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Loneliness: More Dangerous Than We Thought

Loneliness: More Dangerous Than We Thought | Unplug | Scoop.it
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Our continuous infatuation with social media has been said to cause more loneliness.  We've also learned that "loneliness is an equal-opportunity emotion".  It can affect people regardless of whether they are in a real relationship or not. 


But can loneliness actually kill you? 


According to recent research, loneliness is not only extremely toxic to the body; it can "increase an older person's chance of premature death by 14%". 

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Information Technology Burnout

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A growing emphasis has been placed on IT professionals to help businesses compete, grow and thrive.  Great news for Information Technology, right?

 

Not for the 73% in the UK who are considering leaving their job due to work-related stress and the impact that is having on their health and relationships.

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Three Different Kinds of Happy

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Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology, theorizes that while 60 percent of happiness is determined by our genetics and environment, the remaining 40 percent is up to us.
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Happiness.  A pursuit?  A journey?  Or a destination?  You decide.

 

In the meantime, SMILE... and read about the habits of supremely happy people via The Third Metric.

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The AFTER

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Credit Celeste Noche Photography

The last Friday of 2013, I opened my eyes to a very familiar sound: a sound
I had tried to erase from my memory.
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Living in Lebanon comes with tremendous stress.  Bombs going off when you least expect it -- killing people and causing destruction.

 

Whether you reside in Lebanon or not, we all have daily stresses.  And after 100 hours of meditation and 300 hours of silence, this blogger passes on to her readers the 6 lessons she has learned:

 

  1. Pain is inevitable
  2. Pain is good
  3. Ninety-nine percent of our thoughts are rubbish
  4. Silence is sometimes a better way
  5. Start with intention (vs. expectation)
  6. The real lesson of listening

 

It is not things, people or even technology to which we are attached.  We are attached to distraction as a way to escape from the here and now -- or pain -- or truth. 

 

How many times do we turn a blind eye to these things which we prefer to avoid?

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Are You An Active Listener?

Are You An Active Listener? | Unplug | Scoop.it
Many of us don't listen as well as we could. Learn how to use "active listening" to make a conscious effort to hear and understand what people are saying.
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To truly listen is one of the most important life skils you can develop.  Listening helps you to obtain information, understand, learn, and derive meaning; over and above all of that, it has a major impact on the quality of your relationships.

 

Unfortunately, research suggests that we are not good listeners. 

 

The way to become a better listener?  Practice "active listening."

 

Active listening involves making a conscious effort to hear not only the words that are being said, but more importantly, try to understand the meaning behind those words.

 

In this blog and video, Mind Tools helps us to pay attention, defer judgement and indicate to another that we truly want to hear what they have to say.

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"BE" Home for the Holidays

"BE" Home for the Holidays | Unplug | Scoop.it
It's the most wonderful—and stressful—time of the year. Read on to learn how mindfulness can help over the holidays.
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There's no place like home for the holidays.  And if you truly want to "be" home for the holidays, instead of feeling overwhelmed -- try a new approach -- one that involves less "doing" and more "being". 

 

Mindfulness can help!

 

  • Place your attention on gratitude instead of instant gratification.
  • Deal with gift giving and consumption in a more mindful way.
  • Take advantage of less sunlight, contemplating what can only be seen in the dark.
  • Instead of going on autopilot, use the "season for connecting" to do just that -- without technology.
  • Slow down; focus on what is important to you; and spend time sharing with others
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Unplug The Christmas Machine

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CENTERS' PIECE: Unplug the Christmas machine Odessa American As I was thinking about and researching what to include in an article about beating holiday stress, I ran across the title of a book and want to thank the authors Jo Robinson and Jean...
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The holidays are fast approaching.  Do you feel caught in a tornado of holiday activity?  Do you dream of a simpler more satisfying way to celebrate the season?  in this blog, Marcia Norton tells us how to unplug the Christmas machine.

 

  • Ask yourself how you really want to spend your holiday time.
  • Hold realistic expections about others.
  • If relatives drive you crazy, be curious; not furious.
  • Establish a budget for holiday spending and stick to it.
  • Stop engaging in "toxic traditions".
  • Give yourself permission to allow emotions of loss or grief.
  • Remember to unplug; get closer to the people you care about.

 

 

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The 8 Red Flags of a Toxic Relationship

The 8 Red Flags of a Toxic Relationship | Unplug | Scoop.it
You're never going to get along with everyone 100 percent of the time. Whether you're dealing with friends, family members, or partne...
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We can't get along with everyone all of the time, but when a relationship wreaks havoc on your happiness over and over again, you may very well be in a toxic relationship

 

Watch out for these 8 red flags:

 

  1. You constantly give while the other person constantly takes
  2. You receive repetitive verbal abuse from the other person
  3. Your values are not accepted but instead mocked by the other person
  4. You are made to feel bad about yourself by the other person
  5. You feel eternally beholden to the other person -- even grateful that they are putting up with you
  6. The other person tends to bring out the worst in you
  7. The other person has no respect for your other relationships
  8. Each person shows interest in the other only when "high expectations" are met

 

If you are at odds with one another more than 50% of the time, you may have a toxic relationship on your hands.  If you believe that to be the case, it's best to end the relationship -- as challenging as that may be for you.  And the sooner the better.

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Your Family Deserves the Same Attention as Your Smartphone

Your Family Deserves the Same Attention as  Your Smartphone | Unplug | Scoop.it
This picture right here was my tipping point.  Right before I snapped this shot I told Delaney, I wasn't going to work AT ALL that day - no phone, no computer - just us.  And this was her reaction....
Susan Taylor's insight:

Imagine that big smile on the face of your little girl when you tell her you're not going to work that day, but instead spend time with her.

 

Sometimes you need to unplug.  This mommy shares her story...

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126 Ways to Make Your Life Extraordinary

126 Ways to Make Your Life Extraordinary | Unplug | Scoop.it
If you choose to make a difference 126 times every day for the next year, you'd have hundreds of thousands of small opportunities to make an impact.
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Open the door for a stranger.  Say "Thank You".  Stop Whining.  Fear less...

 

These are just 4 of 126 ideas from the Business Insider about how to make a positive difference in the world by making some very simple changes in your life. 

 

Now that's extraordinary!

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Mindfulness & Positivity for Dummies

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The latest wellbeing theory from the founder of the positive psychology movement, Dr. Martin Seligman, consists of five elements, summarized by the mnemonic PERMA. Dr.
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Positive Psychologist, Dr. Martin Seligman, states that wellbeing consists of five elements:

 

  1. Positive Emotion
  2. Engagement
  3. Relationships
  4. Meaning
  5. Accomplishment
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Stop Negativity From Sticking To You Like Glue

Stop Negativity From Sticking To You Like Glue | Unplug | Scoop.it
Mindfulness means we don't get locked out of our heart and throw away the key. Rather, we can watch how negativity distracts the mind and makes such a song and dance, and we just keep breathing and watching as it goes on it's jolly way.
Susan Taylor's insight:

Anger can keep us prisoners to ourselves.  We have a fight with someone we love; we play it over and over again in our head; perhaps we even become resentful or hold a grudge.  And the negativity from that experience gets stuck to us like glue.

 

Enter mindfulness...an opportunity to be completely present with whatever is going on -- whatever we are feeling -- thinking -- experiencing. 

 

Becoming aware of negative thoughts and feelings can help us to release them.  Like a dear friend who enables us to know and embrace ourselves, mindfulness can help us free our anger "and all the obstacles that limit peace of mind, inner freedom, and true happiness".

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The Silent Leader

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When silence is golden
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As Mark Twain stated: "The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause."

 

A leader who uses silence as a tool or effective strategy can benefit both herself and her employees. There is great power in silence.

 

Here are a few situations when silence can work to a leader's advantage:

 

  1. When you want to learn more about an employee or colleague
  2. When an employee or colleague is distressed
  3. To give your audience an opportunity to process what you've said
  4. When negotiations are going nowhere
  5. When you are angry
  6. When someone is yelling at you

 

 

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Live a Longer, Happier Life from Face-to-Face Time with Friends

Live a Longer, Happier Life from Face-to-Face Time with Friends | Unplug | Scoop.it
Rebecca and Michelle discuss the benefits of interacting with friends in person as opposed to through phones and social media.  You'll be surprised to find out why face-to-face time with friends can make you live a longer, happier life!
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Engaging and interacting with friends -- not through social media platforms or smartphones -- but instead in person makes for a longer, happier life. 

 

This one minute video shows you why face-to-face is more fulfilling.

 

 

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Busy-ness is Laziness

Busy-ness is Laziness | Unplug | Scoop.it
Tune in this Thursday at 10 am MST/12 pm EST for a conversation with +Waylon Lewis about integrating mindfulness and meditation into our daily lives and how these tools can improve our business and personal relationships and success.
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If you want to improve your business, personal relationships and all around success, you need to do what many consider to be the "soft" stuff -- meditation and mindfulness.  But "soft" is the new "hard".  Living a life of busy-ness is nothing more than procrastination.  In fact, it's downright lazy.

 

Waylon Lewis calls himself a "Dharma Brat" and shares with us his views about integrating mindfulness and meditation into our hectic daily lives and the benefits we can gain from doing so.

 

So if you're "running around, clicking lots of buttons online", hit the pause button and watch this 8-mintue video where Lewis leads a practical (and fun) meditation which will help you to limit distractions and come back to the present moment.

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