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Building Resilience

Building Resilience | Serving and Leadership | Scoop.it

In the moments when life is falling apart, when our best laid plans are dashed and lying in a heap of disappointment, that we have the opportunity to grow more resilient. This deep inner work is one of the highest forms of love.

 

"None of us knows what might happen even the next minute, yet still we go forward. Because we trust. Because we have Faith." -- Paulo Coelho

 

It's easy to trust when life is giving us what we want, when our relationships are stable and communication flows. Leaning toward trust when our health is broken, our relationship connections are tattered and we can't find the words to express our own needs is where trust becomes our capacity for resilience. In the moments when life is falling apart, when our best laid plans are dashed and lying in a heap of disappointment, that we have the opportunity to grow more resilient.

 

This deep inner work is one of the highest forms of love. It is the work that transforms us into our most authentic and compassionate selves.

 

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Slavica Bogdanov's comment, June 12, 2012 6:03 AM
Great article Martin! I hope many people read this and apply it. Love Paulo Coelho. Yes resilience is what a lot of people throw out from a relationship. Some people prefer to run, chose to flee instead of choosing to stay in through the good and the not so good. Resilience is a fantastic word, I actually had forgotten to use. Thank you.
Martin Gysler's comment, June 12, 2012 7:12 AM
Hi Slavica, great to hear that you like this post. Indeed, resilience is a fantastic and important word in our live.
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10 Things To Stop Caring About Today

10 Things To Stop Caring About Today | Serving and Leadership | Scoop.it

Every day is a new beginning. But in life, sometimes you have to stop before you can truly begin. So starting today…

 

Stop caring about everyone’s opinion of you.

 

For the most part, what other people think and say about you doesn’t matter. When I was younger I let the opinions of my high school and early college peers influence my decisions. And at times they steered me away from ideas and goals I strongly believed in. I realize now, many years later, that this was a foolish way to live, especially when I consider that nearly all of these people whose opinions I cared so much about are no longer a part of my life.

 

Unless you’re trying to make a great first impression (job interview, first date, etc.), don’t let the opinions of others stand in your way. What they think and say about you isn’t important. What is important is how you feel about yourself. Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

 

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10 Simple Truths Smart People Forget

10 Simple Truths Smart People Forget | Serving and Leadership | Scoop.it

Some of the smartest people I know continuously struggle to get ahead because they forget to address a few simple truths that collectively govern our potential to make progress. So here’s a quick reminder:

 

#1 – Education and intelligence accomplish nothing without action.
It doesn’t matter if you have a genius IQ and a PhD in Quantum Physics, you can’t change anything or make any sort of real-world progress without taking action. There’s a huge difference between knowing how to do something and actually doing it. Knowledge and intelligence are both useless without action. It’s as simple as that. For some practical guidance on taking action, I highly recommend The Now Habit.

 

#2 – Happiness and success are two different things.
I know an extremely savvy businesswoman who made almost a million dollars online last year. Every entrepreneur I know considers her to be wildly successful. But guess what? A few days ago, out of the blue, she told me that she’s depressed...

 

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Slavica Bogdanov's comment, May 26, 2012 6:47 AM
Once again a great one, thanks!
Martin Gysler's comment, May 27, 2012 3:06 AM
You're welcome Slavica :)
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How to Hack Your Brain

How to Hack Your Brain | Serving and Leadership | Scoop.it

You are not who you think you are. Your personality and identity is significantly more malleable than you realize. With a few simple tricks, you can exploit your brain's innate functionality to change just about anything about yourself. Here's how.

 

You Are Not Necessarily the Person You Think You Are

 

You are not who you are, but rather the product of many influences. The saying "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" exists for a reason: the longer you've been the person you think you are, the harder it becomes to change. The thing is, you can dramatically change who you are.

 

It's actually not so much that it's difficult to change, but that you've developed patterns and habits that make it easier to do things the way you do them.

 

Trying something in a new way can feel very awkward, it will be generally less efficient by virtue of being something new to you, and it often lacks excitement for you when it involves giving up the comfort associated with your way.


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Self Development Tips

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As long as you are still alive, you are capable of changing and growing. You can do anything you want to do, be anything you want to be. Listen to some positive thoughts on how to continue your self development and then apply them in your own life.

 

Accept personal responsibility for your own growth; no one can do it for you. What you do today will determine your readiness for tomorrow. Take time every day to do something for yourself. Take classes to stay current in your field of expertise. The world is changing rapidly and you must learn to manage change to avoid obsolescence. The way Will Rogers put this was that "Even if you are on the right track, if you just sit there you will get run over."


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Seven Weird Habits That Will Change Your Life

Seven Weird Habits That Will Change Your Life | Serving and Leadership | Scoop.it

Some habits will help you live a better life. They’ll help you improve what’s already working or help you fix what’s not working very well.

 

But what about habits that completely change the game entirely? What are the questions that uproot your beliefs, shake them from its roots and move you into a bigger pot?

 

These are seven habits that won’t just improve your game, or help you “level up.” They’ll help you play a different game, one that you completely design yourself.

 

Regularly engage in time travel. Often the best way to solve a problem is to have a conversation with your future self...

 

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Martin Gysler's comment, April 30, 2012 7:28 AM
Hi Slavica, thank you for your comment. I'm glad that you like this post. Cheers!
Slavica Bogdanov's comment, April 30, 2012 8:40 AM
Yes loved it! hope lot of people read it and apply it. I actually plan to wakl in my future today and take notes. Will keep you posted. Let me know what you think of this article, if you have the time:) http://www.scoop.it/t/attractitude-finances/p/1696864296/3-time-management-concepts-that-will-change-your-life
Martin Gysler's comment, May 1, 2012 2:12 PM
Hi Slavica, thank you for your comment and the link to your blog post. We could speak about it tomorrow on Skype.
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Learning The Softer Side Of Leadership

Learning The Softer Side Of Leadership | Serving and Leadership | Scoop.it

Leaders' primary objective is to empower others to make decisions and take actions that are aligned with the organization’s vision, purpose, and strategy. These nuances are the softer side of leadership, beyond the technical skills that you have already mastered.

 

Leadership is the "eighth wonder of the world." It is better seen and felt than defined and said. It’s easy to intellectualize, but elusive to actualize.

 

The world’s most impactful leaders in all arenas, from business to government, understand the paradox that although leadership starts with the leader, it’s never about the leader. This wisdom should be emulated and applied by everyone who aspires to leadership.

 

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27 Traits Of Successful People

27 Traits Of Successful People | Serving and Leadership | Scoop.it

Is it really possible to become a successful person in just one day? I actually believe you can become a successful person in just one second.

 

Why? Because to be a successful person you only have to change your thoughts and start to think like a successful person. Your have to program your brain to respond differently to situations that it was previously refusing.

 

But how exactly are successful people made and how do they think? I’ve read and studied a lot of books on the subject, as well as experimenting and asking around. The following is list of 27 traits that distinguish successful people from ordinary people. If you take the commitment to apply every day each principle in your life, you’ll start to see amazing results in no time.

 

They are positive. Successful people don’t let negative events alter their ego. They see the glass half full and not half empty. They are known as the ones who raises positiveness among others. Benefits: other people want to stay with them because they make them feel better. They say yes to everything. They take every opportunity they can. They are not afraid of doing something new, like giving a talk in public. They take everything like a challenge with themselves...

 

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Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes

Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes | Serving and Leadership | Scoop.it

Mistake #1: We fall into a combat mentality.

When difficult conversations turn toxic, it's often because we've made a key mistake: we've fallen into a combat mentality. This allows the conversation to become a zero-sum game, with a winner and a loser. But the reality is, when we let conversations take on this tenor – especially at the office – everyone looks bad, and everyone loses. The real enemy is not your conversational counterpart, but the combat mentality itself. And you can defeat it, with strategy and skill.

 

Mistake #2: We try to oversimplify the problem.
If the subject of your argument were straightforward, chances are you wouldn't be arguing about it. Because it's daunting to try and tackle several issues at once, we may try to roll these problems up into a less-complex Über-Problem. But the existence of such a beast is often an illusion. To avoid oversimplifying, remind yourself that if the issue weren't complicated, it probably wouldn't be so hard to talk about.

 

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Are You Postponing Your Life Until Tomorrow? 8 Ways to Start Living NOW

Are You Postponing Your Life Until Tomorrow? 8 Ways to Start Living NOW | Serving and Leadership | Scoop.it

There is nothing worse than looking back at life with regret. But if we keep walking the road of constant procrastination, this outcome is guaranteed. It’s not too late to make the necessary changes.

 

I was controlled by an eating disorder, anorexia nervosa, for over a decade. During this time, I postponed eating and living always to the future. I didn’t want to “waste” calories today if I could eat tomorrow when there might be better food, a nicer atmosphere or better circumstances. I didn’t want to let myself go today if I might be able to do that tomorrow. I didn’t skip harming workouts to go out and have fun because of the chance that tomorrow would be a better opportunity.


Unsurprisingly, tomorrow never came around. At least, the “right” tomorrow on which I could finally start taking care of myself was seemingly elusive and the result was me walking down a very dangerous path.

 

Now that I am in recovery and have my eating disorder under control, I’ve noticed the same things happening in different areas of my life. Whether it relates to work or to my relationships, important things are way too often put off until tomorrow.

 

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The Ten Habits of Passionate People

The Ten Habits of Passionate People | Serving and Leadership | Scoop.it

When you find your passion, you’ll have a boost of motivation to get started and change your life.

 

However, this motivation won’t last if you don’t turn it into habits.

 

We are creatures of habits. Our human nature always looks for ways to create patterns and do things on autopilot.

 

Habits are what differentiate successful people from others.

 

The habits that you’ve developed in the LOST phase – where you used to wander aimlessly without a clear passion or purpose – won’t help you build a life of passion.

 

That’s why you need to develop a new set of habits to serve you in your newly passionate pursuit.

 

These are 10 habits of passionate people that you can start cultivating today:

 

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The Fifty Success Habits

The Fifty Success Habits | Serving and Leadership | Scoop.it

So I thought that I might write a quick review of every self-help book ever written all right here in this one little post. Simple enough. I love the easy jobs. Surely it couldn’t be that hard, could it? I figured that maybe I could take the important lessons from every self-help book I’ve read and every life experience I’ve endured, condense all that into fifty key points and save everybody a whole bunch of reading time. Sure, global book sales in the self-help field might take a down-turn for a decade or so, but I’m willing to take that chance and put in a solid sixty minutes (or so) work for the good of humanity; my gift to mankind.

 

Selfless I know.


I thought that perhaps I could follow Stephen Covey’s lead (the Seven Habits) and come up with my own list of say…

 

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Slavica Bogdanov's comment, May 1, 2012 5:24 PM
Thank you. It felt good to read this, more than words can say.
Martin Gysler's comment, May 2, 2012 12:54 AM
Great Slavica! Yes, this post gives us a lot of interesting insights to be successful and it easy to read!
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Learn to Aim Higher

Learn to Aim Higher | Serving and Leadership | Scoop.it

Everyone, at some point in their life, has dreamed of accomplishing something extraordinary. Who hasn’t dreamed of being wealthy and successful doing work they love to do? Who hasn’t pictured themselves in a happy and loving relationship?

 

We may dream big dreams and have great aspirations, but unfortunately our dreams often remain just that – dreams. As time passes those dreams and aspirations can fade away if we let them.

 

It’s a sad turn of events when we allow this to happens . Instead of our life being an exciting adventure as we pursue our dreams, we can find ourselves caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day with nothing extraordinary to look forward to. But you know what, it doesn’t need to be that way. Life can be so much better. Once we learn how to aim higher and then follow through, amazing things begin to happen.

 

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