Take heart, and remember that the biggest breakthroughs often come after a long period of being stuck. Which is why feeling stuck for a while is necessary. Embrace this. When things seem to be at their worst is the ideal time for you to be at your best.
Believe in yourself and your ability to succeed. Believe in your intuition, especially when you have to choose between two good paths. Believe that the answers are out there waiting. Believe that life will surprise you again and again. Believe that the journey is the destination. Believe that it’s all worth your while. Believe that you are confident enough to see it through.
More than we’d probably like to admit so many of our days are spent in a state of self-delusion, an internal monologue of justifying our actions, both good and bad. When we do something wrong, our evolutionary instincts kick in and we do anything we can to not acknowledge the obvious: sometimes, it’s all our fault.
Over time, this becomes our routine, our default reaction, and we fail to stop and reflect on what we’re doing. To make it even more difficult, many of us don’t have the luxury of someone being accountable for us (who does?), helping us recognize our mistakes and their repercussions.
Great results are outcomes of great practice and preparation. Shareholder returns, a great customer experience, and the candidate experience are all outcomes. If you want better outcomes, focus on the internal strategies that drive results, people and performance. You’ve heard leaders say “People are our most important asset.” So why do businesses spend billions of dollars each year advertising to drive shareholder returns, customer experiences? It’s because most will focus on the results and not the internal strategies that create them.
In your relationships and interactions with others, nothing you can give is more appreciated than your sincere, focused attention – your full presence. Being with someone, listening without a clock and without anticipation of the next event is the ultimate compliment. It is indeed the most valued gesture you can make to another human being.
How To Be The Leader They've All Been Waiting For Forbes An old colleague and leadership expert used to relate a little parable about the great British prime ministers, William Gladstone and Benjamin Disraeli.
The wise leader senses that there’s something noble and heroic in most anyone who sits across the table, and uses the time together to learn about that person’s personal battles and triumphs. Many of the greatest leaders and mentors are those who can become sincerely fascinated by most anyone.
Zen Teacher Thich Nhat Hanh has a short but great saying about showing kindness in everyday life: “compassion is a verb.” (RT @Luv_Adventures: 7 Essential Reasons to Show Compassion Everyday http://t.co/MEs45i81ox...
John Michel's insight:
More than a word describing the general spirit of love, compassion can be a hands-on philosophy – one with plenty of good reasons to live it fully each day:
Are you afraid? You need to tap into your deeper driver, not the obvious surface driver like promotion, wealth, recognition, or whatever success means to you.
John Michel's insight:
Are you afraid? You need to tap into your deeper driver, not the obvious surface driver like promotion, wealth, recognition, or whatever success means to you. You need the perspective that today’s endeavor isn’t the end-all.
Leadership is hell, but it’s brightly packaged as heaven. And this lures too many talented and ambitious people into the wrong careers, because they’ve falsely equated being a senior manager with being a success.
John Michel's insight:
The study of leadership shouldn’t be an effort to turn everyone into a leader. In fact, one of the best ways to improve the leadership in our organizations and our society is to give people permission not to feel pressured to be on the leadership track.
The word “together” is a powerful social cue to the brain. In and of itself, it seems to serve as a kind of relatedness reward, signaling that you belong, that you are connected, and that there are people you can trust working with you toward the same goal.
Simply put, happy people don’t blame others or defer their authority. They take complete responsibility for their actions and outcomes, or their lack thereof. They know it’s up to them, and only them, to assess and manage their circumstances.
Finding joy in your career and life means knowing what you’re passions are. If you have trouble coming up with your list of passions, think about the best experiences you’ve had, what you do when you’re procrastinating, or what you daydream about.
Mentally strong people know the opposite of defeat is not courage; the opposite of defeat is hope. And there’s always hope. When you lose something good, don’t think of it as a loss, but as an experience that gets you back on the path you were meant to travel. Ultimately, the measure of who you are is what you do with what you have at any given point in time.