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PayPal, Square and big banking's war on the sex industry

PayPal, Square and big banking's war on the sex industry | Sex Work | Scoop.it
The discriminatory practice of redlining has been reinvented for the 21st century and it's targeting the sex industry.
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TheBodyHouse.biz's curator insight, December 4, 2015 7:24 AM

This is a very important article...  

 

It exposes the blatant prejudice PayPal, Chase Bank & Square have toward the industry of sex. These are LEGAL and LICENSED businesses they are stopping from using their services online.

 

THIS is one of the reasons big corporations need to be subdued. Human beings tend to abuse power when it proves too much to handle.

Of course, no one at these companies would ever watch porn, go to a massage parlor or strip joint would they? 

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Phone Sex Is Sex Work - It's In The News, & You Can Learn From It

Phone Sex Is Sex Work - It's In The News, & You Can Learn From It | Sex Work | Scoop.it
If you're following me on Twitter, you've likely seen my tweets about Margaret Cho's recent championing of sex workers & their rights. Cho knows what she's talking about. Before her comedy care...
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"It took a long time to figure out what was bothering me about my job, but after listening to some restaurant industry friends complain about their patrons, it struck me. Nobody, not a single caller, had ever said, “Thank you.”


And none of them had ever said, “Goodbye.”


They were so thoroughly wrapped up in their exhibitionism, in themselves, that I might as well have been a pre-recorded moaning device. And while I didn’t exactly expect callers to care about me as a human being, night after night filled with dozens of people hanging up on me mid-sentence as though I didn’t exist started to really hurt my self esteem and self confidence."

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James Deen’s Alleged Assaults Were Ignored, Laughed Off by Casts and Crews #sexwork #porn #rape

James Deen’s Alleged Assaults Were Ignored, Laughed Off by Casts and Crews #sexwork #porn #rape | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Since Saturday, when porn actress and writer Stoya tweeted that she was raped by porn hero James Deen, four more adult film performers have come out agains
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Cauterucci's article gives the most balanced view of the whole James Deen rape story ~ including the debacles facing women in porn and sex work. While the adult industry has a much faster (and positive) response to its stars who rape and abuse than Hollywood and mainstream media do, there are always the following issues of whether or not it is rape if a person is paid or likes rough sex. 


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"There is nothing wrong or rape-like about enjoying rough sex and being good at it. There is nothing wrong or suspicious about acting out a consensual rape fantasy. But, as in offscreen/noncommercial sex, the entire validity of porn as an industry hinges on consent. Perversely, that may be one reason why a porn actress might feel compelled to stay silent about these kinds of violations: Women who act in adult films are often portrayed as victims with little agency or know-how, who must resort to a demeaning and dangerous career because they have no other options. Stories like the ones Fires, Lux, Rayne, and Peters tell—important as they are—don’t exactly contradict that myth.

But neither porn nor rough sex subjected these women to sexual assault, and they didn’t turn James Deen into a rapist. The allegations against Deen are full of references to ways porn actresses control their own careers: through lists of acts they won’t perform, lists of people they won’t perform with, and contracts that specify exactly what will happen in a scene. Deviating from the agreed-upon variety, timing, and manner of sex is just as wrong as any other kind of assault. The women who’ve told their horrifying stories about Deen know that. Deen and the bystanders who looked on and laughed did, too."

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Gracie Passette's curator insight, December 2, 2015 7:17 PM

Cauterucci's article gives the most balanced view of the whole James Deen rape story ~ including the debacles facing women in porn and sex work. While the adult industry has a much faster (and positive) response to its stars who rape and abuse than Hollywood and mainstream media do, there are always the following issues of whether or not it is rape if a person is paid or likes rough sex. 


Cauterucci:


"There is nothing wrong or rape-like about enjoying rough sex and being good at it. There is nothing wrong or suspicious about acting out a consensual rape fantasy. But, as in offscreen/noncommercial sex, the entire validity of porn as an industry hinges on consent. Perversely, that may be one reason why a porn actress might feel compelled to stay silent about these kinds of violations: Women who act in adult films are often portrayed as victims with little agency or know-how, who must resort to a demeaning and dangerous career because they have no other options. Stories like the ones Fires, Lux, Rayne, and Peters tell—important as they are—don’t exactly contradict that myth.


But neither porn nor rough sex subjected these women to sexual assault, and they didn’t turn James Deen into a rapist. The allegations against Deen are full of references to ways porn actresses control their own careers: through lists of acts they won’t perform, lists of people they won’t perform with, and contracts that specify exactly what will happen in a scene. Deviating from the agreed-upon variety, timing, and manner of sex is just as wrong as any other kind of assault. The women who’ve told their horrifying stories about Deen know that. Deen and the bystanders who looked on and laughed did, too."


Click links for more info on rape & rape fantasies ~ including issues in porn & sex work.

Deanna Dahlsad's curator insight, December 2, 2015 7:27 PM

[url=/u/606125 x-already-notified=1]Gracie Passette[/url]'s comments:


Cauterucci's article gives the most balanced view of the whole James Deen rape story ~ including the debacles facing women in porn and sex work. While the adult industry has a much faster (and positive) response to its stars who rape and abuse than Hollywood and mainstream media do, there are always the following issues of whether or not it is rape if a person is paid or likes rough sex. 


Cauterucci:


"There is nothing wrong or rape-like about enjoying rough sex and being good at it. There is nothing wrong or suspicious about acting out a consensual rape fantasy. But, as in offscreen/noncommercial sex, the entire validity of porn as an industry hinges on consent. Perversely, that may be one reason why a porn actress might feel compelled to stay silent about these kinds of violations: Women who act in adult films are often portrayed as victims with little agency or know-how, who must resort to a demeaning and dangerous career because they have no other options. Stories like the ones Fires, Lux, Rayne, and Peters tell—important as they are—don’t exactly contradict that myth.


But neither porn nor rough sex subjected these women to sexual assault, and they didn’t turn James Deen into a rapist. The allegations against Deen are full of references to ways porn actresses control their own careers: through lists of acts they won’t perform, lists of people they won’t perform with, and contracts that specify exactly what will happen in a scene. Deviating from the agreed-upon variety, timing, and manner of sex is just as wrong as any other kind of assault. The women who’ve told their horrifying stories about Deen know that. Deen and the bystanders who looked on and laughed did, too."


Click links for more info on rape & rape fantasies ~ including issues in porn & sex work.

TheBodyHouse.biz's curator insight, December 4, 2015 12:08 AM

For God's sake... It's never ok to punch a woman in the face and take her from behind... even if she's a paid porn star. Even if she literally... asks you for it.

 

It doesn't matter that this happened on the set of a porn flick. This incident springs from the generalized notion that it's excusable to treat a woman abusively because you are a more powerful and dominant male. Get over yourselves!

 

I see this attitude (and often experience it) everywhere. It's the attitude whereby men believe women have been put on this Earth to serve them.


Men feel entitled to us. This leads to a sense of ownership. I'm not sure where this comes from (The Bible maybe?) but it has got to END.


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Holiday Marketing And Influencing Purchases [Infographic]

Holiday Marketing And Influencing Purchases [Infographic] | Sex Work | Scoop.it

The holidays are upon us, which means it's time to get moving with your  marketing campaigns. People start their holiday shopping early. 


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And then consider how many of these social networks, apps, etc. are actually open to adult businesses...

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My Grandma, the Sex Worker

When Dad told me that my grandmother used to be a prostitute, I didn't know whether to believe him. Seven years later, I phoned up Grandma to ask.
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What’s Real, Who’s Fake, What’s Private? Truths About Virtual Sex Affairs

What’s Real, Who’s Fake, What’s Private? Truths About Virtual Sex Affairs | Sex Work | Scoop.it
A friend, Darla, suggested we talk a bit about the whole Ashley Madison fiasco. Her most specific question was this tweet: @TrailerTrashGrl Why don’t men stick to real women PSOs like @PecknC…
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Communication and Discretion in the Demimonde

Communication and Discretion in the Demimonde | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Discretion is sometimes an overused word in this little world of ours, but it remains paramount to being able to stay and play as we do. Do you know much about security in communications online? By phone?
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I would note:


* Google requires a subpoena, search warrant, or court order to release info, so it's not like it's super easy for a client, fan, troll, etc. to get your data. So if you are doing legal sex work, such as phone sex, &/or not operating in "niche" areas, such as BDSM, some of these precautions may be less necessary than others.


* If you are truly concerned about privacy, for your business or otherwise, consider a paid service such as Unspyable.


* See also this article with privacy & safety tips.


* As always, see/read comments at post for more info.

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The Key To Attracting More Male Callers May Lie In Dating Study Info

The Key To Attracting More Male Callers May Lie In Dating Study Info | Sex Work | Scoop.it
A recent study, An Experimental Study of Men’s and Women’s Personal Ads, took a look at what characteristics women and men appear to be looking for in their partners by placing fake personal ads on...
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Margaret Cho Wants to Talk About Sex Work

Margaret Cho Wants to Talk About Sex Work | Sex Work | Scoop.it
“The ugliness and beauty that I saw made me think that sex workers are providing a valuable service to society,” Ms. Cho said of her dominatrix days. “We shouldn’t just be protected and legitimized. We should be worshiped.”

But despite prostitution’s existence in virtually all cultures, there’s an almost universal aversion to the very idea of it. As Ms. Cho pointed out, while “ick” is a common visceral response, it is not particularly useful for developing public policy.

“If you’re disgusted by sex work, if your impulse is to shame and to abolish, what are sex workers to do then?” Ms. Cho asked. “How can we continue to operate in shadows and secrecy when the shadows and the secrecy are what’s killing us?”
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Adult Themes: The rise and fall of America's first digital brothel

Adult Themes: The rise and fall of America's first digital brothel | Sex Work | Scoop.it
If someone forced you to describe RealTouch Interactive in just two words, you'd probably call it a "digital brothel." And rightly so, as the North Carolina-bas...

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What You Can Learn About Culture From Sex & Sex Work

What You Can Learn About Culture From Sex & Sex Work | Sex Work | Scoop.it
I was showing a PSO client how to use Google Trends yesterday when I spotted an interesting trend... Question: According to Google, what region of the world has the highest probability of searching...
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Meet the Woman Who Makes Porn GIFs for a Living

Meet the Woman Who Makes Porn GIFs for a Living | Sex Work | Scoop.it
In 2013, for example, TechCrunch reported that over 11% of the GIF-centric blogging platform Tumblr's most popular accounts were porn-related.

Unlike some favorite cat GIFs floating around online, though, porn GIFs don't just appear out of nowhere. In fact, some are made by full-time professionals who know what, exactly, makes a good porn GIF. (Note: The following images are somewhat NSFW.)
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"With my GIFs circulating, I caught the attention of a few porn companies that liked what I was doing and wanted more of it," she said. 

She's been doing it full-time for about a year. 

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Gracie Passette's curator insight, November 11, 2015 1:20 AM

"I hope I get some people to see there's more out there than just settling for tube sites," she said. "There are quality porn sites, and they're worth paying for."

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How To Start Making Money As A Phone Sex Operator

How To Start Making Money As A Phone Sex Operator | Sex Work | Scoop.it
I'm already seeing an increase in traffic here at Phone Sex Secrets in response to the brief discussion on ABC's The View which mentioned the segments appearing Monday morning on other ABC news sho...
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Sex As A Human Need, A Right

Sex As A Human Need, A Right | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Since I’ve already posted the whole long thread of reblogs with comments, I’m only going to address the recent comment by @thefairylolita, who said:

Sex is not a human need. You do not need sex to live. You do however need food, water, shelter, and clothing to keep warm.

According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs sex is a need.

Sex is like many other needs, or, perhaps more correctly addressed as “rights” in societal terms, that we have. Individual humans may not seemingly directly, eventually, perish without having sex, but, like education, autonomy, etc. it must be recognized as a human need and protected as a right. As with all rights, one individual’s rights may not step on another’s. Examples are other inalienable rights, such as speech and religion. Additionally, I am no more obliged to provide sex to any individual than I am to give one my food or home.

But, as I stated before, I am all for governments, health insurance
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Dean Martin's Kiss Me, Stupid

Dean Martin's Kiss Me, Stupid | Sex Work | Scoop.it

This movie isn’t always as appreciated as it ought to be. People too often hear the name “Billy Wilder” and expect a ‘screwball comedy’ but completely miss the deeper, darker tones… Kiss Me, Stupid is one of those films. 


People may chuckle & hoot at the idea of Dean playing “Dino,” a caricature of the drinking, skirt-chasing Dean Martin persona, and the comedy of errors involving mistaken identities, but what they fail to see is black comedy teeth that takes a bite out of the music industry, marriage, and even sex...

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Sheriff to staff: Stop arresting children on prostitution charges, stop saying 'child prostitute'

Sheriff to staff: Stop arresting children on prostitution charges, stop saying 'child prostitute' | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Los Angeles County Sheriff Jim McDonnell announced Wednesday that his department will immediately stop arresting children on prostitution charges.


"They are child victims and survivors of rape," McDonnell wrote in a letter to his employees. "We must remember that children cannot consent to sex under any circumstance."


Changing the way such children are viewed, from suspect to victim, falls in tandem with a national trend in recent years and marks a "major shift from where all of us in policing had been throughout history," McDonnell said during a news conference Wednesday.


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Also should just stop using the word "prostitute" altogether. 

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Why It's Okay To Pay For Sex

Why It's Okay To Pay For Sex | Sex Work | Scoop.it
This essay isn’t about how nice my sex work clients usually are, how sex work can be therapeutic, or how we sex workers often work with disabled clients. It isn’t about the etiquette or morality of paying for sex, and it doesn’t offer advice to prospective clients or their loved ones.

These things are sometimes important and vital to this discussion, but the biggest reason that paying for sex is okay has nothing to do with convincing anyone that it’s a virtuous, liberatory, or feminist act.

Paying for sex is okay because if you’re for shaming and arresting our clients—owing to the fact that you think sex work is, for lack of a better word, gross—you’re for putting sex worker lives at risk in the name of a misguided moralism.
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How To Safely & Anonymously Use Cash.Me

How To Safely & Anonymously Use Cash.Me | Sex Work | Scoop.it
You’ll note that I accept Cash.Me for sending tips, thank you gifts, and the like at Cash.me/$2Rose. This has prompted a few questions on just how Cash.Me works.

First of all, you should know that Cash.Me aka Square Cash is a part of Square aka Square Up, so it is a safe and reliable company & highly favored for both the ease of use and the fact that there are no fees for sending money for personal use. However, such personal accounts are limited to $250 per transaction and $2,500 per week. Also, you must be located within the U.S. and use a debit card for this free service.

However, to keep things anonymous, there are a few things you should note
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The difference between decriminalisation and legalisation of sex work

The difference between decriminalisation and legalisation of sex work | Sex Work | Scoop.it
There is a crucial distinction between these two terms that is frequently blurred in the debate around the different models.
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The Whores of Yore (@WhoresofYore) on Twitter

The Whores of Yore (@WhoresofYore) on Twitter | Sex Work | Scoop.it

The loose morals and tight wit of history's whores.

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My fav new Twitter to follow, for sex worker & sex history.

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Gracie Passette's curator insight, November 1, 2015 6:07 PM

My fav new Twitter to follow, for sex worker & sex history.

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Feminism in London conference: sex work, glass ceilings and ‘vulvanomics’

Feminism in London conference: sex work, glass ceilings and ‘vulvanomics’ | Sex Work | Scoop.it

The weekend event attracted more than 1,000 women – and some men – for inspiring discussions on the future of gender equality. Is this what a feminist conference looks like?


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New Village Voice Owner Plans to Ditch Escort Ads

New Village Voice Owner Plans to Ditch Escort Ads | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Barbey plans to get rid of escort ads, a racy fixture of many an alt-weekly.

“Adult women can be escorts, that’s fine with me,” Mr. Barbey said, “but it’s not the kind of advertising that fits where we want go.”
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Denver jury awards $3.9M to former stripper who sued wealthy rancher

Denver jury awards $3.9M to former stripper who sued wealthy rancher | Sex Work | Scoop.it
The judge presiding over the civil trial called the attack "indescribably brutal," but in 2013 Denver District Attorney Mitch Morrissey chose to drop the original criminal charge to misdemeanor unlawful contact instead of felony sexual assault.

The victim, Amanda Wilson, and her attorney, Qusair Mohamedbhai, told The Denver Post the verdict announced late last week was a victory for other sexual assault victims. And they criticized the district attorney's office for failing to prosecute her attacker on more serious charges for the February 2013 attack.

"I hope this verdict is empowering to any woman or person who has felt helpless and terrified at the hands of another," Wilson, 30, wrote in an e-mail to The Post. "Rape destroys lives and it does matter, even when the criminal justice system brushes you off and prefers you to be quiet. You do matter."

The case is unusual for many reasons, including its large verdict and because a jury took the word of a former exotic dancer over that of a respected businessman who had lavished her with gifts, money and a job, court observers said.
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Help Wanted: The Voices of Sex Workers & Clients

Help Wanted: The Voices of Sex Workers & Clients | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Today I need the voices of of sex workers and clients.  You can remain anonymous, you can answer as many (or as few) questions as you wish. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DISCLOSE PERSONAL INFORMATION. You can just tell me your random thoughts.  I am just trying to get an understanding of the role of photography in sex work. There are no right or wrong answers.
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How To Get ~ And Keep ~ Those Blind Date & First Date Conversations Going

How To Get ~ And Keep ~ Those Blind Date & First Date Conversations Going | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Our Sex Worker Q & A Dating Series continues, this time with advice on talking your way through that blind date or first date more comfortably. You'll likely notice that the tips our team of da...
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