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Success can be offensive.

The harsh truth about being successful is that you are going to make people irrationally mad at you in the process. It’s  inevitable. Part of the painful journey.

Your peers, your family, your community — they can all seem like enemies at times. Each one tearing you apart as you pass by in your quest for achieving big expectations.

The things that make you successful are sometimes offensive to other people. The choices that you have to make are annoying to other people who don’t always understand your motivations.

And you might be missing out on the fact that life is normal.

It’s normal for people not to like you.

It’s uncomfortable, painful, and endlessly frustrating. But what is supposed to happen.

From Jesus to Mohammed to Martin Luther King Jr, Henry Ford, and Jackie Robinson — and millions of unnamed others — those who fight the hardest to make a difference, get the most criticism.

So what do you do? How do you stay focused and inspired?

1. Be clear in your own head about why what you want to achieve is so important.

2. Accept responsibility for the parts of your zealotry that need to be improved.

3. Build a group of friends and mentors whom you can trust to be fair and honest.

4. Laugh off the silliest accusations and make yourself smile even though you don’t feel like it.

5. Take time each week to review through through your goals and ideas and progress.

6. Tune out almost everyone around you most of the time.

It’s not easy to do. Or fun.

But that’s the price you pay for doing what most other people only read about in books.

You’re one of the few destined to be remembered by history.  Some angry chit-chat along the way is a small price to pay.

So fight on…

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There are subtle differences between being a consultant and being a freelancer. Learn why the differences matter and then decide whether consulting or freelance is better for your business model.

First, let’s consider the formal definition of what it means to be a consultant as opposed to the definition of a freelancer. And then I will explain why the differences matter.

Consultant: a person who is paid to provide professional or expert advice in a particular field or specialty.

Freelancer: a person who works independently, selling work or services by the hour, day, or job, with no intent to pursue a permanent or long-term arrangement with a single employer.

It’s easy to see how you might confuse the two. After all, both convey the idea of performing work or services for other people or companies.

To further emphasize the difference, take a look at the synonyms commonly associated with each term. Synonyms for consultant may include like-descriptors such as, advisor, guru and specialist. Synonyms for freelancer tend to be tied to a specific career field or job title, and most commonly that of writer, journalist and graphic designer...

It takes two to make a thing go right
It takes two to make it outta sight
Hit it!

I wanna rock right now
I'm Rob Base and I came to get down
I'm not internationally known
But I'm known to rock the microphone
Because I get stoopid, I mean outrageous
Stay away from me if you're contagious
'Cause I'm the winner, no, I'm not the loser
To be an M.C. is what I choose 'a
Ladies love me, girls adore me
I mean even the ones who never saw me
Like the way that I rhyme at a show
The reason why, man, I don't know
So let's go, 'cause

It takes two to make a thing go right
It takes two to make it outta sight
Hit it!

My name is Rob, I gotta real funky concept
Listen up, 'cause I'm gonna keep you in step
I got an idea
That I wanna share
You don't like it? So what, I don't care
I'm number one, the uno, I like comp
Bring all the suckers 'cause all them I'll stomp
Bold and black but I won't protect
All of my followers 'cause all I want is respect
I'm not a doctor, put them in rapture
A slick brother that can easy outfox ya
Cause I'm Rob, the last name Base, yeah
And on the mike, I'm known to be the freshest
So let's start, it shouldn't be too hard
I'm not a sucker so I don't need a bodyguard
I won't fess, wear a bulletproof vest
Don't smoke buddha, can't stand sess, yes

It takes two to make a thing go right
It takes two to make it outta sight
Hit it!

The situation that the Base is in
I'm kinda stingy that's why I don't wanna lend
A funky rhyme to a foe or a good friend
But listen up 'cause I want you to comprehend
'Cause I'm the leader, the man superior
I take care of ya and then ya get wearier
So just sit, my rhymes arenot counterfeit
The record sells which makes this one a hit
It won't hurt to listen to Red Alert
Take off your shirt
Make sure it don't hit the dirt
I like the kids--the guys, the girls
I want the ducats 'cause this is Rob Base's world
I'm on a mission, ya better just listen
To my rhymes 'cause I'm all about dissin'
'Cause

It takes two to make a thing go right
It takes two to make it outta sight
Hit it!

I stand alone, don't need anyone
'Cause I'm Rob, just came ot have fun
Don't need friends that act like foes
'Cause I'm Rob Base, the one who knows
About things that make ya get weary
Don't cheer me, just hear me
Out 'cause I got the clout--shout (Ho!)
Before I turn the party out
I won't stutter--
Project my voice, speak clearly
So you can be my choice
On stage or on record
Go to the Wiz and select it
Take it off the rack, if it's wack put it back
I like the Whopper, fuck the Big Mac
If you want static, so let's go
So, throw upyour hands
Go for what you know
Bro', I got an ego
Yo, talkin' to me? No
Oh
'Cause Rob is in the front, EZ Rock is on the Back up
We're not soft, soyou better just slack up
'Cause I'm cool, calm just like a breeze
Rock the mike with the help of EZ
Rock on the set, the music plays
Only cuts the records that I say

It takes two to make a thing go right
It takes two to make it outta sight
Hit it!

All right, now, EZ Rock
now, when I count to three
I want you ot get busy
You ready now?
One, two, three, get loose now!

It takes two to make a thing go right
It takes two to make it outta sight
Hit it!

by Rob Base & DJ E-Z Rock

Positive vibes attract friends and followers like light draws moths.

There's negative and there's positive vibes. Criticism sends out negative vibes.  So do complaints, disagreement, blame and frowns.  Offering thanks, gratitude and appreciation, along with interest in others' lives and warm smiles, send forth positive vibes.

Folks who emanate positive vibes are upbeat to talk with. They feel "warm." Whether they are your boss, your employee or colleague, your friend, family members or loved ones; these folks feel safe to share with, and, like sunshine, radiate good feelings. Their positivity makes you want to talk with them more because they've set good vibes as a relationship standard.

Positive leaders consistently avoid being critical, negating what you say, being argumentative or responding dismissively to what you say.  Those negative energy habits are what negative folks do.

Interacting with negative folks or being in a group that they lead induces downer feelings, makes others feel insecure and can become downright unpleasant.

Positive individuals and leaders, by contrast, convey interest in your perspectives and well-being, agreement, appreciation, humor and affection...

I have seen it happen many times. A leader is faced with the need to present a strong opinion or some critical feedback.

When they begin to speak, they become so preoccupied with trying to be polite and tactful that they end up diluting the message to the point that it’s no longer recognizable.

Sometimes it’s so unclear that those being addressed find themselves staring with blank expressions in awkward silence, asking themselves Huh? What was that?

The speaker, who can see the connection isn’t happening, tries again. This time it’s even broader and more abstract, leaving everyone more bewildered than before.

Leaders with heart are sensitive to others.  They make sure that their intentions are understood and that no one gets hurt.

Leading from within means leading with love, but sometimes we have to say something that is not entirely positive. When that time comes, we need to know what to say it, when to say it, and how to say it.

As someone who leads with heart, we have an obligation to step in and say what we need to say in a meaningful and honest way.

As leaders we must create an environment where people feel safe to be themselves and say what is on their mind—where they know that if they speak clearly and directly there will be no consequences. And we must model that kind of candor ourselves.

Not by tiptoeing.
Not by wavering.
Not by being polite.

Stop the conversation or the meeting and ask in a meaningful way, “What are we not saying that needs to be said?”

Then let’s just say it.

Lead from Within: Leading with heart can sometimes mean stepping in—when leadership is needed, when safety is warranted, and when fear keeps us polite. Lead with love and it will always set you right.

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Better results, happier team players. A crash course for young bosses.

Managing people can be tricky even at the best of times. I have worked my way up from peon to walking boss in three separate industries and can tell you that a good leader is a rare and wonderful thing.  Whether you are working in a retail environment, the service industry, or an office, the root problems you will face as a leader are universal. If you are too hands-off, something could go wrong and you’ll be called onto the carpet with no clue how to answer for it.  If you micromanage, you run the risk of being the boss that everyone hates, and probably for good reason.  It can decrease productivity and morale.

As a young, up and comer in your company, how do you oversee your new team so that you get results you need, with the morale you want?  Here are a few tips from my time as a new manager.

Just because you have the job, doesn’t mean you are done learning.  

When I got my first management job, I thought I knew it all.  I knew what I liked and didn’t like about my old bosses; I knew what I learned in college; and I remembered everything I learned from reading Dilbert and watching Office Space.  I was certain that I was ready to step in and be the best boss there was.

Turns out, I wasn’t. I was ok, maybe even better than average, but that was just because I am a fair, honest, and conscientious person. I just followed my gut and did what I thought was right. This carried me through almost five years but they weren’t always easy.  I was constantly having to remind some employees about the fact that they were slacking off,  turnover on my team was the same as the ones with obviously bad leaders, and no one was really developing…including me.

The problem was that I thought I had nothing left to learn.  In my current leadership role, I actually have a boss that wants to mentor me and help me develop my skills.  I’ve read countless leadership books, I attend continuing education workshops, and I participate in a focus group with leaders from other departments of our organization. All of these things help in some way to develop me as a leader.  Not all of the books I read were game changing, or even all that interesting, but I did learn something from each and every one of them.

Here are the ones that helped me the most:

How to Win Friends and Influence People:  This classic book by Dale Carnegie should already be in your self-development library.  If it isn’t, boy are you missing out.  Even though it was written during a very different time in our history, the principles still hold true today.  The book will help you in business and in your social interactions and, unlike some other guides, it doesn’t ask you to be a phony with a fake smile.  It teaches you how to genuinely engage with people.  Buy it now, and re-read it at least once a year.

The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership:  The first time I saw a John Maxwell video, I thought he reminded me of Biff Tannen from Back to the Future playing a used car salesman.  Once I listened to him though, I realized he really had some good things to say.  This is just one of his books (I think he has 30 something) and is a good starting point for any new or aspiring leader.

The One Minute Manager Meets the Monkey:  This quick read by Kenneth H. Blanchard tells the story of a manager who was failing because he had too much on his plate.  Turns out, the stuff on his plate wasn’t his!  As a leader, you need to help your staff without actually doing their work for them.

Treat your team like adults, even if they don’t act that way.  

One of the principles that John Maxwell always reinforces is that people will try to live up to the expectations you place on them. If you treat Johnny Screwup like a loser all the time, he will act like a loser. Next time you have a project coming up, and you need someone to delegate to, give Johnny a shot.  You can’t just turn him loose though, because that is just asking for another failure.

What I like to do is call Johnny into the office and have some one-on-one time.  I let him know all of the aspects and expectations of the project and I say several times that I know he is capable of doing a great job.  I also let him know that I am there to assist him whenever he has questions along the way.  This does two things.  It lets Johnny start on a positive note because he knows I want him to succeed and believe in his ability to do so.  It also covers me if the project starts to head south, because Johnny and I both know that we covered the expectations and he knew to ask for help.

Treating them like adults also allows you to hold them accountable for their actions.  If you are overly lax with the rules and allow your team to get away with everything because you want to be the “cool boss”, then you will have a really hard time issuing discipline when the time inevitably comes.

Don’t ask your team to do anything that you aren’t willing to do yourself.

Everyone in my department has various quotes and mantras pinned up in their cubicles.  Some are faith based, some are from famous coaches and athletes, and others are pseudo-philosophical business nonsense.  I have one hanging just below my “You need more cowbell” de-motivational poster that reads “Employees follow you because they have to.  Teammates follow you because they want to.”  I don’t use the term teammates because it’s corporately mandated like at Target or other retail stores.  I use it because it is what I base my leadership style on.  They are my team, and I am the Team Captain.  I am on the field with them each and every day, running, sweating, and even helping out with their tasks when it really gets wild.  Most of the time, I am doing my own tasks.

One of my main duties is staying informed and up to speed on the workload and productivity of my department.  When I notice things getting busy, I reassign tasks and reroute work efforts.  If they keep getting busier, I jump in there myself.  My team takes comfort in the fact that I know what their job entails, and I don’t consider myself too good to do it right alongside them. Your staff needs to know that you are a regular person who is willing to do whatever it takes to help them as individuals, and your team as a whole, succeed.

To give you an example, here are a couple of things I do for my team...