Within each of us are two selves, suggests David Brooks in this meditative short talk: the self who craves success, who builds a résumé, and the self who seeks connection, community, love -- the values that make for a great eulogy. (Joseph Soloveitchik has called these selves "Adam I" and "Adam II.") Brooks asks: Can we balance these two selves?
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The Battling 2 Selves
The Lonely Man of Faith by Joseph B. Soloveitchik http://www.amazon.com/dp/0385514085/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_R06Xtb1168QAKK5E
Resume Adam 1
Skills developed to create and prosper, your resume self. Worldly, savors accomplishment. Asks how things work. Built on strengths.
Eulogy Adam 2
Life based in overcoming weakness despite our nature. To do good and to be good. Asks why we are here. Built by wrestling with your "signature sin" Out of that suffering and wrestling comes character.
Two sides of our nature. Adam 1 = economic. Adam 2 = to find yourself you have to lose yourself in something greater.
We live in a culture with an Adam 1 mentality and we are ignorant about Adam 2.
Brooks quotes Reinhold Niebuhr
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* Nothing that is worth doing can be achieved in our lifetime
therefore we must be saved by hope.
* Nothing which is true, virtuous and beautiful or good makes complete sense in any immediate context of history
therefore we must be saved by faith.
* Nothing we do, no matter how virtuous, can be accomplished alone
therefore we must be saved by love.
* No virtuous act is quite as virtuous be it friend or foe as to ourselves therefore we must be saved by that final form of love which is forgiveness.
The big C pushed me into considering eulogy virtues long before I was ready. Brooks and Niebuhr have it right - start with forgiveness and add love, faith and hope.