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60 Inconvenient Personal Development Truths

60 Inconvenient Personal Development Truths | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

I know you want to be the best you can be. We all do. But sometimes we look for success in the wrong places or we try to achieve it in the wrong ways.


Here are 60 inconvenient truths about personal development to help you stay on track.


  1. The acquisition of knowledge doesn’t mean you’re growing. Growing happens when what you know changes how you live.
  2. You can’t have good ideas unless you’re willing to generate a lot of bad ones.
  3. A good idea without action is nothing at all.
  4. It’s not so much about finding opportunities as it is about creating them.
  5. 10% of our lives is decided by uncontrollable circumstances. 90% is decided by how we react to those circumstances.
  6. What we don’t start today won’t be finished by tomorrow.
  7. If you’re waiting for the perfect conditions, ideas or plans to get started, you’ll never achieve anything.


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Miklos Szilagyi's curator insight, July 18, 2013 2:13 AM

Welll, don't be too intimidated or even bored by the long list... they are perls... OK, you've met perhaps even each (don't think so but might be...) but it's such a goog arrangements to have them together and need nt read a whole book (though there are recommendations within about some)... it is worth even to copy it out to recheck them from time to time... good reading and thinking about them....

Helena Gonçalves's curator insight, August 27, 2013 7:16 AM

It's not about what you know... It's how you act!

Pascal Vedel's curator insight, September 23, 2013 3:12 PM

60 "vérités" amusantes à lire et sans doute, "vraies" pour la plupart

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Overcoming the Fear of Making Mistakes

Overcoming the Fear of Making Mistakes | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it
“Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people.” This is a famous quote from Anne Lamott in her book Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life. Intuitively, we know that perfectionism is unrealistic and restrictive, a tyrant that steals success. In fact, there are many sayings and experts that stress the importance of making mistakes for creating and achieving great things.


But still there are many people who fear making mistakes. According to Martin Antony, Ph.D, professor of psychology at Ryerson University and co-author of When Perfect Isn’t Good Enough, “Generally, fears are influenced by both our biological and genetic makeup, as well as our experiences.”


We model what we see, Antony said. He gave the example of parents expressing their fears over making mistakes, which a child, like a sponge, soaks up.


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10 Solid Ways to Bolster Your Willpower

10 Solid Ways to Bolster Your Willpower | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it
You’re willing to achieve something, but your mind mechanism seems to defy it. So how do you bolster the willpower?


What you have to do and the way you have to do it is incredibly simple. Whether you are willing to do it, that’s another matter. Peter F. Drucker.


You want to top the class in the exams, but you’re not preparing well.


You would like to blog regularly, but you keep finding excuses.


You’re dying to get that super client, but your competitor swept them away.


You’re trying to break free from all the messy stuffs, but you can’t find a way out.


Sounds familiar? What are the odds then? Buckle up; it’s about you and your willpower.


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Have An Impossible Dream

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I love to dream. When I was a kid, I used to dream about flying like a bird. It was one of those dreams that I knew was impossible, but was cool to envision. I could see the ground below, and the clouds up high.

I hated to wake up.
As I’ve grown older, I’ve been tempted to put those dreams aside.
I’ve been told to be a realist and tone those dreams down.
Don’t get your hopes up John, it will lead to a letdown.
Put your dreams away, and do the mundane.
Follow the rules and do what you’re told.
Don’t color outside the box.
Put the colors away.
Black and White.
Do it… now.
However…

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Leadership mantra : Possible vs Impossible.

Leadership mantra : Possible vs Impossible. | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

Possible is a state of mind!


You have certainly heard, on numerous occasions, people say, “that’s impossible.” What did you do with that? Here lies the difference between success and failure.


If we listen to such people, it is certain that we will abandon. Otherwise, we will continue and put the odds on our side to make things possible.


We live in a world where pessimism and lack of courage is part of the lives of many people. It’s what makes me say, that here we see clearly the difference between a leader and a follower.


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Leadership mantra: Patience.

Leadership mantra: Patience. | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

Patience is the secret of great success stories!


Have you ever rush things or running out of patience? Without even knowing you, I think I can answer very easily in the affirmative?


If you think back, what have you gained? Here too, I am sure to can say that it was nothing good.


For this reason and as pointed out, rightly, Ralph Waldo Emerson, we should inspire us from nature...


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Leadership mantra: Action.

Leadership mantra: Action. | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

Action gives real meaning to life!


Without action, what is in some sense also an action…, success remains, in mostly cases, away from us. Useless to complain or blame the rest of the world, we are solely responsible for this situation and from the outcome that results.


Look ahead or around you and be honest with yourself and with others. You will find that the situation is always the result from immobility. It will be difficult to find another reason without using excuses!


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Restoring Hope

Restoring Hope | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

Lacking clarity about what you want to experience in life is a common problem. Another problem is having a reasonable sense of what you desire but feeling blocked in moving forward. With either of these problems, you may experience a feeling of stuckness, sometimes even hopelessness.


One of the main causes of this stuckness is tolerating too much of what you don’t want in your life. One reason this happens is that your standards for what you wish to experience may have risen, but you haven’t followed up with enough action to ensure that the various parts of your life meet these new standards.


The solution is fairly simple, but it can be difficult to put into practice because it usually requires some courage. That solution is to actively say no to what you don’t want in your life, to release it and let it go.


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Why We All Need Advanced Life Skills

Why We All Need Advanced Life Skills | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it
We all need to learn and benefit from Advanced Life Skills because all life skills are not created equal. Basic life skills are simply not enough.


I am convinced that billions of people feel trapped in a life full of limits and frustrations because they have never been taught the simple skills that have the power to transform almost every aspect of their current situation.


As a result, a life of personal excellence seems like an impossible dream for most. We can easily understand why so many people feel that way when we consider the scarcity of living examples. Most people see very little evidence that a life of extraordinary quality is even possible.


Not all life skills are created equal


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TODAY’S LEADERSHIP MANTRA: Example.

TODAY’S LEADERSHIP MANTRA: Example. | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it
Lead by example and being, is the motto!


In my life I’ve always enjoyed working with such people. Indeed, to be surrounded by people who know what they want in life, who can afford their ambitions, and especially, “who know put their hands in the dough” is a real joy


The time must be past since thousands of years...


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TODAY’S LEADERSHIP MANTRA: Beliefs.

TODAY’S LEADERSHIP MANTRA: Beliefs. | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it
The blind faith in our beliefs is a proven disadvantage.


Our beliefs can lead us anywhere. If I say everywhere, this can also be there or we would not want to necessarily go.


Even as I am of the opinion, that it’s important to have beliefs such as...


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Fake it Till You Make it: 10 Ways to Feel Confident (Even When You Aren’t)

Fake it Till You Make it: 10 Ways to Feel Confident (Even When You Aren’t) | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it
Many people’s confidence naturally wavers from day to day, leaving them too timid or confused at just the wrong time.


Is your self-confidence natural, or a daily struggle?


Many people’s confidence naturally wavers from day to day, leaving them too timid or confused at just the wrong time. Whether you are naturally confident or could use some better eye contact with your life, setting in place a few simple strategies goes a long way to stoke your inner confidence.


If you think you’re not especially smart or capable, or that failure is a given no matter how hard you try, you’re right.


And if you believe you’re brilliant and can accomplish anything you set your mind to, you’re right.


Amplifying your inner confidence is like any other skill you develop; you can do it in a blink. Day by day, step by step, you will get closer to your goals. No one runs a marathon fueled by decision alone.


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Simpler Thinking: 5 Powerful Habits That Work For Me

Simpler Thinking: 5 Powerful Habits That Work For Me | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

Chi Wen Tzu always thought three times before taking action. Twice would have been quite enough.” Confucius


Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life.” Eckhart Tolle


One of my biggest problems used to be that I thought too much. I overthought any little problem until it became a bigger and scarier thing in my mind. I overthought positive things until they didn’t seem to be that positive anymore. I overanalyzed and deconstructed things until the happiness that comes from just being in a moment and enjoying it fell apart.


This locked me into analysis paralysis. Little action was taken. Opportunities were rarely used. Life stood still and felt confining. And when I took action I tended to overanalyze things. That lead to more nervousness, second-guessing and me performing worse when I was doing whatever I was doing.


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Do You Give Up Too Easily? How To Power Through

Do You Give Up Too Easily? How To Power Through | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it
The truth is that many of us don't apply ourselves enough to achieve the positive life changes to which we aspire. Why? Why is it that we so often fail to successfully make the changes we really want?


Over the years, I've lectured to tens of thousands of people on the subject of improving their quality of life. One of the main points I make is that an essential element of having more of the life you want is dedicating at least some time each day to clearing and quieting your mind.


After describing the practical, physiological, emotional, mental, and of course spiritual benefits of taking even just a few minutes a day to meditate or relax deeply, it's clear that most people are genuinely inspired to do it. Unfortunately, only a small percentage of people ever act on their inspiration. But these would-be meditators are not alone.


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10 Ways to Avoid Brainwashing | Illuminated Mind

10 Ways to Avoid Brainwashing | Illuminated Mind | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

If we don’t own our minds, we’re like pawns in a game where we’re not the player. We’re being played. Corporations, governments, advertisers and even religions (oops, I said it) have gone to great lengths to control your mind. Sometimes their tactics are obvious, but most of the time they are downright sneaky.


If we want to ensure that we’re living for ourselves and not serving some corporation’s agenda, we have to put on our mental armor. We have to arm our minds so we can first know when their is an assault on our sovereignty.


Here are 10 tools you can use to avoid brainwashing and retain the ownership of your mind:


1. Decrypt media spin.
The media uses many different tools and angles to sensationalize things that aren’t inherently sensational. “Experts generally agree” can mean a community college professor and “recent surveys find” can mean the polling of 10 people...


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The #1 Reason You Second-Guess Your Value (and how to stop it)

The #1 Reason You Second-Guess Your Value (and how to stop it) | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

You know that you have something of great importance to share with the world. You know this is a cause that needs to be spread.


It’s burning a hole in your gut, and it’s taking everything you can to not let it burst out from within you.


But instead of fireworks and a blaze of glory…


Dead air.


Somewhere between the passion, the avalanche of ideas, and the torrent of enthusiasm entered a familiar foe: the Voice of “Reason.”


Cunningly, he pretends to be your friend, your ally, and most importantly, your Protector. He’ll keep you safe from the critics and failures, he tells you. He’ll keep you swaddled in the hypnotic warmth of reason and a cocoon of bubble-wrapped existence.


Shadowed in his well intentioned promises of security and comfort, though, is a sinking sense of defeat; a disbelief and decay of the great adventure that was dying to be born within you.


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Why Are You Hiding?

Why Are You Hiding? | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

In case you thought it was for real, my previous post about the Domination-Submission Workshop was indeed an April Fools joke. Anyone who clicked on the “Register Now” button would have seen the “April Fools” message. I still think the phony D/s workshop sales page was pretty awesome.


I also had way too much fun with last year’s April Fools post about hiring slaves.


Oddly I’ve noticed that when I blog about what may be considered socially taboo subjects like D/s, sex, open relationships, etc., I usually see a noticeable spike in traffic. But the social media discussions and referrals for those posts are typically deadsville.


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20 Practical Ways to Kick Fear in the Butt

20 Practical Ways to Kick Fear in the Butt | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

Hands down, the most common reason I hear from my coaching clients for why they can’t accomplish something is fear.


They may not call it fear directly, but that’s what it is. They are afraid of some perceived bad outcome if they attempt the thing they really want.


And the irony is that the one thing standing between them and what they want in life isn’t really substantive. It is just a feeling, usually without any basis in reality. Most fears are that way — feelings without substance.


If you look back over the fears you’ve had during your lifetime, you’ll probably discover that most of them were unfounded. What you fear either didn’t materialize or wasn’t as bad as you feared.


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3 Foundations of Courage – How to Create Momentum

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How Do You Define Courage?


Do you think you are courageous? I know I didn’t think I was. A couple of years ago, I found myself curled up in my bed, depressed.


I had a good life. I had a reliable job and a nice place to live. I had friends around me. And I felt guilty about being depressed.


Deep inside, I knew that I was meant for more but I felt paralyzed to make a change because I didn’t have a clear vision of how to move forward.


I remember wrapping my arms around my knees and hugging them to my chest. I was so afraid to move forward, but I knew that I could not continue living a “good” life when my spirit longed to be free. I wanted to express my greatness!


You may feel the same way I did. Maybe not. You may doubt that same greatness lies within you or you may have absolute confidence in it.


No matter what your situation is, courage is the common denominator when it comes to success. Let me share what I did to move from depression to momentum...


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7 Common Causes and Proven Cures for Procrastination

7 Common Causes and Proven Cures for Procrastination | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

Another interesting post about this very hot subject...! [note mg]


Do you put off doing things that would bring you closer to your desired goals? I know I do. But why are we so foolish?


It has something to do with how our daily responsibilities overwhelm us. In the midst of all the important things we know we need to do, we somehow convince ourselves that none of these things need to be done right now. In other words, we decide that some peace and relaxation in the short term is what’s most important.


So we take another break, read another blog post, watch another TV show and just kick back and relax. And life is blissfully dandy… for a little while.


But then suddenly the inevitable deadline has arrived. Ahhh! It’s panic time!


So here are 7 common causes and proven cures procrastination. I’m hoping these tips help you avoid that insane moment of panic.


Read more: http://www.marcandangel.com/2010/11/22/7-common-causes-and-proven-cures-for-procrastination/

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Procrastination or, the “pleasure” to do it tomorrow!

Procrastination or, the “pleasure” to do it tomorrow! | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

Procrastination is a state that has complex origins. It may be due:

  • In the fear of success (more pressure thereafter);
  • In the “pleasure” of having the pressure;
  • To protect against everything and everyone…;
  • The lack of confidence (failure);
  • The lack of motivation (goal too far away or unclear);
  • And many others.


Though it is, she rots our existence, blocking our way and be happy in life.


As a repented procrastinator, I know what I mean.


Today I found, fortunately, some very effective tools to avoid mostly resorting to this vicious subterfuge.


Why we are procrastinators?

The reasons are many and complex. Without going into the medical maze (yes, it can happen in extreme situations), I’m just going talk from the level “light”, which affects many people and that everyone should be able to manage itself...


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Lose the Excuses

Lose the Excuses | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

A very inspiring text to start a new day. I totally agree, apologies are never a good idea and they will never give us success in our lives. [note mg]


As a college teacher, I hear my share of excuses. They all start with, but you don’t understand…


  • People from my neighborhood don’t…
  • People of my race won’t…
  • Women can’t…
  • Poor people never…
  • People my age shouldn’t…


I’m a very short (5’1”) African-American middle-aged woman. I have tons of excuses not to succeed, take your pick.


Discrimination does not have my permission to enter my life; therefore I have no use for the excuse. You may use any one of them to fail if you’d like. In the meantime, I’ll keep succeeding...


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How To Save You From Yourself

How To Save You From Yourself | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

First we make our habits, then our habits make us. Charles C. Noble


It’s not unusual for intelligent people to get themselves stuck in a deep rut in life. By rut, I mean a somewhat extended period of time flooded with low motivation, poor moods, negative thinking patterns, and little or no productivity.


A rut like this can be extremely difficult to get out of. I’ve been there several times, so I know that rediscovering productivity and finding the motivation to delve into anything even remotely challenging can seem nearly impossible. However, we must eventually come to our senses and realize that there’s no point in going through life feeling unmotivated, tired, stressed out, and unhealthy. Misery is, after all, a choice.


Escaping the bounds of a deeply-grooved rut requires nothing more than some willpower, a good plan, and the resolve to take immediate action. Most ruts are caused by a lack of self-care – for example, little to no exercise, sub-par nutrition, zero personal reflection, insufficient sleep, etc.


Read more: http://www.marcandangel.com/2009/07/27/how-to-save-you-from-yourself/

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50 Things You Need To Give Up Today!

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50 Things You Need To Give Up Today!


When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you.


So starting today…

  1. Give up trying to be perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.
  2. Give up comparing yourself to others. – The only person you are competing against is yourself.
  3. Give up dwelling on the past or worrying too much about the future. – Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life. Don’t miss it.
  4. Give up complaining. – Do something about it.
  5. Give up holding grudges. – Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness.
  6. Give up waiting. – What we don’t start today won’t be finished by tomorrow. Knowledge and intelligence are both useless without action.
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The Happiness Project: To Be Happier, Write Your Own Set of Personal Commandments.

The Happiness Project: To Be Happier, Write Your Own Set of Personal Commandments. | PEOPLE BUILDING | Scoop.it

One of the most challenging—and most helpful and fun—tasks that I've done as part of my Happiness Project is to write my Twelve Personal Commandments. These aren't specific resolutions, like make my bed, but the overarching principles by which I try to live my life.


It took me several months to come up with this list, and it has been very useful for me to have them identified clearly in my mind. It's a creative way of distilling core values.


To get you started as you think about your own commandments, here are my Twelve Commandments:


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