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Empathy: the key to a happier world Join us for an inspiring evening with Roman Krznaric as he reveals how empathy can enrich our lives and help create a happier and more caring world.
Roman will explain how we can boost our empathy and use it to improve our relationships, enhance our creativity, rethink our priorities in life and tackle social problems - from everyday prejudice to violent conflicts.
About Roman Krznaric Roman Krznaric is a cultural thinker and writer on the art of living. He is a founding faculty member of The School of Life and advises organisations including Oxfam and the United Nations on using empathy and conversation to create social change. He is also founder of the world’s first Empathy Library.
Common Sense Media editors help you choose books that teach empathy. Books to help kids learn the importance of caring for others.
Teaching kids empathy is one of the most important jobs of being a parent. These great books for all ages will help make it easier -- they celebrate friendship, difference, and the importance of caring for one another.
What are the differences and similarities between empathic and rescue parenting?
Being an empathic parent means many things, including:
* Having patience * Understanding a child's feelings and where they come from * Experiencing things from a child’s perspective * Responding to children in ways that help children, as opposed to sticking to a parent's agenda regardless of whether it is helpful * Taking the time to understand a child’s actions *Understanding first, while holding back on reacting to the situation *Working as a team with a child to find the best solutions to the problem *Sharing feelings and experiences which allows children to know that parents have strong feelings that they have survived *Letting go of a preconceived parental expectations and accepting a child for who they are
Recently, in one of my classes, we were asked to take a quotient online. A lot of the questions pertained to social situations and how you react to them, the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, and many other human nature type questions. I found this quotient to be pretty interesting, although it wasn’t until the end that I actually knew what it was for – it was measuring my capacity for empathy.
I wondered why my teacher at a music school would want us to take this quotient. What did empathy have to do with music? But after taking the test and really thinking about it, I realized that my professor might have been on the right track. Perhaps empathy has a larger role in music than we realize.
THE EMPATH is a recurring character in Star Trek, usually a woman, who has the ability to read the emotions of others, sometimes at great distance. Empath Deanna Troi, for example, is seen as having the seemingly futuristic and alien talent to feel what others feel.
By ALBERT NERENBERG,
What is truly sci-fi is that almost all humans possess this apparently fantastical ability. Empathy is a true human superpower. Most of us are empaths. Most of us feel for strangers, can read other people's emotions and can feel other people's pain.
My grandfather was compulsively compassionate. As a child, I remember this quiet and gentle soul, offering love, understanding and a helping hand, to whomever he came across. Thieves and con men were no exception. When his family objected, he smiled and offered compassion anyway. Compassion was a trait at the center of his being.
When I started the Ali Hasan Mangi Memorial Trust in his memory in 2008, the aim was to create a model village in his ancestral hometown of Khairo Dero, a village in southern Pakistan. A model that could be replicated elsewhere in turning poverty-stricken and forgotten rural hamlets into habitable places; complete with access to clean water, a sanitation network, housing for all, education, income-generating opportunities, and health-care services.
The common denominator of all types of bullying is a lack, or erosion, of empathy. Nurturing empathy, a potential that is present in almost all children, is therefore at the heart of interventions to prevent bullying.
In the end, Bazelon raises a larger question: What can we do, as parents, to nurture qualities of empathy and kindness in our children? How can we reduce the risk that our children will get caught up in hurtful teenage drama? How can we help them become "upstanders," not bystanders, to meanness and cruelty?...
Here is what I believe is most essential: Empathy begets empathy. As parents, we need to set aside time to listen patiently and empathically to our children and to repair moments of anger and misunderstanding. When we listen with empathy, when children know that their concerns and their grievances will be heard, we open a pathway toward emotional maturity. In these moments, children become less absorbed in defiant thoughts and argument, more open to compromise, and more caring toward others.
Listening with empathy, however, is not always easy and should not be confused with permissiveness or indulgence...
Kenneth Barish, Ph.D.Clinical Associate Professor of Psychology at Weill Medical College, Cornell University
Three years after the premiere of the documentary Bully, the kids featured in the film have transformed from victims into victors.
‘Bully’ director Lee Hirsch was bullied as a kid in Long Island, New York. He spoke of how he would get punched in the arm everyday when walking home; making his arm not colored with black and blue bruises, but a permanent yellow sleeve from the routine beatings. He couldn’t even talk to his dad because his dad told him to just man-up. He felt alone.
Amazingly, he made his experience an experience of reason and consequently, he made the documentary Bullyand created The Bully Project to inspire people into taking action against bullying.
Three years later, CNN’s Anderson Cooper follows up with Alex Libby, Kelby Johnson, and Kirk Smalley who were featured subjects in the Bully documentary.
How can we define compassion, in a workable and understandable way, as a starting point to understanding the greatest weapon you and I will ever have ? Lets look to the internet, and Wikipedia, the first choice for the computer generation.
Wikipedia describes compassion as:
“Compassion is the virtue of empathy for the suffering of others. It is regarded as a fundamental part of human love and a cornerstone of greater social interconnection and humanism – foundational to the highest principles in philosophy, society, and personhood..
Why is compassion so powerful ? I believe it changes us, and our understanding of the world. Compassion reflects the non dualistic nature. We are all in this together. And nobody gets out alive. We feel compassion because, when we see suffering, we should realise that another person’s suffering is also our own suffering. And our suffering is their suffering. We are all one, so all our suffering is one too. Even the suffering of animals is also ours to share. We all exist on this planet together. As human beings, we should be working towards relieving the suffering of everyone we meet, no matter what the nature of their suffering may be, and no matter what our relationship with them.
Compassion like love has a spectrum and has a number of stages and levels. The general term learned in society about compassion is somehow different from a more expanded version of it. And also it differs from society to society and the modernity of it.
In general, compassion is viewed as a deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the desire to alleviate the pain. Here, compassion is a form of emotion, a feeling that is acting and flowing.
We need to cultivate empathy in all children, but gender stereotypes -- often reinforced in playrooms -- risk leaving boys, in particular, with a social deficit.
While parents, researchers, and educators decry the lack of STEM toys for girls — and rightly so — what often goes unnoticed is that assigning genders to toys harms boys, as well.
Too often children’s playrooms reinforce gender stereotypes that put boys at risk of failing to gain skills critical for success in life and work. The most important of these? Empathy.
Meg Bear, Group Vice President of Oracle’s Social Cloud, calls empathy “the critical 21st century skill.” She believes it’s the “difference between good and great” when it comes to personal and professional success. Researchers at Greater Good Science Center out of the University of California, Berkeley, echo Bear’s assertion. They define empathy as “the ability to sense other people’s emotions, coupled with the ability to imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling.
Too often, people brutally judge and attack themselves. If everyone treated others as poorly as they treat themselves, the old biblical adage, “Love your neighbor as yourself,” could be a recipe for war.
Incessant negative beliefs about oneself may be called self-judgment, self-attack, or low self-esteem, but it all boils down to one menacing problem: self-hatred. At its most extreme, self-hatred can lead people to retreat into substance use, suicidal and other self-destructive behaviors, or violence toward others.
I am grateful to Nelson Mandela, to show me the path of empathy - deep listening, love, forgiveness, openness, and the ability to increase one’s capacity to hold another’s suffering. The world will miss the wisdom and compassion from this great elder, but his legacy has touched every inch of this globe and his truths will continue to resound for many generations.
Sadly, parents are not as intentional about elevating empathy in their child-rearing efforts. Academic achievement seems to be at the top of our radars these days. That’s why I’m passionate about nurturing empathy and why I get so energized when teachers share ways to weave social-emotinonal learning into their curriculums. Barbara Gruener is one of those teachers-and she’s a marvel to our profession. Barbara is a gifted school counselor and character coach at a National School of Character in Friendswood, Texas.
Here’s the post from Barbara, a fabulous teacher at a National School of Character School, and one strategy she uses to nurture empathy. There are dozens of possibilities – the key is to look for those intentional moments to weave empathy stretching into your classroom day. Thanks Barbara! I’m proud to know you!
EMPATHY & SURFING When you ride the wave, the thrill is so exhilarating that you forget everything else. You live in the moment where nothing else matters, so intent on riding the wave perfectly that you and the wave become one. Pain and worry disappear, replaced by euphoria, akin to flow. Similarly, when giving empathy, you want to strive for this kind of total presence for the person you are listening to. ~ Dr Marshall Rosenberg
Tahoe is my place for self-reflection – where is yours?
Empathy is ultimately other-regarding, but I’m convinced that mastering it begins with understanding yourself – your emotions, your desires, your flaws. And for me, it includes understanding how lucky I am to have Tahoe in the first place. In this way, empathy is hard: it takes awareness and perspective. It takes space. But in our world of relentless demands and distractions, it’s far easier to become self-absorbed than self-aware. Which is why it’s essential that we create this space for ourselves – in big ways and small – so that we can use our understanding of ourselves to better understand and serve others.
Three of my favorite short mindfulness practices, all spelled out to start applying today.
When it comes to mindfulness, there are a number of great short practices that help us be more present to our lives. In this post I’m going to reveal three key mindfulness practices that can help us pause, break out of auto-pilot, step into emotional freedom and even open up to a source of connection that is ultimately healing to ourselves and the world. Plus, I’ll reveal a new practice that people are starting to love.
Empathy has been in the news a lot recently. It has been highlighted as an antidote to school bullying and gun and gender violence, and it has become popular in the business community as a part of user-centered design. More and more, empathy is being recognized as a skill that people need to develop to better shape how society will function in the future.....
When Facebook first launched, its policy was to allow users to report problems, bullying or abuse to Facebook staff. With over one billion users, and an exponentially growing number of interactions, Facebook took a closer look at the problems people were reporting and found they were not so much violations of policies, but rather miscommunications and misunderstandings between members. Facebook responded by investing in teaching its community to be more empathetic, instead of leaving everyone to fend for themselves. How? By coding empathy into its social network, changing the way users interacted online.
"Over the last several months, those of us at Start Empathy – along with a core group of Ashoka Fellows, leading educators and partners – have worked to identify, distill, and categorize dozens of promising empathy building insights and activities. In short, we’ve been asking people: “What works?”
What we’ve received ranges from simple tips to group problem solving exercises to teacher training guides, and they all help advance our central goal: unleashing empathy as both an input and output of our education system.
Now we’ve compiled them into our “here’s stuff that works” guide, which we’re calling the Empathy Road Map. It’s by no means a comprehensive picture but rather a strong first step. It’s meant to be a living document – one that our community helps us enhance and refine over time."
Restorative justice, which encourages young people to develop empathy for one another, is increasingly offered in schools seeking an alternative to “zero tolerance” policies.
The approach now taking root in 21 Oakland schools, and in Chicago, Denver and Portland, Ore., tries to nip problems and violence in the bud by forging closer, franker relationships among students, teachers and administrators. It encourages young people to come up with meaningful reparations for their wrongdoing while challenging them to develop empathy for one another through “talking circles” led by facilitators like Mr. Butler.
An experience at a conference on compassion leads this writer to consider the extent to which our thoughts can benefit those around us.
Even more than a desire to relieve the suffering of others, compassion is born of an innate recognition that we are all embraced in a universal and unconditional love. Although all too often this recognition lies buried beneath the stress of circumstance, this doesn’t mean it’s beyond our capacity to discover, uncover, and benefit from.
All it takes is a willingness to listen and the humility to respond.
State laws and school-district rules may help curb bullying on campus, but many researchers suggest a better way is not to raise a bully in the first place
In Athens, future leaders were brought up in a more nurturing and peaceful way, at home with their mothers and nurses, starting education in music and poetry at age 6. They became pioneers of democracy, art, theater and culture. "Just like we can train people to kill, the same is true with empathy. You can be taught to be a Spartan or an Athenian — and you can taught to be both," says Teny Gross, executive director of the outreach group Institute for the Study and Practice of Nonviolence in Providence, R.I., and a former sergeant in the Israeli army