Imagine that: You just experienced a bad situation .. life tested you extremely and your feelings are challenged.
So how do you react?
Are you angry, and disappointed? Do you feel hurt and victimized?
Or are you in such a rage, that you have the urgent desire to hurt the other person, too? Do you feel the spontaneous need to blame and punish the other person? An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth – like that? Does hurting the other person give you satisfaction and contentment?
Be careful – there is a quote:
An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
Humility plays a very important role in leadership. People who are humble acknowledge the own imperfections and admit when they are wrong. They put others first in thought, word and deed and avoid narcissistic self-promotion.
Humility is the crown of all virtues. Humility enables courage and points wisdom into the right direction. Humility makes love possible.
A leader must be fully committed to nurture relationships and give trust to the people around him. Good leaders are not power driven, they are people driven. They have an interest in other people and their lives.
It all begins with the right communication and behavior. People should feel estimated and encouraged in that way, that they are interested in deepening the relationship with the person.
Kindness and friendliness open doors and show people that they are welcome in our life. Prejudices and assumptions are the wrong way to establish relationships of trust.
We should create a YES culture where people feel welcome and respected. Every time we connect with a person, even in a fleeting moment, we touch their life and we may feel enriched by that connection.
It is so easy to blame others, to blame life and circumstances … we hardly want to take responsibility for our actions and for our situation. So often people excuse own problems via other people and life.
There are three kind of categories:
The Hang-Ups – People who blame life and outer circumstances for their problems
The Bang-Ups – People who blame past personal problems and hurts
The Gang-Ups – People who blame other people for hindering them
1.) How well do I treat people from whom I gain nothing? 2.) Am I transparent with others? 3.) Do I role-play based on the persons I am surrounded? 4.) Am I the same person when I'm in the spotlight and when I am alone? 5.) Do I quickly admit mistakes and wrongdoing without being forced to do so? 6.) Do I put other people ahead of my personal agenda? 7.) Do I have an unchanging standard for moral decisions, or do often outer circumstances determine my decisions? 8.) Do I make difficult decisions, even when they have a personal cost attached to them? 9.) When I have something to say about people, do I talk to them or do I talk about them? 10.) Am I accountable to at least one other person for what I think, say and do?
Be honest in your answers!
(Source: "Becoming a person of influence" by +John Maxwell )
Traditionalists will say that work is serious business. One of the most creative minds of the Industrial Age had a different point of view:
I never did a day’s work in my life — it was all fun. — ThomasEdison
Meghan M. Biro, CEO + Founder TalentCulture Consulting Group + TalentCulture World of Work, says:
“Edison’s point is well taken, but I doubt he ever worked in any of the deadening cultures most of us have had to suffer in at some time during our careers. I’m not asking for rainbows and unicorns, they call it work for a reason. But the fact is that leaders can add some zing, zest and just plain fun to being at work. And numerous studies have shown a lively, personalized workplace culture improves business performance (and profits).
I’m talking about fun, but this is serious business. It’s our job to help create happy employees.”
TRUST … the only kind of influence that really matters
There is a quote:
The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority. ~ Kenneth Blanchard
When we think like that, we only think about us – we are egoistic and selfish and aim on our personal success.
Our future lies in other people and their success. Our goal should always be giving people our trust that they learn to trust us. And giving our trust has nothing to do with aiming on trustworthiness. Others should be trustworthy for us. When we see others with a human heart, when we see their soul and humanity, we see their trustworthiness.
When we come to a certain level of leadership, people want to get in deeper contact with us. People want to know us and they want to talk on a personal level to us. This can be disturbing for people who are not used to that. We all like to have our private sphere, but being successful means appreciating that people see us as recommendable and a person to share the own interests and life with.
Try to understand:
Personal leaders know more. They learn more. And they are seen as trustworthy. The cost of ignorance can be high.
"Uncertainty is where things happen. It is where the opportunities -- for success, for happiness, for really living -- are waiting."
Karin Sebelin's insight:
I especially like these words in the mentioned book:
"The most valuable skill of a successful entrepreneur … isn’t “vision” or “passion” or a steadfast insistence on destroying every barrier between yourself and some prize you’re obsessed with. Rather, it’s the ability to adopt an unconventional approach to learning: an improvisational flexibility not merely about which route to take towards some predetermined objective, but also a willingness to change the destination itself. This is a flexibility that might be squelched by rigid focus on any one goal."
I think we all should be more "flexible" sometimes. We too often cling too much to plans and schemes.
Blogging is a good means to present yourself and your business. Readers are able to learn how you feel, think and which experiences you have made.
People may learn your skills and your special abilities, but also what you love and like.
Some people have their problems finding the right path for blogging.They have problems finding the right topic and beginning.
Here some helpful incentives for good blogging:
Write from the heart ♥ ♥ ♥
Write from the heart.
What does that mean?Write from the heart means dare to be YOU.
Here some words to think about:
“Don’t write what you know—what you know may bore you, and thus bore your readers.Write about what interests you—and interests you deeply—and your readers will catch fire at your words.”~ Valerie Sherwood
DO YOU FOLLOW A POSITION OR DO YOU FOLLOW WHAT THE PERSON BEHIND OFFERS YOU?
Leadership is no position – it is action, as said through the word! Leadership – this word comes from the verb “lead” and leading means taking responsibility for other people and caring for them. Leaders take people on a journey, so to say. Positional leaders only see their point of view, their position. They try to control people. They see themselves as the boss. They rely on their rights.
Now I may ask you: Do you follow someone who only sees his side of view – who wants to be a leader instead of “leading” and caring for people? Do you follow titles and positions? Or do you follow people who are able to convince with their personal and human side and create new leaders in encouraging and supporting others?
BE SELECTIVE WHO YOU FOLLOW!
By the way: A good leader sees himself not as a leader!
A famous quote says: A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves. (Lao Tzu)