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Catching Women. A Guide For Trappers and Hunters.

All this is about sex as warfare or as a hunt.  The beautiful women are the prey, the object is to get them in bed, and the advice the PUAs give is all about that.  The scoring is based on how many one-night stands a man can get, preferably with women who weren't that much into him in the first place.  And the basic trick is male dominance.  You pretend to be a dominant alpha male, and then you get all the pu**y that rightly belongs to you.

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Queensland drags heels on anal sex law changes

Queensland drags heels on anal sex law changes | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

The Palaszczuk Government has taken more than six months to bring a discriminatory Queensland law that has stood on the law books since 1899 to the consultation phase, with any action likely to still be months away.


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Whore Next Door: America Comes Around

Whore Next Door: America Comes Around | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Although I attended labor rights demonstrations with my parents as a youngster, I truly began my own career in activism as a founding member of...

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Updates on Rent Boy raid aftermath and America's first decriminalization bill

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Updates on Rent Boy raid aftermath and America's first decriminalization bill

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Updates on Rent Boy raid aftermath and America's first decriminalization bill

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The Truth About This Photo

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logic-and-art: “ jhameia: “ sourcedumal: “ feminismfuckyeah: “ That’s why you need to stop asking why girls complain about period pains ” Our shit grows? Wow ” is this true? jesus fuck ” No, I’m...
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Read for the real story about this photo that continues to circulate on the Internet - facts matter!

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Read for the real story about this photo that continues to circulate on the Internet - facts matter!

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Breasts Are Complicated

Breasts Are Complicated | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
So, I was reading this post at an escorts website, and found myself laughing at these lines in the post: For women, breasts are just another part of their body but for men they are one of the most …
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Just Let This Sink In For A Moment

Just Let This Sink In For A Moment | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
“There are teenagers having unprotected sex, but have cases on their cell phones. Just let that sink in for a moment.” Mind-blowingly true. Share; get sticker here.
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Why Some Breakups Are More Painful Than Others

Why Some Breakups Are More Painful Than Others | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Research has found that people in intense romantic relationships often cease to describe themselves with unique identifiers, ascribing most of what is interesting about themselves and their lives to the shared territory of the union with their partner. One such study found that by identifying too closely with our partners, we can actually confuse our traits with their traits, and even our memories with their memories
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Creepy & Complex Sexual Discussions Regarding David Bowie

Creepy & Complex Sexual Discussions Regarding David Bowie | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
It wasn’t until David Bowie passed that I heard about how he had slept with an underage girl.

At the age of 15, Lori Mattix was a self-described groupie in the 70s ~ a groupie who lost her virginity to David Bowie. Last November, in an interview at the Thrillist, the adult Mattix seemed fine about it. Even when Thrillist reporter Michael Kaplan pressed her about it, she seemed dreamily happy, gushing, “Who wouldn’t want to lose their virginity to David Bowie?”

Mattix’s stories of her groupie years, deflowering, and age have varied over the years ~ which is not stated here to cast doubt on her claims, but to point out that she clearly hasn’t viewed her sexual activities with Bowie (or others) to be rape or anything remotely close to it. But, as told in the Thrillist piece, Mattix was a minor and Bowie was not. So even with Mattix agreeing and desiring to have sex with Bowie, her age removes her legal ability to consent. This would make Bowie guilty, ethically if not legally, of statutory rape.

Yes, I know; we all took David Bowie’s death pretty hard. But I’m not posting this about Bowie per se…. I mean, sure, there are definitely implications and conversations we should be having regarding celebrities and abuse. And we do have some consumer power we can wield. But the real issues I am looking at in this conversation are the rights of young people to have any sexual autonomy, who decides who is victimized, and how autonomy and victimization impact one another.

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The Dangerous Catch-22 of Coming out As a Sex Worker

The Dangerous Catch-22 of Coming out As a Sex Worker | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

People malign sex workers without realizing they're talking to one...


Some sex worker rights activists say that white women like Evie should come out as an act of solidarity. If everyone who’s had sex for money were open about it, would the public accept that sex work defies stereotypes and is more prevalent than most imagine? The answer is a Catch-22. Stigma and severe criminal penalties keep people from openly fighting laws and cultural attitudes.


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The treachery trinity of Tragedy-disbelief and murder of the soul, by Local child sexual molestation by the Local Catholic church, has not been dealt with by our justice system.  AS a Former Candidate for Governor of Indiana 2012, and Rape survivor by 2 cock sucking Priest in Indianapolis in 1961 or so at the local southside church with 2 steps. I am not even catholic.  After repeated misdirection by those willing to commit the Cardinal Sin of Covering up childhood sexual assault by clergy is running deep in this local church. I refuse to be denied my opportunity to reach restitution. Your Sin against Children will never be forgiven by any form of clergy until you made amends to our city and to ourselves. You see 2 of us were raped that morning. God Has a Personal Hold on your personal immortality in his afterlife. Make amends Now while you can. I want my story known one way or another. It Is "I".  a serial Childhood rape survivor. I want 2 things. A life-size monument to 2 noble people placed at the new restroom facility in front of the city-county building. In honor of our lost childhood and trip through Hell on Earth. Eli Lilly , Madam C. J. Walker. It Is "I". 

TheBodyHouse.biz's curator insight, January 24, 10:06 AM

Want some insight into the whos and whys of sex workers... then this article is a MUST read.

The fact is... it's almost a certainty that you know a sex worker. The nice college student, the pretty barista, the cute waitress, even your middle aged neighbor... these women (and many more) are very often offering a sexual service for money on the sly. 

Having said that... they deserve as much respect as anyone else. We need to stop our judgement toward these women. They're only fulfilling a demand that has existed since the beginning of time. 

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Dirty Talk: When Is It Masturbation, When Is It An Affair?

Dirty Talk: When Is It Masturbation, When Is It An Affair? | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Over at Pulse.com.gh, “Ghana’s online news platform,” there’s some good old fashioned relationship fear-mongering: Warning!!! These 9 people likely to have an affair with yo…

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Gracie Passette's curator insight, January 7, 3:57 AM

Dear World, are you honestly trying to tell me that people who love one another, people wish to remain together, can never ever masturbate on their own again?!

TheBodyHouse.biz's curator insight, January 23, 9:33 AM

This article makes a very good point. It addresses some of the reasons why sex workers play such an important role in society. Indeed... as they always have...

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Why (Some) Women Love Strap-Ons

Why (Some) Women Love Strap-Ons | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

Life is more free now. But we’re also being forced to ask ourselves some serious questions. Like, ‘Does shaving my armpits make me a bad feminist?’ And, more pressingly, ‘Is my strap-on a symbol of male supremacy?’ And if so, should I set it on fire as a performance art piece?”

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In 2015, Mainstream Culture Suddenly Developed an Interest in LGBTQ Seniors

In 2015, Mainstream Culture Suddenly Developed an Interest in LGBTQ Seniors | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

Grandma isn’t the only recent film or TV show about LGBTQ characters no longer in the first bloom of youth. Amazon’s Transparent focuses on the ways family members respond to a parent coming out as trans in her 70s. In Netflix’s Grace and Frankie, two septuagenarian law partners come out as life partners, spurring adjustments in the lives of their children and wives of many decades. Vicious, which airs on PBS in the United States, is a gloriously camp celebration of two gay men in their 70s who have been lovers for 50 years. And a trans 66-year-old was at the center of the year’s most talked-about reality show: the E! Network’s I Am Cait. The trend even spread to the book world, where one of the fall’s most lauded nonfiction releases was The Gay Revolution: The Story of the Struggle, by 75-year-old Lillian Faderman. In the arts at least, 2015 was the year of the queer senior.

Why is the culture suddenly so interested in our elders?


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2015: The Year in Bad Sex | Em & Lo

2015: The Year in Bad Sex | Em & Lo | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

Beautiful, honest, legal, egalitarian sex took a lot of hits this year. Below you’ll find 13 of the worst offenders. Jared Goes to Jail Subway’s main frontman likes his sandwiches one foot tall and his dates not much taller.


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Will Uterine Transplants Make Male Pregnancy Possible?

Will Uterine Transplants Make Male Pregnancy Possible? | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Denise Grady reported that American doctors expect to implant a uterus into women, and considers the implications for men who wish to carry children.

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The Hypersexualization of Women With Bipolar Disorder: Breaking Silences Day 3

The Hypersexualization of Women With Bipolar Disorder: Breaking Silences Day 3 | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Most of the academic and popular literature on sexuality and disability focuses on how disabled people are desexualized, or seen as nonsexual. Meghann and Hailee mentioned several writers and theories; one term that was new to me (though the idea is familiar) was Harlan Hahn’s concept of “asexual objectification.” This is the idea that disabled women, disabled people of any gender really, are seen as things that don’t have a sexuality – in the most extreme cases, as things that don’t have a humanity. IN a session I went to earlier in the week, asexuality was presented as a sexual orientation, a way someone relates to their own sexuality, so I use the terms desexualization or nonsexual instead. I’m hoping Meghann and Hailee will mention this in their literature review. Maybe Hahn’s term can be updated to “nonsexual objectification.” That still contrasts attitudes towards disabled people with the ways North Ameerican cultures tend to sexually objectify people.

(here’s more information on the theory of asexual objectification.

These theories usually describe the experiences of people with visible physical disabilities.

Women diagnosed with mental illness, especially bipolar disorder, are instead seen as hypersexual. “Hypersexuality” is one of the bipolar disorder symptoms listed in the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual), the diagnostic tool most often used by psychiatrists and other mental health practitioners in the United States. There’s no definition of “normal” sexuality to go along with that. For that matter, there’s not really a definition of hypersexuality beyond evaluating behaviours like how many partners a patient or client has had, or how frequently they’re engaging in sexual behaviours.

So, each mental health practitioner makes their own judgments about what is normal, and how or whether their patient or clients deviate f
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Charlie Sheen Isn't the Only One You're Hurting When You Slut-Shame Him for Having HIV

Charlie Sheen Isn't the Only One You're Hurting When You Slut-Shame Him for Having HIV | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
"I'm not a fan of Charlie Sheen — he's an abusive, violent misogynist — but making jokes about how he'll need more than 'tiger blood' to survive, as some outlets have already cracked, is dehumanizing and disgusting," Dawson added. "We as a society consider people living with STIs to be amoral, dirty and dishonest. Tabloids will have a field day reinforcing that stereotype through Sheen. And the women he has been involved with will absolutely have their privacy invaded and their choices held up to scrutiny."

The stigma against sex workers: Indeed, it's Sheen's former sex worker girlfriends who are currently being smeared on social media — despite the fact that Sheen himself told Matt Lauer he's not certain how he contracted the virus.
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Sex Fantasy Vs Reality: What’s “Sexually Normal” Anyway?

Sex Fantasy Vs Reality: What’s “Sexually Normal” Anyway? | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
In July, the CDC released another study: Sexual Activity, Contraceptive Use, and Childbearing of Teenagers Aged 15–19 in the United States. Among the findings were the following highlights (as dete…

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Movember Is More About Protecting Masculinity Than Protecting Men

Movember Is More About Protecting Masculinity Than Protecting Men | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Remember, remember, the scourge of Movember? We’re halfway through the advocacy month that calls for men to grow the manliest mustaches they can muster to
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"As November babies and gender critics, we take Movember as a personal affront.


There’s a school of thought that says any act in service of a good cause is a good act. So why do we hate Movember? Are we grumpy contrarians and feminist killjoys who hate things precisely because other people love them? Probably, but there are deeper reasons for our Movember naysaying, too. Below, we investigate in conversation."

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"As November babies and gender critics, we take Movember as a personal affront.


There’s a school of thought that says any act in service of a good cause is a good act. So why do we hate Movember? Are we grumpy contrarians and feminist killjoys who hate things precisely because other people love them? Probably, but there are deeper reasons for our Movember naysaying, too. Below, we investigate in conversation."

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Plus-Size Porn Is on the Rise — But Not for the Reason We Think

Plus-Size Porn Is on the Rise — But Not for the Reason We Think | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Body positivity has been having a moment as of late. Plus-size models are dominating runways and magazines. The tyranny of the "thigh gap" has been usurped by the somewhat more fat-friendly "thighbrow." In a duet with self-proclaimed "thick" chick Nicki Minaj, Drake has even declared, "I like my girls BBW," referring to "Big Beautiful Women," a niche genre of porn featuring women that are, well, big and beautiful.

However, even though we pay a lot of lip service to women like models Nadia Aboulhosn and Tess Holliday, is the body-positivity trend in the style sphere reflective of a larger phenomenon? Is our culture becoming more accepting of bigger women, both in the fashion world and in the privacy of our own bedrooms? In short: Are we increasingly masturbating to plus-size porn? 
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Dealing With Dating Mistakes: Tips From Sex Workers

Dealing With Dating Mistakes: Tips From Sex Workers | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Continuing (somewhat slowly) our discussion with sex workers about first dates and blind dates… In this fifth part in the series, we’re asking the professionals to focus on specific dat…

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Sex and Our Psychological Needs

Sex and Our Psychological Needs | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Men and women get caught up in their own needs and then project those needs onto everyone around them. Women see men as cold and brutish because they expect them to have the same need for connection that they have. Men see women as manipulative and deceitful because they assume women use sex as a tool for self-esteem like they do. In both cases, they’re wrong and mischaracterizing the people lying naked in front of them.

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A Review Of Jack’s Blowjob Lessons

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Jack’s Blowjob Lessons by Jack Hutson, with Tanya J, boasts of being “The Worlds #1 Blowjob Guide.” No one knows what that means, exactly; or if it’s even true. The truth is, what is most known about this book is its sexist nature.


...Smarmy as it is, Jack’s clearly aiming his book at insecure women, using threats to strike fear into their hearts. For Jack tells you, no matter how much you and your man may love one another, your relationship is at risk if you can’t give him good head. Your man will leave you. Or (presumably worse?) he may seek the services of a sex worker (in the book, he calls them “professionals”; on his website, he refers to them as “street hookers”). While I do wish women were more confident in themselves and their relationships than to fall for this sort of “man capturing” or “relationship saving” sort of thing ~ or just let the loser walk ~ there, sadly, is a hungry market for this. “Sex may sell” ~ but fear motivates actual purchases.


This is why I am trying to look past the sexism and other problems, and review the book’s contents to see if there’s anything worthy here… Just because Jack’s never had the pleasure of a feminist’s fantastic bj, it doesn’t mean you & your lover should miss such things...


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Japan’s sexual apathy is endangering the global economy

Japan’s sexual apathy is endangering the global economy | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

A lack of interest in romantic relationships is setting off a demographic time-bomb that threatens all of us.


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What can happen when gender inequality exists

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“homogeneous Japan,” is the name for “no-immigration principle.”
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The Two Faces of Bisexual OKCupid

The Two Faces of Bisexual OKCupid | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

There are no bisexual women on OKCupid. There are thousands of bisexual women on OKCupid. If you find that contradictory, well, welcome to the paradoxical world of bisexual OKCupid


... I rarely see the gender binary discussed by gay people on OKCupid, and certainly never by straight people—even though, of course, the concepts of homosexuality and heterosexuality imply a gender binary as well. Gay people and straight people simply don’t seem to worry that their sexual orientation is inherently offensive to the people they’d like to date.

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Miley Cyrus tells Paper Magazine her gender identity and sexuality is fluid

Miley Cyrus tells Paper Magazine her gender identity and sexuality is fluid | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
"I don't relate to being boy or girl, and I don't have to have my partner relate to boy or girl."

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Spotlight: Lesbian and Gay Pulps

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“Spotlight: Lesbian and Gay Pulps
This weekend (June 5-7), Milwaukee Pride Fest kicked off Milwaukee’s world-famous Summer World Festival season. This gives us an opportunity to showcase...
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An opinionated woman obsessed with objects, entertained by ephemera, intrigued by researching, fascinated by culture & addicted to writing. The wind says my name; doesn't put an @ in front of it, so maybe you don't notice. http://www.kitsch-slapped.com
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Colorful Prism Of Racism
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Consumption Junction
Consumerism meets marketing; who & what manipulates the free market of goods & services. See also: http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/category/ze-big-mouth-promotions-stuff/
Crimes Against Humanity
From lone gunmen on hills to mass movements. Depressing as hell, really.
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The roots of culture; history and pre-history.
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In The Name Of God
Mainly acts done in the name of religion, but also discussions of atheism, faith, & spirituality.
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The meaning behind the math of the bottom line in publishing and the media. For writers, publishers, and bloggers (which are a combination of the two).
Sex Positive
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It's as easy to romanticize the past as it is to demonize it; instead, let's learn from it. More than living simply, more than living 'green', thrifty grandmas knew the importance of the 'economics' in Home Economics. The history of home ec, lessons in thrift, practical tips and ideas from the past focused on sustainability for families and out planet. Companion to http://www.thingsyourgrandmotherknew.com/
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