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A scholarly look at the theoretical and empirical factors and effects of monagamy becoming the marriage norm and even legal requirement in Western countries and eventually the entire developing world.
Embracing Marriage, Flaws and All - Modern Love: http://t.co/o9zMzsxc... While on a camping trip with her in-laws, Elizabeth Weil, author “No Cheating, No Dying: I Had a Good Marriage. Then I Tried to Make It Better” (Scribner) has an epiphane.
In a moment - taking in her husband's appreciation for her presence on the camping trip, years of concerted effort to transform a good marriage into a great marriage converge. And she reflects that though there are some generalities of a good marriage, her stance is that, "marriage, generally, is truly ridiculous, but I love Dan very, very specifically." Peace Corps Education Volunteers Peter Hendricks, 26, and Alene Kennedy-Hendricks, 25, from Northern Virginia. They are currently serving in Georgia. 
Marriage advice: Settling unrealized expectations a key for a healthy marriage
When the rays of romance transform to a deeper bond you can catch streams of light to the broader world beyond yourselves. Only if expectations are clear will that light draw you together to the same lens.
In a column that describes principles from a marriage enrichment program known as "the Third Option", steps turning expecation into hope is offered. To do this we must:
1. Become "conscious of our unconscious expectations." 2. Make "unrealistic expectations realistic.." 3. Talk "about our unspoken expectations" 4. Settle "our unsettled expectations." 
I wanted — needed — to nudge my husband a little closer to perfect. "I adopted the trainers' motto: "It's never the animal's fault." When my training attempts failed, I didn't blame Scott. Rather, I brainstormed new strategies, thought up more incompatible behaviors and used smaller approximations. I dissected my own behavior, considered how my actions might inadvertently fuel his. I also accepted that some behaviors were too entrenched, too instinctive to train away. You can't stop a badger from digging, and you can't stop my husband from losing his wallet and keys." |
Tips for getting out of the negative communication rut from Howard Markman and other experts. Nagging a relationship killer? Perhaps. What to do then? This WSJ article suggests the following:
•Calm down •Look at it from the other person's perspective. •If you are the nagger, realize you are asking for something. •Explain why your request is important to you. •Manage your expectations. •Set a timeframe. •If you are the naggee, give a clear response to your partner's request. Interesting read: Six Steps to Nurturing A True Partnership - If your Marriage is struggling - ADHD research Researc... 
Keep Marriage Exciting - Exciting is a good thing for a marriage to keep. Is your marriage stimulating? If not... this post suggests that attention to intimacy built on trust and openness, fun together, joint interest, regular dates could make a difference. 
In a healthy marriage you have chosen to be “in love” with your best friend, which is really another way of saying that marriage requires going beyond being struck by Cupid's arrow, the single act used to symbolize how — in myth, movies, and literature...
A successful marital relationship has a good communication style as the primary predictor of its success. The communication is effective, immediate, and results oriented, meaning it modifies behavior when that's necessary for the harmony of the marriage. How do you get to this level of communication with your spouse? 
There’s nothing more beautiful than seeing your spouse smile. You can spice up your life with small gestures that will make you both happy. |
