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The Age of the Gentleman — that semi-imaginary time we all have in our heads where men you actually wanted to sleep with wore fedoras and treated ladies like ladies — might be over, but there’s no reason it can’t come back next year. We just need to set up a few ground rules for being a modern Cary Grant/Paul Newman/Ken Cosgrove. We’ll all be drinking scotch and wearing linen suits again in no time.1. Have a signature drink that you both can make at home after a long day’s work, and order with effortless swag at any bar you happen to be in. (This means no complicated ingredients and easy substitutes. If it’s a whiskey soda, so be it.)2. Keep all negative social media activities to a minimum, because no gentleman engages in things like Twitter fights or passive-aggressive Facebook statuses. It’s just not classy.3. Hold doors open for everyone, because that’s just a nice thing that you do.4. Always text back promptly, even if it’s to let someone down gently. The worst thing you can possibly to do someone is leave them hanging so they can torture themselves with worst case scenarios.5. Own and be able to sufficiently rock at least one suit. Suits are the greatest untapped resource that most men have access to, and can take even the most slovenly 4Chan dweller into slick presentability. You owe it to yourself to know your way around a suit.6. Master a good handshake, so that you are neither depositing your limp sea slug of a hand on someone else’s palm, nor crushing them with your Rock-Biter-from-the-Neverending-Story force.7. Never attempt to explain, under any circumstances, why a cat call should be considered a compliment.8. Do not be afraid of accessorizing, because a pair of nice shoes or a classy watch can Upgrade U almost immediately, as explained in the Beyoncé song.9. Do not refer to things as “gay” that aren’t homosexual human beings. People who call things “gay” as a pejorative are truly the raisins in the trail mix of life.10. Do your best not to put others down in order to elevate yourself, it reeks of the people who categorize men by their Greek letter status.11. Call your mother, even if you have to set up a Google calendar reminder to get yourself to do this.12. Know how to cook at least a few good meals, because a) there is nothing worse than guys who assume it’s up to the woman to do all the cooking, b) there is nothing sexier than a dude who can cook, and c) everyone deserves to feed themselves well.13. Make good eye contact, but not so much that it gets into “I’ve been watching you from behind your dumpster” levels.14. Don’t corner people at house parties with your political views (and this goes double — nay, triple — for libertarians, as you guys are the most egregious culprits).15. Erase the word “slut” from your vocabulary.16. Treat every woman with the same amount of respect and humanity that you would your mother, sister, or daughter — and think about why there might have been conditions on how you treated them in the first place.17. RSVP.18. Always put a little money away at the end of each month, and not because you’re saving for anything in particular.19. Be up-front about your finances, because it’s unfair for anyone to believe in the outdated gender roles of “the man should pay for everything.” As long as you’re working hard and trying your best, you deserve to be honest.20. Do not sleep with anyone who wants a relationship from you that you are not prepared to give. Using their affection to get something from them physically is easy, but it makes you a bad person.21. Learn how to dance, at least a bit.22. Never underestimate the great value of unexpected flowers on a day that is otherwise nothing special, especially in long-term relationships.23. Don’t be disdainful of selfies, guys have just as much a right to look and feel good about themselves as anyone else. If you want a selfie, take a selfie! Just don’t be a dick about other people who like to do it, too.24. Be compassionate, and know that you are allowed to experience the full range of human emotion. Where the gentleman of our grandparents’ generation might have prided himself on keeping all of his feelings in check for fear of seeming ‘feminine,’ a real gentleman knows that the best thing about him is his ability to be kind and empathetic. Everything else — yes, even the suit — is just icing on the cake.
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Updated, 6:20 a.m. |Wall Street is entering an uncertain new era as the rule that has come to symbolize Washington’s efforts to rein in financial risk-taking finally takes hold.Five years after the financial crisis, federal regulators are poised to approve the so-called Volcker Rule, the keystone of the most sweeping overhaul of financial regulation since the Depression. The rule, a copy of which was reviewed by The New York Times, imposes some requirements that are tougher than the banks had hoped. Five federal agencies are expected to vote to approve the rule on Tuesday, though some might do so in private because of inclement weather in the Washington area, representing a potential shift in the balance of power in financial reform as regulators gain more leverage over the largest banks. Although it counts as only one of 400 rules under the Dodd-Frank financial overhaul law — and nearly two-thirds of the regulations remain unfinished — the Volcker Rule became a litmus test for the overall strength of the law.But the rule, which aims to draw a line between everyday banking and Wall Street wheeling-dealing, is no panacea. Some critics say the rule, which regulators agreed to delay until July 2015, does not go far enough.For its part, Wall Street is expected to scour the rule for loopholes and consider whether to challenge it in court.At its core, the rule bans banks from trading for their own gain. The practice, known as proprietary trading, is one of Wall Street’s most lucrative — and riskiest — activities.Supporters of the Volcker Rule, the brainchild of Paul A. Volcker, a former Federal Reserve chairman and adviser to President Obama, said it would help prevent the buildup of the kinds of risky positions that nearly sank Wall Street in 2008. And they argued that, to help prevent future bailouts of Wall Street, large banks that enjoy forms of taxpayer backing should not use customers’ money to make bets on the direction of stocks and bonds.In recent weeks, regulators who favored a more stringent version of the rule pressed for changes that they think will make it harder for banks to evade the regulation. The version of the rule reviewed by The Times shows that, in some areas, the hard-liners got their way.The rule, for example, includes new wording aimed at the sort of risk-taking responsible for a $6 billion trading loss at JPMorgan Chase last year. The bank contended it was trading to hedge its broader risks, but in fact it built a sprawling speculative position that spun out of control.To prevent such blowups, according to the version of the rule reviewed by The Times, it will require banks to identify the exact risk that is being hedged. The risks, the rule said, must be “specific, identifiable” rather than theoretical and broad.The Volcker Rule also takes a swipe at the bonus culture of Wall Street, requiring banks to shape compensation so that it does not reward “prohibited proprietary trading.” In addition, it requires chief executives to attest that they have established programs for complying with the rule.“The C.E.O. of the banking entity must, annually, attest” to regulators that the bank “has in place processes to establish, maintain, enforce, review, test and modify the compliance program,” according to the copy reviewed by The Times, which is dated Friday.In an October 2011 draft of the rule, regulators did not include such a mandate, in contrast with the tougher tone of this version.But it could have been even tougher. Some critics of Wall Street wanted the executives to attest that their bank was actually in compliance with the rule, not just taking steps to comply.The banking industry is also expected to keep up its fight against the rule. Wall Street lobbyists opposed the Volcker Rule more fiercely than any other regulation that has come from the Dodd-Frank law, which Congress passed in 2010. They argued that trading was not a primary cause of the financial crisis and that the Volcker Rule could actually prevent banks from carrying out safe activities, like hedging against risks.Now that the final version of the rule has emerged, lawyers and lobbyists are likely to seize on the fuzzy nature of proprietary trading, which can resemble more legitimate forms of trading essential to doing business on Wall Street.The rule, for example, allows banks to buy and sell securities if they show that the purchases are to meet the demands of their customers, a practice known as market-making. But banks, under the guise of market-making, could build a proprietary position in shares of Google, for example, contending that at some point clients might buy the shares.The question is whether the wording of the Volcker Rule is strict enough to force banks to stockpile securities only for customers. The version reviewed by The Times shows that while regulators adopted some measures to prevent banks from masking their proprietary bets as market-making, the rule may still be vulnerable to evasion.Indeed, the rule says that banks can build up positions to meet “the reasonably expected near-term demands of clients, customers or counterparties.” Banks and regulators may clash over what is “reasonably expected,” and the rule leaves it largely up to banks to monitor their own trading.The rule also allows banks to do proprietary trades in bonds issued by governments. United States banks can make bets with Treasuries and even municipal bonds. In a significant concession, the Volcker Rule allows the foreign affiliates of United States banks to trade in bonds issued by foreign governments.Under the rule, banks can also place trades that are meant to offset the risks posed by positions they hold, an activity known as hedging that can resemble proprietary trading.The five federal agencies writing the rule — the Federal Reserve, the Securities and Exchange Commission, the Commodity Futures Trading Commission, the Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation and the Comptroller of the Currency — were divided over how tough to make the hedging language.While some officials at the Fed and the S.E.C. have wanted to allow banks significant flexibility to carry out trading that is considered important for their health and the functioning of markets, Gary Gensler, the head of the Commodity Futures Trading Commission, sought to eliminate loopholes.So when the Fed sent out a draft last month that removed a sentence that required hedging to be “reasonably correlated” with a bank’s risks, people briefed on the matter said, Mr. Gensler and another agency commissioner, Bart Chilton, pushed back. And in recent days, they persuaded the Fed to insert into the rule a provision that requires banks to conduct a “correlation analysis” as well as “independent testing” to ensure that the trades used for hedging “may reasonably be expected to demonstrably reduce” the risks.To further prevent banks from masking proprietary trading as a hedge, the rule required banks to conduct an “ongoing recalibration of the hedging activity by the banking entity to ensure” that the trading is “not prohibited proprietary trading.”The votes on Tuesday, which come more than a year after Congress required the agencies to complete the Volcker Rule, offer Wall Street a degree of clarity that once seemed remote. Until recent days, regulators appeared unlikely to meet the recommendation of Treasury Secretary Jacob J. Lew, who urged the agencies to complete the rule in 2013.The weather in Washington — snow and sleet are expected — may delay the rule slightly. The C.F.T.C. canceled its public vote “due to the closure of all federal government agencies because of inclement weather,” though it plans to have commissioners vote individually in private. The F.D.I.C. still plans to vote in public.“For the banks, this is one of the most significant regulatory changes in decades,” said Alan W. Avery, a partner at Latham & Watkins who represents financial institutions in regulatory issues. “It cuts off or fundamentally alters traditional sources of revenue for the banks.”
"Five years after the financial crisis, federal regulators are poised to approve the so-called Volcker Rule, the keystone of the most sweeping overhaul of financial regulation since the Depression. The rule, a copy of which was reviewed by The New York Times, imposes some requirements that are tougher than the banks had hoped."
By BARBARA ORTUTAYNEW YORK (AP) -- GPS will tell you how to get to the nearest Apple store. With iBeacon, Apple hopes to guide you around once you're inside, whether it's to pick up an order, upgrade to a new iPhone or shop for a pair of headphones.The implications of iBeacon go beyond Apple stores. One day, commuters might get information on subway delays as they stand on the platform, while museum visitors might get details on the painting they are standing in front of. Other retailers will be also able to offer deals or track which aisles shoppers linger in the longest.In-store location technology does raise privacy concerns, though many shoppers have shown a willingness to be tracked if there's something in it for them."With any new technology, you don't know how it's going to be used until it is being used," technology analyst Rob Enderle said.He said Apple "is pretty good" at getting people to use new technologies, but it could take years for iBeacon to mature and reach its potential. He said Google, Microsoft and other tech companies will likely follow suit with their own location technology.On Friday, Apple Inc. began using the technology at its 254 U.S. stores to send you messages about products, events and other information - tailored to where you are inside, provided you have downloaded the Apple Store app and have given it permission to send notices based on your location. You must have Bluetooth turned on and have the latest operating system, iOS 7.Using the iBeacon feature, the app will notify you if the computer you ordered is ready for pickup, for example. Show a clerk your screen with the order number, and the clerk will get it for you. Walking by an iPhone table? You may get a message asking if you want to upgrade, check your upgrade availability and see if you can get money for trading in your old phone.Even without iBeacon, the app already lets you scan and pay for some items using your phone, get customer service help and reserve products.Major League Baseball already plans to use iBeacon next year to customize fans' experiences at its ballparks, through the At The Ballpark app. In a demo earlier this year, MLB officials showed how the app can offer special features based on users' location in a stadium, such as coupons in the souvenir shop or a video that plays near landmarks.Apple demonstrated the technology to The Associated Press this week at its busy, 24-hour Fifth Avenue store in New York City. At this particular store, Apple has installed about 20 iBeacon transmitters, some of which are simply iPhones and iPads, which come with the capability as part of iOS 7. The transmitters use Bluetooth wireless technology to give your phone more precise information about your location. That's not possible with GPS, which don't work well indoors and aren't good at distinguishing between locations that are just a few feet apart.The beacons can be adjusted to specific distances, so you may get some notifications regardless of where you are inside. Others will come only when you are standing at a particular aisle, wall or product demo table. The store can also send out notifications about deals or upcoming events.Apple is not the first to offer in-store location technology. An app called Shopkick, for example, sends users discounts when they enter Macy's, J.C. Penney and other stores. But Apple's entry into micro-location puts the nascent technology into the hands of thousands of developers and broadens its reach considerably.Apple said iBeacon provides apps with "a whole new level of micro-location awareness, such as trail markers in a park, exhibits in a museum, or product displays in stores."Location tracking does raise privacy worries. After all, shoppers may not want their every move watched and recorded inside a store. Apple, however, said that it does not collect information about shoppers inside its stores. The company said notices are triggered when the app senses a location beacon nearby, without Apple's beacon needing to even know you're there.But other companies using iBeacon could go further, as long as people who download their apps agree to be tracked.Privacy advocates have raised concerns about the various ways that retailers track shoppers, whether it's their location, purchase history or how often they visit a store. But consumers often agree to be tracked in exchange for discounts.Tim Bajarin, a Creative Strategies analyst who's followed Apple for more than three decades, said he expects the technology to be a "little slow to take off." But he said that because all iPhones and Apple gadgets will support it down the line, iBeacon will have an "immediate built-in audience.""It's really up to the Macy's of the world, the stadiums of the world, to fully embrace it and be creative with it for it to fully take off," he said.
Interesting iBeacon location tech.
When it comes to designers and brands you pretty much won’t get any more British than Burberry, a fashion label that is built on the aesthetic and ethos of traditional English style taken to new and innovative modern interpretations.
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Many of the men we know shop for clothes like they shop for groceries: Buy what you need now, then wait to go shopping again until you've entirely run out. Repeat every few weeks.
The two most important days in your life are the day you are born, and the day you know why.Unfortunately for some people, that second day never occurs. For lucky people, though, the second day—the day you know why—is often described as a personal epiphany. The most successful people have a clear idea of who they are, and a conviction about where they want to end up. They then work backwards to develop the milestones they need to hit along the way.The epiphany moment, despite the excitement the realization can arouse, isn’t a gong-ringing moment. It intriguingly is frequently characterized by a sense of calm. Once you know the course you have set, everything else is a function of that goal.For the past decade or so, I have been accumulating lessons from many remarkable people, including Senator Bill Bradley, Starbucks CEO Howard Schultz and self-made construction magnate Linda Alvarado whose stories I tell in my new book Be Luckier in Life. There is surprisingly little analytical rigor brought to the study of luck. As I undertook the process of studying the underlying traits and characteristics that have consistently created luck for the most successful people, I began to realize there is a pattern—even a method—to the seeming randomness of luck. Among the lessons in the book, the luckiest people: Don’t simply “communicate” with others, but find ways to authentically connect with others. Use the right toolkit of people skills, conceptual skills, judgement and character that helps them succeed in finding new opportunities and re-framing setbacks to their advantage. Swing for the fences when a big, fat pitch of opportunity comes their way. Know when to lighten up and maintain perspective.The “luckiest” of people literally create their own luck by behaving in ways that makes them open to new possibilities and new people. These traits and behaviors are alluring, and this allure itself leads to new opportunities, which in their abundance, provide an ever-more powerful and complex system of chances for success. It’s a virtuous circle where lucky behavior begets ever more luck. Howard Schultz, CEO of the Starbucks coffee empire, remembers quite clearly his professional epiphany. It happened in Milan, Italy nearly 30 years ago. “The Italians had turned the drinking of coffee into a symphony, and it felt right,” he recalls. “I felt the unexpressed demand for romance and community.” Back at home in America, Starbucks, then selling only coffee beans, mostly by mail, “was playing in the same hall, but without a string section.” And though it took many years to convince others to see what he saw then, he reminds people seeking to create more luck to stay the course. “Vision is what they call it when others can’t see what you can,” says Schultz. One person who reflects many of the best opportunity-creating behaviors is former presidential candidate Senator Bill Bradley. His accomplishment and achievement span so many ﬁelds that it’s hard to tell what’s most important to him. All-American basketball star at Princeton, Rhodes scholar, Olympic gold medalist, NBA champion on the New York Knicks, US senator, presidential candidate—Bill Bradley seems to have bounced from achievement to achievement, across career after career. Look deeper, though, and you see that Bradley’s record of success all hangs together around a central belief : he was put on this planet to play a role in “big reform, and helping people where they live their lives” in such areas as education, health care and tax reform, he says. This theme has been a constant in his life, from the leadership he showed on the basketball court through his 18 years on the ﬂoor of the US Senate where he played a commanding role in legislation that removed 13 million children from poverty, expanded opportunities for education for millions more, and lowered and simpliﬁed taxes for every American. Bill describes this sense of purpose as coming from within, not from external impulses and uses words that tellingly imply that ﬁnding his destiny was a ﬂuid and natural process, not one fraught with conﬂict and tension. “I believe in discipline. I believe in hard work leading to accomplishment. But I am talking on the deeper, spiritual, interpersonal, emotional level, of living every day to the fullest extent possible, with the joy that comes only from being in a state of unity (within) yourself. Having your external world and your internal world be joined—as opposed to separated,” he says. Perhaps the biggest setback of Bill’s career—the time when he was most “out” of his zone—was losing the race for the Democratic presidential nomination in 2000. Bill recounts a dream he had not long afterward. In the dream, a giant is crossing a river but he suddenly begins to stumble as he realizes that he is being eaten alive by piranhas below the water’s surface. He won’t make it across the river. Just then, a boat appears, and the giant is magically shrunk to a size that allows him to ﬂee the piranhas by climbing into the boat and sailing away to safety. “That dream helped me go on with my life after the inﬂation of running for the presidency,” says Bradley. “To save your humanity you have to shrink from the inﬂation of that feeling of running for president, and then you save yourself.” Today, as a successful investment banker in New York, Bradley is continuing to rack up new achievements, directing companies and advising entrepreneurs. “I’m associating myself with ideas that have a chance of changing the world if they are successful,” he says. “You have to live your life not to the drumbeat of other people’s expectations, but to the drumbeat of your inner self,” he adds.
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Right now, the Internet is exploding with recipes for heirloom corn pudding and “How to irritate Gran-Gran by putting an inexplicable Asian spin on your turkey.” But what about those of us who can’t really cook? We called up Jessica Seinfeld—wife of Jerry, purveyor of unpretentious recipes, and author of the new The Can’t Cook Book—and asked her to walk us through Thanksgiving for DummiesI’m not sure who, exactly, is in charge of the purse strings behind cable television programming these days, but if it were me, the door I’d be knocking on says Seinfeld on it. The catch is that it’s not Jerry I’d be after. In fact, if Jerry answered the door, I’d hand him a check made out to Jessica, ask him to pass it along to her, and let her fill in the zeros. In case you’re not up on Jerry’s love life, his wife (and the mother of their three kids) is an ex-Vermonter turned hard-charging and highly attitudinal New Yorker. Her social circle includes Jay Z, Gee P (Gwyneth Paltrow), and Jay G (Jake Gyllenhall). She is a lightning rod for miniature Internet controversies and a magnet for the jealous eye-daggers of people who love to hate pretty girls with money. She can also bake her ass off and tell a mean joke—plus you could call her show “The Real Wife of Jerry Seinfeld,” which would be funny. Anyway, Seinfeld recently released her third best-selling cook book, The Can’t Cook Book, which is for wives and moms whose kitchen skills top out at Pop Tarts. It’s also for dudes who speak fluent kale as long as they're at restaurants, but never learned to preheat an oven for themselves. And at this point, total kitchen cluelessness is becoming a little embarrassing and isolating, as even our alpha friends now follow food as closely as they tune in to the latest with Derrick Rose’s knee or breaking news from Emily Ratajkowski’s Instagram.So, because we believe the best way to give thanks is to participate, we asked Jessica to break down how we can safely take part in the cooking-est week of the year without dropping a sweet potato stink bomb on the family dinner table. ···Okay, Jessica! It’s Thanksgiving Week in America. What are one or two dishes from your new book that people like me who can’t cook for shit can safely try this year?I would start with the sweet potato coins and the string beans with almonds.That’s good, because I know I need to leave the cornerstone stuff to the pros. I shouldn’t volunteer to bring the pumpkin pie when I don’t know the difference between a teaspoon and a tablespoon, right? Just do string beans.Yeah. Although I do have My First Turkey on my website. That could be good. Or you know what? You could be the Potato Man. If you do the smashed potatoes from the book and the sweet potato coins, you can be Potato Man.Mashed potatoes are pretty fundamental, though. I think I will feel safer if I stick to just doing the dishes.No, no. You’ll kill it.I always do the dishes, no matter whose house it is. I’ve noticed that it’s a really effective way to get invited back.Shut up. I said to my husband last night, “I cook, I clean up. Could I have gotten some help anywhere in this deal?”Just love and children, I guess?I do get a lot of love and children. I’ve got a pretty nice life, so I can’t complain. But I feel like I spend four hours in the kitchen. Think about it: If you grocery shop, prep, make dinner, and clean up, that’s like a full time job. Plus, planning what you’re going to eat and dealing with people saying, “This isn’t what I wanted.”Okay here’s what I like about your book: Men like me who can’t cook are starting to feel left out around our male friends who cook like crazy.Is that true?Yeah. My friends are into ribs and grilling and the usual man shit but also like complicated quinoa this and sprouted whatever-whatever salad that…I think it must have something to do with these great male celebrity chefs that have put the man back in cooking. Some of the great artists in the kitchen—the Jacques Pepins, the Mario Batalis—are dudes. Mario Batali put the dude into cooking. For this book though, my muse is my husband. Who is incompetent—those are his terms, by the way, “incompetent” and “moronic.” I based every recipe on how to cook if you’re starting with complete incompetence. I assumed no knowledge. A droid can pick this up and cook something.That’s good because if a guy like me picks up a recipe, by the time he gets to “mince four cloves of garlic” he might be lost.Can you hold on a second? [To someone else] Hey, can you take these muffins out of the oven for me?Wait, there are actually muffins happening as we speak?There are muffins happening right now.What kind?Blueberry.I’m definitely not ready to bake, but what about prepared foods? I feel like for starter cooks like myself it’s better if we don’t cook exactly but just kinda combine things.Did you see the “Quickies” in the back of my book?I did. Avocado toast. Open-faced ricotta and tomato sandwich.For me, this is Jerry Seinfeld personified. He’s just not interested enough in food to start cooking.But he is interested in having lunch.Yes, but he lives with me, so he doesn’t have to feed himself—he gets fed. But if, god forbid, I drop dead, he could feed himself through the back of the book. The Quickies.Jerry Seinfeld is capable of mushing some avocado onto a piece of toast with the back of a fork.Yeah, he can survive.Can I get your thoughts on my chicken salad recipe?Sure.I buy a whole rotisserie chicken from somewhere not scary and pull off all the meat. I cut up some celery, add Duke’s mayo, maybe a little bit of Sriracha, stir it all together with a fork, and I’m done. See? Prepared food. No cooking, but lots of good ways to feed yourself.Now that it’s winter, you could throw an apple in there. How often do you do that?Three times a year, probably? I basically make chicken salad because I don't have the confidence to put things over heat.How about using the oven?That’s even scarier because I can’t see what’s happening in there. In a pan I know what’s going on because I can see it.That’s really sweet. You’re scared to send it into oblivion in the oven.Right. You close the door, and god only knows what’s going to happen.Okay, but what is going to happen?That’s a good point. I guess stuff is just gonna get hot.I say this all the time: You have embarrassed yourself in far worse ways in your life.On a daily basis.On a daily basis! Every day I embarrass myself in some way. For me, if it’s just food it’s so much less acute. If all I screw up is food on a given day, it’s a gift.You know, I just got married and I made a deal with my wife: I have to cook for us once a week. But I haven’t put it into effect and I’m feeling super-guilty. So what recipe in your book is the one that looks and tastes way more impressive than it really is?Do you guys eat pasta? Then make the freaking clams. Make the slammin’ pasta with clams.Nice. Don’t clams announce when they’re done all by themselves? They open up for you so you know they're ready?Yep. Six to eight minutes.Beginners are scared of seafood, though.Just go for it. I will Skype so hard with you on that. Make the pasta, throw it all into a pot, cover it, six to eight minutes, done.One thing you’re known for is being a great host—bringing wide-ranging people together. How do you make exactly the right guest list? I need tips.I’m pretty strict about it. I pay attention to how people would click together. And I don’t let a lot of stragglers in. Sometimes people will say, “Can I bring these three other friends?” And I say no. It might be that other guests won’t gel with those people and that can really kill the vibe. So you have to pay attention to who’s coming and what they do for a living, where they’re from. I spend time thinking about each person, and who they’d want to sit next to, and what’s going on in their life. And if somebody’s bringing a date I ask questions about the date: What is he into? What is he like? And then I’m strict about it. I stick to my guns about my guest list. And I spend a lot of time on seating people.Read More http://www.gq.com/life/food/201311/jessica-seinfeld-thanksgiving-dinner-cooking-advice#ixzz2luIiGXfk
"Jerry Seinfeld’s wife and the author of The Can’t Cook Book teaches us Thanksgiving recipes even an idiot could do."
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Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out. If you’d like to reduce stress and become calm and cool, put the following 8 steps into practice to be more patient.You may also want to read: 10 Habits to Reduce the Stress in Your Daily Life1. Let go.This thing that seems like the end of the world right now? It’s not (promise). Stressing out about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.2. Breathe.The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps: Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale). Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale. Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.3. Loosen up.After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense (Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?). Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation (it might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example).4. Chew slowly.Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache). Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish. Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work (click here for more information).5. Enjoy the journey.Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.6. Look at the big picture.The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:Will this matter to me… Next week? Next month? Next year? In 10 years?Hint: No, it won’t. I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week (maybe not even the next day). Stop agonizing over things you can’t control, because you’re only hurting yourself.7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself.You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar. Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out, because it just isn’t possible.8. Practice patience every day.Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in the face of stress: The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line. Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside. Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.If you’d like to help your friends learn how to be more patient, pass this along so they can be calm and cool just like you. What helps you manage stress? Tell us in the comments.
Good steps to help manage stress.
Excellent, poignant and humorous video analysis of the workplace.
Good humor and analysis of the workplace..
Is one of your people stuck in a box/rut/overdrive or stasis? Are you stuck in a box/rut/overdrive or stasis because YOU want to find a new way, better way to generate results at a speed of change, challenges, hyper-competition and opportunity that is accelerating?You are not alone! Statistics tell us that employee engagement and stress caused physical, emotional problems are at an all time high. Is there an upside? You betcha. Resolve to evolve and re-define success. Starting building the Q skills that can take you/your people forward faster, better and happier by helping them optimize strengths while also using changes, challenges, stressors, even failures as a catalyst for their greatest potential. (Happier? Yes, neuroscience confirms that we need to prime our brains to be happy to optimize their potential.) Resolve to EvolveDo not get sidetracked by the symptoms of disengagement, frustration, stasis we face can take you off the beaten path, fighting symptoms rather than addressing the root cause of the problems you need to transform into effective solutions. Fighting the symptoms of what is not working may give you temporary satisfaction, but it will not help you ideate, communicate, collaborate and succeed forward. The need to build a new mindset and skill set that helps us optimize talent and potential at the speed of change/challenges is real and critical!Resolve to evolve. Get the right people on your bus and help them to build essential skills, skills that grow at the speed of change and challenges by using strengths, changes, challenges, stressors and failures to build their 3Q Edge™:Q1: IQ Enhanced ideation, focus, strategic thought, ability to learn-relearnQ2: EQ Self awareness, awareness of others, self management, relationship management, communication, resiliency, risk toleranceQ3: SQ Purpose, values, integrity-the timeless anchors of true leadership, sustainability and the grit to forge ahead when the going gets tough!Resolve to evolve. Take the automatic fear response out of change, by focusing on the only thing that is sustainable and timeless…Q3 Reset the internal and organizational GPS focusing on the purpose, integrity, values that are the only consistent, stable course of comfort and sustainability we have and will have. Make purpose = profit your mantra, and the mantra of your organization.Resolve to evolve. Stasis is a recipe for disaster, rigidity of thought, communication and action is a time bomb ready to explode and destroy your potential and the potential of your organization from inside out. Big organizations, SMEs, professional services providers, start-ups, entrepreneurs, solo-preneurs all face the critical imperative to re-examine and re-gig how they motivate, empower, optimize, recognize, optimize and realize talent and results.Redefine WinningWINNING means developing the business mindset and agility of a gazelle by developing face –face, virtual and digital teams that respond (not react) to changes and challenges in ways that nurture and drive innovative, collaborative solutions.WINNING means building a Me To WE culture where traditional silos are disbanded and replaced with better ways that drive vertical and horizontal communication, engagement and results by recognizing and enabling communities of purpose/new ways of communicating and collaborating that take you and your people forward!WINNING means replacing theory with practice and collaborative action because neurons that wire together, fire together and our ability to ideate, innovate, collaborate, communicate faster, better and happier is real and critical.Most of all…Winning means having the courage to recognize the pain we share and using to to transform pain into gain by using problems to generate the fire of human potential. Start using problems to drive innovative solutions that take us forward individually and collectively. The problems that unite us in a new non-linear eco system, a new world and workplace where changes, challenges, stressors, complexity and opportunity will continue to accelerate faster than ever before are as great as our potential to USE them to LEARN-RELEARN, COMMUNICATE, COLLABORATE and SUCCEED Forward.Resolving to evolve means realizing your ability to ignite, engage and stoke the fire of human potential, because nothing could be more important! Get the right people on your bus, and work with them to optimize, humanize, monetize in ways that take you forward. REACH Forward and the future will REACH back to YOU! Is it time to build your Q strengths? Are you ready to use what is to create what can be? Carpe Diem!
Love this approach. #L&D #Enterprise #Communication
went up on the worst dressed lists in all and every fashion magazine. Ironically, at the same time she also indulged in Gucci clothing.This was devastating for Gucci. Everything Victoria wore dropped dramatically in sales.The head designer of Gucci went into their PR office and screamed: Who the hell sends free clothes to a Spice Girl?!The staff sat frightened. Suddenly one of them raised her voice. ”Victoria Beckham buys her clothes herself, sir”, she said. ”And she seems to love Gucci”.A damaged brand is not the end of the worldI love this story because it doesn’t end here. It goes on and teaches a lesson on how brands can be saved from going under, despite of damages and bumps in the road.What Gucci did was to take Victoria Beckham in.They offered her a complete makeover, gave her style advice, and they encouraged her to start her own fashion brand (so she would wear something other than their clothing). But the best part is that they didn’t leave her there.Making sure she would succeed, they even mentored her through her start up, connected her with the right people, and probably chipped some money in.How to recoverToday Victoria Beckham is considered to be a fashion icon and appears at the top of the best dressed lists. No one seems to remember her early fashion failure.Gucci is also back on track with their target group.The takeaway from this story is that it’s possible to recover even the most damaged brand.Here’s how:1.Carve out what you want your brand to stand for, but also what you don’t want it to be known for. Write it down in a list and keep it in a safe place.2. Seek out people who can advise you and support you to do what’s right for your brand. Don’t be afraid to ask. People love to help when they can.3. Take action. Stop doing things that are damaging for your brand. Engage more in activities that strengthens it. Check with your list now and then to be sure to keep yourself on track.4. Be persistent. It often takes a minimum of six months to establish or change the way others perceive you. Be prepared to give it time!
Now day’s desire for fashion is an inexplicable discussion that is not only common among women but also among men. Men become very conscious about their looks and dressing and no doubt everyone desire to look graceful whatever the season is in simplest of manner. It is not difficult to look stylish but what men need to do is to pay a little attention towards how to carry themselves for different events. Following modern trends, men really like to wear pullover scarves with their outfit in winter to gain stylish and classy look.Men can use pullover scarves formally as well as casually in winter as it makes their personality versatile and elegant and help us to keep our neck warm. Pullover scarves for men are not only famous in youngsters but also commonly used by all age group of males. One can have a confident look by wearing pullover scarves, however, one need to be particular about its selection. Every men wants to look attractive in them so one must be having prior knowledge about different styles, stuffs and color combinations with reference to occasion and one’s own dressing style espcially in winter season.Men pullover scarves vary according to two basic designs especially in winter.Now day’s the most famous design in pullover scarves is triangular one that are in square form but men like to carry it by folding it in triangular form. This design is popular among youngsters under jackets and dress shirts around their neck. Young boys like to wear pullover scarves in night time usually in winter.Another famous design of pullover scarves for men is stroller design that is not confined to any specific age group but mostly working people like to wear it to have a casual look in a professional way. Working people can carry it in meetings with long coat in winter as well as with leather and jeans jacket.In winter, solid colors in men pullover scarves go best with your personality so men need to be cognizant while choosing pullover scarves particularly about colors. You can look confident and admirable by wearing printed pullover scarves with plain outfits and plain pullover scarves with bright outfits. Youngsters can look charming by wearing dark color pullover scarves with simple white or bright color t-shirts. Moreover black, brown and royal blue color pullover scarves look wonderful with plain dress shirts so if you want to make your personality remarkable, use these colors to make yourself fabulous. Blue, green, yellow and multi color pullover scarves also looks classy with jeans jacket as well as men can wear bright patterned pullover scarves with leather jackets.Winter gives a great chance to men to look stylish as well as it keep your neck warm in an easy manner. Men wants to keep themselves safe from cold as well as want to look eye-catching so for this be conscious about stuff of scarves too. Intelligent men generally use linen, silk and wool stuff in winter.Silk stuff look versatile with suit so working people can look professional and modish by using silk stuff pullover scarves. Use red color pullover scarves, as they look more sophisticated as well as stylish in winter.Linen stuff, pullover scarves look great with plain t-shirts and under coats and jackets.Use solid color and multi color wool pullover scarves in winter. It makes you appealing and stylish in simplest manner.Wearing styles of pullover scarves vary in accordance with design and size. If you want to get a casual look in winter, you must try new styles of knotting and folding scarves around neck.Working men must try European knot as it make their look professional as well as keep your neck warm in winters.For casual look, men must try Ascot knot in winters especially as it wrapped around the neck perfectly and gives you a good casual look.Twist scarf knotting not only makes you attractive but also keeps your neck and chest warm as in twist scarf knotting style, there are two knots one covers your neck and other your chest.Read more: http://menfash.com/scarf-for-men/pullover-scarves-for-men#ixzz2mil9GqkQ
For all the chatter about the formulaic sameness of Hollywood movies, no genre in recent years has been more thematically rigid than the computer-animated children's movie. These films have been infected with what might be called the magic-feather syndrome. As with the titular character in Walt Disney's 1943 animated feature Dumbo, these movies revolve around anthropomorphized outcasts who must overcome the restrictions of their societies or even species to realize their impossible dreams. Almost uniformly, the protagonists' primary liability, such as Dumbo's giant ears, eventually turns into their greatest strength.But first the characters must relinquish the crutch of the magic feather--or, more generally, surmount their biggest fears--and believe that their greatness comes from within.Examples from the past decade abound: a fat panda hopes to become a Kung Fu master (Kung Fu Panda); a sewer-dwelling rat dreams of becoming a French chef (Ratatouille); an 8-bit villain yearns to be a video-game hero (Wreck-It Ralph); an unscary monster pursues a career as a top-notch scarer (Monsters University). In the past month alone, two films with identical, paint-by-numbers plots--Turbo and Planes--have been released by separate studios, underlining the extent to which the magic-feather syndrome has infiltrated children's entertainment.In DreamWorks' Turbo, the eponymous protagonist, a common garden snail, toils in a tomato patch during the day and dreams of racing glory at night. His older brother Chet, a safety supervisor in the snail colony, has little patience for his sibling's fantasies. "The sooner you accept the miserableness of your existence, the happier you'll be," Chet advises. "Dreamers eventually have to wake up."Shortly thereafter, Turbo accidentally ingests large quantities of nitrous oxide and somehow gains exceptional racing capabilities. Through complicated plot machinations that involve a taco stand in Van Nuys, a quintet of sassy racing snails, and an arrogant French-Canadian racecar driver, Turbo qualifies for the Indianapolis 500. After a rocky start, Turbo surges to the lead in the last lap only to suffer a terrible crash that obstructs the other drivers and neutralizes Turbo's racing powers. Mere feet from the finish line, Turbo withdraws into his shell, uncertain that he has the inner strength to succeed. Now fully invested in his brother's quest, Chet yells at him: "It is in you! It's always been in you! ... My little brother never gives up. That's the best thing about you." Newly inspired, Turbo inches across the finish line, fulfilling his self-actualizing journey and proving that one needn't be human nor drive a car to win the country's most prestigious auto race.Disney's Planes almost perfectly mirrors the plot and pacing of Turbo. In this feature, Dusty Crophopper, an unsatisfied crop-duster, yearns to break free from his workaday existence and compete in the famed Wings Around the Globe race. His skeptical friend Dottie tries to convince Dusty that "you are not built to race; you are built to dust crops." But Dusty remains determined to achieve his far-fetched goal, arguing that "I'm just trying to prove maybe, just maybe, I can do more than I was built for."After finishing last in the race's first two legs, Dusty briefly takes over the lead before crashing into the Pacific Ocean during a violent storm. Damaged and discouraged, Dusty nearly drops out before the race's concluding leg. But Dottie restores his faith by reversing her initial doubts: "You're not a crop-duster. You're a racer, and now the whole world knows it." Rejuvenated, Dusty overcomes his doubts--not to mention his oft-stated fear of heights--and triumphs in the race's final seconds. Hammering home the movie's already unambiguous message, a doting fan at the finish line tells Dusty that he's "an inspiration for all of us who want to do more than we were built for."It's probably no coincidence that the supremacy of the magic-feather syndrome in children's movies overlaps with the so-called "cult of self-esteem." The restless protagonists of these films never have to wake up to the reality that crop-dusters simply can't fly faster than sleek racing aircraft. Instead, it's the naysaying authority figures who need to be enlightened about the importance of never giving up on your dreams, no matter how irrational, improbable, or disruptive to the larger community. As Jean Twenge, the controversial cultural critic of America's supposed narcissism epidemic, argues in her bestselling book Generation Me, younger generations "simply take it for granted that we should all feel good about ourselves, we are all special, and we all deserve to follow our dreams."Following one's dreams necessarily entails the pursuit of the extraordinary in these films. The protagonists sneer at the mundane, repetitive work performed by their unimaginative peers. Dusty abhors the smell of fertilizer and whines to his flying coach that he's "been flying day after day over these same fields for years." Similarly, Turbo performs his duties in the garden poorly, and his insubordination eventually gets him and Chet fired. Their attitudes are all part of an ethos that privileges self-fulfillment over the communal good.In addition to disparaging routine labor, these films discount the hard work that enables individuals to reach the top of their professions. Turbo and Dusty don't need to hone their craft for years in minor-league circuits like their racing peers presumably did. It's enough for them simply to show up with no experience at the world's most competitive races, dig deep within themselves, and out-believe their opponents. They are, in many ways, the perfect role models for a generation weaned on instant gratification.The magic-feather syndrome has so thoroughly penetrated animated features that it's difficult to imagine a film that doesn't incorporate at least some of its tropes. Perhaps, you might be tempted to argue, kids movies have to be this way. But that's easily debunked--just look at Pixar's roster, which features a number of magic-feather narratives but also includes stories largely about family, friendship, and growing older.Perhaps the best counterpoint--and the best example of just how much things have changed--can be found in Charles M. Schulz's Peanuts. In the comic strip, Schulz ridiculed the notion that individuals are likely to succeed merely because they believe in themselves. Every year Charlie Brown convinces himself that he is finally going to kick Lucy's football, and each time she snatches it away at the last second. In a 1968 interview with Psychology Today, Schulz implied that his characters pick on Charlie Brown because he is too much of a dreamer: "I think they are justified sometimes in their treatment of him. Charlie Brown is too vulnerable. He is full of hope and misdirected faith." Failure, unrequited love, and self-doubt are the norms in Peanuts, and nowhere is this better represented than in Schulz's first feature-length film, A Boy Named Charlie Brown.Released in 1969, A Boy Named Charlie Brown turns the clichés of the magic-feather syndrome inside-out. It opens with Charlie Brown suffering through a string of failures: His kite crashes to the ground, his baseball team loses its 99th consecutive game, and even his toy sailboat sinks to the bottom of the bathtub. "I just can't seem to do anything right," he laments to himself. On his way to school, Lucy, Violet, and Patty taunt him with a heartless song: "You never do anything right / You never put anything in its place / No wonder everyone calls you / Failure-face." Sensing Charlie Brown's despair, Linus, his lone confidant, advises him that he's "going to have to win at something--something that will restore your lost self-confidence."Determined to prove himself, Charlie Brown enters the school spelling bee and emerges victorious. By winning he becomes the area representative for the National Elimination Spelling Bee in Washington, D.C. Before his departure he confides to Linus, "There's a good chance that instead of being a hero I'll make a bigger fool of myself than ever." Somewhat unhelpfully, Linus responds, "Don't be discouraged, Charlie Brown. You have nothing to lose. You'll either be a hero or a goat."Up to this point, A Boy Named Charlie Brown has largely followed a familiar pattern: The protagonist defies his doubters, improbably qualifies for a major competition, and now needs only to channel his inner strength to triumph. It wouldn't be a stretch to assume that Lucy will soon disavow her initial skepticism and tell Charlie Brown at a crucial point in the competition that he's always had what it takes to win.But that's not what happens. Instead, Charlie Brown survives to the final round (his words include unconfident, disastrous, and incompetent), and then carelessly misspells the word "beagle" while his dog Snoopy points at himself from the front row. Afterward, Charlie Brown, Linus, and Snoopy depart the theater in silence. When they're dropped off at the bus station that night, the streets are empty. "I guess nobody realized that we were returning," Linus remarks. The movie then spends an excruciating amount of time on Charlie Brown wordlessly unpacking, changing into his pajamas, and slipping beneath the covers, his eyes glazed with utter defeat.When Charlie Brown doesn't show up for school that next day, Linus stops by his house. Still in bed with the shades pulled down, Charlie Brown tells Linus that he's never going to attempt anything again. Rather than trying again to build up Charlie Brown's self-esteem, Linus waxes philosophical: "Well, I can understand how you feel. You worked hard studying for the spelling bee, and I suppose you feel you let everyone down and you made a fool out of yourself and everything. But did you notice something, Charlie Brown?...The world didn't come to an end."After mulling over this comment, Charlie Brown gets out of bed and ventures outside. None of his companions pay much attention to him as he strolls by. In the distance, he spots Lucy playing with a football. Just when it seems that Charlie Brown might be able to redeem himself with a small punt, Lucy pulls the football away from him, and the movie concludes with Charlie Brown flat on his back, grimacing at the camera.A Boy Named Charlie Brown might come across now as harsh and unforgiving--especially to audiences that aren't familiar with the comic strip's cruel undercurrents--but its lessons are more enduring than those from movies where characters fulfill their impossible dreams. Charlie Brown learns through Linus's tough-love speech that failure, no matter how painful, is not permanent, and that the best means of withstanding it is simply to show up the next day to school with the fortitude to try again. Losing also forces Charlie Brown to come to terms with his own limitations. He can't rely on a miraculous victory to rescue him from his tormented childhood. He followed his dream, it didn't pan out, and he ends up more or less where he started, only a little more experienced and presumably with a little more respect from his peers. They may no longer be able to refer to him as "failure-face," but Lucy still yanks away the football when he becomes too hopeful. It's incremental, rather than life-altering, progress.Contemporary animated films would never emulate the tough life lessons of A Boy Named Charlie Brown, but they'd do well to reintroduce the twin notions of failure and humility. In a movie like Planes, it should be good enough for a modest crop-duster just to qualify for the Wings Around the Globe race. After all, the mere fact that Dusty is participating in this televised competition more than justifies his lofty aspirations. Besides, having Dusty win on his first outing gives young audiences the false impression that the road to self-actualization isn't arduous and littered with speed bumps. His defeat wouldn't need to be as crushing as Charlie Brown's, but it might be humbling for Dusty to lose to a decorated, equally determined opponent and learn that life still goes on, even without a wholly happy ending.It took nearly 43 years before Schulz allowed Charlie Brown to slug a game-winning homerun, which is a long time for a cartoon character to hold tight to his dreams. There should be time enough for a more experienced Dusty to realize his ambitions in subsequent films. After all, the only thing more common than the magic-feather syndrome in contemporary animated features is the inevitability of a sequel.
"Failure, unrequited love, and self-doubt are the norms in Peanuts...Brown learns through Linus's tough-love speech that failure, no matter how painful, is not permanent, and that the best means of withstanding it is simply to show up the next day to school with the fortitude to try again."
The end of one year and the beginning of another is always a time for reflection, and for many people a time to make New Year’s resolutions about things that they want to change, improve, or accomplish during the upcoming year.
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So artistic. I like haunting tune. Below is one definition of the word: tessellate. ~ V.B.
"In computer graphics, the term "tessellation" is used to describe the organization of information needed to render to give the appearance of the surfaces of realistic three-dimensional objects.
In the real world, a tessellation is a tiling made of physical materials such as cemented ceramic squares or hexagons. Such tilings may be decorative patterns, or may have functions such as providing durable and water-resistant pavement, floor or wall coverings. Historically, tessellations were used in Ancient Rome and in Islamic art such as in the decorative tiling of the Alhambra palace. In the twentieth century, the work of M. C. Escher often made use of tessellations for artistic effect. Tessellations are sometimes employed for decorative effect in quilting. Tessellations form a class of patterns in nature, for example in the arrays of hexagonal cells found in honeycombs."
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