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Narcissist Abuse: Finding Support When Nobody “Gets It”

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For narcissist abuse victims, the key to recovery is finding support from those who actually know what we're going through.
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Narcissist Abuse Recovery Support (Speak w/ Zari)

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Narcissist Abuse Support Consults with Author Zari Ballard (When love Is a Lie). Why struggle with a silent treatment or No Contact when help is a call away?
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Affordable phone consultation support...three discount specials available! Speak to a survivor and get the empowerment you need to break away from the spell of a narcissist or sociopath...

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Apply for Credit – Payment Options - Curacao

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Breaking-Up With a Narcissist: The Little Book of No Contact - Kindle edition by Zari Ballard. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.

Zari Ballard's book "Breaking-Up With a Narcissist: The Little Book of No Contact" contains No Contact strategies for giving the narcissist his/her final discard. 

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No Contact means committing to the fact that you’ve had enough and that you want your life back. It means that you’re willing to accept the possibility of sad ahead because the rewards are well worth it. It means ignoring meaningless hoovering because you know that giving in means emotional suicide. Going No Contact means that you mean business once and for all.

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Narcissists, Facebook, & Cell Phones – Oh My!!

Narcissists, Facebook, & Cell Phones – Oh My!! | The Narcissistic Personality - Narcissism in Relationships | Scoop.it

How on earth did narcissists and sociopaths ever pander their diabolical wares before the invention of cell phones, Facebook, and other forms of social media?

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Narcissists have their own special arsenal of emotional weapons of mass destruction. Understand it and never fall for it again.

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“A Bittersweet Good-By” – (A Poem to My Narcissist)

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Narcissistic partners suck - we know that. No matter what we do or say, they can't love us and we can't fix them. Inevitably, the good-by is bittersweet. From one silent treatment to the next, amidst all the hoovering and narcissistic discards, we hope and grieve and hope and grieve until our hearts have no choice but to give up and give in to acceptance as a means of salvation

Zari Ballard's insight:

Eleven years ago I wrote this poem in a desperate attempt to get my narcissist boyfriend to end yet another silent treatment. I found it today in a dusty envelope under a stack of papers. Sometimes, I think, we need to be reminded.

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The Narcissist’s Control/Validate Tactic is Simplified Evil

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(Visited 385 times, 18 today)  When it comes down to it...a narcissist is really only doing one of two things....

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Understanding the control/validate tactic of narcissism will open your eyes to the simplicity of evil. We give the narcissist partner far more credit than he/she deserves..

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We live in a narcissistic society where random acts of intimacy with ...

We live in a narcissistic society where random acts of intimacy with ... | The Narcissistic Personality - Narcissism in Relationships | Scoop.it
Online contact is often dressed up in the language of love but much of it is actually fully devoid of human feeling, writes Elizabeth Cotton. Online technologies also get us into bad narcissistic habits.
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A Sociopath Exposes the Narcissist (3 Questions Answered) – (Part 2/3)

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Be Sure to Read the Following Related Posts...The Narcissist & the Uncomfortable FeelingNavigating the Torment of Cognitive DissonanceWhat is the Narcissist REALLY thinking? (Part 3/3 – Sociopath Series)Narcissistic Ploys & Tactics (It’s All Smoke & Mirrors)A Sociopath Exposes the Narcissist – (Part 1/3)
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Narcissists and sociopaths use very specific - and very similar - strategies to manipulate victims and streamline the codependency of just about anyone who gets close to them. Read Part 2 of my 3-part Series on what the sociopath can expose about the narcissist....

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The Intention of Narcissistic Chaos (Book Excerpt: “When Love Is a Lie”)

The Intention of Narcissistic Chaos (Book Excerpt: “When Love Is a Lie”) | The Narcissistic Personality - Narcissism in Relationships | Scoop.it
Be Sure to Read the Following Related Posts...Reflections on 13 Months of No Contact The Narcissist’s (Pathological) Relationship Agenda (Book Excerpt: “When Love Is a Lie”)Navigating the Torment of Cognitive DissonanceManaging Down Our Relationship ExpectationsDon’t Be a Narcissist’s Enabler (Book Excerpt: “Stop Spinning, Start Breathing”)
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Amazon.com: When Love Is a Lie: Narcissistic Partners & the Pathological Relationship Agenda eBook: Zari Ballard: Kindle Store

When Love Is a Lie: Narcissistic Partners & the Pathological Relationship Agenda - Kindle edition by Zari Ballard. Download it once and read it on your Kindle device, PC, phones or tablets. Use features like bookmarks, note taking and highlighting while reading When Love Is a Lie: Narcissistic Partners & the Pathological Relationship Agenda.
Zari Ballard's insight:

Loving a narcissistic partner or someone with a narcissistic personality disorder is and always will be a traumatic and often indescribable experience for victims. Pathological liars, chronic cheaters, and seemingly void of conscience and empathy, narcissists have a specific modus operandi...a deviant relationship agenda by which they live, breathe, and project misery upon the people who love them. Victims must learn to recognize the signs....

 

Are you a victim of a narcissist lover or partner? Order "When Love Is a Lie" today and see yourself on every page!

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Video Book Trailer – When Love Is a Lie

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Enjoy the new Book Trailer for When Love Is a Lie
 

 
When Love Is a Lie is available via Amazon in Kindle and in paperback,
via selected retailers, and via this website.
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Check out the new Video Book Trailer for "When Love Is a Lie: Narcissistic Partners & the Pathological Relationship Agenda". Thank you for watching!

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Managing Down Our Relationship Expectations

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The narcissist will, over time, manage down our expectations of the relationship so that we expect less and less and he gets away with more and more.
Zari Ballard's insight:

The narcissist manages down your relationship expectations to the point that he can disappear for weeks, return with no explanation whatsoever, and you'll still take him back. Deliberately and methodically, he will condition you, over time, to expect and then accept his measley offering of "crumbs".

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Surviving The Narcissist: A Reflective Q & A

Surviving The Narcissist: A Reflective Q & A | The Narcissistic Personality - Narcissism in Relationships | Scoop.it
As most of you know, when we become involved with narcissistic partners, our lives become completely interchangeable.
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Triangulation: Death of a Heart By a 1000 Cuts

Triangulation: Death of a Heart By a 1000 Cuts | The Narcissistic Personality - Narcissism in Relationships | Scoop.it
Triangulation is a passive-aggressive manipulation tactic used by narcissists and sociopaths to instill feelings of jealousy and insecurity in their partners.
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Narcissists, Holidays, & the Seasonal Discard

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With the holiday season upon us, those in relationships with narcissistic partners can expect some extra special suffering from the seasonal D & D.
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Narcissists will ruin every holiday and celebratory event every time, all the time, and there's nothing you can do about it. This year-end, change it up and commit to enjoying the holiday season no matter what happens and without the usual sadness. A new year is coming!

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 I know this feeling all too well

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When is Loving a Narcissist Our Fault? (Reconciling Blame)

When is Loving a Narcissist Our Fault? (Reconciling Blame) | The Narcissistic Personality - Narcissism in Relationships | Scoop.it
When is loving a narcissist our fault and how do we reconcile the blame...clearly, two of the toughest questions that narcissist abuse victims struggle with.
Zari Ballard's insight:

To recover from narcissist abuse means forgiving ourselves for letting it happen. The narcissist being very good at what he/she does, how could we possibly have known what was coming?

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Tori and Dean: Narcissistic Personality Disorder

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I still remember watching Beverly Hills 90210 in high school and being completely enthralled with the show as a 16-year old girl.
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I only watched this reality show a few times and even though Dean was behaving beautifully back then, I had an odd feeling. There was something very familiar about him....and sure enough, here it is.

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Breaking Up With a Narcissist

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Find out why breaking up with a narcissist is all about intention and actually far easier than you might think! And be sure to read the following related posts..."Letting Go of the Narcissist = Releasing the Past", "Navigating the Torment of Cognitive Dissonance", "Trauma Bonding & the Narcissist" and more....

 

Zari Ballard's insight:

Because the dynamics of a relationship where your partner is a narcissist or sociopath, the same break-up rules simply don't apply - and this is a good thing!

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Can I Change A Narcissist?

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Sometimes we are clueless regarding the subtle ways we are trying to control, while being very aware of a partner's controlling behavior. (Can I Change A Narcissist?
Zari Ballard's insight:

She gets it and she gets to the point. Narcissists CAN'T BE FIXED. And nothing you do or say will ever change that. It is this lack of understanding about the futility of the situation that keeps victims stuck in the bloody mess. Once you know the truth about this person, you simply MUST rethink the direction of your life....

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Although we all exhibit some "narcissistic" behaviors at times, a specific set of personality traits is required for clinical diagnosis.
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Reflections on 13 Months of No Contact

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Be Sure to Read the Following Related Posts...The Narcissist’s Seasonal D & DSilent Treatment Appreciation – Part 3 (of 3-Part Series)Sex, Lies and The Narcissistic PersonalityA Sociopath Exposes the Narcissist (3 Questions Answered) – (Part 2/3)Silent Treatment Appreciation – Part I (of 3-Part Series)
Zari Ballard's insight:

It’s been close to 13-months since the narcissist vanished into thin air, granting me the Grand Finale of Discards that I’d always known he’d give me on his way out some day. Gotta hand it to him..he certainly didn’t disappoint. Let me now reflect on the past thirteen months of No Contact....

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Letting Go of the Narcissist = Releasing the Past

Letting Go of the Narcissist = Releasing the Past | The Narcissistic Personality - Narcissism in Relationships | Scoop.it
Be Sure to Read the Following Related Posts...Anybody Seen My Closure? (Part I)Giving Up the Need for ClosureReflections on 13 Months of No Contact The Narcissist & the Uncomfortable FeelingThe Silent Treatment – Any Time is a Good Time
Zari Ballard's insight:

To begin to let go of the narcissist, we must release the past and choose to live in the here and now. This, my friends, is the only answer.

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Amazon.com: Stop Spinning, Start Breathing: Narcissist Abuse Recovery & the Road to Feeling Normal eBook: Zari Ballard: Kindle Store

Stop Spinning, Start Breathing: Narcissist Abuse Recovery & the Road to Feeling Normal - Kindle edition by Zari Ballard. Download it once and read it on your Kindle device, PC, phones or tablets. Use features like bookmarks, note taking and highlighting while reading Stop Spinning, Start Breathing: Narcissist Abuse Recovery & the Road to Feeling Normal.
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A new book from the author of "When Love Is a Lie":

 

Your relationship with a narcissist doesn't have to be over for you to begin your recovery. "Stop Spinning, Start Breathing" is a 3-part, interactive workbook/journal designed to help victims of narcissist abuse work through the obstacles and roadblocks that keep recovery out of reach. Order today!

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Navigating the Torment of Cognitive Dissonance

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By my definition, cognitive dissonance is the psychological state that keeps us clinging to a narcissistic partner even when we know he is completely incapable of ever loving us.  By most definitions, cognitive dissonance is the psychological...
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When I started using logic as my emotional weapon against his narcissistic lies, my heart quietly stopped breaking.

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