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When You Trust and He Doesn’t

When You Trust and He Doesn’t | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
When it comes to trusting someone fully, conventional wisdom tells us that we shouldn’t let a person in our inner circle until they have proven themselves to be trustworthy. But are we missing a critical element here?


Advertising executive and television host, Donny Deutsch, talks about the “the price of entry” in relationships–he is specifically talking about romantic relationships. But I think the idea applies to all relationships.


Read more: http://thecurrentconscience.com/blog/2012/03

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7 Clues The Man You Love Is A Bad-Ass Wizard.

7 Clues The Man You Love Is A Bad-Ass Wizard. | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Magical people tend to love each other.
So he may have just told you straight-up, “Baby, I’m a wizard.” And if he neglected to speak up about it, then the altar laden with sigils and the ever-burning incense in the corner of his room plus all those NLP tricks he pulled on your first date (hey, they worked! he got himself into your bed, didn’t he?) and also the piles of books by Castaneda and Crowley on his shelves were probably some damn easy wizardly tip-offs.
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Why women leave men they love - What every man needs to know

Why women leave men they love - What every man needs to know | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"As a marriage counsellor, working with men and women in relationship crisis, I help clients navigate numerous marriage counseling issues. While many situations are complex, there’s one profoundly simple truth that men need to know. It’s this – Women leave men they love."

 

They feel terrible about it. It tears the heart out of them. But they do it. They rally their courage and their resources and they leave. Women leave men with whom they have children, homes and lives. Women leave for many reasons, but there’s one reason in particular that haunts me, one that I want men to understand:

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5 Ways to Detect Toxic People.

5 Ways to Detect Toxic People. | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
When you finally start to open up and let people in how do you protect yourself from people that aren’t healthy for you?


Since the skills of open-heartedness, feeling and connection aren’t nearly as practiced as putting up walls there is a greater possibility that toxic people make their way into your life. Being open-hearted requires practice and a new skill set.

When you start to exude the yoga glow people are attracted to you. I wouldn’t go so far as to say yogis turn into gods or goddeses but for people who take on a serious practice of getting rid of their walls, self awareness, connection and spirituality start to radiate a quality of being that attracts others to their light.

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On co-dependency in relationships (and how to overcome it)

On co-dependency in relationships (and how to overcome it) | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Co-dependency might best be described as a love addiction. You may be in a great, loving relationship, but when co-dependency creeps in, you start needing each other for all the wrong reasons. These relationships can grow to be very destructive and emotionally exhausting. You end up losing yourself and your sense of self-worth. But it's all good: there are ways to break the destructive cycle and still keep your love in tact. Here are some common character traits of a co-dependent, and guidelines
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Help for the Shy Guy — Step 1: Understand the Nature of Your Shyness

Help for the Shy Guy — Step 1: Understand the Nature of Your Shyness | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

There's a girl in your political science class that you’re attracted to. You’d like to get to know her better, but the thought of even saying hello makes you sick to your stomach.

You’re at the grocery store and you see a colleague from work pushing a cart with his kids. Instead of saying hi and taking part in some small talk, you turn your cart the other direction and do what you can to avoid him.

You’re new in town and would like to make some friends. There’s a men’s group at your church that you go to, but you never come early and you leave as soon as it’s over so you can avoid having to engage the guys in conversation.

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How to overcome shyness.

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Five Keys to the Male Psyche

Five Keys to the Male Psyche | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
How many times have you felt upset by something your male partner said or didn't say, did or didn't do and then found yourself concluding that whatever the issue it results from his very maleness, from the sheer fact that he is a man, that he simply "can't help it." Certain notes are sounded again and again when women talk about trouble with their men: "But you know, that's how men are" or, "He's a man after all, its not his fault" or, "MEN!" Typically the women listening nod and laugh, bursting with agreement. These and other platitudes are recited as a way to minimize their distress and frustration. However, this tendency to dismiss males as genetically deficient reinforces for them the idea that it is not safe to fully be themselves with their female partners.
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How to Quit Porn

How to Quit Porn | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

It’s been interesting to watch this series unfold this week. Though I knew it would be controversial, I wasn’t sure what to expect and how much interest there would actually be in the topic.

As it happened, the posts received massive amounts of traffic. And while there was definitely vocal opposition to the arguments I laid out, these were fewer in number than I expected. This may be partly chalked up to the fact that AoM’s readership tends to skew more traditional and religious (even though we actively welcome men from all backgrounds) – guys who are likely more interested in this topic than the general population. But I also have to think that there are tons of men – conservative and liberal alike — that aren’t completely happy with the role of porn in their lives, for whatever reason. I’ve long felt that there are a bunch of things in our culture towards which the media relentlessly presents a viewpoint that supposedly everyone shares, and people don’t feel comfortable publicly admitting that it just isn’t working that way in their own personal lives. I think the idea of porn use as harmless and casual is one of those things.


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3 Simple Explanations For Why You're Still Single

3 Simple Explanations For Why You're Still Single | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Mark Manson offers up some refreshingly simple solutions for why you can't seem to find a healthy relationship.

 

Nobody wins on Valentine’s Day. The holiday puts everyone in an awkward situation.

 

If you’re not seeing anybody, then it’s an incessant and unnecessary reminder of your solitude. If you are seeing someone, but aren’t serious yet, then you have this awkward, “Should I say something? Should I not?” situation where you’re afraid that no matter what you do, it’ll give the wrong impression. And if you are in a relationship, then there’s all sorts of heightened expectations for chocolate and dinners and candles and violins and puppies and other crap, all of which will at best come across as forced and at worst be entirely disingenuous.

 

Sorry, but romance is kind of like a fart: if you have to force it then it’s going to be shitty. Just let it, err… come out. With that said, amidst the seas of flowers and ponies, I do make a point to write some dating advice on Valentine’s Day each year. It’s usually pretty brutal dating advice as well. Call it my little tradition. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/3-simple-explanations-for-why-youre-still-single-jgc/#sthash.ERD78AJd.dpuf

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Pretty much sums it up Guys!

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7 Things Men Want In A Relationship

7 Things Men Want In A Relationship | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Jordan Gray says that there are seven simple things that basically all men crave in an intimate relationship.

 

Men are often reluctant to talk about their needs in intimate relationships.

  

Whether social conditioning or an inability to communicate our needs are to blame, men (who tend to be the less communicative partners in intimate relationships) are prone to silently suffering when their emotional needs aren’t being met by their partners.

 

Whether you are a man or a woman reading this article, this will give you greater clarity into yourself/partner and what your/their needs are in your intimate relationship.

 

Let’s put an end to the needless fighting due to miscommunication, the unnecessary sex-less nights, and the verbal shut-downs.

Read through these tips and I promise you’ll never see your relationship through the same lens again.

Here are seven things men want in a relationship...

 

- See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/7-things-men-want-in-a-relationship-jgc/#sthash.kZEaC04y.dpuf

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The One Trait To Look For In A Partner

The One Trait To Look For In A Partner | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
What's the one thing you should be looking for in a partner? Mark Manson has a pretty good idea, and it's not what you think…

 

There were a few comments yesterday from people about my post on how to date amazing women saying it was too extreme and that everyone has faults. Well, of course, everyone has faults. It’s impossible to find someone without some emotional baggage or insecurities. The real question is, what does that person do with it?

 

In the first two articles of this series, I pointed out how to notice emotionally manipulative behavior and how to avoid women who display it. These were women who had problems and baggage and used them as a weapon with the men they date. In this article, I will be talking about the traits that you want to actively look for in a relationship parter when deciding to date or commit to them. To give a hint, it’s looking for people who manage their personal flaws and baggage well. -

 

See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/the-one-trait-to-look-for-in-a-partner-hesaid/#sthash.PFVzLe5e.dpuf

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Ready to Start Dating Again? 6 Signs You Are

Ready to Start Dating Again? 6 Signs You Are | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
"Starting to date again after a breakup is a nerve-wracking experience. What if you get rejected? What if you end up comparing someone new to your ex and it makes you sad? What if your first date as a singleton is a bust? What if… your date is so awkward already that it actually gets better when you accidentally set your hair extensions on fire? (Okay, that last one was stolen from the Anna Farris comedy What’s Your Number?, but hey, it could happen.) It might take some time, but one day you’ll be ready to date again. Here are some signs that it’s a healthy time to start."
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I think a lot of singles are more ready to start dating again than they think.

It is healthy to be out and about socially and not stuck inside your apartment or something.

Sometimes, meeting other singles and dating or even trying to get a date can teach us a lot and go along way to our own personal development. Sometimes, even if we miss someone, dating others is a great way to realize that there are other fish in the sea!

 

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Ready to date again?

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How to Lose a Guy…Forever

How to Lose a Guy…Forever | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Raymond Bechard discusses the trend of current relationships and the top 15 reasons why they just won't work out.

 

 I was talking to a guy installing carpet in a friend’s home the other day. For some reason, he asked my advice on whether or not he should have a surprise birthday party for his girlfriend. “She’s hitting the big 4-0, so I don’t know if she wants to celebrate it or ignore it,” he said. That made sense, some people would rather not draw attention to birthdays ending in zeros. So I asked him a simple question, “Is she a positive person? You know, does she usually look on the bright side of things?”

 

His face immediately lit up as he reached for his phone. “Take a look at her face and you’ll know.” He held up the phone with the beaming photo of his girlfriend, who looked no more than 27, tops. As he showed me her picture, he said the five best words I have ever heard to describe a relationship that is working – at least from a man’s perspective, “She makes every day better.” - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/sex-relationships/how-to-lose-a-guy-forever/#sthash.1irZJXtw.dpuf

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10 Signs You’re With The Person You Should Marry

10 Signs You’re With The Person You Should Marry | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"We all know it's common to "kiss a lot of frogs" before finding the right partner. The good news? It's all worth it, because once you do find your match everything else begins to fall into place. Last year, I was insecure about having a serious boyfriend when I didn't have full-time employment. I thought I had nothing to offer without a cool job, but the man I adore ended up helping me get to where I need to be career-wise, and the individual you're meant to end up with will do the same and more. You may not immediately know that your significant other is going to be your spouse someday, but here are some signs that you two are bound for life."

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4 Habits that Signal Relationship Doom.

4 Habits that Signal Relationship Doom. | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
As someone who has long struggled with trying to be the “Valedictorian of Everything,” my ears pricked up when John Gottman was mentioned in one of my graduate counseling classes.

Gottman is famous for being able to predict with 98 percent accuracy—(98 percent! My birth control isn’t even that reliable!)—whether a couple will divorce or not.

In other words, he’s the Valedictorian of Couples’ Counseling.

I had to know more, not only because I wanted to be such a skilled clinician, but because I was curious whether my then relationship was doomed or not (it was, but that’s another story).

So, I dug into his research. And it turns out that after interviewing and following thousands of couples over many years, his results aren’t all that complicated (in theory).

He and his team discovered four conflict patterns that are strong predictors of the end of a relationship. “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” as they’re nicknamed include:
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Single In The City: 5 Signs You're In A One-Sided Relationship

Single In The City: 5 Signs You're In A One-Sided Relationship | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Every once in awhile, we find ourselves in a relationship that just doesn't seem to be working out, no matter how attentive, honest, or loving we are. This, my friends, is called a one-sided relationship. Many people don’t realize or accept that they’re in one, therefore they spend far too much time giving without receiving. By acknowledging the following signs, you'll be able to detect if, in fact, you’re getting the “short end of the stick.” If that’s the case, whack him with it and keep it moving!
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The 5 Love Languages

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We explore Gary Chapman’s best-selling book on the five ways most people “speak” love and show you how to connect more deeply with loved ones.

Kind words mean the world to you — getting a compliment will boost your mood all day — so you return the favor by heaping praise on your spouse at every turn. She will feel so loved! you think.
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The One: 10 Traits Your Ideal Soul Mate Should Have -

The One: 10 Traits Your Ideal Soul Mate Should Have - | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"Finding your soul mate is basically finding that one person (arguably one of several) who has the right traits – traits that are relevant to you as an individual. In other words: You have to find a person whom you can put up with and who, more importantly, can put up with you.


Plus all that lovey-dovey stuff, of course. If love isn’t much more than the way that you perceive a person, then you need to find someone who you can perceive as being amazing for as long as you live. Just as importantly, you need to find a person who can put up with all of your sh*t.


Because, let’s be honest, we all have a lot of sh*t that our soul mates will need to put up with. Here are 10 traits that your soul mates should have and that, ipso facto, you should have in his or her eyes:"

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that they will fight for you.... 

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Traits your partner should have.

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8 Things All Women Literally. Just. Must. Stop Doing

8 Things All Women Literally. Just. Must. Stop Doing | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
We’re often handed plenty of (very helpful) advice regarding how we should be living our lives: how to land a dream job, how to get over a failed relationship, how to make the most of our summer, etc.

But sometimes, it is important to take a step back and re-evaluate the habits that have been so deeply instilled in us that we hardly notice they’re there.

As women, we are taught many things from a very young age, and as we grow, we learn that not all of them provide for very healthy mentalities.

Maybe life isn’t about finding a husband and settling down; maybe childhood friends don’t always last a lifetime; maybe red lipstick can’t fix everything (or look good on everyone).

Just because some habits are widely and regularly accepted doesn’t always mean they’re good for us. To put it bluntly, there are plenty of things women need to stop doing:
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Ladies, is this article correct? #cluelessMale #jzoog

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12 Signs You're Too Passive Aggressive

12 Signs You're Too Passive Aggressive | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"Are you pushing people away?"
 

"How do you know if you are passive-aggressive? Aside from the obvious wake of people who won’t get close to you, there are certain things to think about to determine if your behavior is passive-aggressive according to a life coach."

 

Good news, people are not passive-aggressive by nature. It’s their communication and conflict management patterns that are, and these are learned. Luckily, those patterns can change with some insights, skills and relationship help. So, if this post helps you see your passive-aggressive behaviors, you will understand why others find it difficult to be around on you, trust you, and respect you as you would like to be trusted and respected. You confuse them. People move away from folks who purposefully confuse them — if they are smart.

 

Read more: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/12-signs-youre-too-passive-aggressive.html#ixzz3GjGirAmW

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3 Signs You Are In a Toxic Relationship - OMTimes

3 Signs You Are In a Toxic Relationship - OMTimes | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
The other day, I shared some signs that may indicate you’ve found true love with the man of your dreams. But what if you have deeper doubts? You know it’s not true love (yet), but you think there may be a chance for your love to grow, given time.

So let’s say your new romantic partner doesn’t seem to need a lot of change. You’re pretty happy with him the way he is. But you still have a few doubts brewing before you’re ready to say, “I do.”

Still, you’re seeing some red flags that are telling you this person is not only NOT “the one,” but that you might actually be in a toxic relationship.
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Debunking the New Age Myth of Completeness.

Debunking the New Age Myth of Completeness. | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Our incompleteness is the gravitational pull towards one another, as if we inherently know that there is something in the meeting that is more than us and has something to add to our completeness."

 

I would like to dispel the popular new age myth that we are complete and whole on our own, without each other.

 

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this message and the number of ways it’s been packaged by well-meaning teachers, writers, gurus, etc. And while a part of me wants to take comfort in it (an existential ice cream fix), more often than not it leaves me feeling bereft. Like the way you feel when your heart knows it’s heard a lie even though your mind argues for its veracity.

 

The truth is, I don’t believe we are actually whole and complete. And I mean this in the dualist sense; because that is the reality we are living in. I believe we came from wholeness and I believe we return to wholeness, but I do not believe we are whole in this manifestation.

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6 Qualities That Make You a Love Magnet -

6 Qualities That Make You a Love Magnet - | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Forget about ripped abs, bulging biceps, and a flat stomach, as well as a fat bank account, friends in high places, and your own private jet. These six personality traits power the pull of magnetic attraction.

 

It’s nearing the end of the day and the weekend’s approaching. Are you getting ready to go home to your lover and making fun weekend plans? Or are you reading advice articles and wondering why, despite your hours at the gym and in those continuing ed classes, that special someone you desire so dearly to date—and perhaps move in with or marry—never seems to materialize? Some people choose a single life, and embracing solitude doesn’t mean staying solitary or feeling unfulfilled. But for those who are seeking—and not finding—the perfect partner of your dreams, the list below offers some surprises on what people truly find irresistible. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/6-qualities-make-you-love-magnet-fiff/#sthash.EiNtD0YD.dpuf

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9 Good Signs That You’re In The Right Relationship

9 Good Signs That You’re In The Right Relationship | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

This is one of the most common questions our coaching clients ask us. And after Angel and I listen to the specifics of their situation, we often toss a question back at them to further clarify their thoughts and expectations. For instance:

 

“What do you think a “right relationship” should provide for the people in it?”

 

Although the answer here is obviously subjective, in all relationships, romantic and platonic alike, there are some clear signs that things are going well.  So today, let’s take a look at some signs you’re in the “right relationship,” and corresponding tips that could potentially help you make a “wrong relationship” right:

 Read More: http://www.trueactivist.com/9-good-signs-that-youre-in-the-right-relationship/

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When Pain Masquerades as 'Crazy' In Relationships -

When Pain Masquerades as 'Crazy' In Relationships - | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Even those closest to us can act in confusing and painful ways. Lisa Brookes Kift offers some insight on what might really be going on.

 

“Crazy” relationship behavior might not be what you think.  If you really care about your partner but are being put off by his/her behavior, consider the possibility there’s more there than meets the eye. 

 

I don’t like using the word “crazy” when it comes to labeling people’s behavior but many use the term to describe when they are with someone who is acting in ways they don’t understand.  It can be easy to leap to a negative conclusion when you experience boundary violations, desperation or intense need.  


Sometimes pain can masquerade as crazy and if you care about your partner and have the inclination to dig deeper, consider what this might really be about. - See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/hlg-pain-masquerades-crazy-relationships/#sthash.Q2WuS7iX.dpuf

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10 Ways To Spot A Player

10 Ways To Spot A Player | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"I've been floating around to different blogs tagged with ‘dating’ and ‘relationships’ to see what’s going on in the world. Unfortunately, I’ve seen a lot of hurt and disappointment that could’ve been avoided, had warning signs been recognized.

 

Too many women get used and hurt by men who are playing with their feelings in order to get what they want, but in reality actually have no intention of commitment or building a relationship together. Do some women do this too? Sure, but in a more “traditional” sense, men are more notorious for saying all the right things they don’t really mean in order to get what they want – so that’s who we’ll focus on here."

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