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Mr Perfect does not exist. Majority of men are deeply flawed and women rate their partners at just 69 per cent

Mr Perfect does not exist. Majority of men are deeply flawed and women rate their partners at just 69 per cent | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
The study of 2,000 women found men's common shortfalls as leaving the toilet door open, watching too much sport or poor personal grooming.


Is it learning how to love the imperfections?


Mr Perfect does not exist. Majority of men are deeply flawed and women rate their partners at just 69 per cent | Mail Online http://bit.ly/vNZ6aM

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10 Dating Tips from the Animal World

10 Dating Tips from the Animal World | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
From the humblest worm to the majestic blue whale, creatures large and small have spent hundreds of millions of years conceiving a variety of ways to impress their mates.


Single guys listen up: These savvy animals understand the language of love…and might just have the best advice for those looking for romance.


Read more: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/10-dating-tips-from-the-animal-world.html#ixzz1gm0dmNc1

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10 Most Important Reasons Women Have Sex, Including the Best Reason, #10

After completing a world-wide study on why people have sex, psychologists Cindy Meston and David Buss, found that there were 237 reasons. Here are the 10 most important reasons women have sex. Th...
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I keep chasing unavailable women

I keep chasing unavailable women | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Great insights for anyone who keeps chasing the "unavailable" partner.


A man writes to ask why he keeps ending up with distant partners.


And the Dr. writes back: “He sounds like he is operating from his own woundedness, and instead of learning how to take loving care of himself, he caretakes these damaged women, which gives him a feeling of power,” she says. “This isn’t going to change until he does the inner work he needs to do to deal with his fears.”


Oh no, there's plenty more. Great article about why we choose the "unavailable lover".  For men and women. - Pat Novak


http://life.salon.com/2011/12/09/i_keep_chasing_unavailable_women/

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Trust Your Gut to Pick Your Partner

Trust Your Gut to Pick Your Partner | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

If I allowed my "picker" to do my choosing, I'd always go for the "Jason Mamoa" type. What about you?


Thank you Patti Stanger for helping us understand the power of  our "picker" .


This article explains further how wrong your picker can be, with great advice on alternatives. -Pat Novak


 My Grandpa was married four times. My Dad was married five times. I've been divorced once. I come from a long line of Broken Pickers.


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/todd-sawyer/trust-your-gut-to-pick-yo_b_1130912.html?ref=mostpopular

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» 20 Ways to Amp Up The Love (Boost Oxytocin Naturally) In Your Couple Relationship - Neuroscience and Relationships

» 20 Ways to Amp Up The Love (Boost Oxytocin Naturally) In Your Couple Relationship - Neuroscience and Relationships | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

The latest findings in neuroscience place love and healthy relationships at the center of what optimizes our health, physically and emotionally, and the quality of our lives in general.

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Licia Freeman's curator insight, November 7, 2013 9:33 AM

Get that oxytocin going. It keeps you attached

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Real Love or a Fantasy Bond? The Appeal of the 'Twilight' Saga

Real Love or a Fantasy Bond? The Appeal of the 'Twilight' Saga | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
The love depicted in "Twilight" is a figment of fantasy -- a co-dependent, hungry union in which two people expect to be mutually rescued and bound for eternity.


I'm sorry, but didn't you just describe "true love" ?  


"A hungry union in which two people expect to be mutually rescued and bound for eternity?"


Is there something I'm missing? Oh yeah, the co-dependency part.

Ok, we know this is fantasy, but the teenage girl ( and boy ) in all of us, is pulled in by this perfect; all-consuming love.


So, besides Rob Pattinson's looks and Taylor Lautner's body, this article explains what else is going on.  - Pat Novak


(We love comments!)


http://huff.to/sDW5KS


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4 Keys to a Heart-to-Heart Relationship

4 Keys to a Heart-to-Heart Relationship | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

This article is not about "changing" your partner.


It's about what it takes to really connect with the person you're sharing your life with. -Pat Novak


" Over the years, we've developed several keys that we have found work well in building a heart-to-heart relationship."

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The 7-Step Guide to Ruining Your Relationship

The 7-Step Guide to Ruining Your Relationship | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Here is a rather cheeky, yet direct article about how you go about ruining a relationship.


In general, this is how most people enter into relatonships, to try and heal their "ego wounds".


You know, your emotional wounds from childhood. Unfortunately, that is why most people do enter relationships. This isn't conscious of course, which is why the need to create "conscious' relationships.


If you have questions, please comment! =Pat Novak


"Congratulations! You have succeeded in creating a terrible relationship! Now you can miserably and righteously leave your partner and do the whole thing again!"


Read more:Margaret Paul, Ph.D.: The 7-Step Guide to Ruining Your Relationship http://huff.to/AhOYPC

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How Do Men & Women Share Differently Online? [Infographic]

How Do Men & Women Share Differently Online? [Infographic] | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

The infographic that identifies the patterns in how men and women are sharing differently online.


Check out the infographic below and let us know what you think. Do your online behaviors seem to fit with those of your sex? Were you surprised by any of Proust’s findings?


Via Jonha Richman, PAT NOVAK
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The Four Faces of Intimacy

The Four Faces of Intimacy | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
For me, true intimacy is the feeling of knowing someone and being known.


Not just statistics and facts, but a deep "knowing". Real intimacy must involve feelings. We can connect with out minds and connect with our bodies. But only through feelings, do we reach that level of depth and vulnerability, which is "intimacy".


This article dicusses four key types of intimacy and the fears which may emerge. - Pat Novak


"What does intimacy mean to you? Sexual intimacy is probably the most stereotypical and most familiar definition of the word in modern society. But most people want more than just the act of sex -- they want some depth."
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How to Create a Conscious Relationship: 7 Principles, 7 Practices

How to Create a Conscious Relationship: 7 Principles, 7 Practices | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

An article from relationship pioneers Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks.


The next step in relationship evolution, is to create a "conscious relationship". Until you take that step, your relationships are more about trying to heal ego wounds and co-dependancy, than real love.


One of the biggest steps, is the willingness to take 100% responsibilty in the relationship. Which means, no one gets to take the victim position. A lot harder to do in real -life than in theory. - Pat Novak


"Early in our relationship, we set some big intentions: We wanted to get free of the old patterns that had plagued us in pastEarly in our relationship, we set some big intentions: We wanted to get free of the old patterns that had plagued us in past relationships, such as criticism, blame and secret-keeping."

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Dating for Introverts

Dating for Introverts | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Step one to meeting someone you like: stop hiding.


"How a shy single woman learned to take control of her dating destiny."

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Understanding Men

Understanding Men | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
We as a society have unconsciously alienated men from women by our emasculating behavior, comments and jokes. Discover how to bond with the opposite sex rather than repel them.


Understanding Men | Care2 Healthy Living http://bit.ly/rv4oKI

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Are You a People Pleaser?

Are You a People Pleaser? | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Do you feel insecure? Do you have trouble making decisions until you find out what everyone else wants? Do you have an out of control schedule that accommodates everyone but you? Is it hard for you to say “no”? Are you exhausted trying to make everyone happy? If so you might be suffering from the People Pleasing Syndrome.


Read more: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/are-you-a-people-pleaser.html#ixzz1gm1PtAY0

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Which 'Love Language' Suits You? And Your Partner?

Which 'Love Language' Suits You? And Your Partner? | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Over the weekend, I read Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages, and I found it fascinating. 


The Five Love Languages argues that people express love in different ways, and people feel loved in different ways.


Great review of a very important read. 


The Happiness Project: Which 'Love Language' Suits You? And Your Partner? http://bit.ly/vXCknl

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Why Men and Women Can't Be Friends

For Fun: Answering the age old question, Young Independent Filmmakers Jesse Budd and Patrick Romero set out to simply prove a point.

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How Emotionally Mature are You in Love?

How Emotionally Mature are You in Love? | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

I have clients who are so smart, but not when it comes to relationships. They intellectually get what they need to do, but emotionally, it's a whole other story!


It's because we do a lot of our relating from our " emotional self ", which usually got stunted or shamed, in early childhood. This article explains the difference. -Pat Novak  


Have you ever noticed yourself or others, when you are in conflict, how childish the words and body language is?

“You always do that….!” “You don’t love me…..!” “I hate you…..!” “You never let me do anything I want to do….!”


Source: OM Times Magazine (http://s.tt/13t5m)



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Study shows men don't think about sex as often as thought

Study shows men don't think about sex as often as thought | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
A new study debunks notion that males focus on the subject far more often than females do.


Either that or they lied. :)

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What Your Fear of Loneliness Is Really About

What Your Fear of Loneliness Is Really About | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

As the Holidays continue, some of us begin to feel the pangs of loneliness. We want that someone "special" to share our lives with, but what are we really feeling ?


The true cause of loneliness is something called " self-abandonment". When you aren't there for yourself (physically, emotionally, spiritually) you're always looking for someone else to take care of you. To "fix" whatever you feel is wrong with you.


The practice of judging yourself is like breaking your own heart. No wonder you're trying to find someone who will treat you better than you treat yourself. Guess what? It doesn't work that way. Great article about what loneliness really is. - Pat Novak


"The only time we actually feel alone is when we abandon ourselves. Being lonely is a fact of life. It can occur within a relationship or without."


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/margaret-paul-phd/fear-of-being-alone_b_1002364.html?ref=conscious-relationships

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our heartbreak...

our heartbreak... | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
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Why You're Not Married

Why You're Not Married | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Ok ladies, take a deep breath because this writer hits hard and accurate. The main reasons why you're not married. She gives six reasons in all, and I have to admit, she makes a lot of sense.( btw, I do counseling on this very subject)  - Pat Novak


1.) " You're a Bitch. Here's what I mean by bitch. I mean you're angry. You probably don't think you're angry. You think you're super smart, or if you've been to a lot of therapy, that you're setting boundaries. But the truth is you're pissed. At your mom. At the military-industrial complex. At Sarah Palin. And it's scaring men off."


Shall we continue?...



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Just Beautiful

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Beauty and the Beast: Why Men are 'Funnier' Than Women

Beauty and the Beast: Why Men are 'Funnier' Than Women | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Okay, the title is totally misleading. My apologies.
I don’t actually think that men are funnier than women at all.


It’s particularly interesting that men would be given more credit for being funny even though they tend to rely more heavily on categories of jokes that aren’t considered funnier than average.


Love Louis C. K. ! But can a woman really get away with the same kind of self-denigrating humor? - Pat Novak


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How to stay together forever

How to stay together forever | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

I  just wanted to show the picture of this adorable baby! Actually, this article has some really great sound relationship tips.  


1.) The Importance of Communication. Vital key, as men and women do commnuicate differently. Women need to have their feelings acknowledged.

Men need to feel what they "do" is appreciated.


Other inportant keys are keeping the sex alive and trust. This article actually goes more in depth on the whole psychology behind relationships, and it is solid advice. -Pat Novak



"How to stay together forever... "

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