Mama Never Told You. Tips for Concious Connection.
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What the Hell IS 'Conscious Uncoupling,' Anyway?

What the Hell IS 'Conscious Uncoupling,' Anyway? | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS |


By Sonya Rhodes, PhD., and Susan Schneider

"Conscious uncoupling." The term sounds so ridiculous: New Age-y, pretentious, righteous -- I could go on and on. Although I've worked as a couples therapist for eons, I have to admit that I never heard of "conscious uncoupling" before Gwyneth Paltrow used it to describe what she and Chris Martin have been up to lately. As I see it, the term means that couples confront their irreconcilable differences by looking into themselves instead of blaming their partners. Each partner takes a reflective, conscious stance toward what role he or she has played in the dissolution of the couple. This is actually a pretty radical point of view when you consider that when nearly all people talk about their divorces, there's always some element of blaming their partner.

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Anyone Criticizing Ben Affleck’s Acceptance Speech Doesn’t Understand Marriage

Anyone Criticizing Ben Affleck’s Acceptance Speech Doesn’t Understand Marriage | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS |

Did you see Ben Affleck’s speech accepting the Best Picture award last night? If not, he made a moving and authentic statement about marriage. Read more about it here.

The part that has people in a tizzy is this:


"I want to thank you for working on marriage for ten Christmases. It’s good, it is work, but it’s the best kind of work, and there’s no one I’d rather work with."

PAT NOVAK's insight:

So True.. So Honest.

Laura Brown's comment, February 27, 2013 3:35 PM
How do you read it? I just get a big blob of a pop up window. No way to close it that I can see.
PAT NOVAK's comment, February 28, 2013 10:36 PM
What link? It goes right to the article for me.

The Four Things That Kill a Relationship Stone Dead

The Four Things That Kill a Relationship Stone Dead | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS |

A recipe for divorce: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.

For over 40 years the psychologist Professor John Gottman has been analysing relationships, both good and bad.


He's followed couples across decades in many psychological studies to see what kinds of behaviours predict whether they would stay together in the long-term or were soon destined for the divorce courts


.Amongst the factors he identified, four have stood out, time and time again. When Gottman sees a couple's communication overrun with these, the chances are they will divorce in an average of around six years from their marriage.


Ted Thomas's curator insight, July 29, 2013 6:15 AM

Relationship killers...

Modern Love Guide's curator insight, July 29, 2013 3:21 PM

This is so good and so true.

Garth Sanginiti's curator insight, August 1, 2013 10:01 PM

Good advice from Professor John Gottman to help strengthen relationships.