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Everything You Need to Know About Breasts

Everything You Need to Know About Breasts | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Did breasts evolve for lactation or to enhance sex appeal? A new book explores why they matter.


Breast milk today is not just filled with nutritional substances but it’s filled with these immune system-boosting substances that scientists are just beginning to understand.


It’s an amazing, complex, highly evolved substance. It’s the only food on the planet that’s really meant to be eaten by humans.


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9 Good Signs That You’re In The Right Relationship

9 Good Signs That You’re In The Right Relationship | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

This is one of the most common questions our coaching clients ask us. And after Angel and I listen to the specifics of their situation, we often toss a question back at them to further clarify their thoughts and expectations. For instance:

 

“What do you think a “right relationship” should provide for the people in it?”

 

Although the answer here is obviously subjective, in all relationships, romantic and platonic alike, there are some clear signs that things are going well.  So today, let’s take a look at some signs you’re in the “right relationship,” and corresponding tips that could potentially help you make a “wrong relationship” right:

 Read More: http://www.trueactivist.com/9-good-signs-that-youre-in-the-right-relationship/

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When Pain Masquerades as 'Crazy' In Relationships -

When Pain Masquerades as 'Crazy' In Relationships - | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Even those closest to us can act in confusing and painful ways. Lisa Brookes Kift offers some insight on what might really be going on.

 

“Crazy” relationship behavior might not be what you think.  If you really care about your partner but are being put off by his/her behavior, consider the possibility there’s more there than meets the eye. 

 

I don’t like using the word “crazy” when it comes to labeling people’s behavior but many use the term to describe when they are with someone who is acting in ways they don’t understand.  It can be easy to leap to a negative conclusion when you experience boundary violations, desperation or intense need.  


Sometimes pain can masquerade as crazy and if you care about your partner and have the inclination to dig deeper, consider what this might really be about. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/hlg-pain-masquerades-crazy-relationships/#sthash.Q2WuS7iX.dpuf

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10 Ways To Spot A Player

10 Ways To Spot A Player | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"I've been floating around to different blogs tagged with ‘dating’ and ‘relationships’ to see what’s going on in the world. Unfortunately, I’ve seen a lot of hurt and disappointment that could’ve been avoided, had warning signs been recognized.

 

Too many women get used and hurt by men who are playing with their feelings in order to get what they want, but in reality actually have no intention of commitment or building a relationship together. Do some women do this too? Sure, but in a more “traditional” sense, men are more notorious for saying all the right things they don’t really mean in order to get what they want – so that’s who we’ll focus on here."

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How to Stop Being Passive Aggressive in 5 Relatively Simple Steps

How to Stop Being Passive Aggressive in 5 Relatively Simple Steps | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

 

"There are many ways we can respond to conflict. We can face it head on and say what we feel, or we can skirt the issue and hold our feelings in. "

 

My go-to reaction for most of my life was to keep my real feelings on the inside. It didn’t work so well. I inevitably revealed how I really felt in some under-handed way, like sarcasm, rolling my eyes, or simply saying, Nooo, of course nothing’s wrong, I’m fine in a tone that made it pretty clear nothing was right. Sounds pretty nasty, right? 

 

Jody E. Long, Nicholas J.Long, and Signe Whitson have studied passive aggression. In their 2008 book The Angry Smile: The Psychology of Passive-Aggressive Behavior in Families, Schools, and Workplaces, they define it as a deliberate and masked way of expressing covert feelings of anger. NYU Medical Center defines a passive-aggressive individual as someone who “may appear to comply or act appropriately, but actually behaves negatively and passively resists.”

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The Blessing of a Broken Heart: How Pain Can Lead to Healing

The Blessing of a Broken Heart: How Pain Can Lead to Healing | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
If we take it upon ourselves to see what inside of us they are pointing toward, all grievances become opportunities for healing and loving ourselves.

 

“Never fear shadows. They simply mean there’s a light shining somewhere nearby.” ~Ruth E. Renkel

 

My last break-up was on April 16th, 2012.

I remember the date because on the evening of April 17th, as I sat with a blotchy red face and tears in my eyes, my dad told me I soon would remember that day and be glad I was no longer sad. “Men are like buses,” he said. “If one leaves you behind, rest assured another will come.”

I found his support very touching, but it did little to console me. If this guy was a bus, it was the bus I wanted to be on, period. That day, on my dad’s couch for the second night in a row, I slept a total of an hour and cried for about eight.

 

I found the break-up pretty surprising and abrupt. After not more than a strange feeling, and a day during which I sensed an uncomfortable distance, I said to my then boyfriend, “I feel that you might not be in love with me,” to which he responded, “Maybe.”

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A relationship break-up can be a real shock to your belief system  and self-image, 

 

Its even harder when we have abandoned ourselves.during the relationship.

 

One of the biggest lessons I learned from a break-up, was the importance of  Self Care.

 

I had been programmed to take care of others and not myself.

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3 Relationship Red Flags That Should Send You Running

3 Relationship Red Flags That Should Send You Running | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

You've found your soul mate, you've been together for a while, and you feel like you're ready to take it to the next level. Maybe even marriage -- eek! Is he the prefect life-long partner for you? Wouldn't we all love a crystal ball to show us exactly what to expect from a man in the future. I've known women who fretted over doubts all the way up to the altar who went on to enjoy long, fulfilling marriages. And I've known women who were 100 percent sure of their man only to find out they'd ignored some pretty important red flags along the way.


The thing is, sometimes a red flag looks a little, well, gray. And chances are there might be something about your man that makes you wonder a little. But you kind of want to just give him a pass because you don't want to be hypercritical -- and because you really love him, dammit! Sometimes those little things can turn into a big deal later on. Here are 3 red flags you're better off facing right now, before you let things go any further.

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A Common Way A Wonderful Relationship Can Fall Apart

A Common Way A Wonderful Relationship Can Fall Apart | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Astrid, divorced and in her late 40s, was having her first Skype session with me. She was obviously very anxious as she told me the story of her three-year relationship.

 

"Douglas lives in Los Angeles and I live in New York. We met through mutual friends and fell in love. Even though we live on opposites coasts, we've managed to spend a lot of time together, since we both travel for work. Recently, my company agreed that I can work from L.A., and I've been planning on moving in with Douglas. But since I told him, our relationship has been in turmoil. I don't understand what's happening. Why is he pulling back? I thought he'd be so happy to have me there."

I had a feeling about why Douglas was pulling back, but I needed to experience Astrid and Douglas together to be sure. I asked Astrid to see if Douglas would join us in a Skype session. He agreed.

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How to Detect Lies - Signs of Deception

How to Detect Lies - Signs of Deception | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Lie detector expert and former federal law enforcement investigator Janine Driver tells us the subtle ways to spot deception.

 

1. He Sounds a Little Funny


Liars are sometimes called "fast talkers," but the speed of their speech varies as much as an honest person's within a conversation. Yet liars will alter their speech rates within a single sentence. Typically a liar might begin to speak slowly, because he's trying to figure out his lie—but once it comes into his head, he tries to spit it out as fast as possible. 

Pace isn't the only speech pattern that can trip up a deceiver. Research has shown that a person's vocal tone will waiver from baseline in up to 95 percent of all deceptive statements. If your partner's baritone is on the rise, you may be facing a fib.

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The Science Of “Happily Ever After”: 3 Things That Keep Love Alive

The Science Of “Happily Ever After”: 3 Things That Keep Love Alive | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"As Daniel Jones, author of Love Illuminated, explains: we spend youth asking “How do I find love?” and midlife asking “How do I get it back?”

Anyone in a relationship or who plans on being in one needs to know how to keep love alive over the long term.

 

But how do you learn the secret to this?

Everyone is happy to explain “how they met” but few give the details on “how they stayed together.”

 

So let’s look at what science has to say.


Read more: http://www.businessinsider.com/the-science-of-happily-ever-after-3-things-that-keep-love-alive-2014-4

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10 Things Men Need To Start Doing To Become Gentlemen Again

10 Things Men Need To Start Doing To Become Gentlemen Again | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"How to be a gentleman in the 21st century, minus any creepy, unintended sexism."

 

The world works in funny ways. I blame it on mankind’s zealous oversimplification of complex problems. When we discover that a part of our culture is flawed, if we find that the way things are is not ideal, we label it as wrong, making a 180-degree turn in the opposite direction.

 

Take, for example, the concept of being a gentleman, being chivalrous and whatnot. It’s no secret that many individuals – women and men included – feel that any blatant differentiation between men and women constitutes as sexist. For good reason, many people (hopefully, soon to be all) believe that men and women should be treated equally. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/10-things-men-need-to-start-doing-to-become-gentlemen-again-grgs/#sthash.jsIqWnEJ.dpuf

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Guys, if you want to be successful in meeting a Filipina, then read this article. It is a perfect example of how a Pilipina likes to be treated.

Follow these steps and remember to dress the part and you won't be lonely for long!

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The Secret Life of Women: How Men Can Finally Understand Female Emotions -

The Secret Life of Women: How Men Can Finally Understand Female Emotions - | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Lion Goodman discovers the key o understanding how women communicate and how men can speak their language.

 

I was talking with my friend and colleague, John, about my relationship, and its challenges. I smiled and said, “Women’s emotional reactions have baffled men forever.”


With his typical wise and cosmic perspective, he smiled, and asked, “Would you like to understand feminine emotion?” What? Someone who actually understands women’s emotions? And can explain them? I said. “Lay it on me, Bro!”

A few minutes into his discourse, I stopped him to get a tape recorder. I knew I had to share this information with other men. We really need to learn about this major difference between men and women. It will save us SO much trouble. If it enlightens you, please share it with all the men you know. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/finally-insight-womens-emotions-lal/#sthash.6380IX35.dpuf

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7 Things Men Really Really Want In A Relationship

7 Things Men Really Really Want In A Relationship | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"Open any beauty magazine and you'll see article upon article about what women want in relationships and how to get that. But there's rarely a space for men to express their relationship needs. Thanks to MindBodyGreen for creating that space. Here are 7 things that men really want in a relationship."

 

 

1. To feel like your hero

 

We don’t want to be your Clark Kent. We want to be your Superman. We want you to see us as leaping tall buildings in a single bound and catching bullets. We want to carry you in our arms and show you the world. Or at least feel that way. And I know it’s our job to get there, but nothing gives us more strength than a woman who creates a space that makes us feel invincible. If you make us feel invincible, we’ll make you feel like you’re the most beautiful creature on this planet.

 

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Is This Habit Keeping You Single?

Is This Habit Keeping You Single? | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Tired of waiting? Tired of affirmations, positive thinking, blind dates, and online dating?


 "Everyone has something challenging they are facing. Your acceptance of your current situation with grace and patience opens you to love and support."

 

I know it is easy to lose faith when you have just broken up with another disappointing lover. I realize that it is easy to panic when 40 is approaching and you want a baby worse than anything. Of course it feels unfair when you think someone tossed you into the desert without your ok. Distant memories of fruitful times of abundance may torture you and make you want to give up.

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Ready to Start Dating Again? 6 Signs You Are

Ready to Start Dating Again? 6 Signs You Are | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
"Starting to date again after a breakup is a nerve-wracking experience. What if you get rejected? What if you end up comparing someone new to your ex and it makes you sad? What if your first date as a singleton is a bust? What if… your date is so awkward already that it actually gets better when you accidentally set your hair extensions on fire? (Okay, that last one was stolen from the Anna Farris comedy What’s Your Number?, but hey, it could happen.) It might take some time, but one day you’ll be ready to date again. Here are some signs that it’s a healthy time to start."
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I think a lot of singles are more ready to start dating again than they think.

It is healthy to be out and about socially and not stuck inside your apartment or something.

Sometimes, meeting other singles and dating or even trying to get a date can teach us a lot and go along way to our own personal development. Sometimes, even if we miss someone, dating others is a great way to realize that there are other fish in the sea!

 

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How to Lose a Guy…Forever

How to Lose a Guy…Forever | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Raymond Bechard discusses the trend of current relationships and the top 15 reasons why they just won't work out.

 

 I was talking to a guy installing carpet in a friend’s home the other day. For some reason, he asked my advice on whether or not he should have a surprise birthday party for his girlfriend. “She’s hitting the big 4-0, so I don’t know if she wants to celebrate it or ignore it,” he said. That made sense, some people would rather not draw attention to birthdays ending in zeros. So I asked him a simple question, “Is she a positive person? You know, does she usually look on the bright side of things?”

 

His face immediately lit up as he reached for his phone. “Take a look at her face and you’ll know.” He held up the phone with the beaming photo of his girlfriend, who looked no more than 27, tops. As he showed me her picture, he said the five best words I have ever heard to describe a relationship that is working – at least from a man’s perspective, “She makes every day better.” - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/sex-relationships/how-to-lose-a-guy-forever/#sthash.1irZJXtw.dpuf

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10 Signs You’re With The Person You Should Marry

10 Signs You’re With The Person You Should Marry | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"We all know it's common to "kiss a lot of frogs" before finding the right partner. The good news? It's all worth it, because once you do find your match everything else begins to fall into place. Last year, I was insecure about having a serious boyfriend when I didn't have full-time employment. I thought I had nothing to offer without a cool job, but the man I adore ended up helping me get to where I need to be career-wise, and the individual you're meant to end up with will do the same and more. You may not immediately know that your significant other is going to be your spouse someday, but here are some signs that you two are bound for life."

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Too Trusting? 10 Warning Signs

Too Trusting? 10 Warning Signs | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Here are my 10 warning signs that you may be too trusting. Are you trusting too much? Learn more how to have better relationships.

 

You feel like a complete idiot when it happens.

At first there’s complete shock and disbelief.

Then when reality sinks in, you want to punch somebody’s lights out.

“How could I have been so stupid?” “Why didn’t I see it coming?” “I can’t believe she would do that to me.”

We’ve all been there. We’ve trusted someone we care about — a lover, a spouse, a friend, even our kids — and they blindside us with lies, deception, and manipulation. The first time it happens, it’s shocking and deeply painful. The person we love, the person we thought we knew and could depend on, has pulled the rug out from underneath us and betrayed our trust.

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10 Signs Your Boyfriend is a Jerk

10 Signs Your Boyfriend is a Jerk | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
It's time for a cold, hard dose of reality.

 

They say nice guys finish last and—for most of us—that’s probably true, considering the not-so-nice ones we’ll often date before meeting Mr. Right. In fact, for reasons that are largely intangible, even the most intelligent, self-possessed women have fallen for classic jerks at some point.

In retrospect, most of us are able to understand that these guys weren’t right for us, but getting to that place probably wasn’t easy. It’s because of that we decided to put together a primer to help other women gauge whether the guys they’re dating right now are good ones, or total a-holes. Read on, dear friends, for 10 signs your boyfriend is an unequivocal jerk.



Read more: http://www.stylecaster.com/signs-your-boyfriend-is-a-jerk/#ixzz30omMWvdo

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How to Court a Good Man: What to Do---and What Not to Do -

How to Court a Good Man: What to Do---and What Not to Do - | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
A reader said there were no good guides to courting a good man. So Thomas Fiffer wrote one.

 

A good man, as the saying goes, is hard to find. Well, not really. There are millions of good men out there. Millions. Good men whose intentions are honorable. Good men whose behavior towards women is kind and respectful. Good men who appreciate love and value commitment. Good men who hew to a code of morality and decent conduct in their personal and professional lives. Good men who don’t need to be bad boys to prove themselves. And these good men are not hiding. They’re everywhere, in plain sight. The young cashier at the supermarket who asks how your day is going. The guy jogging along the bike path who smiles as you pass by. The weary commuter coming home on the late evening train with a bunch of flowers on the empty seat next to him. Some of these good men are already taken. But many are not. Many are available and looking for a good partner—a person who shares their values, appreciates their efforts, and treats them with respect. Recently, a reader wrote in to The Good Men Project and asked if we could provide her with a guide to how to court a good man. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/how-to-court-a-good-man-5-dos-and-5-donts-fiff/#sthash.fAp9QlJJ.dpuf

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9 Ways We Set Ourselves Up To Be Controlled in Relationship

9 Ways We Set Ourselves Up To Be Controlled in Relationship | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Do you often feel like others are controlling? Or do you feel like the pressures of life are too much? Do you give your power away to others and feel helpless?

If so, this post will shed light on how you might be setting yourself up to feel controlled by others and life circumstances. Taking your power back can change everything!

Most of us are not conscious of how we give our power away. And that’s why articles like this one are so important.

 
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The One: 10 Traits Your Ideal Soul Mate Should Have

The One: 10 Traits Your Ideal Soul Mate Should Have | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"Finding your soul mate is basically finding that one person (arguably one of several) who has the right traits – traits that are relevant to you as an individual. In other words: You have to find a person whom you can put up with and who, more importantly, can put up with you,"


Plus all that lovey-dovey stuff, of course. If love isn’t much more than the way that you perceive a person, then you need to find someone who you can perceive as being amazing for as long as you live. Just as importantly, you need to find a person who can put up with all of your sh*t.

Because, let’s be honest, we all have a lot of sh*t that our soul mates will need to put up with. Here are 10 traits that your soul mates should have and that, ipso facto, you should have in his or her eyes:

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7 Deadly Mistakes Lonely Men Make

7 Deadly Mistakes Lonely Men Make | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"Why some guys can never find or keep a girlfriend"

 

Men who cannot find or keep girlfriends categorically make seven mistakes regarding women. 


No.6 : Failure to Understand What She Is Not

 

A girlfriend is not: a hostage, a secretary, a mother, a maid, your child, or an escort.  You cannot treat them like any of those things and if you do, you will not have them for long.

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10 Things Women Should Stop Accepting

10 Things Women Should Stop Accepting | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"I'd like to start this off by saying that I believe it is 100% the responsibility of an individual to control their own actions. If a man is going to be a gentleman, he should be a gentleman towards everyone – not just a certain type or class of people. It is dependent on who he is, not who they are."

 

That being said, today’s dating world is tricky. People talk about courtship and romance as if it is some fabled tale of unicorns and leprechauns. The truth is, these things are alive and well, and we find them if we stop settling for less than we deserve, and have the discipline to be patient and only accept the love and respect we should receive.

 

If women accept less, then (some) men will continue to do less. Here are a few suggestions to help bring back chivalry and romance.

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11 Surprising Things You Never Knew About Flirting

11 Surprising Things You Never Knew About Flirting | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
There's definitely an art to flirting—and we have the science to back it up.

 

News flash: Flirting works. In fact, studies suggest that flirting skills could be even more important than looks in helping you attract a partner. And experts agree: 


"It's not the most physically appealing people who get approached, but the ones who signal their availability and confidence through basic flirting techniques like eye contact and smiles," says Monica Moore, M.D. 

If you want to master the game, here's a good place to begin: Read up on these interesting facts about flirting:

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What the Hell IS 'Conscious Uncoupling,' Anyway?

What the Hell IS 'Conscious Uncoupling,' Anyway? | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

 

By Sonya Rhodes, PhD., and Susan Schneider


"Conscious uncoupling." The term sounds so ridiculous: New Age-y, pretentious, righteous -- I could go on and on. Although I've worked as a couples therapist for eons, I have to admit that I never heard of "conscious uncoupling" before Gwyneth Paltrow used it to describe what she and Chris Martin have been up to lately. As I see it, the term means that couples confront their irreconcilable differences by looking into themselves instead of blaming their partners. Each partner takes a reflective, conscious stance toward what role he or she has played in the dissolution of the couple. This is actually a pretty radical point of view when you consider that when nearly all people talk about their divorces, there's always some element of blaming their partner.

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