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Series: Victimization « Conner Partners

Series: Victimization « Conner Partners | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
Victimization: A Thorn in the Side of Change Execution
Victimization Breeds Easily in Work Environments
Change Throws Gasoline on the Flames of Victimization
Stemming the Tide of Victimization
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"It’s a plague

Victimization is so prevalent today that it has become a defining characteristic of our times, yet it is sometimes difficult to see the devastating effect it has on individuals, organizations, and the whole of society. We live in an era where we hardly notice when people shirk their responsibilities, expect something or someone else to take care of their problem, or go underground with their complaints and suggestions because it would be too expensive to openly try to do something themselves. Victimization is becoming our norm, in part, because we are adjusting to its commonness. The tolerance for capitulating to this kind of mindset as an acceptable standard has reached unprecedented highs.

In virtually all aspects of society, the level of courage and discipline required to be an influencer seems to be in short supply and is becoming more rare all the time. At its current rate of growth, the victim mindset may become dominant in some settings where the majority of the people feel marginalized—including those in leadership positions. The result would be victims leading victims…not a formula for an optimistic outlook for our species."

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The #1 Rule of Leadership - "It's not about you"

The #1 Rule of Leadership - "It's not about you" | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it

Perform a search of “leadership” on Google and you will find dozens of listed leadership “rules” and “qualities” (most of which are very accurate).


But there is one primary axiom of leadership that trumps all others:


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donhornsby's curator insight, August 27, 5:25 PM

(From the article) The most effective leaders follow Leadership Rule #1, and return to it during those leadership challenges that require the very best of their leadership abilities. They understand that you cannot change expectations, alter perceptions, and motivate others unless you maintain the ability to influence them in a positive manner. When followers sense that your leadership decisions are made with other priorities, they will not trust you. Without trust, you will lose the ability maintain the positive influence necessary to motivate and inspire others, and you will have limited the value of your leadership investment.

 

Whether you are a brand new leader, or someone with years of experience, the next time you find yourself faced with a leadership decision, pause and remind yourself of this:

 

“It’s not about you.”

Sandeep Gautam's curator insight, September 11, 7:06 AM

Its not about you and then its not about you all too; imho, its about us:-)

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5 Leadership Lessons For Mentoring Employees

5 Leadership Lessons For Mentoring Employees | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it

Here are five ways to go a little further and cultivate employees who will eventually work autonomously and remain loyal to your company.


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David Hain's curator insight, October 20, 5:14 PM
Mentoring works - for both parties!
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Generation vs. Generation: How Can We All Get Along at Work?

Generation vs. Generation: How Can We All Get Along at Work? | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
With four very different generations of employees in the workplace today, how can everyone get along at work? By learning about each others' work styles and preferences, and respecting them.

Via Anne Leong
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9 Ways Amazing Leaders Demonstrate Real Authenticity

People respond to leaders who are authentic and genuine. Be authentic and genuine every day of the week.
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3 Toxic Behaviors that Bore and Annoy People - Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement

3 Toxic Behaviors that Bore and Annoy People - Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it

Are you unintentionally boring and annoying people without realizing it? Here are 3 things people do that irritate others. Are you doing them?


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Leading with the Heart— and a Dash of Emotional Intelligence

Leading with the Heart— and a Dash of Emotional Intelligence | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it

..."Manage your own behavior first. Many managers try to control others’ behavior by being coercive, manipulative or demanding. Control your impulses, take responsibility for your actions, and be adaptable. If you aren’t a responsible leader, don’t expect employees to shoulder the responsibility for making your business a success."


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Martin o'neon's curator insight, January 8, 2013 10:06 AM

Why do most managers and executives have trouble "coaching" their teams to higher levels of peformance? Why is it that so few companies spend NOTHING on training managers and executives how to coach, inspire, delegate, assign, and give feedback?

 

Everyone pays lipservice to the idea of leading/managing teams, but so few companies put their resources behind the concept of being a great place to work because of the quality of the leadership/management.

 

We seem to have taken the "heart" out of leading/managing and it's become a very sterile environment that just doesn't work. Trust comes from the heart, and if you're not leading, managing, coaching from that perspective, your team will NEVER trust you!

 

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David Hain's curator insight, October 20, 10:02 AM

You can't make authentic heart-to-heart contact without being in touch with your own!

AnnC's curator insight, October 21, 10:13 PM

Lead with love.

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What to Do When Anger Takes Hold

What to Do When Anger Takes Hold | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
Managing strong emotions is a necessary skill.

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donhornsby's curator insight, October 3, 9:50 AM

(From the article): When we repress our fear or frustration or longing, the feelings get stuck somewhere in our bodies. Then, at some unexpected time with some unsuspecting person, they come out messy and misdirected. We’re left not knowing why we’re so angry, while the other person is left feeling alienated and untrusting. And that’s the best case scenario. The worst case is that the feeling never leaves us and wreaks havoc; we get either physically ill or mentally burned out.

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7 Important Life Lessons Everyone Learns the Hard Way

7 Important Life Lessons Everyone Learns the Hard Way | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
Practical Tips for Productive Living

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"3. Seeking validation from others invalidates YOU.

Has the fear of rejection held you back?  Have you ever been so fearful of what others might think or say about you that it kept you from taking positive action?  I bet you’re shaking your head, “yes.”

It’s time to change your mindset…

Today, the only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.  Prove yourself to yourself, not others.  You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, FINE enough, and STRONG enough.  You don’t need other people to validate you; you are already valuable.

If someone says “no” to you, or if someone says something negative about you, that doesn’t change anything about YOU.  The words and opinions of others have no real bearing on your worth.  Certainly it can be helpful and desirable to make a good impression in certain situations, yet it’s not the end of the world when you are faced with rejection.

It’s great to receive positive feedback, but it simply doesn’t always happen.  That’s OK though, because you know where you’re headed and you know your true worth does not depend on the judgment of others.  When you set out to make a true difference in life, there will be those who disagree with you, those who ignore you, and those who flat out reject your ideas and efforts.  Look beyond them, step confidently forward, do what must be done, and let them think what they will."

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John Michel's curator insight, October 2, 7:50 AM

Be a student of life.  Indulge in it and absorb all the knowledge you can, while you can.  You may have to loose some things to gain some things, and you may have to learn some things the hard way.  That’s OK.  All experiences are necessary.  The purpose of your life is to live it in full, to partake in it to the utmost, to reach out with an open mind and an honest heart for the newest and richest experience being offered.

donhornsby's curator insight, October 2, 8:24 PM

(From the article): Nobody in this world is going to blindside you and hit you as hard as life will.  Sometimes life will beat you to the ground and try to keep you there if you let it.  But it’s not about how hard life can hit you, it’s about how hard you can be hit while continuing to move forward.  That’s what true strength is, and that’s what winning the game of life is all about.

 

When you have a lot to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and take a step forward instead, you are growing stronger.  Work through your struggles and hardships.  Even when it feels like things are falling apart, they’re not.  Take control of your emotions before they take control of you.  Everything will fall into place eventually.  Until then, learn what you can, laugh often, live for the moments, and know that it’s all worthwhile in the end.

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How Great Leaders Use Anger

Submitting to or repressing strong emotions like anger can ruin your leadership. Here's how to use anger productively without throwing a temper tantrum or stuffing it deep down inside.

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Seth's Blog: The sophistication of truth

Seth's Blog: The sophistication of truth | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
A common form of complexity is the sophistication of fear. Long words when short ones will do. Fancy clothes to keep the riffraff out and to give us a costume to hide behind. Most of all, the sneer of, "you...
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How To Get Respect: 5 Points Backed By Science

How To Get Respect: 5 Points Backed By Science | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
Nobody likes to be disrespected. And everyone loves getting respect. But it can be tricky. Here are the scientific secrets of how to get respect.

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How to Prioritize Your Innovation Budget

How to Prioritize Your Innovation Budget | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it

Leaders and organizations are under more stress than ever to do two things simultaneously: deliver on today’s pressing commitments by troubleshooting and refining processes; and find and invest in innovation opportunities that will create tomorrow’s success.


How your organization responds to this stress in allocating scarce resources is a crucial but often unaddressed issue. The natural bias is to respond immediately to what is in front of you. The problem is, this instinct crowds out longer term, innovative thinking.

 


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Kenneth Mikkelsen's curator insight, September 26, 7:11 AM

Here, on average, is what leaders estimate they were currently spending their time on:


  • 85% on day-to-day operations
  • 5% on incremental improvements that produced faster, cheaper, better sameness
  • 5% on small sustaining innovations
  • 5% on big, disruptive innovations


Perspective matters, and is the key to leadership effectiveness. To make sense of what’s happening in the world and anticipate what the future has in store, an intelligent, informed perspective is now more important than ever. 


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How to Know if You’re Truly Resilient - World of Psychology

How to Know if You’re Truly Resilient - World of Psychology | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
If there’s a word people in the top ranks of human capital are buzzing about these days, it’s resilience. I get asked all the time what it means -- followed by

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Ziggi Ivan Santini's curator insight, October 4, 2:40 PM

Resilience is key!

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About Hayley

About Hayley | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it

“True success is not measured by material possession but by personal life fulfillments: making happiness the journey, not just the destination”
EQ Women Succeed, LLC

Hayley B Colina

 

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Your Choice: Tolerate or Change?

Your Choice: Tolerate or Change? | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
When you're the most stuck... you still have a choice to tolerate or change your experience. Unsure of the signs and solutions? This is for you.

Via David Hain, Graeme Reid, Roy Sheneman, PhD
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David Hain's curator insight, October 14, 12:46 PM

Includes good Haiku Deck.  Does the pain of changing exceed the pain of staying put.  Do you know so that you can calculate?

Graeme Reid's curator insight, October 14, 7:52 PM

You don't need to stay stuck - you can choose to make a change.

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Leadership Presence: A Special Series With Switch & Shift

Leadership Presence: A Special Series With Switch & Shift | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
Leadership presence is what allows good leaders to connect with their teams. Characterized by confidence and a clear communication style, leaders who...
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Amy Melendez's curator insight, October 13, 10:04 PM

Check back every day this week for new articles. Enjoy!

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5 Personal Leadership Lessons from Benjamin Franklin

5 Personal Leadership Lessons from Benjamin Franklin | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
Benjamin Franklin was a man who got things done. Hi an outstanding example of how leading yourself first helps you contribute to the lives of others.

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donhornsby's curator insight, October 20, 9:32 AM

(From the article): A leader’s daily struggle is to remain focused on our most important things. The challenge is just how do you stay focused on what’s important? Like many of us Benjamin Franklin found it difficult to stay focused. Especially when we’re bombarded every day with an overwhelming number of distracting tasks, external pressures and conflicting priorities.

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We need a new model of communication!

We need a new model of communication! | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it

Otto Scharmer points out rightly that a new model of communication is needed, involving all stakeholders and being multilateral. A link needs to be created between all actors in society and economy...


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Jenny Ebermann's curator insight, October 4, 2:12 PM
Energy goes where attention flows!
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Courage to Take a Different Path

Courage to Take a Different Path | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
The most frightening thing in life is reaching for what lies deepest in your heart. You won’t get there alone. Mentors ignite courage and fuel progress. This post is based on my conversation with L...

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Ron McIntyre's curator insight, October 2, 11:23 AM

Excellent snippet on mentoring.  Contains a number of 2 minute audio responses from Linda Rottenberg.

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7 Powerful Qualities of Servant-Leaders

7 Powerful Qualities of Servant-Leaders | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it

Every act of leadership is an act of service. Anything less is exploitation. 


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People aren’t in organizations to serve leaders. Leaders are in organizations to serve people.

Weak leaders expect service; strong leaders give it.

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donhornsby's curator insight, October 3, 9:53 AM

The leader who serves the most wins.

John Michel's curator insight, October 4, 12:49 AM

Every act of leadership is an act of service. Anything less is exploitation.

Claude Emond's curator insight, October 4, 8:56 AM

This is the way to lead together with people who can self-organize, mainly all humans driven by a common purpose and mutual trust 

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How Successful People Stay Calm

How Successful People Stay Calm | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it

The ability to manage your emotions and remain calm under pressure has a direct link to your performance. 


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donhornsby's curator insight, October 2, 10:25 AM

(From the article): Stress and worry are fueled by our own skewed perception of events. It’s easy to think that unrealistic deadlines, unforgiving bosses, and out-of-control traffic are the reasons we’re so stressed all the time. You can’t control your circumstances, but you can control how you respond to them. So before you spend too much time dwelling on something, take a minute to put the situation in perspective. If you aren’t sure when you need to do this, try looking for clues that your anxiety may not be proportional to the stressor. If you’re thinking in broad, sweeping statements such as “Everything is going wrong” or “Nothing will work out,” then you need to reframe the situation. A great way to correct this unproductive thought pattern is to list the specific things that actually are going wrong or not working out. Most likely you will come up with just some things—not everything—and the scope of these stressors will look much more limited than it initially appeared.

J. Daniel Romo's curator insight, October 4, 3:14 PM

This is the basis of the Equilibrios de Excelencia" book

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Steve Blank on Teaching Entrepreneurship to K-12 Students

Steve Blank on Teaching Entrepreneurship to K-12 Students | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
The famed entrepreneur says we should teach the next generation to build scalable startups using the Lean LaunchPad methodology.

Via Guillaume Decugis
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Guillaume Decugis's curator insight, September 30, 8:51 PM

Still think entrepreneurship can not be taught? Steve Blank disagrees with you and he's not talking about MBA's...

Michel CEZON's curator insight, October 1, 7:05 AM

Teaching is one part of the job, mindset is what it takes to succeed :-)

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Standard Of Living, Self-Actualization, Or Significance...What Are You Shooting For?

Standard Of Living, Self-Actualization, Or Significance...What Are You Shooting For? | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it

Truly great men and women are not acclaimed because of what they own and earn. Nor are they admired merely on account of their talents or level of professional performance. Rather, they’re respected because of their willingness to give themselves to people and purposes that will live beyond them.

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Question to Consider
In the words of Martin Luther King, Jr., "Life's most persistent and urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?'" Reassess your dream by asking, “Who will benefit the most when it comes true?” If the answer revolves around you, then you still have some thinking to do in order to stretch your dream from selfishness to significance.

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If You Think Leadership Development Is A Waste Of Time You May Be Right

If You Think Leadership Development Is A Waste Of Time You May Be Right | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
Leadership development programs can be transformative or a total waste of employee time. Here are five ways to make sure your programs create what you desire: more effective leaders.

Via Ron McIntyre, Wise Leader™
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#5: Clear and honest program rationale.

Finally, we also have to be courageous about the reason for the leadership program in the first place. If there’s a serious deficit that needs to be addressed, it’s better to be honest about it. If high performers are being put into a program to escalate promotion, then be clear about that. If the program is meant to top-grade skills for current positions, that’s fine too.

Everyone is well meaning, and this can get in the way. Too often, companies disguise, or don’t know, the real reason for the program. They worry about setting incorrect expectations. Just because a senior leader wants it doesn’t make a program meaningful. Greater transparency about why participants are selected and what the program will lead to is critical. Otherwise, there’s widespread skepticism and even frustration which foils learning every time.

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Ron McIntyre's curator insight, September 25, 4:27 PM

Great article by Kristi Hedges on the role of leadership development. Love her insights.

Pierre Galeon's curator insight, October 5, 11:04 AM

Leadership development programs can be transformative or a total waste of employee time. Here are five ways to make sure your programs create what you desire: more effective leaders.

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Develop Leadership Qualities of Courageous People

Courage is one of the most important leadership qualities. There is no greatness in life amongst those who avoid taking risks. Learn the secrets to courage.

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How to Unleash the Awesome, “Can Do” Spirit In Your Employees

How to Unleash the Awesome, “Can Do” Spirit In Your Employees | Communication & Leadership | Scoop.it
I loved the video below (People Are Awesome 2013) so much, I used it in two recent presentations on how to cultivate a resilient workforce.

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