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Shine through your inner gold – don’t waste your talent! - Wisdom for Future Leaders

Shine through your inner gold – don’t waste your talent! - Wisdom for Future Leaders | The Key To Successful Leadership |

Do you have hidden treasures in you – hidden talents – that had not yet been revealed? A kind of inner gold within you that would bring your personality to sparkle?

Why hiding those treasures? Enjoy that you have them and make the best of them! You bear resources in you that are a great potential!

You know perhaps about these treasures but others should also know about them. Make sure that others know them.

Don’t hesitate!

Bring these treasures forward, bring your talents to blossom!


These talents set you apart from other people!

Differenciate yourself with these talents from others!


Think about that:

The Web allows people to show what they can do, regardless of their education and credentials. It allows people to BE someone, with their special talents and strengths.
You only have to believe in yourself.


Feel determined to higher goals, to higher experiences!


Give your life a new meaning now and reveal your talents!


Let your personality sparkle!

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CEOs Are Just Like You and Me: Except When It Comes to Caring - Forbes

CEOs Are Just Like You and Me: Except When It Comes to Caring - Forbes | The Key To Successful Leadership |

CEOs greatest weakness with regard to relationship management is their ability to handle conflict effectively. 

CEOs should develop these three emotionally intelligent behaviors:

1.) Acknowledge the other person’s feelings.People who fail to acknowledge other people’s feelings fail to realize that lingering emotions inhibit effective action.

2.) When you care, show it. Good leaders always notice when people on their team are doing good work, but they don’t often show it. When you appreciate something that another person does, let him or her know it.

3.) Watch your emotions like a hawk. You would become a much more effective leader if you obtained a better understanding of what you feel, when you feel it. Practice this by taking notice of your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors right as a situation unfolds. The goal is to slow yourself down and take in all that is in front of you, so that you can understand how your emotions influence your behavior and alter your perception of reality.

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The Key Missing Ingredient In Leadership Today - Forbes

The Key Missing Ingredient In Leadership Today - Forbes | The Key To Successful Leadership |


Leadership is not merely about success. Abraham Lincoln and Martin Luther King were great leaders, not because they were successful within their different worlds, or even because they were successful despite the constraints of their worlds. They were great leaders because they transformed their worlds.

Leadership is more than being excellent sheep

What we don’t have, in other words, are thinkers. People who can think for themselves. People who can formulate a new direction: for the country, for a corporation or a college, for the Army—a new way of doing things, a new way of looking at things. People, in other words, with vision.

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THOUGHTS ON LEADERSHIP COMPETENCIES – 2.) Empathy | Noozmag | The Key To Successful Leadership |

Leaders who show empathy are able to attune to a wide range of emotional signals. They feel what is unspoken and unsaid in communication – they are able to read between the lines. Such leaders listen attentively and can grasp the other person’s perspective. Empathy enables people to get along with people of diverse backgrounds, cultures and walks of life. Empathy is the most recognized of all dimensions of emotional intelligence.

Empathy in leadership is often false interpreted by authoritarian people. People often think that empathy has something to do with being humble and having no own opinion. That is certainly false! Showing empathy towards other people does not mean adopting people’s feelings and opinions or trying to please everybody. Empathy means having an open ear, listening attentively, trying to understand and feeling with others – having a heart for others.

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Coaching vs. Managing: Why coaches are better leaders than managers

Coaching vs. Managing: Why coaches are better leaders than managers | The Key To Successful Leadership |

The term “manage” is synonymous with words like “govern,” “supervise,” and “administer.” The term “coach” is synonymous with “teach,” “educate,” and “prepare.” Compare the two terms as well as their synonyms. Is it as obvious to you as it is to me? There is a distant, authoritarian connotation radiating from the term “manage,” especially when paired with the gentle, nurturing term “coach.” Which type of leader would you like to work for? And, for those in leadership positions, which word would you like associated with your leadership style?


Coaches are leaders first. Managers are bosses first.

Ask any great leaders what their job is, and most of the time, they will tell you that they are responsible for motivating, inspiring, teaching, listening to and guiding their employees. They do this because they know that an organization is much more successful when they have thirty brains working on solutions rather than just one or two leaders’ brains working and thirty brains waiting for orders from the top.

Bosses, on the other hand, don’t see thirty brains. They see thirty pairs of hands that are made for completing orders and finishing tasks. By doing that, bosses put a limit on organization potential with each underestimated member of their human capital.

Coaches give advice. Managers give orders.


Coaches promote teamwork. Managers promote hierarchy.

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A NEW PERSONALITY - THE CREATIVE LEADER - Courageous Leaders Don't Make Excuses ... They Apologize | Forbes

A NEW PERSONALITY - THE CREATIVE LEADER - Courageous Leaders Don't Make Excuses ... They Apologize | Forbes | The Key To Successful Leadership |

There are great leaders who indeed are not able to apologize when having made mistakes. They rather seek excuses than admitting the own mistakes.
Being strong and giving people no cause for having right is their sight of good relationships. They won't feel responsable for the own deeds, for the own mistakes as admitting mistakes needs courage - courage that they don't have. Apologizing is a kind of weakness in their eyes and they don't want to be seen as weak, on the contrary they want to be seen as strong.

But good leadership has nothing to do with being strong - with being like a rock. Leaders nowadays show empathy and the needed courage to admit the own mistakes. They feel responsible, want to be honest and authentic.



Yet, humility and the ability to admit error may be two of the most important qualities a truly creative leader must have. 

In this article the authors make a really clear and well-reasoned case for the positive power of admitting and apologizing for one’s mistakes:

"We are frequently taught that leaders, especially aspiring leaders, should hide weaknesses and mistakes. This view is flawed. It is not only good to admit you are wrong when you are; but also it can also be a powerful tool for leaders—actually increasing legitimacy and, when practiced regularly, can help to build a culture that actually increases solidarity, innovation, openness to change and many other positive features of organizational life."

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Leaders must not only recognize their failures but also acknowledge them publicly. In being wrong, they can find both authenticity and opportunity.

By the way:

"OOPS" shows that people have no empathy. It is the confirmation that people are not able to formulate an excuse, nor are able to apologize. 
Such a word is totally uncreative and shows that people don't see any desire to thinking about what went wrong. "OOPS" pushes the problem aside.

Apology - what is important here?

1.) I’m sorry: 

This is the core of a genuine apology.  “I’m sorry.” or “I apologize.”  It’s the stake in the ground to communicate that you truly regret your behavior and wish you had acted differently. No apology is complete without this.

2.) Stay in the first person:  

A true apology sounds like, “I’m sorry I….” or “I’m sorry we…”

3.) Don’t equivocate:  

Once you said what you regret about your actions or words, don’t water it down with excuses.  That can blow the whole thing.  

4.) Say how you’ll fix it: 

If you genuinely regret your words or actions, you’ll to commit to changing. 

5.) Do it: 

I know some people who don’t have a hard time apologizing, but seem to have a hard time following through on their apologies. If you apologize and say you’re going to behave differently, and then don’t – it’s actually worse than not having apologized in the first place. When you don’t follow through, people question not only your courage, but also your trustworthiness.


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INSPIRATIONS FOR GOOD LEADERSHIP - 15 Secrets of the World’s Greatest Leaders | Shake Off the Grind

INSPIRATIONS FOR GOOD LEADERSHIP - 15 Secrets of the World’s Greatest Leaders | Shake Off the Grind | The Key To Successful Leadership |

There are many leaders that stand out as figures to learn from and emulate. Just to name a few would include Coach John Wooden, social and political figures like Martin Luther King Jr. or Nelson Mandela, and business visionaries like Walt Disney or Steve Jobs.

It’s truly amazing what all of these people have done in their life.

Here some inspirations for good leadership:

1. Be available
Be open to engage with others and respond to their needs. As you become a more respected leader you will be sought out for advice and guidance.

2. Promote participation
A great leader holds people accountable and promotes engagement from others. Leadership is about taking action and initiative ourselves, but also inspire other people.

3. Build effective relationships
Ultimately leadership is about the relationships you build - relationships built on trust, respect, and empowermen.

4. Provide feedback
Providing people immediate feedback is a powerful way to modify behavior. As a leader, feedback must be presented as a positive learning experience. 

5. Allow mistakes
A leader can’t expect perfection and needs to allow their people to fail and try new options.

6. Be a role model
People look to a leader as a mentor and model to learn from. If you hold a leadership position, model ethically desirable behaviors and live your life as a good example for others.

7. Be a teacher
Offering people intellectual stimulation is a major factor in being a transformational leader. Be a leader that offers training and wisdom to your constituents. 

8. Have high expectations
Expect more from others and communicate your high expectations to others in order to energize and inspire them.

9. Set motivating goals
Leaders help people set personal goals as well as business or team goals. 

10. Share information
Be transparent and open with the people you influence. A leader that shares information will be seen as more authentic and will garner trust and loyalty. 

11. Reward and celebrate innovation and effort
Always remember to offer praise for people who attempt to make progress and remember the power of small improvements. Help others feel proud of themselves.

12. Grow experts
Cultivate and grow other people to be leaders as well. 

13. Say “thank you”
Showing your appreciation and gratitude for others time and energy is a wonderful motivator. Find ways to say “thank you” and express that you appreciate what others do.

14. Show your emotions
Don’t be afraid to be genuine and express how you feel. Embrace vulnerability and be willing to connect with people in a moving way.

15. Be flexible
Dealing with people effectively and solving problems successfully requires we are able to be flexible. Think outside of the box when it comes to finding solutions and be prepared for obstacles and unexpected situations.

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LEADERS HAVE TO GIVE UP TO GO UP - What you need to give up to be a good leader

LEADERS HAVE TO GIVE UP TO GO UP - What you need to give up to be a good leader | The Key To Successful Leadership |

A good leader must learn to give up certain old-fashioned habits and patterns.

Giving up these things will be hard for so many successful people who always try to lead, to be right, to be in control.

The need to be right: 
The best leaders are after the best results, and know that won’t necessarily come from their ideas. Even if it is the leader’s idea, success will be more likely if the group owns it.

The need to speak first: 
In many situations, it’s wise for leaders to shut up, letting team members discuss and explore. The leader’s words can inhibit the team’s ideas and input.

The need to decide: 
There are times when leaders must make the call. “Often, when leaders let go of their need to decide, others will make the same decision, if not a better one.”

The need for credit: 
Leaders who usurp all the credit for their team’s success won’t have the support of the team very long.

The need for control: 
People often seek leadership as an outlet for their desire to control others. But nobody is eager to follow micro-managers and control freaks.

Surrendering these needs can seem like a significant loss. But giving them up, will lead to greater results, greater influence, greater satisfaction and greater significance, which are more meaningful needs to satisfy.

A good leader has to step down to his followers and has to learn evolving an understanding for other people, for their needs and interests.

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5 Ways to Lead with Emotional Intelligence -- and Boost Productivity - Forbes

5 Ways to Lead with Emotional Intelligence -- and Boost Productivity - Forbes | The Key To Successful Leadership |

In the end, leaders become more valuable when they can prove to increase productivity, employee engagement and results by creating a teamwork environment that gets the best performance from everyone. This requires leaders to be strong mentors as well as sponsors who can help their colleagues better navigate workplace opportunities and catapult their careers.

Leaders must be more emotionally intelligent to be more effective and efficient at maximizing outcomes and desired results.


Emotional intelligence is the ability to …
identify, to use, understand and manage our emotions in that way that we are able to prevent or relieve stress, communicate effectively, emphasize with others, overcome difficulties or challenges and resolve or prevent conflicts.

Emotional intelligence has a great impact on many different aspects in our daily life, it influences the way we behave and the way we interact with others.

Here are 5 ways to lead with emotional intelligence:

1. Care About People

Caring is a simple thing to do, but not always expressed or genuine in its delivery or tone. Leaders need to balance the head and the heart. Make the extra effort to say thank you and be consistent about it. Take the time to mentor and / or sponsor employees who have earned the opportunity.    

2. Embrace Differences to Make a Big Difference

We live in a world were differences in people are more apparent than ever before. People want to be authentic and appreciate those who embrace their differences. Today’s leaders must be more sensitive about how to manage and leverage differences in people to assemble great teams and assign unique talents and abilities to certain situations. Be smart and look for common ground within the differences between people.

3. Help Employees Experience Significance

Leaders should not get caught up in converting their employees to be more like them – but rather in motivating employees with how the job can benefit their life, not just the bottom line. Allow your employees to appreciate and experience the human side of what success can bring to their families and life outside of work.

4. Be Accountable Like Everyone Else

Just because you are in-charge doesn’t mean that you can’t be an equal.  This means that as a leader you must hold yourself equally accountable and enforce the same rules of engagement that you expect from your employees. Admit when you are wrong and be transparent in how you lead others. Employees want to know that you can be trusted;  

5. Be Mindful of Their Needs

If your employees are not working at or close to their capacity, then you are not doing your job as a leader. Your sensitivity radar must always be on.  

Be more sensitive about your team, your employees, and their needs – open your eyes wider and begin to see opportunities previously unseen.

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THOUGHTS ON LEADERSHIP COMPETENCIES – 1.) Transparency - | Noozmag | The Key To Successful Leadership |

1.) Transparency

Leaders who are transparent live their values. Transparency is an authentic openness to others about the own feelings, beliefs and actions. It allows integrity. Such leaders openly admit mistakes or faults. They confront others with their unethical behaviour and try to show them what is wrong. 

Why is it essential to confront others with the own false and unethical behaviour?

People should know when others have a problem with them, with their behaviour. This problem may also be a serious problem in others' eyes. People should know why we are not capable to understand them fully.
Confronting people with their false behaviour is a chance for them to reflect what goes wrong and to change the own behaviour. 
Confronting people in that way has nothing to do with attacking people.

But there are often people who feel attacked - these are people who insist on their false behaviour and do not respect others and their opinion. They see only themselves. They are not able to adopt a good advice. They do everything to prevent a mutual understanding.

A lack of transparency may cause confusion, mistrust, reduced alignment and makes decision making slower, harder and interventions less effective. A good collaboration is not possible under these circumstances.


Be open to people and say it directly, but friendly if they lack the right transparency and prevent thus a good relationship with them.
Their behaviour afterwards will show you if they are open for you and try to understand. Thus you get a good feeling if relationships with these people make sense. People who are not transparent are never authentic - they will always try to win in a relationship. They seek only their advantage. Such relationships are not to recommend.


So what are you doing to drive transparency, trust and a mutual understanding in your organization?

(Source: Leadership: The Power of Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman)

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Why Focusing on Weakness Doesn't Create Exceptional Leadership

Why Focusing on Weakness Doesn't Create Exceptional Leadership | The Key To Successful Leadership |
There is psychological problem that some people experience called body dysmorphic disorder, sometimes referred to as imagined ugliness. People with this disorder exaggerate a small flaw in their appearance and perceive themselves to be completely ugly or grotesque. They cannot stop thinking about this minor or imagined flaw.

In many ways, believing that a small weakness will crater a person’s overall effectiveness is a similar serious misperception."

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Obama's Leadership Lesson: Hire People 'To Tell You The Truth' - Forbes

Obama's Leadership Lesson: Hire People 'To Tell You The Truth' - Forbes | The Key To Successful Leadership |

Barack Obama says:


"It's soothing to work with people who tell us what we want to hear. But to move a country — or an organization — ahead we have to pay even more attention to bad news, tough love and dissenting opinions.We grow professionally and personally by being exposed not to similarities, but to differences."


Wise managers will not hire their mirror image. They may be attracted by parallels, but they should look for differences and surround themselves with people who are not only smarter than they are, but who will, as the President said, tell them the truth.


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The process of self-actualization | Noozmag

The process of self-actualization | Noozmag | The Key To Successful Leadership |

Self-actualization means you know exactly who you are, where you are going, and what you want to accomplish in life.It is a state of well-being.

Abraham Maslow was an American psychologist and best known for his theory of the “Hierarchy of Needs”.
The last step of his “Hierarchy of Needs” is “Self-actualization”.
Abraham Maslow described here the ongoing process of fully developing the own potential.

How do we reach self-actualization?

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The Higher Leaders Climb, the More Others See!

The Higher Leaders Climb, the More Others See! | The Key To Successful Leadership |

There is an old saying about those who have climbed the ladder of success: "The higher the monkey climbs the tree, the more of his butt you'll see."

It means that as you achieve higher leadership roles, the more you will be watched and valued regarding how you treat others, how you perform your work, your ethics and integrity, and your credibility with others. 

This is how others will see and perceive you then:

1.) Treatment of Others: How You Perform Your Work

2.) How You Perform Your Work

3.) Your Ethics and Integrity

4.) Your Credibility with Others

Show Everyone That You Belong High Up in That Tree

The importance of displaying how you treat others, your performance, your integrity, and your credibility provides the catalyst to cementing yourself as a bona fide leader in the organization.

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Leadership 2.0: Are You An Adaptive Leader? - Forbes

Leadership 2.0: Are You An Adaptive Leader? - Forbes | The Key To Successful Leadership |

Travis Bradberry just released a book "Leadership 2.0", which shares results from an intensive study that set out to separate the leadership skills.

1.) Core Leadership is the basis of solid, productive leadership.

Core leadership skills are strategy, action and results

2.) Adaptive Leadership - these skills create dynamic, agile leaders who are incredibly effective in any environment:.

Emotional Intelligence - Emotional intelligence is a set of skills that capture our awareness of our own emotions and the emotions of others and how we use this awareness to manage ourselves effectively and form quality relationships.

Organizational Justice – Great leaders don’t shy away from the truth. They know how to integrate what people think, what they want to hear, and how they want to hear it with the facts. This makes people feel respected and valued.

Character – Leaders who embody a true sense of character are transparent and forthcoming. They aren’t perfect, but they earn people’s respect by walking their talk.

Development – The moment leaders think they have nothing more to learn and have no obligation to help develop those they lead is the moment they ensure they’ll never know their true potential.

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IF YOU THINK YOU CAN, YOU CAN - The top 10 traits of successful, creative businesswomen

IF YOU THINK YOU CAN, YOU CAN - The top 10 traits of successful, creative businesswomen | The Key To Successful Leadership |

If you're a woman who wants to start your own business, read the following top 10 traits that will make a successful entrepreneur:

1.) Self-belief

Self-belief is probably the single most important trait possessed by any successful entrepreneur. In the words of Mary Kay Ash who founded Mary Kay Cosmetics: "If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can't, you're right."

2.) Ambition

You have to really want something if you're going to succeed. And you should never settle for second best. Always aim for the top. 

3.) Confidence

Confidence is essential if you want to win clients and build a profitable business. Confidence will win people's respect, earn their trust and gain you a solid reputation.

4.) Passion

Successful female entrepreneurs are always passionate about what they do because they tend to create businesses around the things they enjoy.
Find your own passion, believe in it and turn it into something great.

5.) Humility and a readiness to continuous learning

Successful female entrepreneurs work hard to learn and improve all the time. They read books, go to workshops and are willing to learn from others.

And they are humble. They admit frankly that they don't know everything and will always strive to boost their skills.

6.) Sense of purpose

To be a successful female entrepreneur you have to believe in yourself and believe that what you are doing is really making a difference. That strong sense of purpose will be reflected in your business.

7.) Assertiveness

To be a successful businesswoman you have to be assertive, that people will  respect you. Convey assertiveness by being fearless, speaking with authority and purpose. Adopt a confident manner, deal with any criticism rationally and be calm, cool and considered.

8.) Hard work

In the end, hard work is the true, enduring characteristic of successful people.

9.) Bravery

Whether you're a man or woman, it takes guts to run a business. You have to constantly push yourself out of your comfort zone to move forward, boost confidence and succeed. 

10.) Persistence

To be a successful businesswoman, you have to be persistent and never give up.

My favourite points are number 5.) and 6.) .. being humble, being ready to continuous learning and trying to make a difference with our work.

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15 Ways To Identify Bad Leaders - Forbes

15 Ways To Identify Bad Leaders - Forbes | The Key To Successful Leadership |

Leaders need to be honest, have a demonstrated track record of success, be excellent communicators, place an emphasis on serving those they lead, be fluid in approach, have laser focus, and a bias toward action. If these traits are not possessed by your current leadership team, or your emerging leaders, you will be in for a rocky road ahead…

Here are 15 ways to identify bad leaders:

1. Leaders who can’t see it, probably won’t find it: 

Leaders without vision will fail. Leaders who lack vision cannot inspire teams, motivate performance, or create sustainable value. 

2. When leaders fail to lead themselves: A leader who lacks character or integrity will not endure the test of time. Optics over ethics is not a formula for success.

3. Put-up or shut-up: Nothing smacks of poor leadership like a lack of performance. Nobody is perfect, but leaders who consistently fail are no leaders.

4. Beware the know-it-all: The best leaders are acutely aware of how much they don’t know. They have no need to be the smartest person in the room, but have the unyielding desire to learn from others. I’ve often said, leaders who are not growing cannot lead a growing enterprise. 

5. When there’s a failure to communicate: Great leaders can communicate effectively across mediums, constituencies, and environments. They are active listeners, fluid thinkers, and know when to dial it up, down, or off.

6. It’s all about them: If a leader doesn’t understand the concept of “service above self” they will not engender the trust, confidence, and loyalty of those they lead. Any leader is only as good as his or her team’s desire to be led by them. 

7. Sing a little Kumbaya: Empathy, humility and kindness are signs of leadership strength – not weakness.

8. One size fits all leadership style: Only those leaders who can quickly recognize and adapt their methods to the situation at hand will be successful over the long haul. Think open-source not proprietary, surrender not control, and collaborate not dictate.

9. Lack of focus: Leaders who are not intentional and are not focused, will fail themselves and their team. Leaders who lack discipline will model the wrong behaviors and will inevitably spread themselves too thin. Organizations are at the greatest risk when leaders lose their focus. Intentions must be aligned with results for leaders to be effective.

10. Death by comfort zone: The best leaders are focused on leading change and innovation to keep their organizations fresh, dynamic and growing. Bottom line – leaders who build a static business doom themselves to failure.

11. Not paying attention to the consumer: The best leaders find ways to consistently engage the consumer and incorporate them into their innovation and planning initiatives. If you ignore, mistreat, or otherwise don’t value your customer base, your days as a leader are most certainly numbered.

12. Get Invested: Leaders not fully committed to investing in those they lead will fail. The best leaders support their team, build into their team, mentor and coach their team, and they truly care for their team. A leader not fully invested in their team won’t have a team – at least not an effective one. Never forget the old saying, people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care – words to live by for leaders.

13. The “A” word: Real leaders are accountable. They don’t blame others, don’t claim credit for the success of their team, but always accept responsibility for failures that occur on their watch. Most of all, leaders are accountable to their team. I’ve always said that leaders not accountable to their people will eventually be held accountable by their people.

14. It’s the culture stupid: The lesson here is that culture matters – forget this and all other efforts with regard to talent initiatives will be dysfunctional, if not altogether lost. Don’t allow your culture to evolve by default, create it by design. The first step in cultural design is to be very, very careful who you let through the front door. People, their traits, attitudes, and work ethic (or lack thereof) are contagions. This can be positive or negative – the choice is yours. The old saying, “talent begets talent” is true, but talent that aligns with culture will produce better results than talent that does not.

15. Show some chutzpa: Leadership absent courage is a farce. I’m not referring to arrogance or bravado, but real courage. It takes courage to break from the norm, challenge the status quo, seek new opportunities, cut your losses, make the tough decision, listen rather than speak, admit your faults, forgive the faults of others, not allow failure to dampen your spirit, stand for those not capable of standing for themselves, and to remain true to your core values. You can do none of these things without courage. Courage is having the strength of conviction to do the right thing when it would just be easier to do things right.

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10 COMMUNICATION SECRETS OF GREAT LEADERS | Forbes | The Key To Successful Leadership |

Examine the world’s greatest leaders and you’ll find them all to be exceptional communicators:

Effective communication is an essential component of professional success whether it is at the interpersonal, inter-group, intra-group, organizational, or external level.

The number one thing great communicators have in common is they possess a heightened sense of situational and contextual awareness. The best communicators are great listeners. 

Great communicators are skilled at reading a person / group by sensing the moods, dynamics, attitudes, values and concerns of those being communicated with. Not only do they read their environment well, but they possess the ability to adapt their messaging to said environment without missing a beat. The message is not about the messenger - it is however 100% about meeting the needs and the expectations of those you’re communicating with.

We are excellent communicators when our interactions with others consistently use the following ten principles:

1. Speak not with a forked tongue: 
Trust is best created by earning it with right acting, thinking, and decisioning. Keep in mind people will forgive many things where trust exists, but will rarely forgive anything where trust is absent.

2. Get personal:
If you don’t develop meaningful relationships with people you’ll never know what’s really on their mind until it’s too late to do anything about it.

3. Get specific:

Learn to communicate with clarity. Simple and concise is always better than complicated and confusing.

4. Focus on the leave-behinds not the take-aways:

The best communicators are not only skilled at learning and gathering information while communicating, they are also adept at transferring ideas, aligning expectations, inspiring action, and spreading their vision. 

5. Have an open mind:

The rigidity of a closed mind is the single greatest limiting factor of new opportunities.

A leader takes their game to a whole new level the minute they willingly seek out those who hold dissenting opinions and opposing positions with the goal not of convincing them to change their minds, but with the goal of understanding what’s on their mind. 
Open dialogs with those who confront you, challenge you, stretch you, and develop you.

6. Shut-up and listen:

Great leaders know when to dial it up, dial it down, and dial it off (mostly down and off). 

7. Replace ego with empathy:

Do not to let your ego write checks that your talent may cash. Good communication is about empathy and caring and not about arrogance of an over inflated ego. Empathetic communicators display a level of authenticity and transparency.

8. Read between the lines:

Take a moment and reflect back on any great leader that comes to mind… you’ll find they are very adept at reading between the lines. They have the uncanny ability to understand what is not said, witnessed, or heard. 

9. When you speak, know what you’re talking about:

Develop a technical command over your subject matter. If you don’t possess subject matter expertise, few people will give you the time of day

10. Speak to groups as individuals:

Leaders don’t always have the luxury of speaking to individuals in an intimate setting. Great communicators can tailor a message such that they can speak to 10 people in a conference room or 10,000 people in an auditorium and have them feel as if they were speaking directly to each one of them as an individual. 

11. Bonus – Be prepared to change the message if needed:  

Another component of communications strategy that is rarely discussed is how to prevent a message from going bad, and what to do when does. It’s called being prepared and developing a contingency plan. 

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What’s Your SQ (Spiritual Intelligence)? Cindy Wigglesworth Reveals Its Leadership Power | 9 Ways

What’s Your SQ (Spiritual Intelligence)? Cindy Wigglesworth Reveals Its Leadership Power | 9 Ways | The Key To Successful Leadership |

Multiple Intelligences and the Woman Leader

Women tend to score higher than men in emotional and spiritual intelligence. We have a natural tendency to develop skills the world desperately needs,

says Cindy Wigglesworth.

Cindy is president of Deep Change, Inc. and the author of the just released must read for any leader, SQ 21: The Twenty-One Skills of Spiritual Intelligence. Her ideas about this third dimension of leadership will send you deeper into your own thinking about how you can lead most effectively and authentically.

According to Cindy Wigglesworth, Spiritual Intelligence is "the ability to behave with wisdom and compassion while maintaining inner and outer peace regardless of the situation." In her new book, SQ21: The Twenty-One Skills of Spiritual Intelligence, Cindy helps us understand how spiritual intelligence is analogous to such concepts as IQ and emotional intelligence (EQ). Using clear, practical language she defines the "21 skills" that comprise spiritual intelligence and in doing so, teaches you the steps to begin developing your own spiritual intelligence.

Cindy says:

Years of research into EQ (emotional intelligence) have shown that IQ is “not enough” to succeed. But if you have enough IQ and technical training, then EQ becomes the next differentiator of success.

There are 18 skills of EQ in the Daniel Goleman / Richard Boyatzis model.
These skills include empathy, where women tend to excel.

Men, in my experience, use willpower as a first-choice method to control their emotional outbursts. They suppress feelings rather than gain insight in how to manage them. Women tend to notice how they are feeling and more easily learn to reflect on the “why” behind it. Healthy self-reflection helps with EQ and SQ. Good EQ creates the ability to influence others, work well in a team, and be trusted as a leader.

Women seem to start out with a stronger baseline EQ, perhaps due to brain differences, hormone differences, and social training. This gives us a significant gender advantage, if we use it.

There are 21 skills of SQ in my model. Each skill can be self-assessed from “novice” to “expert” level. And each skill can be developed if the leader chooses to do so.

(Note: both men and women can excel in EQ and SQ, as these are learnable skills.)

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A GOOD LEADER MUST SHOW EMPATHY - Empathy in Leadership – 10 Reasons Why It Matters |

A GOOD LEADER MUST SHOW EMPATHY - Empathy in Leadership – 10 Reasons Why It Matters | | The Key To Successful Leadership |

1. What does empathy mean?

“Empathy means I demonstrate concern for & listen to reach understanding of others ideas & feelings.” –@scedmonds

2. Why does it matter for us to understand the needs of others?

“By understanding others we can develop closer relationships.” –@TerriKlass

3. What traits/behaviours distinguish someone as empathetic?

“Empathy requires listening, nonjudgmentalism, openness, emotional intelligence.” –@StrategicMonk

4. Can we learn to be more empathetic or is this an innate trait?

“Empathy is human. We can develop empathy when we focus on others and commit to develop our authentic self.” –@jimweibe

5. What can we do to become more empathetic?

“Take a personal interest in people. Show people that you care, and genuine curiosity about their lives.” –@LollyDaskal

6. What role does empathy play in leadership? Why does it matter?

“When we understand our team we have a better idea of the challenges ahead of us.” –@morrismichellek

7. So why aren’t we being more empathetic at work?

“Empathy takes time, focus, effort. Some people focus more on meeting deadlines than on the people who will carry you there.” –@elbiddulph

8. How can leaders encourage a culture of empathy?

“Create an environment were people feel it is safe to express their true opinion.” –@DrGregWaddell

9. How can we use empathy to become a better leader?

“Empathy as a state of mind breeds more listening -> understanding -> leadership!” –@KateNasser

10. If leaders could do one thing to create a more empathetic workplace, what would it be?

“Remember that people are not machines. They feel as well as produce.” –@dapancost

The greatest problem in our society are leaders who don't want to "see" others, who don't respect and value other people. These people are not able to feeling empathy.They prevent themselves from developping good relationships with people. These people are an obstacle for themselves, an obstacle through the own behaviour. And they are often so heavily involved in this false behaviour that they are not aware what they do and how wrong they behave. 

If you wish to know the mind of a man, listen to his words.
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care. – Theodore Roosevelt

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THE GREATEST PROBLEM OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE REACHED SOMETHING - People are not able to give back - they take themselves too seriously

THE GREATEST PROBLEM OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE REACHED SOMETHING  - People are not able to give back - they take themselves too seriously | The Key To Successful Leadership |

Our society has many great leaders - leaders who have something to say, who are respected and people trust in their opinion. But too many of them take themselves too seriously, they believe the own influence and press - they trust in BEING SOMEONE. They should never forget that they started at the bottom as a positional leader and they also started from zero.
They got successful because other people helped them along the way.
Only through building effective relationships we are able to be successful.

Leaders often don't use the opportunity to making an impact

So many good leaders are not able to give back, to help others to succeed, to develop other leaders. They do not use the opportunity to making an impact beyond their tenure and beyond their lifetimes. 

Here the levels of leadership (according to "5 Levels of Leadership" of +John Maxwell):

1.) Position - people follow because they have to (RIGHTS)
2.) Permission - people follow you because they want to (RELATIONSHIPS)
3.) Production - people follow because of what you have done (for the organization) (RESULTS)
4.) People Development - people follow because of what you have done for them (REPRODUCTION)
5.) Pinnacle - people follow because of who you are and what you represent

+John Maxwell says:
Leaders at this level of leadership (level 5 in leadership = the Pinnacle) need to be a good model to everyone by valuing people, continuing to grow, practicing the golden rule, being authentic, exhibiting good values and living out the right priorities. Level 5 leaders have a platform to lead and to persuade. Whenever possible they should use it to pass on those things that have helped them to succeed. 


What you daily do becomes your legacy! Decide wisely what will become your legacy and live according to that!

Here a guide for level 5 leaders:

➛ Remain humble and teachable. Write a credo for learning that you will follow every day.

➛ Maintain your core focus. 

➛ Create the right inner circle to keep you grounded. Reward people with loyalty, love, protection, leadership, money, etc.

➛ There are always a handful of things that only the top leaders can do for their organization. Think these responsibilities through and make them a high priority.

➛ Create a supercharged leadership development environment. 

➛ Create room at the top for potential leaders. Make room by giving existing top leaders new challenges.

➛ Develop top leaders. Set aside one-on-one time every week to work with the best leaders.

➛ Plan your succession. Focus on developing the few who have the potential to succeed you.

➛ Plan your legacy. Start doing whatever you must to fulfill it.

➛ Use your leadership success as a platform for something greater. As a Pinnacle leader, people outside your organization and industry will seek your advice. Leverage that to benefit others outside your direct sphere of influence.

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Ethics and competence will pave you the way for success | Noozmag

Ethics and competence will pave you the way for success | Noozmag | The Key To Successful Leadership |

A great problem in business is that people lack the necessary business ethics. They proclaim integrity and authenticity and demand it from others. But at the same time, ironically, studies indicate that the majority of people don’t always act with this integrity they request from others.

+John Maxwell says in the preface of his book “Ethics 101“:

“There’s no such thing as business ethics – there’s only ethics.
People try to use one set of ethics for their professional life, another for their spiritual life, and still another at home with their family. That gets them into trouble. Ethics is ethics. If you desire to be ethical, you live it by one standard across the board.”

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Room to Grow - Be focused on lifelong growth - not on goals

Room to Grow - Be focused on lifelong growth - not on goals | The Key To Successful Leadership |

People too often set themselves goals, goals that are too often high and hard to reach.

But setting goals is the false way to be successful.

Setting goals is like hoping for the best to come and hope is not a strategy, says John Maxwell. 

John C. Maxwell is an internationally renowned leadership expert, coach, and author who has sold over 21 million books.

John Maxwell shared in an interview his principles that had been essential to his success. 

Law of Intentionality

We better should begin to grow deliberately and regularly. We should realize our potential and should do something about ourselves.

Law of Reflection

John Maxwell says: "If the right things happen in me, I can begin to control some of the things that happen outside me. Evaluated experience is the best teacher (not experience!), and that is reflection."

This is also what I do regularly:
Thinking about my experiences, asking myself questions, reflecting and giving the things a new perspective. We should learn from every (difficult) experience! Life is about learning - steadily!

Law of Consistency

John Maxwell explains: "Motivation gets you going - discipline keeps you growing."
He suggests switching our thinking from goal-consciousness to growth-consciousness as focusing on goals is seasonal, but concentrating on growth is lifelong.

Law of Curiosity

This is very essential for small-business owners - being curious. 
"This world is owned by people who have crossed bridges in their imagination before anyone else has." Maxwell says.

Law of Awareness

Maxwell states: "You must know yourself to grow yourself. People say there are two great days in a person's life: the day you were born and the day you discover why. I want to encourage you to seek what you were put on this earth to do. Then pursue it with all your effort."

Law of Environment

Maxwell says: "Growth thrives in conducive surroundings.... others are ahead of me, I am continually challenged, my focus is forward, the atmosphere is affirming....the best place to learn is always where others are ahead of you."

Law of Modeling

Maxwell explains: "Find somebody who does well and find out why they do well ... people need to get around somebody who can help them."

Law of Mirror

The unemployed and underemployed should also follow this law, Maxwell says:
"You must see value in yourself and adding value to yourself."

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5 Powerful Things Happen When A Leader Is Transparent - Forbes

5 Powerful Things Happen When A Leader Is Transparent - Forbes | The Key To Successful Leadership |

Trust and transparency have become popular demands as employees seek to be aware of what is real and true.

We are all living during a time when people want and expect their leaders to be more #human, less perfect and at times a bit #vulnerable – regardless of hierarchy or rank.

This need for transparency in society is at an all-time high. 

People want leaders who can deliver balance between knowledge (the head) and wisdom (the heart).

Here are five powerful things that happen when a leader can be transparent:
1.     Problems Are Solved Faster
2.     Teams Are Built Easier
3.     Relationships Grow Authentically
4.     People Begin to Promote Trust in Their Leader
5.     Higher-Levels of Performance Emerge

Each of the preceding points is interdependent and builds upon one another.
This naturally takes us to point #5:  Higher-Levels of Performance.    

The formula is simple:

Efficient problem solving + the ability to build teams easier + the development of authentic relationships + trust = higher levels of performance. 

Unfortunately, the lack of transparency that still exists among leaders in the workplace can potentially put one of these powerful factors at risk – which leads to less optimal levels of performance.  The irony is that in the end, it’s the leader that loses when performance wanes.


It’s better to be open and honest on the front-end, because if not – you may not be around long enough to see the back-end:
the success and significance of being a great leader who served to inspire hope and opportunity by not allowing power to stand in the way of honesty, authenticity and being genuine with people.
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Positional leadership …. or the boss | Noozmag

Positional leadership …. or the boss | Noozmag | The Key To Successful Leadership |


Be selective and get to know people!

Never rely on a status!

Always see the person behind!


A good leader sees himself not as a leader  - only the others see him as a leader!

A famous quote says:

A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.

(Lao Tzu)

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