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Measure B: Porn Industry Vows To Defeat New Condoms In Porn Law
LOS ANGELES — The show must go on, is the entertainer's credo, and it did just that in the nation's Porn Capital even after Los Angeles County voted to require performers to use condoms when filming sex scenes.
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The Pornocalypse Comes For Us All: Recently I’ve been seeing lots of tweets and headlines suggesting that Amazon is going through another round of cracking down on porn ebooks, generally burying them deeper and making them harder to f... Via Craftypants Carol, Deanna Dahlsad
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Leave it to the British tabloid The Sun, which in the past has brought us such considered coverage as "FREDDIE STARR ATE MY HAMSTER", to approach the topics of sex work and relationship advice with all the subtlety of a neon-painted brick: last month they ran a piece with the screaming headline, "I had sex with 1,000 men as £700-a-time hooker ... now I'm an infidelity counsellor."
Take a moment to get the sighs out of your system and it turns out the piece contains fairly straightforward - and even considerate - advice from former sex worker Rebecca Dakin, such as, "I just want to help people stay in relationships. My knowledge comes from experience. When I was an escort about 60 per cent of my clients were married, and that gives me a pretty unique insight into how men work and what they want."
That didn't stop website Salon from weeping and wailing about the piece, with Tracy Clark Florey unloading on the topic, playing into the tired notion of "bad sex workers versus good sex workers" by saying, of another piece by Kitty Stryker, "Her advice boils down to this: talk with your partner.
Rather than giving out grudging blow jobs like doggie treats, communicate openly, honestly and without judgment about your mutual needs and desires. What a concept."
But boiling the particular sort of relationship advice espoused by Dakin down to "have more sex with your husband", it is certainly not exclusive to "racy" editorial; Bettina Arndt has been doling out similar rhetoric for years. So why characterise it as specific to sex work?
What sets The Sun editorial and the Salon piece apart is that The Sun actually allowed a sex worker to speak for herself, and in an era where much of the dialogue about sex work is dominated by non-sex workers, that's becoming increasingly rare. Via PunterPress Delete the scoop?
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Stuart Jeffries: Julian Barnes claims that British novelists feel obligated to write love scenes and so make a hash of it, replacing euphemisms with cliches. So what is so tricky about literary sex?
...Why is sex so hard to write well? Perhaps, the most lovely passages of sex in fiction are those that concern the moments before or immediately after rather than in what highbrow critics call mid-rumpypumpydom. Delete the scoop?
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Paddles is not another trendy table tennis emporium, but a “safe space” to live out erotic fantasies, specifically BDSM (bondage/discipline, domination/submission, sadism/masochism), OTK (over the knee; in other words, spanking), and an alphabet soup’s worth of other sexual practices that, until recently, have gone largely unnoticed and undiscussed by the mainstream world.
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As more articles like this hit the mainstream, expect more customers for kink. 
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March 1, 3:46 AM
Talking openly about these things will only help people realise that their own sex antics are just as acceptable. Delete the scoop?
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By Ronald Weitzer is a professor of sociology at George Washington University in Washington, DC, and an expert on the sex industry. He is the author of Legalizing Prostitution: From Illicit Vice to Lawful Business and editor of Sex for Sale: Prostitution, Pornography, and the Sex Industry.
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In his book, Weitzer advocates that the first step is that “consensual adult prostitution be officially recognized as work and that participants be accorded the rights and protections available to those involved in other occupations.” Delete the scoop?
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PSOs and phone sex callers wanted for beta testing special projects. Delete the scoop?
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Midwestern Professionals add some kink to their marriage while building vast media empire. Via Laura Brown Delete the scoop?
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The UK's first conference for sex writers reflects a surge in confessional blogs and the rise of 'clit lit'. Via Laura Brown Delete the scoop?
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A charity breast squeeze took place last weekend in Shinjuku, Tokyo as part of the “Erotica will Save the World” event.
[More than a tad sexist, but, hey, if it raised funds along with boners... And how odd the back of his head is blurred but her boobs are so visible.] Delete the scoop?
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I've been writing erotic and adult content, both fiction and non-fiction, for a few years. It's not for everyone but it can be a way to make money as a writer online. Delete the scoop?
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THEY are big business, with one in three men reportedly using them and now one worker has revealed all in book...
Top fantasies
1. Three-in-a-bed
2. Sucking on breast milk
3. Being dressed up as a woman
4. Worshipping my big backside
5. Wife catching him in bed with another woman - and joining in
6. Being told in detail how to pleasure himself
7. Naughty schoolgirl
8. Sex with the mother in-law
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After I was invited by a student group at Corning Community College to give a talk on sex and culture, my presentation was canceled when the school's president found out that I do porn. This is exactly why we need to have more candid conversations about sex, porn and American culture.
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A Canberra man with cerebral palsy wants the services of sex workers to be considered a legitimate need for people with disabilities in the NDIS bill.
...He calls for the bill to address the emotional needs of disabled people, which includes their sex life.
It's really just common sense when you consider the facts.
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In San Francisco and other cities across the US, possession of condoms, condom wrappers and conversations about safe sex are used as evidence against sex workers to justify arrest for prostitution and prostitution related charges.
The routine use of condoms as a tool to violate our basic human right to protect ourselves from HIV and sexually transmitted infections, as well as prevent unwanted pregnancies, is unjust and counter to sound public health. The Human Rights Watch released a report chronicling this absurd practice in four cities: New York, Washington DC, San Francisco and Los Angeles.
While primarily about the issue of sex work, the assumptions about condoms as moral negatives instead of health imperatives is dangerous to us all.
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When I first got the idea to write this I thought that I could use the Guardian Bad Sex Writing Awards as an example of what not to write in a sex scene. However, having just ploughed my way throug...
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Or, "What is a professional phone sex femdom" A 101 for anyone who is curious and realistic.
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"I've done many different kinds of sex work. I've been a cam girl, a porn performer, a professional sub, and a performer at a peep show (similar to a stripper). I've also been working in retail and food service simultaneously.
I get so frustrated at how I'm treated at work. It really gets to me. I find myself involuntarily crying once I get into my car to drive home. I hate how dehumanizing it is. People don't acknowledge me as a person. They think I'm less than them because of my job. Maybe they don't actively think that, but that's how they treat me. Oh, by the way, I'm talking about the food service job."
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I’ve never understood the inherent problem with sex work. As the wonderful Martha Nussbaum has famously argued, all kinds of careers – from plumbers to pop-stars – use their bodies to fulfil some demand made by another. Whether this is dancing in small clothes or fixing a leak, we use our bodies to bring comfort, fulfilment, etc. to others, in exchange for money.
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HBO’s sex doc, Private Dicks – Men Exposed, employs some smart filmmaking strategies...
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Are sex workers cheating? Are clients? And what about phone sex?
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Vibrators and other sex toys are—no pun intended—big business, and nobody in the United States makes more of them than the father-son team who runs the Valley’s own Doc Johnson.
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