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Disrupt Your Life in a Good Way, Pt. 1: Don't Fear Heartbreak... It's Growth

Disrupt Your Life in a Good Way, Pt. 1: Don't Fear Heartbreak... It's Growth | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Throw your heart out in the name of your life purpose, even when you don't know what will happen.


Fortunately, the human heart can be shattered over and over and still recover. The heart is the most amazing construct in the universe. It's an ever-expanding, infinitely healable and resilient learning instrument.


Yet we tend to protect it like it's a fragile, shriveled thing. It needs to break -- it's the only way it grows. Experience helps too, but heartbreak has really taught me the most.


Read more: Karen Kimsey-House: Disrupt Your Life in a Good Way, Pt. 1: Don't Fear Heartbreak... It's Growth http://huff.to/KxsQTu

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For Chrissakes, There Is Nothing Wrong With You: A Dating Manifesto

For Chrissakes, There Is Nothing Wrong With You: A Dating Manifesto | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"As modern ladies of marrying age, our trusty inadequacy paradigm has always gone something like this: "I'm too fat for the men I like." "I'm too ugly to get married." "I'm too old to find a guy." Blah blah blah, fart, repeat, dead (the lifecycle of the human woman)."


We, as women, go our whole lives believing this lie that all we have to do is to stop being too fat and too flat-chested and too bitchy and too uptight, and then the perfect dude will finally love us forever.


We have to quit defining ourselves solely in relation to dudes.


Read more: http://jezebel.com/5904952/for-chrissakes-there-is-nothing-wrong-with-you-a-dating-manifesto

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Why "50 Shades Of Grey" Is Good For Women

Why "50 Shades Of Grey" Is Good For Women | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Why "50 Shades Of Grey" Is Good For Women: It finally has the world talking about female sexual desires. Shift's Amy Odell and Anna North discuss the latest critique of the book in the new issue of “Newsweek..


A lot of women don't have the balls to voice their sexual desires at all with their partners. A lot probably don’t even know how – or realize they’re not.


Read more: http://www.buzzfeed.com/amyodell/why-50-shades-of-grey-is-good-for-women

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Is Anal Sex the New Deal-Breaker?: Sex + Other Releases

Is Anal Sex the New Deal-Breaker?: Sex + Other Releases | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it


Backdoor entry is now so mainstream, some guys request it on the first date. So, what's your take on the once-taboo act? 


"Anal is the new oral," says syndicated sex columnist Dan Savage. "I used to get letters from women about giving head. Those letters are now dwarfed by letters from women asking how to take it up the butt."


Okay. But pronouncements and statistics that indicate the rising popularity of rearguard action don't address some nagging questions—the biggest one being how, presuming they haven't had their own rectums messed with, can so many guys justify asking women to let them take the service elevator?


Read More http://www.details.com/sex-relationships/sex-and-other-releases/200707/anal-sex-new-deal-breaker#ixzz1ru2aIfWX

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Where Are the 'Normal' Men?

Where Are the 'Normal' Men? | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
I love men. Some of them. Sometimes. Just not the ones I've been out with recently.


" Where are the normal men? *


(I really don't mean this in a rhetorical sense. Where are they?)


This isn't about being superficial. Or about being a so-called feminist. This is about self-preservation and sanity. This is about looking to meet someone who has manners. Even if I can embrace some mild eccentricities, why would I willingly breed with a total weirdo who has no concept of how to behave with a woman?


Read more: Natasha Scripture: Where Are the 'Normal' Men? http://huff.to/HeBbKQ

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When You Trust and He Doesn’t

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When it comes to trusting someone fully, conventional wisdom tells us that we shouldn’t let a person in our inner circle until they have proven themselves to be trustworthy. But are we missing a critical element here?


Advertising executive and television host, Donny Deutsch, talks about the “the price of entry” in relationships–he is specifically talking about romantic relationships. But I think the idea applies to all relationships.


Read more: http://thecurrentconscience.com/blog/2012/03

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Unlucky In Love? Why You Shouldn't Shut The Door

Unlucky In Love? Why You Shouldn't Shut The Door | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Feeling impatient and wanting to give up? Find out how to keep the hope alive.


The most powerful thing you can do in these times of desperation is to keep opening the door to the possibility.


Stop going in reverse, closing down, and shift into the energy of opening up to move you forward. Even when everything out there is showing you the opposite, you must hold the vision of what you want.


You must keep opening up to receive.


Read more: Unlucky In Love? Why You Shouldn't Shut The Door [EXPERT] | Debi Berndt | YourTango http://bit.ly/GHfSxi

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Why couples should cut off all contact when they break up

Why couples should cut off all contact when they break up | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Breaking-up is so hard to do, as the old saying goes.


Striking up a friendship with your ex-lover immediately after the break-up makes it worse.


For many, this rule should be etched into their collective psyche. Yet, many (including this writer) have had to learn this rule the hard way.


Read more: Why couples should cut off all contact when they break up - by Dean Traylor - Helium http://bit.ly/zLbQRz

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Treating Men Like Four-Year-Olds

Treating Men Like Four-Year-Olds | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Expressions used by women like, "This is his way of saying he's sorry," or "This is his way of saying he loves me," are about coddling grown men and excusing behavior that would be inexcusable in a four-year-old.


Specifically, I am talking about the excuses that women make for men who lack emotional follow-through.


For me, emotional follow-through is about capability in completely and clearly expressing emotions or emotional responsibilities–whether that means someone apologizing in a heartfelt way, expressing affection, etc. I’m not talking about extraordinary expressions of emotion, rather I am addressing the most basic forms of emotional follow-through like, “I love you” and “I’m sorry.”


Read more: Treating Men Like Four-Year-Olds | The Current Conscience http://bit.ly/zBJek8

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Are You with the Right Mate?

Are You with the Right Mate? | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
At some point in every relationship it's natural to ask whether your partner is the right one for you. But if that's as far as you go, you're missing the opportunity of your life.


What to do when the initial attraction sours?


"I call it the first day of your real marriage," Real says.


It's not a sign that you've chosen the wrong partner. It is the signal to grow as an individual—to take responsibility for your own frustrations.


Invariably, we yearn for perfection but are stuck with an imperfect human being. We all fall in love with people we think will deliver us from life's wounds but who wind up knowing how to rub against us.


Read more: Are You with the Right Mate? | Psychology Today http://bit.ly/x1SxeC

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Decoding Male Behavior: Why Do Men Lie?

Decoding Male Behavior: Why Do Men Lie? | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
It’s time to have a frank discussion about lying and deceit. I see a lot of fears floating around in the the dating world and it can be disheartening.


Whenever a relationship goes sour (or fails to launch), it’s almost always caused by some tiny fear, doubt, worry or insecurity that grows and festers until you feel overwhelmed by the whole ordeal.


Read more: Decoding Male Behavior: Why Do Men Lie? http://bit.ly/wYSV6i

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Valentine’s, Love and 2012

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This Valentine’s Day we will have Mars, the planet of passion, sexual desire, and initiative will be retrograde. What does that mean for you?


2012 is about being aware of what you’re perpetuating in your life. Once you get down and dirty with your answers, clarity and the person of your dreams, will emerge.


Source: OM Times Magazine (http://s.tt/15CLj)

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Are You Wired for Romance?

Are You Wired for Romance? | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
This neuropsychologist says yes!...


The Big Enemy is autopilot. The mind is a wonderful thing. But when it goes on autopilot, we’re its captive.


If you’ve ever heard words come out of your mouth that you knew were not from your heart, your deepest, best part of yourself; if you’ve ever been in an argument with your partner, where you knew that the worst of you was interacting with the worst of them – getting out of the habit of autopilot is for you.


Mindfulness meditation rewires your brain so that your autopilot isn’t running – and ruining – your relationship.


Read more: Are You Wired for Romance? - Marsha Lucas, Ph.D. - Heal Your Life http://bit.ly/A2H88H

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The Art of Masturbation - Women's Health

The Art of Masturbation - Women's Health | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Masturbate much? A solo session is more than just an easy way to put a smile on your face. It's the secret to busting through mental blocks and finding new ways to rack up big orgasms during sex a deux.


"There's a strong correlation between willingness to explore your own body and bring yourself to orgasm and being willing to explore with your partner and have orgasms together," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a New York sex therapist and the author of Sex Detox. "Women who masturbate are usually more comfortable with their bodies and with sex in general."


Read more at Women's Health: http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/masturbation-1#ixzz1tIuR5mT5

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The 4 Easiest Ways to Accidentally Ruin Your Relationship

The 4 Easiest Ways to Accidentally Ruin Your Relationship | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Because of my long line of failed attempts to not make a woman run screaming in the opposite direction, I can't even pretend to give advice on relationships. But what I can do is warn you about the almost biblical signs of oncoming doom.


You have to remember that one of the key elements to keeping a relationship interesting is keeping that "new car smell."


When you're clinging to each other 24/7, you start to hear the same stories and see the same routines, and boredom sets in like a goddamn fungal infection. Occasional time to yourself allows you both to experience different things, which in turn allows for new conversations. Things you can share with each other, but don't necessarily experience together.


Read more: The 4 Easiest Ways to Accidentally Ruin Your Relationship | Cracked.com http://www.cracked.com/blog/the-4-easiest-ways-to-accidentally-ruin-your-relationship/#ixzz1sVjhGfMQ

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Why men like going to strippers | thenakedtruth

Why men like going to strippers | thenakedtruth | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

For men (MASCULINE) the draw to women (FEMININE) can be like a revitalisation of their very being. Men who surround themselves with more feminine energy tend to have more motivation, confidence and drive for life.


"Masculine men are attracted to forms of feminine energy: radiant women, beer, music, nature etc.” – David Deida


Read more: Why men like going to strippers | thenakedtruth http://bit.ly/IuVTVq


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Divorce Advice For Those About To Marry

Divorce Advice For Those About To Marry | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it


Women claim that the pomp and circumstance of a wedding was simply not worth the pain of divorce. Many of these women truly believed in the fairy tale notion of "Happily Ever After," and were blindsided by their naivety when forced to deal with the financial and legal realities of a divorce.


Would men and women walk down the aisle with eyes wide open if they knew ahead of time what would legally happen if the marriage failed?


Read more:Melissa Carter: Divorce Advice For Those About To Marry http://huff.to/I15XTN

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What Women Want in Bed, But Never Ask

What Women Want in Bed, But Never Ask | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
What women want in bed, but are too afraid to ask for.


Although good communication in a couple’s relationship is essential for its ever-lasting success, some women find it hard to talk to their partners about what they want in bed.


Moreover, the effects—short- and long-term—of not talking to your partner about your wishes, desires, fantasies, likes and dislikes, needs, and wants in bed can be very detrimental, not only to your relationship but also to your emotional, mental, and physical health.


Read more: What Women Want in Bed, But Never Ask http://bit.ly/HbuSE3

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You Are The Love You Dream Of

You Are The Love You Dream Of | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

When you LOVE yourself and ACCEPT yourself, you won't have to go seeking love & acceptance. IT WILL FIND YOU. 


This Words of Blissdom post is the first in a series of three.


Bits of Bliss: Words of Blissdom: You Are The Love You Dream Of http://bit.ly/GOwrLF

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7 Mistakes Women Make with Men

7 Mistakes Women Make with Men | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Women are complicated because they have: A) a layer of logic, B) laid across that a mood, and C) on top of that an ever-fluctuating stream of emotion.


I’m puzzled listening to my female friends tell me they don’t understand men. This is like a rocket scientist telling you she can’t figure out how a flush toilet works.


Men are fairly simple; so how can we be so confusing to such comparatively complex creatures? How can women not already know these things?


Good, solid advice.


Read more: PJ Lifestyle » 7 Mistakes Women Make with Men http://bit.ly/FOuFmX

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Self-Love Is the Battery That Powers Everything

Self-Love Is the Battery That Powers Everything | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

When was the last time you honestly asked yourself, "How do I feel about me?" "How do I see myself?" Simple and obvious? Maybe not so much.


Self-love is the battery that powers every other kind of love.


I believe many of us suffer the effects of living on an autopilot of low self esteem and negativity. We’re shut down, dismissing the very need to be in healthy dialogue with our inner selves.


The relationship with self must be nurtured first before we can expect to experience fulfilling and reciprocated relationships in other areas of our lives. 


Read more: Self-Love Is the Battery That Powers Everything http://bit.ly/xN4DNA

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“I Hear You” is the new “I Love You”

“I Hear You” is the new “I Love You” | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Have you ever wanted someone to truly feel that you are listening to them?


Have you ever wanted to lovingly acknowledge what someone was saying even though you didn’t agree with it?


How to you acknowledge feedback from someone, especially if you don’t agree with it?


People want to be Genuinely Seen and Heard


Read more: “I Hear You” is the new “I Love You” http://bit.ly/yy4bEZ

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Bad Romance

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If you're caught in one, here's how to get out of it.


When I was little, I loved the movie Labyrinth.


But Labyrinth is a very instructional film—it just happens to be about dating. The girl, Sarah, clearly has a crush on the David Bowie character because who doesn’t?


There are rules, riddles, bogs, monsters, and awfulness, and David Bowie just stands there and says:


“I ask for so little. Just fear me, love me, do as I say, and I will be your slave.”


That’s the actual line! That’s the line every toxic partner will always feed you.


Read more: Rookie » Bad Romance http://bit.ly/wdf3Vw

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The Health Benefits of Love: A Meditation for Deepening Connections

The Health Benefits of Love: A Meditation for Deepening Connections | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
What's love got to do with it? If you're referring to health and well-being, then just about everything, according to the latest research.


"What we do inside relationships matter more than any other aspect of human life."


So what exactly is love? Is it attachment/intimacy needs, an evolutionary drive to prolong the species, our soul's longing for meaning, hormones gone wild?


Read more: Leslie Davenport: The Health Benefits of Love: A Meditation for Deepening Connections http://huff.to/wdYMyb



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When the Soul is Ready, the Soulmate Will Appear

When the Soul is Ready, the Soulmate Will Appear | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Become the person you aspire to be and then the soulmate will appear during that journey of personal transformation.


Your soulmate is not someone you can seek. Your soulmate is not someone who will seek you.


Only by stopping the search, focusing on yourself and working on yourself will your soulmate materialize.


Read more: OM Times Magazine (http://s.tt/15xgc)

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