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News Regarding Wishlists, Gifts, & Tips

News Regarding Wishlists, Gifts, & Tips | Sex Work | Scoop.it
With all the talk about gifts & tips (or tributes), platform percentages & issues, payment options & costs, I wanted to highlight some new options… GiftRocket GiftRocket, an onlin…
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My Husband Is Bisexual! Now What?

My Husband Is Bisexual! Now What? | Sex Work | Scoop.it
A long time ago, in a land far far away there lived a Prince. He was charming, handsome, smart and rich – a real catch. Then, one day – he went to a ball in search of his soul mate. That’s when he instantly fell in love with a Princess, the most beautiful of all. Their eyes met and it was love that would last forever and ever… at least, that’s what we are told. Truth is, this glorified Prince had probably had another prince on the side already, the Princess had probably had an elf or another princess to fool around with too, but Disney never told us about that, did he now? Sure, it’s always easier to live an illusion than face reality. Until it slaps you in the face.
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Sex Workers Share Stories Of Clients Using The "L" Word

Sex Workers Share Stories Of Clients Using The "L" Word | Sex Work | Scoop.it
"No one ever asked me if I felt oppressed, under-appreciated, or taken advantage of when I was a barista.

Yet when I speak on sex worker panels, I can almost guarantee that someone will make it their personal mission to do just that."
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Have You Ever Paid For Sex? Please Take This #SexWork Survey

Have You Ever Paid For Sex? Please Take This #SexWork Survey | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Please read the letter below and fill out the survey. We want our clients and working ladies to help dispel negative myths about this industry.

If you have ever paid for sex please take this survey! We are interested in your experiences! There is a shortage of systematic data collected on clientele of brothels, and this survey hopes to change that.

A research study currently being conducted by the (sex work-friendly) sociology department at the University of Nevada – Las Vegas (UNLV), seeks to collect data and broaden the scholarship and research on the attitudes of adult clients of prostitutes. Customers of legal Nevada brothels, are invited to take the brief, 100% anonymous survey This UNLV survey will take approximately 15 minutes to complete and will help researchers to gain a fuller understanding of the clients of sex workers.
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This is the posting at the Bunny Ranch; direct survey link is here.

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Don't Give Into Stupid Demands

Don't Give Into Stupid Demands | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Making such moves puts you at risk of being booted from the platform site(s) you use. I’m not joking. Even mentioning at NiteFlirt, for example, other platform sites you use can get you banned for going against Terms Of Service (TOS). So even if your client, however softly, threatens that you’ll lose them if you don’t accommodate their request, you have to ask yourself if being blacklisted at the platform you work at is worth the discussion.


Aside from this practicality, there are other issues.


Even if the offer comes to you via another source, say direct email, contact off your website, Twitter, etc., there’s just no reason to take payments for services outside the phone sex platform site. (This includes clips sites, cam sites, etc.)


One of the number one “requested payment option” sites 

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The Complex Realities of Sex Work

The Complex Realities of Sex Work | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Olivia Grace is a sex worker based in Toronto who took issue ~ make that issues ~ with a recent Vice interview with a sex worker hobbiest. She felt her original response to the piece wasn’t enough, so she sent this piece in too…

The other day, Vice released a very lazy reporting job that wasn’t edited and talked to precisely the wrong person. I am talking, of course, about the article “We Interviewed a Sex Industry Hobbyist – the Worst Kind of John.” This article is written in opposition to that.
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The age of ‘pre-crime’ has arrived

The age of ‘pre-crime’ has arrived | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Cities use license plate readers to send embarassing letters to anyone caught driving through areas known for prostitution.
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TheBodyHouse.biz's curator insight, December 3, 2015 11:06 PM

Seriously? This kind of crap is implemented by men against men.

Why? Guilt. A lot of men feel guilty for wanting illicit interactions with sex workers. 

 

So, they project their shame on the guys who are doing what they secretly yearn to do. They also know it cuts into the bottom line for the ladies offering their services. Double whammy. 


It's OK boys.. sex workers will still be around whenever you're ready to take the plunge...

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What’s Real, Who’s Fake, What’s Private? Truths About Virtual Sex Affairs

What’s Real, Who’s Fake, What’s Private? Truths About Virtual Sex Affairs | Sex Work | Scoop.it
A friend, Darla, suggested we talk a bit about the whole Ashley Madison fiasco. Her most specific question was this tweet: @TrailerTrashGrl Why don’t men stick to real women PSOs like @PecknC…
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Communication and Discretion in the Demimonde

Communication and Discretion in the Demimonde | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Discretion is sometimes an overused word in this little world of ours, but it remains paramount to being able to stay and play as we do. Do you know much about security in communications online? By phone?
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I would note:


* Google requires a subpoena, search warrant, or court order to release info, so it's not like it's super easy for a client, fan, troll, etc. to get your data. So if you are doing legal sex work, such as phone sex, &/or not operating in "niche" areas, such as BDSM, some of these precautions may be less necessary than others.


* If you are truly concerned about privacy, for your business or otherwise, consider a paid service such as Unspyable.


* See also this article with privacy & safety tips.


* As always, see/read comments at post for more info.

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Why It's Okay To Pay For Sex

Why It's Okay To Pay For Sex | Sex Work | Scoop.it
This essay isn’t about how nice my sex work clients usually are, how sex work can be therapeutic, or how we sex workers often work with disabled clients. It isn’t about the etiquette or morality of paying for sex, and it doesn’t offer advice to prospective clients or their loved ones.

These things are sometimes important and vital to this discussion, but the biggest reason that paying for sex is okay has nothing to do with convincing anyone that it’s a virtuous, liberatory, or feminist act.

Paying for sex is okay because if you’re for shaming and arresting our clients—owing to the fact that you think sex work is, for lack of a better word, gross—you’re for putting sex worker lives at risk in the name of a misguided moralism.
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Help Wanted: The Voices of Sex Workers & Clients

Help Wanted: The Voices of Sex Workers & Clients | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Today I need the voices of of sex workers and clients.  You can remain anonymous, you can answer as many (or as few) questions as you wish. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DISCLOSE PERSONAL INFORMATION. You can just tell me your random thoughts.  I am just trying to get an understanding of the role of photography in sex work. There are no right or wrong answers.
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Vancouver client of sex workers speaks out against federal law despite risk of being prosecuted

Vancouver client of sex workers speaks out against federal law despite risk of being prosecuted | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Patrick Clark doesn’t fit the profile of a typical sex-trade activist. Not only is he male, he was born with cerebral palsy and uses a wheelchair.


His impaired muscle coordination and unusual movements clearly indicate that he’s living with a serious disability—a product of brain damage that occurred when or just after he was born.


Yet Clark’s mobility issues didn’t stop him from joining the third annual Red Umbrella March on June 13 in downtown Vancouver. Red umbrellas have become the international symbol of sex workers’ solidarity since being adopted as an icon by Venice prostitutes in 2001.


In the eyes of the federal Conservative government, Clark is a criminal because he occasionally pays to have sex.

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WHY IS THIS DISABLED MAN A CRIMINAL FOR BUYING SEX WHILE ANOTHER MAN IS NOT A CRIMINAL BECAUSE OF HIS DISABILITY WHEN HE RAPED A PERSON HE WAS SLEEP WHEN HE DID BOTH IS WRONG BUT WHY CONDONE THE WORST AND CRIMINAL THE OTHER A CRIMEISA CRIME!

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A "Cheap" Client or Lover

A "Cheap" Client or Lover | Sex Work | Scoop.it
A lesson learned. I just ask myself: how did I resort to him when I had a man who sacrificed his life for the sake of my love? So, as the Kama Sutra advises, “if he is poor and destitute, she should get rid of him as if she had never been acquainted with him in any way before.” In other words, ‘cheap’ men need to be discarded, as they are not worth our time.
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"Ladies. Sugar Babies do not have a pussy monopoly. We cannot band together and demand a minimum allowance."

"Ladies. Sugar Babies do not have a pussy monopoly. We cannot band together and demand a minimum allowance." | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Ladies. Sugar Babies do not have a pussy monopoly. We cannot band together and demand a minimum allowance. We can’t meet in a council and decide the price of companionship or twat across the board out here. A girl accepting 400 a meet does not stop you from a 6k/month allowance. You stop yourself from that shit by worrying about what Sally is accepting. Sally has kids to feed, meds to buy, she’s more concerned about the safety, security and respect provided by her Splenda daddy than if he can afford to up her allowance, she’s just happy to have some help. Don’t knock...

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Rather Call A Mistress Than A Shrink Or Priest

Rather Call A Mistress Than A Shrink Or Priest | Sex Work | Scoop.it
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“phone-sex-secrets there is a lot of truth to that. Sometimes there are things I want / need to talk about and someone I don’t actually know in my “vanilla” life is the best person to...
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What You Really Wanted To Know About Escorting

What You Really Wanted To Know About Escorting | Sex Work | Scoop.it
People are always asking about escorting... "Who would do that?" and "Why?" are the most commonly asked questions. Typically, those questions are equally applied to both the escorts themselves and ...
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Here's Why Escorts Are Appealing, Yet Also Taboo

Here's Why Escorts Are Appealing, Yet Also Taboo | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Men paying women- Why men love paying for fun
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Martyr for Phone Sex

Martyr for Phone Sex | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Oh the Slings & Arrows …… of a mother effin Bitch Boy.

If you’re the sort who appreciates a bit of alliteration, we could call this particular rant post “The Incredible Case of the Curiously Obtuse Cretin.” If we’re talking in soundbites, then our title might well be “When Good Phone Sex Goes Wrong.” Either way, in the instance of FemDom Phone Sex, if something goes wrong, the caller is by default fully & inexcusably culpable. Even though I did know better.
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Phone Sex & Sex Work: What's Loyalty Got To Do With It?

Phone Sex & Sex Work: What's Loyalty Got To Do With It? | Sex Work | Scoop.it
At Divorce Darling, our very own Darla ponders the question, “What loyalty does a paid sex worker owe to a client?”

Her conclusion that sex workers are not loyal is a wise one.

A sex worker owes no more loyalty to his or her clients than any other business owes their clients. Sex workers have to compete for business and court clients via marketing, offering good customer service, and, of course, providing the sexual services as good or better than advertised. But being “loyal” would make for a business with one client. Would WalMart, McDonald’s, or The Hilton survive with just one client? Nope. Such loyalty is not a business model; it’s a personal or romantic relationship ~ “a relationship.”

Phone sex and other virtual sex services are, as we discussed, masturbatory. Real world flesh sex services may not seem so purely masturbatory ~ but they are not relationship sex either. And that’s why any sex worker who
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About Those Cheap Callers & Clients...

About Those Cheap Callers & Clients... | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Aside from the services of a sex worker truly being a luxury purchase, it’s important for callers to realize that sex workers are like other service providers (like doctors, accountants, construction contractors, marketing consultants, etc.), and so they can’t ask for discounts. As services are
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Women Who Pay For Sex ~ Mara Speaks

Women Who Pay For Sex ~ Mara Speaks | Sex Work | Scoop.it

Dear Maggie,

I’m a middle aged lesbian-leaning bisexual academic who identifies as a feminist.  Your blog came to my attention a few years ago via Twitter, and your daily digest of police state violence against sex workers is an essential part of my political reading.  While you have a wide array of discussions on your blog and in the comment threads, I have noticed one voice missing:  That of The Jane.  Or at least, This Jane.

I am a woman who has paid for sex and I liked it.  If I were a rich woman, I would unabashedly procure sexual services from providers of various genders.  If I were powerful enough, I would be honest and unashamed by such too.

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A voice not often heard from!

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We should see prostitution as part of the leisure industry

We should see prostitution as part of the leisure industry | Sex Work | Scoop.it
We like a good, old fashioned moral panic in this country but for a nation so emotionally crippled about sex, our views about prostitution are, ironically, remarkably perverse.
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How Will You Use It? New Website Let’s You Rate and Review Police Officers

How Will You Use It? New Website Let’s You Rate and Review Police Officers | Sex Work | Scoop.it


Americans find themselves in a state of flux in 2015. Many people are dealing with the hard reality that those who are sworn to protect and serve, often do the exact opposite.


The topic of police behavior is at the forefront of discussions, worldwide. Market reactions to this interest in responsible application of authority as well as interest in the abuse of authority, are popping up online.


Trying to rely on the system, to report on itself, has proven to be a futile task. In instances of police killings alone, the official method for tallying these deaths was shown to be incredibly skewed and inaccurate. 


The unaccountable nature of the state, coupled with today’s network of technologically savvy activists has paved the way for third party accountability sites that are proving to be quite helpful in the struggle for justice.


Up next in the world of answerable innovation is the site CopScore, aptly named for its interface which allows users to submit, “officer performance reviews.”


Anyone can register in a matter of seconds upon going to the site. However, in order to submit a review on an officer, you must know his or her name, department, and title. The form also requires that the registrant specify whether or not the officer arrested them.


If you actually want to post a performance review on CopScore, you will need to sign in and provide the officer’s badge number as well.


The site’s creator, Arion Hardison, explains that he, “put the badge number there because I did not want people posting fake reviews.”

“I wanted only people that had an actual interaction with the Cop to be able to vote,” said Hardison.


Read more at http://thefreethoughtproject.com/it-website-rate-review-police-officers/#1quceSAc3VhCq6De.99


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Just Who Is A "Sex Worker" & Who Carries The Shame? Irv O. Neil & I Discuss

Just Who Is A "Sex Worker" & Who Carries The Shame? Irv O. Neil & I Discuss | Sex Work | Scoop.it
Erotica author Irv O. Neil and I continue our talk, this time traveling into the semantics and shame of sex work. Do you consider yourself, or erotica writers in general, to be sex workers? Why or ...
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Why are so many young men paying for sex?

Why are so many young men paying for sex? | Sex Work | Scoop.it
With the stereotype that only lonely old men pay for sex no longer holding true, Gareth May talks to people involved in sex work to find out why young men are turning to escorts
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