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Queensland drags heels on anal sex law changes

Queensland drags heels on anal sex law changes | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

The Palaszczuk Government has taken more than six months to bring a discriminatory Queensland law that has stood on the law books since 1899 to the consultation phase, with any action likely to still be months away.


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Breasts Are Complicated

Breasts Are Complicated | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
So, I was reading this post at an escorts website, and found myself laughing at these lines in the post: For women, breasts are just another part of their body but for men they are one of the most …
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Just Let This Sink In For A Moment

Just Let This Sink In For A Moment | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
“There are teenagers having unprotected sex, but have cases on their cell phones. Just let that sink in for a moment.” Mind-blowingly true. Share; get sticker here.
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Creepy & Complex Sexual Discussions Regarding David Bowie

Creepy & Complex Sexual Discussions Regarding David Bowie | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
It wasn’t until David Bowie passed that I heard about how he had slept with an underage girl.

At the age of 15, Lori Mattix was a self-described groupie in the 70s ~ a groupie who lost her virginity to David Bowie. Last November, in an interview at the Thrillist, the adult Mattix seemed fine about it. Even when Thrillist reporter Michael Kaplan pressed her about it, she seemed dreamily happy, gushing, “Who wouldn’t want to lose their virginity to David Bowie?”

Mattix’s stories of her groupie years, deflowering, and age have varied over the years ~ which is not stated here to cast doubt on her claims, but to point out that she clearly hasn’t viewed her sexual activities with Bowie (or others) to be rape or anything remotely close to it. But, as told in the Thrillist piece, Mattix was a minor and Bowie was not. So even with Mattix agreeing and desiring to have sex with Bowie, her age removes her legal ability to consent. This would make Bowie guilty, ethically if not legally, of statutory rape.

Yes, I know; we all took David Bowie’s death pretty hard. But I’m not posting this about Bowie per se…. I mean, sure, there are definitely implications and conversations we should be having regarding celebrities and abuse. And we do have some consumer power we can wield. But the real issues I am looking at in this conversation are the rights of young people to have any sexual autonomy, who decides who is victimized, and how autonomy and victimization impact one another.

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Why (Some) Women Love Strap-Ons

Why (Some) Women Love Strap-Ons | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

Life is more free now. But we’re also being forced to ask ourselves some serious questions. Like, ‘Does shaving my armpits make me a bad feminist?’ And, more pressingly, ‘Is my strap-on a symbol of male supremacy?’ And if so, should I set it on fire as a performance art piece?”

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The Dangerous Catch-22 of Coming out As a Sex Worker

The Dangerous Catch-22 of Coming out As a Sex Worker | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

People malign sex workers without realizing they're talking to one...


Some sex worker rights activists say that white women like Evie should come out as an act of solidarity. If everyone who’s had sex for money were open about it, would the public accept that sex work defies stereotypes and is more prevalent than most imagine? The answer is a Catch-22. Stigma and severe criminal penalties keep people from openly fighting laws and cultural attitudes.


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Gracie Passette's curator insight, January 7, 2016 3:52 AM

Excellent & required reading.

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The treachery trinity of Tragedy-disbelief and murder of the soul, by Local child sexual molestation by the Local Catholic church, has not been dealt with by our justice system.  AS a Former Candidate for Governor of Indiana 2012, and Rape survivor by 2 cock sucking Priest in Indianapolis in 1961 or so at the local southside church with 2 steps. I am not even catholic.  After repeated misdirection by those willing to commit the Cardinal Sin of Covering up childhood sexual assault by clergy is running deep in this local church. I refuse to be denied my opportunity to reach restitution. Your Sin against Children will never be forgiven by any form of clergy until you made amends to our city and to ourselves. You see 2 of us were raped that morning. God Has a Personal Hold on your personal immortality in his afterlife. Make amends Now while you can. I want my story known one way or another. It Is "I".  a serial Childhood rape survivor. I want 2 things. A life-size monument to 2 noble people placed at the new restroom facility in front of the city-county building. In honor of our lost childhood and trip through Hell on Earth. Eli Lilly , Madam C. J. Walker. It Is "I". 

BlueListMe's curator insight, January 24, 2016 10:06 AM

Want some insight into the whos and whys of sex workers... then this article is a MUST read.

The fact is... it's almost a certainty that you know a sex worker. The nice college student, the pretty barista, the cute waitress, even your middle aged neighbor... these women (and many more) are very often offering a sexual service for money on the sly. 

Having said that... they deserve as much respect as anyone else. We need to stop our judgement toward these women. They're only fulfilling a demand that has existed since the beginning of time. 

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2015: The Year in Bad Sex | Em & Lo

2015: The Year in Bad Sex | Em & Lo | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

Beautiful, honest, legal, egalitarian sex took a lot of hits this year. Below you’ll find 13 of the worst offenders. Jared Goes to Jail Subway’s main frontman likes his sandwiches one foot tall and his dates not much taller.


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Movember Is More About Protecting Masculinity Than Protecting Men

Movember Is More About Protecting Masculinity Than Protecting Men | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Remember, remember, the scourge of Movember? We’re halfway through the advocacy month that calls for men to grow the manliest mustaches they can muster to
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"As November babies and gender critics, we take Movember as a personal affront.


There’s a school of thought that says any act in service of a good cause is a good act. So why do we hate Movember? Are we grumpy contrarians and feminist killjoys who hate things precisely because other people love them? Probably, but there are deeper reasons for our Movember naysaying, too. Below, we investigate in conversation."

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Deanna Dahlsad's curator insight, November 17, 2015 6:32 PM

"As November babies and gender critics, we take Movember as a personal affront.


There’s a school of thought that says any act in service of a good cause is a good act. So why do we hate Movember? Are we grumpy contrarians and feminist killjoys who hate things precisely because other people love them? Probably, but there are deeper reasons for our Movember naysaying, too. Below, we investigate in conversation."

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Plus-Size Porn Is on the Rise — But Not for the Reason We Think

Plus-Size Porn Is on the Rise — But Not for the Reason We Think | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Body positivity has been having a moment as of late. Plus-size models are dominating runways and magazines. The tyranny of the "thigh gap" has been usurped by the somewhat more fat-friendly "thighbrow." In a duet with self-proclaimed "thick" chick Nicki Minaj, Drake has even declared, "I like my girls BBW," referring to "Big Beautiful Women," a niche genre of porn featuring women that are, well, big and beautiful.

However, even though we pay a lot of lip service to women like models Nadia Aboulhosn and Tess Holliday, is the body-positivity trend in the style sphere reflective of a larger phenomenon? Is our culture becoming more accepting of bigger women, both in the fashion world and in the privacy of our own bedrooms? In short: Are we increasingly masturbating to plus-size porn? 
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On Laverne Cox’s Nude Photo Spread & Meghan Murphy’s Transphobia

On Laverne Cox’s Nude Photo Spread & Meghan Murphy’s Transphobia | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Laverne Cox graced Allure’s annual “Nudes” issue with a picture that is so honest in its emotion and raw in its beauty I damn near cried looking at it. She admits her insecurities and ultimately decided to shrug them off and have the mac ‘n’ cheese she was craving the night before the shoot. That’s some role model shit right there. Unless you’re Feminist Current founder Meghan Murphy, who says to her neighbors south of the border (she’s Canadian): “What the fuck are you trying to sell us, America?” She mocks Cox’s insecurities and the idea of “radical self-acceptance” by gasping at her ability to indulge in comfort food and still love herself. Murphy telling Cox to put her clothes back on because she’s uncomfortable around the flawlessness that is Cox’s naked form isn’t an expression of her disdain for catering to the “male gaze.” Murphy is scolding a grown woman who made a choice for herself because: “Seeing a black transgender woman embracing and loving everything about herself might
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The Dutch central bank fires an inspector who failed to report her part-time job

The Dutch central bank fires an inspector who failed to report her part-time job | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
THE stock market was invented in 1602 in central Amsterdam, when traders gathered on the New Bridge for the then-disreputable purpose of speculating in shares of the East India Company. Today the New Bridge marks the entrance to Amsterdam’s Red Light District, an area dominated by other trades long considered disreputable but which the city’s liberal government has tried to bring above-board. But even in Amsterdam, sex work has not shed its stigma, as a former supervisor at the Dutch Central Bank (DNB) discovered last year. The Dutch magazine Quote reported this week that the woman was fired last autumn for having secretly moonlighted for years as a self-employed sex worker, out of an address in the heart of the Red Light District.

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A conversation with Louise Bourgeois

A conversation with Louise Bourgeois | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
toolers:
“I’ve been thinking about this quilt all week
A conversation with Louise Bourgeois in Incontrollable Beauty
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The book is Uncontrollable Beauty.


...And don't you want to see that quilt?!

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An Open Letter to Young Tamil Men About Female Sexuality

An Open Letter to Young Tamil Men About Female Sexuality | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
There seems to be a flawed assumption somewhere in the depths of our patriarchal culture that the ideal woman should be angelic and innocent, blushing at the mere mention of words like "sex" or "penis." Sometimes, when my anger do...

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Woman Gets Off At 'Fifty Shades' Screening, Is a Heroine

Woman Gets Off At 'Fifty Shades' Screening, Is a Heroine | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
A woman was caught masturbating during a 'Fifty Shades of Grey' screening at a theater in the northwestern state of Sinaloa in Mexico, according to the New York Daily News.
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Infidelity in 2014: How Modern Life Lets Us Cheat

Infidelity in 2014: How Modern Life Lets Us Cheat | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
People cheated on network television, and we ate popcorn instead of getting outraged.
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40 Years of Sex-Positive Messages in Hip-Hop Culture (Video)

40 Years of Sex-Positive Messages in Hip-Hop Culture (Video) | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Here is my workshop on Sex Positive Messages in 40 Years of Hip-Hop Culture. It's highly interactive and I had a really fun time. It was standing room only, which was pretty awesome.
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Invisible subjects: the men who fuel the demand for prostitution

Invisible subjects: the men who fuel the demand for prostitution | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

If prostitution is the oldest profession in the world, then punting is the oldest consumer activity. Yet it remains broadly unexamined, perhaps because the questions it raises are too uncomfortable.


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Male Birth Control, Without Condoms, Will Be Here by 2017

Male Birth Control, Without Condoms, Will Be Here by 2017 | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
A reversible polymer that blocks sperm is about to enter human trials and will be available by 2017. How will rhetoric change when male bodies are responsible for birth control?

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Gracie Passette's curator insight, December 1, 2014 3:14 PM

It's about friggin' time.

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Animal Versus Human Nudity - Divorce Darling

Animal Versus Human Nudity - Divorce Darling | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Why is it ok for a dog to display it’s genitals but a human male in the same pose would be labeled as adult content, pornographic, shocking, disgusting, etc.? The image below was on Buzzfeed, a post about taking naps.…
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How The Father Of Soviet Pornography Became A Crusader Against “Gay Propaganda”

How The Father Of Soviet Pornography Became A Crusader Against “Gay Propaganda” | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
“I was the father of the sexual revolution, and now I'm becoming the father of the sexual counterrevolution,” Vladimir Linderman told BuzzFeed News in the Latvian capital, Riga.
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The Great Porn Star ~ Sex Worker Divide

The Great Porn Star ~ Sex Worker Divide | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Whorephobia drives me insane, especially when it results in separation and even worse among sex workers. Perhaps nowhere is this as clear than the divide between porn stars and all the other sex wo...

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Hetero Men Complain About Sexual Rejection From Women. Really?

Hetero Men Complain About Sexual Rejection From Women. Really? | Sex Positive | Scoop.it
Over at Eros Blog, Bacchus has an interesting discussion about a point raised in Adrienne West's post at Thought Catalog. In West's "true sex story", she writes about her discovery that men like po...

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Gracie Passette's curator insight, November 12, 2014 6:26 PM

It's long, it's ranty, it's real.

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Sex Is Sex. But Money Is Money.

Sex Is Sex. But Money Is Money. | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

Escorts make $100 a hand job — but entrepreneurs like me? We make $5,000 a night. Welcome to the new economy of the oldest profession.


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Coercion Dressed Up As Compassion for L.A.'s Teen 'Sex Trafficking' Victims

Coercion Dressed Up As Compassion for L.A.'s Teen 'Sex Trafficking' Victims | Sex Positive | Scoop.it

Teenagers may not have the full capacity to consent or bear as full a responsibility for their actions as adults do, but they're not mentally incapacitated. The government shouldn't be able to lock up a 15-year-old girl 'til her 18th birthday to stop her from having sex in a way of which it disapproves. 

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If Buying Condoms Was Like Buying Birth Control

Safe sex isn’t always easy. Share on Facebook: http://on.fb.me/1vFVmq6 Like BuzzFeedVideo on Facebook: http://on.fb.me/18yCF0b Share on Twitter: http://bit.l...
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great role reversal 

Curated by Deanna Dahlsad
An opinionated woman obsessed with objects, entertained by ephemera, intrigued by researching, fascinated by culture & addicted to writing. The wind says my name; doesn't put an @ in front of it, so maybe you don't notice. http://www.kitsch-slapped.com
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A Marketing Mix
Adventures in advertising and marketing - the contemporary, the historical, and the hysterical. http://deanna.dahlsad.com/
Antiques & Vintage Collectibles
Collecting old things; heirlooms and new to you things! Companion to http://www.inherited-values.com/
Colorful Prism Of Racism
Racism past and present. Companion to http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/category/colorful-prism-of-racism/
Consumption Junction
Consumerism meets marketing; who & what manipulates the free market of goods & services. See also: http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/category/ze-big-mouth-promotions-stuff/
Crimes Against Humanity
From lone gunmen on hills to mass movements. Depressing as hell, really.
Cultural History
The roots of culture; history and pre-history.
Dare To Be A Feminist
I do. http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/category/hey-sister-can-you-spare-some-social-change/
For Art's Sake-1
Art, crafts, and the people who make them. To inspire and purchase. Companion to http://www.ululating-undulating-ungulate.com/
Herstory
History as this woman sees it. The serious, the kitsch, the opinionated. Companion to http://www.kitsch-slapped.com/
In The Name Of God
Mainly acts done in the name of religion, but also discussions of atheism, faith, & spirituality.
Kinsanity
Let's just say I have reasons to learn more about mental health, special needs children, psychology, and the like.
Kitsch
Mostly vintage and retro "badness" but you can decide how delicious it is. http://www.kitschy-kitschy-coo.com/blog/
Nerdy Needs
The stuff of nerdy, geeky, dreams.
Readin', 'Ritin', and (Publishing) 'Rithmetic
The meaning behind the math of the bottom line in publishing and the media. For writers, publishers, and bloggers (which are a combination of the two).
Sex Positive
Sexuality as a human right.
Vintage Living Today For A Future Tomorrow
It's as easy to romanticize the past as it is to demonize it; instead, let's learn from it. More than living simply, more than living 'green', thrifty grandmas knew the importance of the 'economics' in Home Economics. The history of home ec, lessons in thrift, practical tips and ideas from the past focused on sustainability for families and out planet. Companion to http://www.thingsyourgrandmotherknew.com/
Visiting The Past
Travel based on grande ideas, locations, and persons of the past.
Walking On Sunshine
Stuff that makes me smile.
You Call It Obsession & Obscure; I Call It Research & Important
Links to (many of) my columns and articles.