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How Just One Night's Poor Sleep Can Hurt a Relationship

How Just One Night's Poor Sleep Can Hurt a Relationship | Staying Together | Scoop.it

Study tracked couple's sleep and their arguments to reveal how the damage was done.

 

"Marriage is an alliance entered into by a man who can't sleep with the window shut, and a woman who can't sleep with the window open." —George Bernard Shaw

 

People are usually at their worst after a bad night's sleep, but what does that do to their intimate relationships?


Via PAT NOVAK
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Just one bad night's sleep can lead to relationship problems -- just one night! This is pretty amazing information, and for any couples with chronic sleep problems, it does help to explain a lot. 

 

 

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Ten Reasons NOT To Get A Divorce

Ten Reasons NOT To Get A Divorce | Staying Together | Scoop.it
Ten very good reasons not to divorce, from someone who's been there. If you have a choice, consider the cost before you make this life-changing decision.
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This is an an article my husband asked me to write, to encourage couples NOT to divorce, by considering the cost. He suggested it because he wanted others to avoid the pain he had gone through in his divorce. As a divorcee, myself, I also was aware of the pain of the breakup of a marriage. 

 

The article has received a lot of feedback since its writing two years ago. Many were thankful for the insights, but some were offended by the straightforward message.  I am was glad to be part of an article that seemed to affect many people. 

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He Set The Bar High An Elaborate Marriage Proposal That Took 17 Months To Organize! New Video

Levy started his proposal piggy bank at the age of 12. Seventeen months ago he met a girl from Michigan State at the Rose Bowl in Pasadena, California. They crossed paths two other times, and...
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This proposal almost had me in tears! Very romantic, and well-planned. I think this kind of planning going into the proposal shows a level of commitment that is immense, even before the actual wedding ceremony. Very inspiring! 

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25 Funny Marriage Tips for a Happy Marriage

25 Funny Marriage Tips for a Happy Marriage | Staying Together | Scoop.it
25 funny marriage tips for a successful marriage! Learn how to make each other happy, and how to put first things first, to build a fulfilling relationship.
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Love these breezy marriage tips! Great fun and very practical! 

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Beautiful Post on Forgiving Our Parents

Beautiful Post on Forgiving Our Parents | Staying Together | Scoop.it
Today, an author, friend, another mama of 6, living not off land, but sea, a woman of deep wisdom and whom I hold in the highest esteem — Leslie Leyland Fields is on the farm’s front porch with a needed story on forgiving our parents:   My father...
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Beautiful post on forgiving our parents ....  and seeing them as people who have suffered as we have, and have reasons for doing the wrong things that they may have done. 

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Lessons from Sandy Hook Parents

Lessons from Sandy Hook Parents | Staying Together | Scoop.it

How tragedy can strengthen or sever a relationship.


Via Pat Weber
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A feeling of quiet understanding can go a long way towards keeping a marriage strong. 

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'Honey-do-list' may save your life

'Honey-do-list' may save your life | Staying Together | Scoop.it
A new study shows older adults who perform "do it yourself" home activities have a lower risk of heart attack and stroke.

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The infamous "honey-do" list can actually keep an older man healthy! Apparently, fixing the car, and changing the lightbulb are more important than we realized. 

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Parental Divorce Negatively Affects Later Parent/Child Relationships

Parental Divorce Negatively Affects Later Parent/Child Relationships | Staying Together | Scoop.it
When children experience parental divorce, they are more likely to have insecure relationships with their parents once they grow into adults.
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When small children experience the break up of their family, they are effected in a traumatic way, losing the trust they have in the world as they know it. A new study confirms this truth, putting to bed the lie that kids just "get over it." No they don't! 

 

 

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How to Stop Being Defensive in Close Relationships - Huffington Post

How to Stop Being Defensive in Close Relationships - Huffington Post | Staying Together | Scoop.it
How to Stop Being Defensive in Close Relationships
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Most of us are defensive in close relationships. If we're not, we have to interact with people who are.
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It is ironic that protecting ourselves by being defensive, only ever makes us feel worse -- and doesn't protect ourself at all. 

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You Can Be Right or You Can Be in a Relationship: Lessons to Learn From the ... - Huffington Post

You Can Be Right or You Can Be in a Relationship: Lessons to Learn From the ... - Huffington Post | Staying Together | Scoop.it
You Can Be Right or You Can Be in a Relationship: Lessons to Learn From the ...
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The drive to be right often gets in our way of having the humility and grace we need to love. Great advice! 

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Communication: How to Understand Others' Feelings for Relationships

Communication: How to Understand Others' Feelings for Relationships | Staying Together | Scoop.it
Communication is difficult. If you don't understand others' feelings, you can't a have relationship. Here's how to ask questions, listen, and get real.

Via Garth Sanginiti, John Michel
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One of the main blocks to communication is believing that we have communicated, when we actually have not. Awesome article on getting real with each other, and paying attention to feelings. 

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John Michel's curator insight, October 5, 2013 2:16 PM

If you want to understand others, you need to get beneath the surface.  If you fool yourself into believing the surface story, you’re missing invaluable data.

Ken Donaldson's curator insight, October 6, 2013 9:13 AM

Understanding people's emotional states creates deeper relationships.

Rim Riahi's curator insight, October 10, 2013 12:32 AM

Communication is difficult. If you don't understand others' feelings, you can't a have relationship. Here's how to ask questions, listen, and get real.

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Don't try to understand spouse

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Don't try to understand spouse
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Billy Joel sang, "I Love You Just Way You Are," in 1977 but apparently he didn't love her just the way she was; they divorced in 1982. Every husband and wife has things he doesn't understand about his spouse, but ... 

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Caring for your spouse is MUCH more important than understanding your spouse. Even if you don't agree with their way of thinking, you can honour their desires. 

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The Health Benefits of Gratitude

The Health Benefits of Gratitude | Staying Together | Scoop.it
Sondi Bruner explores the health benefits of practicing gratitude, and shares ways to incorporate more into your daily actions.

Via billcoffin
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My Mother always told me I had to learn to be more grateful. Well, she would love this article, because it outlines out gratefulness helps us in so many ways, making us less stressed, a better attitude, and improved relationships. I am grateful for this article! 

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Being grateful is good for your health. 

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Beautiful advice from a divorced man after 16 years of marriage ...

Beautiful advice from a divorced man after 16 years of marriage ... | Staying Together | Scoop.it

"My advice after a divorce following 16 years of marriage," by Gerald Rogers.

 

Obviously, I'm not a relationship expert. But there's something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I ..."

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Beautiful advice for a man,on how to treat a woman. 

 

This is the ideal. I don't think any man could live up to this completely, but any man who even comes close to living up to these, would make a woman very happy. 

 

Incuded: "always see the best in her," and "be silly" and "fill her heart everyday." Wow! Beautiful! Idealistic but so beautiful. 

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April Reynolds's curator insight, August 23, 2013 12:01 PM

This is the most beautiful writing I have read about love, divorce, marriage. Thank you for writing this J.R. - just one question - are you single? ;D

April Reynolds's comment, August 23, 2013 12:02 PM
Be the kind of husband that your wife brags about...
Michael Wiener's curator insight, August 24, 2013 6:17 PM

Very interesting. You should read it...

 

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The Fine Line Between A Suggestion and A Push ~ Life in the Woods

The Fine Line Between A Suggestion and A Push ~ Life in the Woods | Staying Together | Scoop.it
A story of how easily love can turn into manipulation in a marriage.
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How a fight over sour cream and satellite television led to some marital squabbling, but a valuable lesson afterwards. (This is my latest blog post.)

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How a trip to Thailand saved one couple's marriage

How a trip to Thailand saved one couple's marriage | Staying Together | Scoop.it
In 2000 my husband, Dave, and I took a five-week trip to Thailand that transformed our lives. We didn’t know that our marriage was in trouble, but looking back, had that trip not happened, we would...
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They were responsible, hard-working, and bored, but didn't realize it until a trip to Thailand forced them to communicate and face each other. Adventure and travel brought them back together again, as lovers instead of just partners. 

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'Gilmore Girls' showed mothers and daughters as best friends

'Gilmore Girls' showed mothers and daughters as best friends | Staying Together | Scoop.it
Gilmore Girls has finally made its way to Netflix, and while the entire series has only been available for a little over a week, most fans...
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A sweet little article about how Gilmore Girls was the first on television to show a close mother-daughter relationship. 

 

And I agree. I always loved that aspect of Gilmore Girls, too. Mother and daughter so close and having so much fun together. 

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Why I Believe My Marriage Is Perfect

Why I Believe My Marriage Is Perfect | Staying Together | Scoop.it

Via billcoffin
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A marriage is perfect ... because it is a covenant ... and that makes it perfect. 

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Families That Eat Together Are Thinner: Study

Families That Eat Together Are Thinner: Study | Staying Together | Scoop.it
Here's fresh scientific evidence that the family dining room may be the healthiest place in the house: New research shows families that eat meals together - without the television on - and stay seated until everyone is finished are more likely to...

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As a society, we used  to always eat together. Then we got too busy. Now, a new study confirms we really are too busy, and eating together would help us fight obesity. It only makes sense  that being part of a family, and acting like a family would be good for our health! 

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8 Heartbreaking Divorce Drawings

8 Heartbreaking Divorce Drawings | Staying Together | Scoop.it
Kids' Turn, a divorce education program located in San Francisco, encourages children grappling with their parents' split to express their feelings through art.
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Truly heartbreaking ... 

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Why Home Economics Should Be Mandatory

Why Home Economics Should Be Mandatory | Staying Together | Scoop.it
Forget stereotypes about training girls to be good wives.

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Excellent post on how important home economics really is ... we all need to learn to cook, and keep our houses clean. Man or woman, old or young ...

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6 Simple Reasons New Relationships Fail to Launch - Glamour (blog)

6 Simple Reasons New Relationships Fail to Launch - Glamour (blog) | Staying Together | Scoop.it
6 Simple Reasons New Relationships Fail to Launch
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“There are so many reasons why relationships fail to take off,” says Shari Goldsmith LISW, a life and success coach for women.
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Unrealistic expectations and social media can stop a relationship from getting off the ground. Some good advice for getting to the steady part of a relationship. 

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Worried about cancer? Just get married - Bend Bulletin

Worried about cancer? Just get married - Bend Bulletin | Staying Together | Scoop.it
Worried about cancer? Just get married Bend Bulletin Controlling for demographic factors such as age, race, education and household income, researchers who analyzed records of more than 730,000 cancer patients found that married patients did...
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A very interesting study finds that being married, apart from any other factors, makes a huge difference in how someone recovers from cancer. The reasons are not 100% known, but this author concludes that it is the steay presence of another person in the person's life that makes the difference. 

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The Real Love Stories... and Why There Really Are No Blurred Lines

The Real Love Stories... and Why There Really Are No Blurred Lines | Staying Together | Scoop.it
It was the music pumping through the speakers at the optometrist's that made me see you clearly for who you are.

The lyrics kept thrumming loud when I was standing there with my thick glasses, waiting for the receptionist.
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There are no "blurred lines" in real love ... instead a love is "carved, not found. Beautiful post. 

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Dear Daughter, Here's Why I Do NOT Work

Dear Daughter, Here's Why I Do NOT Work | Staying Together | Scoop.it
I recently read an article published by the Huffington Post: Dear Daughter, Here's Why I Work. I think the notion that working moms works, is a myth sold to women by a self absorbed society
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An article on the benefits of staying home with your children, if it possible to do so. 

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Human brains are hardwired for empathy, friendship

Human brains are hardwired for empathy, friendship | Staying Together | Scoop.it
Perhaps one of the most defining features of humanity is our capacity for empathy -- the ability to put ourselves in others' shoes.

Via Cathryn Wellner
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Fascinating research that tells us that we are biologically wired to be empathetic. Our brains identify with those that we feel empathy with them. Thus proving the words of Jesus, "love your neighbour as yourself."

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How Can Couples Avoid the Pitfalls That Threaten a Second Marriage? - Huffington Post

How Can Couples Avoid the Pitfalls That Threaten a Second Marriage? - Huffington Post | Staying Together | Scoop.it
How Can Couples Avoid the Pitfalls That Threaten a Second Marriage?

Via Brenda Elliott
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Excellent, practical advice on how to navigate the pitfalls of a second marriage, and the stepfamily that often accompanies it. 

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