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7 Ways To Get Over Your Fear of Rejection And Achieve Lasting Love

7 Ways To Get Over Your Fear of Rejection And Achieve Lasting Love | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"For a relationship to be balanced, partners must be able to love and trust themselves first. They must feel they are needed and appreciated for support they give. If you have been let down in the past, the prospect of needing someone can be frightening. You may fear depending on your partner but may not be aware of the source of it. Achieving interdependence in a relationship is possible but takes time and intention. Love is uncertain. It's inherently risky because your partner could leave you at a moment's notice, betray you, or stop loving you."

 

Truth be told, an unconscious fear of rejection can cause you to sabotage a relationship or stay in a self-destructive one too long -- even though you may not be aware of it. Relationship expert Margaret Paul, Ph.D. writes "Since people attract each other at their common level of woundedness or their common level of health, an unavailable person's fear of commitment likely mirrors your fear of commitment." For many, a fear of intimacy may translate into testing a relationship by picking a partner who is wrong for you or playing it safe by distancing yourself.

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How Smart Women Let Masculine Traits Sabotage Love

How Smart Women Let Masculine Traits Sabotage Love | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Get in touch with your femininity to find lasting love! 
 

"If you’re a smart and successful woman, being professional, in charge, driven and strong are masculine traits that bring you much career success. You’ve been able to reach key goals and objectives and may even have been promoted to positions of greater responsibility. But, if the love you desire has eluded you, the recognition you receive for your hard work can’t make up for what’s most important in life – true love."

 

Letting your masculine energy be dominant makes it easier for your feminine energy to become dormant. Losing touch with your feminine energy keeps you from love because men find femininity attractive. If you want to be loved, cherished and respected, applying masculine traits to love is a losing proposition. There was a time when I unknowingly applied masculine traits to love. I was used to operating from my masculine energy Mondays through Fridays from 8:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. Even after work, this masculine side followed me on dates that didn’t blossom into any lasting relationships.

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Attracting Love.

Attracting Love. | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

What is the vibrational quality of your relationship?” asked my spiritual mentor.

 

"This stumped me. I had to think. I could feel what she was getting at… I knew it was lacking. You see, this is the work I am doing right now and it is based on the teachings of Abraham-Hicks."

 

They profess that we are all magnets attracting to us that which we emit—which means that if we are focusing on what we want, we are attracting that to us; conversely, if we are focusing on what we do not want, we are attracting that to us as well.

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3 Reasons Why You Need to Have Boundaries in Love

3 Reasons Why You Need to Have Boundaries in Love | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
There is no time for excuses when setting and working within your own set of personal boundaries in love. You have got to stick to the boundaries!

 

You have met Mr or Mrs Right.  For the first few weeks things are going swimmingly well.  Ok, there are a few little niggles but you let it slide.  Why?  Well, it’s early days and you do not want to ruin this perfect bubble of romantic bliss.  But as the weeks progress, you both settle into the relationship.  Those “little niggles” that you let slide have now become big niggles and they are really upsetting you.  Where did it all go wrong?  The answer is simple: You did not stick to your love boundaries.

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On co-dependency in relationships (and how to overcome it)

On co-dependency in relationships (and how to overcome it) | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Co-dependency might best be described as a love addiction. You may be in a great, loving relationship, but when co-dependency creeps in, you start needing each other for all the wrong reasons. These relationships can grow to be very destructive and emotionally exhausting. You end up losing yourself and your sense of self-worth. But it's all good: there are ways to break the destructive cycle and still keep your love in tact. Here are some common character traits of a co-dependent, and guidelines
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How to Detect Lies - Signs of Deception

How to Detect Lies - Signs of Deception | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Lie detector expert and former federal law enforcement investigator Janine Driver tells us the subtle ways to spot deception.

 

1. He Sounds a Little Funny


Liars are sometimes called "fast talkers," but the speed of their speech varies as much as an honest person's within a conversation. Yet liars will alter their speech rates within a single sentence. Typically a liar might begin to speak slowly, because he's trying to figure out his lie—but once it comes into his head, he tries to spit it out as fast as possible. 

Pace isn't the only speech pattern that can trip up a deceiver. Research has shown that a person's vocal tone will waiver from baseline in up to 95 percent of all deceptive statements. If your partner's baritone is on the rise, you may be facing a fib.

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What the Hell IS 'Conscious Uncoupling,' Anyway?

What the Hell IS 'Conscious Uncoupling,' Anyway? | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

 

By Sonya Rhodes, PhD., and Susan Schneider


"Conscious uncoupling." The term sounds so ridiculous: New Age-y, pretentious, righteous -- I could go on and on. Although I've worked as a couples therapist for eons, I have to admit that I never heard of "conscious uncoupling" before Gwyneth Paltrow used it to describe what she and Chris Martin have been up to lately. As I see it, the term means that couples confront their irreconcilable differences by looking into themselves instead of blaming their partners. Each partner takes a reflective, conscious stance toward what role he or she has played in the dissolution of the couple. This is actually a pretty radical point of view when you consider that when nearly all people talk about their divorces, there's always some element of blaming their partner.

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Living with & Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

Living with & Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. ~Mark Twain 

 

We are a psychologically sophisticated society. Emotional difficulties are now shared openly — not only by celebrities but by your average person. It’s not unusual for people to tell friends that they have an anxiety disorder, anger management problem, depression,panic attacks, phobias, eating disorder, substance abuse problem,OCD or ADD.

 

Yet, there is a widespread psychological disorder that most people know little or nothing about. Why? Because its symptoms are largely interpersonal, causing many to view it as a relationship issue, not a mental health one. Also, people shy away from the term because of its unflattering name: Borderline Personality Disorder.

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Flaash5's curator insight, November 16, 2013 1:48 PM

This is crazy I would never do it!!!

Deanna Dahlsad's curator insight, November 17, 2013 12:28 AM

I find this article more than a bit misleading as it does not identify how truly rare Borderline Personality Disorder is; that said, the article does break things down easily -- so easily, in fact, these are decent relationship tips for many relationships.

Creative Counseling's curator insight, June 9, 2015 8:17 PM

Overview of Borderline Personality Disorder

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7 Tips for Dating an Introvert

7 Tips for Dating an Introvert | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
If you’ve recently fallen for an introvert, perhaps you’re feeling a little uncertain about how to proceed. Read on for insight into the inner workings of your alluring introvert’s brain and a few tips on how to deal.

 

“Internet dating has leveled the playing field between extroverts and introverts,” says life coach and author Amy Bonaccorso. “In the past, an extrovert would be the life of the party and get the dates, but now, an introvert can impress someone with their excellent communication skills over email before meeting in person.”

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Vloasis's curator insight, September 25, 2013 5:27 AM

I want one of those sweater pajama turtleneck thingies!

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What Women Really Want from Men.

What Women Really Want from Men. | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

"Oh, ladies, are we really that complicated? Unfortunately, yes. (Sorry, gentlemen.)

 

Okay, I’m not actually sorry, but I do feel a ti-ny bit bad, so I’ve decided to help you out.

 

Here, spelled out—quite literally—is what women want.

 

We want to be wooed. 

 

We want romance and we want chivalry. We want you to want to open a door for us because you respect us and, well, like us.

 

Because we like ourselves, so we demand to be treated well.

Yet, here’s the catch…

 

We want to have our cake and eat it too."

 

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12 Subtle Signs You’re Being Manipulated By Your Lover

12 Subtle Signs You’re Being Manipulated By Your Lover | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Do you think you’re a victim of manipulation? Use these 12 subtle and yet shocking signs to find out if you’re being manipulated by your lover.

 

Sometimes, we end up manipulating our lovers to get things our way.

We may do it intentionally just for fun, in an obvious manner.


Or we may do it sneakily and subtly to get something without confronting out lovers.


And it’s all fun and games for a while, as long as both partners realize that one of them is being arm-twisted into giving in.


But where do you draw the line?

 


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Loving Links - Married dating guru's curator insight, August 25, 2013 8:44 AM

Well I guess if you are married you draw the line at being manipulated to leaving your partner.

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Improve Any Relationship by Challenging Your Perceptions

Improve Any Relationship by Challenging Your Perceptions | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

“You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche

 

When we are caught up in our own egos and forget to distinguish between our own perceptions and the factual reality of things, bad consequences can arise.

 

This morning, having set herself one hour to get some good work done, I found my wife desperately trying to make her printer work. I told her she should use my printer and concentrate on more important things. Surely her printing goal was to get the document in hand, not to spend her one precious hour fighting the machine?

 

When our argument had died down (yes, it really did get that far!) and after I had finished my morning meditation, I realized that I had once again committed my favorite error: Mixing up reality and perception and not calling things by their proper name.

 

In my mind, she was wasting her time and unlikely to get her any good results. I had told her so and that’s where we started arguing...

 

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Relationship Arguments – 23 Dos and Don’ts to Remember

Relationship Arguments – 23 Dos and Don’ts to Remember | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Ever wondered how some couples fight, but are still so in love with each other? Here are 23 relationship argument dos and don’ts that can help you.

 

Arguments in a relationship are inevitable for most couples...

 

Getting into an argument with your lover doesn’t make you a bad partner, nor does it mean that your relationship is less than perfect.

 

But how you end the argument can define you as a good or bad partner.

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Here's What True Love Is (And What It Isn't)

Here's What True Love Is (And What It Isn't) | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Did you know that some languages have many words for love — each one a different permeation of the many facets of love? For example, Sanskrit has 96 words for love. Ancient Persian has 80. Sadly,

 

Did you know that some languages have many words for love — each one a different permeation of the many facets of love? For example, Sanskrit has 96 words for love. Ancient Persian has 80.

Sadly, English has only one word, which greatly limits our understanding of what love is and what it isn't.

Love is that which supports the highest good in you and in others. Love recognizes that whatever truly serves one serves all, and what does not serve one serves no one.

Love creates unity, not divisiveness, and never pits one person against the other. When love is our guiding light, we practice choosing compassion and caring rather than fear.

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How to Improve Your Relationships With Mindfulness 

How to Improve Your Relationships With Mindfulness  | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
We all want to have better relationships with people, but many of us are unsure of how to accomplish this. These four simple practices can improve your relationships significantly.

 

"Give the ones you love wings to fly, roots to come back, and reasons to stay." -- Dalai Lama

 
 Do you have trouble understanding relationships? If so, then you're not alone. Relationships can be one of the most difficult challenges of the human existence. Whether they are relationships with family members, friends, or romantic partner, conflicts in relationships can cause us stress, unhappiness, and even separation.
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Bruce Joseph Pimentel's curator insight, October 23, 2015 10:29 AM

We need to spend a few minutes each day implementing choices that will improve our relationships!  Be careful to pick your battles carefully.

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10 Signs You Might Be In A Codependent Relationship

10 Signs You Might Be In A Codependent Relationship | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
If you struggle in certain relationship with certain people, it is possible you might be in a codependent relationship.

 

Codependency. Many people are not  familiar with the term codependency and are often not aware that they might struggle with it. Often a term used in recovery circles or counselling sessions, it is not usually talked about or brought up in regular conversations. The actual definition of codependency is excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically a partner who requires support due to an illness or addiction.

 

In some way shape or form, everyone is codependent on another to a certain extent.  Codependency becomes unhealthy when it affects your overall mental health and happiness.

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9 Signs You're In Love With A Narcissist

9 Signs You're In Love With A Narcissist | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

Narcissists are appealing for good reason: they're charming, compelling and don't hold back on the compliments. By the time you realize just how toxic a narcissist can be, you've likely already been duped into developing feelings for him or her. 

 

Of course, not everyone you date who's vaguely self-absorbed has full-blown narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). It's important to note that narcissism exists on a spectrum, said Dr. Craig Malkin, an instructor of psychology at Harvard University and the author of Rethinking Narcissism: The Bad -- and Surprising Good -- About Feeling Special.

 
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How to Quit Porn

How to Quit Porn | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

It’s been interesting to watch this series unfold this week. Though I knew it would be controversial, I wasn’t sure what to expect and how much interest there would actually be in the topic.

As it happened, the posts received massive amounts of traffic. And while there was definitely vocal opposition to the arguments I laid out, these were fewer in number than I expected. This may be partly chalked up to the fact that AoM’s readership tends to skew more traditional and religious (even though we actively welcome men from all backgrounds) – guys who are likely more interested in this topic than the general population. But I also have to think that there are tons of men – conservative and liberal alike — that aren’t completely happy with the role of porn in their lives, for whatever reason. I’ve long felt that there are a bunch of things in our culture towards which the media relentlessly presents a viewpoint that supposedly everyone shares, and people don’t feel comfortable publicly admitting that it just isn’t working that way in their own personal lives. I think the idea of porn use as harmless and casual is one of those things.


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11 Surprising Things You Never Knew About Flirting

11 Surprising Things You Never Knew About Flirting | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
There's definitely an art to flirting—and we have the science to back it up.

 

News flash: Flirting works. In fact, studies suggest that flirting skills could be even more important than looks in helping you attract a partner. And experts agree: 


"It's not the most physically appealing people who get approached, but the ones who signal their availability and confidence through basic flirting techniques like eye contact and smiles," says Monica Moore, M.D. 

If you want to master the game, here's a good place to begin: Read up on these interesting facts about flirting:

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The Truth About Passive-Aggressive Behavior

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"Passive-aggressive behavior is an extremely troublesome but misunderstood phenomenon. People frequently accuse each-other of engaging in it without really understanding what it is. On the other hand, when they encounter the real thing, they’re unable to recognize it and are therefore victimized by those who employ it."

 

So who is a passive-aggressive person, really? Essentially, it’s someone who engages in the indirect expression of anger. This person is unable to acknowledge to themselves or to others that they are angry, so they unconsciously bury this feeling deep in their psyche. Unfortunately, buried emotions have a way of leaking out, as I’ll soon demonstrate.

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The Problem with Being Swept Off Your Feet

The Problem with Being Swept Off Your Feet | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

The problem is that only a narcissist can come in and sweep a woman off her feet.

 

Think about that phrase, “He swept me off my feet.”

That means he left you ungrounded, unbalanced. That stinks.

 

Only a narcissist, someone who must be seen as amazing, can enter and shower someone with that much adoration and attention.

 

You see, the truth is, most people, when interested in someone, will be curious, will show up and want to get to know someone at a reasonable pace, they won’t glom on, declare their love right away and lay on the gifts and adoration.

 

- See more at: http://theboulderpsychic.com/2013/10/21/the-problem-with-being-swept-off-your-feet/#sthash.wVkRSXbJ.dpuf

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How to Stop Being Manipulated in a Relationship

How to Stop Being Manipulated in a Relationship | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
All of us get manipulated into giving in now and then. But where do you draw the line? Find out how to stop getting manipulated using these 14 tips.

 

Manipulation is a behavior in which one person tries to change the mind of another person without confronting them directly.


Manipulators use deception, trickery and threats to get what they want, from people who are willing to give in to them.

 
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19 Telltale Signs A Guy Is Really Into You

19 Telltale Signs A Guy Is Really Into You | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it
Your friends get a good vibe off of him, and never have to give you that speech about how "we just don't want to see you get hurt again."

 

"He looks for excuses to talk to you, to see you, to be closer to you, and to get to know more about you. And even though you know he intentionally forgot something at your apartment just so he could go back and get it, you play along because you don’t want to ruin the game."

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15 Ways to Refuel the Relationship Tank.

15 Ways to Refuel the Relationship Tank. | SEX | DATING | RELATIONSHIPS | Scoop.it

by Tawny Sanabria


"Ever wonder how your relationship went from kisses, smiles and fun, to way too much work?"


The good news is that you are not alone, and it’s pretty typical for the passion to wane as relationships grow in length.

We could look for the “why’s” in that all day long, but it really is not going to get us anywhere—and might even have us going ’round and ’round.

 

What we do know is that relationships ebb and flow. We've learned that the initial lust and passion that is felt at the beginning of the relationship is not sustainable and that love evolves throughout our lives.

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How Self Respect Affects You and Your Relationship

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Self respect plays a very important part in relationships and happiness. Can you differentiate the line between giving in and losing your own respect?

 

by Allison Ricard

 

We’ve all heard this line before, that love needs understanding and compromise to be successful.


And it’s definitely true.


But love works best only when both partners understand each other and compromise for each other.


If you give while your partner only takes, no matter how compromising or caring you are, you can’t hold on to happiness forever.


And that’s where self respect comes into the picture.

 
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