"In infancy, we cocoon them in footie-pajamas. We feed them Cheerios one by one to prevent choking. We cut hot dogs and grapes into tiny pieces, conscientiously. We celebrate each success, giddy when they walk and talk, dusting them off carefully when they tumble, restoring their confidence, laughing at our own over-protective impulses. Then, in a moment, they are off to college, and we no longer know the everyday details, only the contours of their lives lived elsewhere"