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Brazil Will No Longer Run These 'Happy Being a Prostitute' Ads

Brazil Will No Longer Run These 'Happy Being a Prostitute' Ads | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Like most things in Brazil, prostitution is legal.

 

Sex work even has its own holiday — June 2nd was International Day of the Prostitute. To raise awareness about safe prostitution and to work against the stigma that surrounds the profession, Brazil recently launched an online campaign called "I'm happy being a prostitute." And then they quickly canceled it.

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Would Scalia Strike Down 2257 on Fourth Amendment Grounds?

Would Scalia Strike Down 2257 on Fourth Amendment Grounds? | Sex Work | Scoop.it

A Salon article published today outlines the extent to which Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia, for whom there is generally no love lost among the perennially liberal, actually finds common ground with left-leaning SCOTUS colleagues when it comes to a “raft” of Fourth Amendment cases.

 

The Fourth Amendment, for those who have forgotten, reads, “The right of the people to be secure in their persons, houses, papers, and effects, against unreasonable searches and seizures, shall not be violated, and no Warrants shall issue, but upon probable cause, supported by Oath or affirmation, and particularly describing the place to be searched, and the persons or things to be seized.”

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Help For Phone Sex Operators

Help For Phone Sex Operators | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Questions To Ask Callers, Tips For PSOs On Public Phone Sex, Link Building & other ways make money as a Pay Per Minute Live Phone Chat Operator.

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Female sex workers frequently offered larger fees by their clients in return for sex without a condom

Female sex workers frequently offered larger fees by their clients in return for sex without a condom | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Client demand for unprotected sex is contributing to the HIV epidemic among female sex workers, according to Canadian research published in the online edition of the Journal of Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndromes. Investigators in Vancouver found that approximately three-quarters of sex workers were offered more money by clients for sex without a condom and that 19% accepted this money. Transgender women were more likely to accept extra money for unsafe sex, as were women who experienced client violence and users of methamphetamine.

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"I would prefer to be with a sex worker than a waiter"

"I would prefer to be with a sex worker than a waiter" | Sex Work | Scoop.it

There are men out there who're turned on by the idea of their girlfriends/wives having sex with other men; some men are turned on by the idea of their girlfriends/wives being paid for sex. You're clearly one of those guys. And you're within your rights to share this information with your girlfriend and to try to convince her to return to sex work. Because your fantasies of sex work---of her doing sex work---turn you on. Again, that's fine. But you could make a more convincing case, PIMP, if you were better acquainted with the realities of sex work.

 

You should suck off strange men for money.

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Why do some men need a dominatrix?

Why do some men need a dominatrix? | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Fmr. dominatrix: 'My clients would pay me to enact role play scenes that they spent a lot of time fantasizing about'

 

Melissa Febos became a dominatrix at age 21 and worked in what she calls an upscale New York dungeon for four years.

She is the author of "Whip Smart," which chronicles her years as domineering mistress. She explained to HLN’s Dr. Drew what guys wanted from her.

“My clients would pay me to enact role play scenes that they spent a lot of time fantasizing about,” she said. “Most of these scenes involved me playing sort of an iconic female role -- either mommy, babysitter, cheerleader or the essential sort of dominatrix character with the thigh-high boots and the corset. But there was no sex and no nudity. It was really sort of a private acting job.”

She added, “Most [of my clients] were upper-middle class New York city residents -- a lot of stock brokers, probably because it is an expensive hobby to have, but they really sort of ran the whole spectrum. There were professors and doctors and police officers and just about everybody you can think of.”


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I guess neither of the hosts have heard of the new studies about BDSM
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That Time I Was A Gay Stripper

That Time I Was A Gay Stripper | Sex Work | Scoop.it
I was 24 and, while not gay, ever since college I had been getting more attention from gay men than from heterosexual women.
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News: Cliterati Founder Seeks Female Sex Fantasies for New Book - Cliterati

News: Cliterati Founder Seeks Female Sex Fantasies for New Book - Cliterati | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Four decades on, women aren’t just admitting to having fantasies, they’re also writing them down and some are even becoming millionaires as a result. But have their fantasies changed or are we eroticising the same things as our mothers and grandmothers before us? Have the changes in society affected what we think about, and how we use our fantasies? How close is reality to fantasy now that the internet makes all manner of assignations  infinitely easier than they were four decades ago? Do we accept our fantasies more now than before, or is there still a stigma about female fantasies? Are we making our dreams come true – or still keeping our real desires to ourselves for fear of being judged?

 

Cliterati founder, Emily Dubberley, is investigating this in her latest book. If you’d like to add your voice to it, please fill in one of the following surveys (you can skip any questions that you feel uncomfortable about regardless of the survey you choose.) Please elaborate on your fantasies as fully as possible.

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The Art and Craft of Erotica Writing

The Art and Craft of Erotica Writing | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Author Jamie Brenner discusses erotica writing with Jason Boog's Morning Media Menu

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Sex workers rally at Parliament House to decriminalise prostitution

Sex workers rally at Parliament House to decriminalise prostitution | Sex Work | Scoop.it

AN ALLIANCE of sex workers are lobbying state MPs to support a legal bid to decriminalise prostitution.

 

Labor MP Steph Key has introduced a Bill to State Parliament which would decriminalise all forms of sex work for people aged over 18, make it illegal to discriminate against a sex worker and wipe clean past convictions.

 

Yesterday, members of the Scarlet Alliance, Australian Sex Workers Association, SA South Australian Sex Industry Network and Sex Worker Action Group: Gaining Empowerment, Rights & Recognition joined forces to rally on the steps of Parliament.

 

A previous attempt to decriminalise sex work by Ms Key was rejected by one vote last November.

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South Australian sex workers call on MPs to decriminalise sex work at a International Whores Day rally

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Prostitutes kept out despite visas

Prostitutes kept out despite visas | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Work visa holders moonlighting in part-time sex work are being denied entry to New Zealand.

 

In the 12 months to April, 45 foreigners holding valid working visas were refused entry for breaching their visa conditions, including working as prostitutes.

 

A North Shore International Academy graduate on a job search work visa was last month turned away at Auckland Airport after a baggage check found items used for sex work.

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Putting Hypersexuality to Work: Black Women and Illicit Eroticism in Pornography

Putting Hypersexuality to Work: Black Women and Illicit Eroticism in Pornography | Sex Work | Scoop.it

"This article focuses on the labor marginalization of black female performers within the pornography industry. Their representations and experiences as sex workers are shaped by a racialized and gendered sexual commerce where stereotypes, structural inequalities, and social biases are the norm. Black women are devalued as hyperaccessible and superdisposable in an industry that simultaneously invests in and ghettoizes fantasies about black sexuality. In light of feminist arguments against the victimization of women by pornography, I have attempted to show that black sex workers, while facing multiple axes of discrimination and harm, also employ hypersexuality and illicit eroticism to achieve mobility, erotic autonomy, and self-care."

 


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Sex Work, Discretion And Writing

Sex Work, Discretion And Writing | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Being both a writer and a sex worker is hard.

 

It’s not a question of time, nor is it a question of money; it’s really a question of discretion. My work requires so much secrecy. I keep secrets for my safety, for my co-workers’ safety, and for the protection of the men who pay us. I don’t write under my real name because I don’t want to incur the wrath of the law. I can never be entirely truthful because so much of what I do is at least legally dubious, if not downright illegal. Saying too much could absolutely ruin my co-workers, my clients, and even myself.

 

I wish this wasn’t true. Telling true stories of the ho life to a wide audience and showing that sex workers are not the flamingos stock photos portray us as, but are actually real people who stand on two legs and have normal lives is one of the things that will gradually bring us greater acceptance. Being unable to speak openly and freely does no favors for us.

 
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Beyond Richard Gere (Dating My John)

Beyond Richard Gere (Dating My John) | Sex Work | Scoop.it

I'm seeing an amazing guy who I met doing sex work—as in, he was paying me for straight-up sex. It's not a Pretty Woman situation. He's my age and not wealthy, and I'm too old for that anyway. We share a lot of geeky interests and have a great connection, and the sex is awesome. When I was seeing him for pay, I would think, "I would totally date this guy." We transitioned to friends with benefits several months back. Then some "I love yous" were exchanged, and now we are in a monogamous relationship. For context, I did independent escorting for about six months while I was in school. (I played up the nerdy grad student angle, and that was crazy successful.) I keep thinking that there must be something "wrong" with the way we met, but maybe that's internalized attitudes toward sex work? Can this work? Everything about our relationship feels positive, but sometimes I think, "Really? Dating your john?" Maybe I just need your OK to feel better.

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An ardent advocate for sex workers

An ardent advocate for sex workers | Sex Work | Scoop.it
As a former board member of Stepping Stone and one of the directors who hired former executive director Rene Ross, I felt compelled to address some of the recent media coverage concerning her departure.
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Stripping The Illusion: Male Strippers A Parody and a Few Real Points

Stripping The Illusion: Male Strippers A Parody and a Few Real Points | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Actually really after watching the show I want to talk about the difference between male and female stripping and the two faced approach of some feminists claiming that stripping by women is somehow worse than stripping by men. There is the no contact rule in strip clubs yet if dreamboys or the like strip then women consider it okay to grab, scratch or squeeze . The clubs have audiences and all I can say about the male strippers it seemed to be a baying mob. It is just complete double standards, but the one thing that is a constant is the people working have made choices good or bad. Not everyone is going to be able to handle the pressure stripping but to close industries down because of a minority being against it and a tiny proportion of dancers having bad experiences is in my mind just a tiny bit stupid.

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I haven't seen the Chennel 4 show; but in any case, the points made here are worthy of thought.

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Putting a much-needed smile into S&M

Putting a much-needed smile into S&M | Sex Work | Scoop.it

IT IS a first, as I have not before been taught the finer points of dominatrix phone sex. My teacher is sassy Jassy Mackenzie, whose book, Folly, is selling up a storm.

 

We are sitting in the sunny garden of a coffee shop with little children whooping around us and Mackenzie, who has the perfect voice — clear, sharp, dictatorial — is trying to convince me I’d be perfect for the job.

 

"You revolting little worm, get down on your knees, lick my shoes and then clean the house, it’s filthy." She’s describing a typical dominatrix chat. She has had male callers vacuuming their homes at 3am in response to her commands.

 

"You have to humiliate them, shout at them, and slap your hands together to count down the blows. It’s easy because it is they who have made the call, wanting to submit."

 

The male callers tend to be bosses who crave a balance in life, she says, and submitting helps them to attain that. It is fascinating that a man with workplace authority wants to be dominated to such a degree — "They have to have the power in order to give it away," she says.

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Romance and pornography : Popular Romance Project

Romance and pornography : Popular Romance Project | Sex Work | Scoop.it

I teach an undergraduate seminar on “Gender, Sexuality, and Popular Culture” with a unit on the romance genre. This year, for the first time ever, the class consists entirely of women. Also new this year is an exercise we invented of an online, collaborative romance narrative. One question that came up in our writing experiment was how, when, and why to include sex scenes. We talked a lot about depictions of sexuality in romance fiction, as well as in the sex-saturated corridors of popular culture. How are the love scenes in romance different from those in pornography or erotica?

 

...I’m interested in the notion that a feminist is a woman who writes—a woman who dares explore ideas and fantasies that run contrary to patriarchal scripts for feminine docility, submissiveness, and sexual passivity. These scripts are still alive in the impossible contradictions and double standards my students report: be sexy but also pure, demands the culture. If guys sleep around it’s a sign of mastery and control, but if you do it you’re a slut.


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Truth in Deviance: My Career as a Craigslist Dominatrix

Truth in Deviance: My Career as a Craigslist Dominatrix | Sex Work | Scoop.it

“Becca” responded to a Craiglslist ad for a “fit, hot, athletic woman" ... which led to a career as a dominatrix.

 

...Cash cannot fully explain why I donned leather boots, skimpy bras, layers of lipstick and eye-shadow, or the occasional slutty nurse outfit to embody the vulnerably intimate depths of men’s fantasies. Yes, it paid the bills. Yes, it helped offset the costs of my future goals — including graduate school, a future family, and world travel. But as much as this work excited, elucidated, and satisfied the desires of my clients while being a boon to my bank account, it also fulfilled many of my own psychological needs.

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Stupidity, Optimism, and Little-Head Thinking – ErosBlog: The Sex Blog

All that is by way of speculation as to what makes this paragraph necessary to include in a guide for newbies who want to hire a dominatrix:

 

No, you cheap fuck, she probably doesn’t want you as her personal slave.

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Brilliant ~ both the intro and the info referenced.

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So What Do You Do, Zane, New York Times Bestselling Erotica Author?

So What Do You Do, Zane, New York Times Bestselling Erotica Author? | Sex Work | Scoop.it

She is credited with bringing erotica from the back of the bookstore and into the mainstream with the explosive success of The Sex Chronicles: Shattering the Myth. Was it the detail of the love scenes, the sexually liberated female characters, or just the juicy plots that did it? The millions of readers who catapulted her titles onto the New York Times bestsellers list a whopping 26 times and made Zane's Sex ChroniclesNo. 1 on Cinemax would probably say all of the above.

 

Yet, despite her philanthropic efforts and work in bringing other authors into the limelight through her imprint with Atria/Simon & Schuster, Zane is not without her critics. She's been attacked for everything from her large number of young fans and her support of the LGBT community to, of course, her explicit content.

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The erotica author talks empowering women, why publishers are under appreciated, and the one thing you need to pen a juicy romance novel.

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One of my many inspirations for why I write.  PERIOD.  Explicitness is in our nature.  ENDULGE a lil.....BE HUMAN.  IMAGINE.  Love Zane.  #PHOENIX

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Can’t deny admission to children of sex workers: State - Indian Express

Can’t deny admission to children of sex workers: State - Indian Express | Sex Work | Scoop.it

CRACKING the whip on schools flouting norms, the state has issued a government resolution (GR) that categorically says admission cannot be denied to children of sex workers and transgenders.

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Women's coalition plans to argue against legalizing prostitution

Women's coalition plans to argue against legalizing prostitution | Sex Work | Scoop.it

A coalition of groups preparing to intervene in a Supreme Court of Canada hearing into the future of this country's prostitution laws is advocating for a "third way" that would ensure sex workers aren't turned into criminals while ensuring johns and pimps can still be prosecuted for buying and selling women and girls.

 

The Women's Coalition for the Abolition of Prostitution -- which includes a number of organizations including the Canadian Association of Sexual Assault Centres, the Canadian Association of Elizabeth Fry Societies and the Vancouver-based Rape Relief and Women's Shelter -- is among more than a dozen interveners in a hearing scheduled for June 13.

 

The hearing stems from an Ontario Court of Appeal decision that struck down the Criminal Code ban on bawdy houses last year because the law puts sex workers in danger by forcing them to work outside.

 

The case has revealed deep divisions among organizations that work with and advocate for the women -- often poor, drug addicted, and in many cases trafficked from outside Canada -- working in the sex trade. Some groups are advocating for a form of legalization, while others insist prostitution must remain against the law.

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