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Coaching: It’s All About Hearing the Truth You Don’t Want to Hear

Coaching: It’s All About Hearing the Truth You Don’t Want to Hear | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Recently I was on a panel with a client of mine. We had been coaching for about 12 months when we were invited to talk about our coaching relationship. She started the discussion by saying, “Linda ...

 

Recently I was on a panel with a client of mine. We had been coaching for about 12 months when we were invited to talk about our coaching relationship. She started the discussion by saying, “Linda was my second choice as a coach.” Everyone in the room laughed at this!

 

Then my client continued. “I had interviewed another coach prior to meeting Linda. I loved the other coach. There was great chemistry. During the interview with Linda, she made me very angry. It was on a Friday, and I was angry all weekend. I was stewing because I knew that the first coach would become a good friend, and that Linda would help me get where I wanted to go.”

 

This is not the first time this situation has occurred. I remember another interview several years ago.

 

That gentleman was so angry that he said he didn’t even want referrals from me to other coaches. He’d find them himself! Several weeks later, he contacted me again and said, “I’ve interviewed 4 other coaches, and the voice I keep hearing in my head is yours. You told me the truth I didn’t want to hear.”

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Serving and Leadership on Facebook!

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Articles and Ideas relating to leadership, serving, and culture.
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I have established a companion page to this curation effort on Facebook.  Could you drop by today and 'like' the page?  

The plans include a new blog debuting in 2017.

 
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Great page and thank you for creating it!
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I have established a companion page to this curation effort on Facebook.  Could you drop by today and 'like' the page?  

The plans include a new blog debuting in 2015.

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Leadership is sharing – a leader shares - CUInsight

Leadership is sharing – a leader shares - CUInsight | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it

Leadership is sharing. A leader shares.

 
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People exceed expectations and perform at their fullest potential when they share in the creation and implementation of a vision––and when they feel trusted.
 
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20 Things You Need to Know About Sleep

20 Things You Need to Know About Sleep | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Sleep is that golden chain that binds health, wealth and success together.
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Here are some important facts about sleep that you need to know--especially if you've been depriving yourself:
 
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4 Essential Disciplines for Getting Things Done

4 Essential Disciplines for Getting Things Done | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it

Don’t just keep the plates spinning. Determine which activities will actually advance your goals.

 
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Don’t just keep the plates spinning. Determine which activities will actually advance your goals. - Michael Hyatt
 
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We've stopped trusting institutions and started trusting strangers

We've stopped trusting institutions and started trusting strangers | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Something profound is changing our concept of trust, says Rachel Botsman. While we used to place our trust in institutions like governments and banks, today we increasingly rely on others, often strangers, on platforms like Airbnb and Uber and through technologies like the blockchain. This new era of trust could bring with it a more transparent, inclusive and accountable society — if we get it right. Who do you trust?


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Who do you trust?
 
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David Hain's curator insight, April 19, 5:28 AM

How you get trust from a bunch of initial strangers lies at the heart of collaboration!

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Why Every Leader Should Have A Little Rebel Inside 

Why Every Leader Should Have A Little Rebel Inside  | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
To achieve something significant in the world, to have a meaningful influence, you need to be a rebel. A rebel knows how to challenge the status quo and make
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A rebel has influence and impact. Influence grows when you cede power without being forced to, when you care for others without being required to, when you empower others because you want to, when you serve others because you choose to. This kind of drive grants rebels tremendous influence and impact. They have a way of persuading people to do what they want.
 
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Can You Keep a Secret?

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Can You Keep a Secret? Do you ever try? Maya James shares what she's learning about making decisions and silencing the noise that surrounds her.

 
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While making tough decisions, don’t allow everyone’s input to throw you off. And believe me, everyone’s got input. “Oh, you’re painting? I know a good painter.” Now you’ve added another painter to your list of painter options, and wondering is your painter a good choice after all. It’s not always necessary. The best decisions are usually already within you. Though it’s hard to access them through all of the noise. Silence yourself, listen and learn to keep a secret.
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Your Brain Doesn't Want to Change: 5 Ways to Make It

Your Brain Doesn't Want to Change: 5 Ways to Make It | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Change is always awkward at first, but it gets easier with practice.
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Remember, if you want to behave differently, you have to think differently. We can retrain our brains and form new habits. It just takes courage and the willingness to step outside our comfort zones. Change can be scary, but by taking some time to proactively manage the process, you can set yourself up for success.
 
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Can Great Leaders Be Both Tough and Nurturing?

Can Great Leaders Be Both Tough and Nurturing? | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it

How do you set others free to do their extreme best? It starts with what you don’t do.

 
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How do you set others free to do their extreme best? It starts with what you don’t do.
 
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7 Things You Should Always Be Able to Say About Yourself

7 Things You Should Always Be Able to Say About Yourself | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Don't try to be perfect, just try to be better than you were yesterday.
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All great leaders are cognizant of what they say about themselves, it means they are mindful of who they are being while they are succeeding.
 
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At the end of every conversation, meeting, day, week...

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The Number One Reason People Resist Change

The Number One Reason People Resist Change | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
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When a leader discounts or ignores a person’s emotions the resistance becomes more intense, because the emotions become more intense. This is actually when some of those other emotions – like anger – are often added. The process of change is then stalled and sometimes even derailed. Leader, are you paying attention to the emotions of change?
 
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What Is Upward Leadership and Why You Need to Be Effective Doing It

What Is Upward Leadership and Why You Need to Be Effective Doing It | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Becoming effective in upward leadership will help you be a better team player, a more effective professional, and an all-around better leader

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Upward leadership, at its core, is about developing discipline and mastering the ability to deliver the goods under direction. In some circles, this might be called followership. A good follower embraces responsibility, works to maintain trust at all levels, and never forgets their true convictions. Learning to serve and follow builds humility and empathy—two traits that translate directly into effective upward leadership, as well as effective downward leadership.
 
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Bursting Out of the CEO Bubble

Bursting Out of the CEO Bubble | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Why executives should talk less and ask more questions
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“Quiet time increases the likelihood of asking the right questions.”
 
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Are you bringing leadership to your change? | Quantum Performance Inc

Are you bringing leadership to your change? | Quantum Performance Inc | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
In last week’s blog “Do you know how to overcome the key barriers to change?” I outlined two key barriers that will challenge your ability to stay the course when transforming your organization to the next level, and how to overcome them.  The first one was: “Not tolerating a temporary dip in performance and/or results” …
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The more you educate and prepare yourself the more you can anticipate, expect and be ready for overcoming the inevitable barriers. If you don’t prepare these obstacles will catch you by surprise and overwhelm you.
 
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4 Considerations For Creating An Effective Company Culture

4 Considerations For Creating An Effective Company Culture | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
A company’s culture can be found it its values, behaviors, and visible artifacts like employee dress, interior design, and signage. What impact can you make?
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Ultimately, culture is not something you can design in a vacuum. The industry, the market, and the people who make up the company must all be considered when designing and implementing culture. Ensuring the proper balance of cultural elements can be challenging, but the potential rewards can mean the difference between success and failure.
 
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9 Ways A Leader Can Earn Trust 

9 Ways A Leader Can Earn Trust  | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
The conditions for trusting someone are very personal. In fact, despite how logical your assessments regarding trustworthiness may seem to you, it’s important to remember that not everyone takes the same approach. Some of us grant trust and take it away when someone does not live up to our standards or expectations. Others believe trust must be earned. Many of us fall somewhere in between.

Also, consider that some approach trust as a feeling, using their intuition as their guide in whether to trust someone or not.

However, one thing is certain when it comes to earning trust as a leader: your actions speak far more loudly than your words.



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We use the excuse of having to go to so many meetings or back to back meetings not only as a reason for being late, but for not preparing adequately. As John Wooden said: “failing to prepare is preparing to fail.” It also wastes people’s time, including yours. If you waste my time, how likely am I to trust you with something else that matters to me?
 
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David Hain's curator insight, April 20, 2:43 AM

@SusanMazza knows that trust is the most valuable currency a leaders can purchase and spend!

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Can trust be formulaic?  What do you think?

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Seven Choices To Compassionate Leadership

Seven Choices To Compassionate Leadership | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Recent research shows that having a culture of compassion may not only build a happier workplace but also improve an organization’s bottom line. When we are supportive of one another there is often higher performance because team members feel valued and appreciated for their contributions and want to add more. Show compassion.

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How have you brought compassion to your leadership?
 
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Compassion makes sense, because in the end, we're all human, says @TerriKlass. Useful reminder...

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There needs to be more compassion today in business.  It is time to dump Machiavelli and embrace humanity.

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How to Tap the Full Potential of Your Executive Team

How to Tap the Full Potential of Your Executive Team | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Executive teams play 2 critical roles in an organization.

The first is obvious; they provide strategic and operational leadership to the company. They set goals, develop strategy, and ensure the strategy is executed effectively.

The second is less obvious, but just as important; the executive team provides the organizational and cultural DNA for the company. How well the executive team functions as a collective leadership body and how its members interact serves as the model that teams throughout the company will follow.

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Much of my coaching work is focused on having the top team recognise their role beyond getting tasks done!

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Why Emotional Self-Control Matters

Why Emotional Self-Control Matters | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Releasing anger and frustration can actually help you regain control over a hectic day or win back productivity after feeling frazzled. But you have to do it in a mindful way.
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Without being able to recognize your feelings, you can’t control them. This inevitably effects your disposition—and output—at work.
 
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Why Leaders Should Depersonalize Communication

Why Leaders Should Depersonalize Communication | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Researchers have found leaders are more effective in how they communicate when they depersonalize the message. Learn what this means and how to do it.
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Work can always be improved upon, that’s the nature of progress, and as a leader your job is to evaluate what’s done.
 
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Quiet Power: How to succeed as an introvert in the workplace 

Quiet Power: How to succeed as an introvert in the workplace  | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it

Being an introvert by nature prevents women in particular from getting ahead in business. To remain true to themselves, how can more low-key personalities achieve their goals?
Donald Trump has proved that the most uninhibited extrovert can stomp to the very top of the leadership ladder. Trump thrives when he’s among the masses. The bigger the crowd, the louder and more assured he gets. He knows exactly what to say, at just the right time.  

As an extrovert, Trump is an extreme and, perhaps, aggressive example. Yet, he does embody elements of the personality trait that society favours; we smile at the toddler who sings the loudest at music group and laugh with the quick-witted classmate. We savour positive attention from the bubbly girls and outgoing guys at high school.

Even the workplace is set up to favour extroverts, says Susan Cain, best-selling author and co-founder of the Quiet Revolution, an organisation that aims to unlock the power of introverts. “We work in open-plan offices without walls, where we are subject to the constant noise and gaze of our co-workers,” she says in her TED talk on introversion, which has been viewed more than 15 million times. “And when it comes to leadership, introverts are routinely passed over for these positions.”

Researchers estimate that a third to a half of the population lean towards introversion. Applied to the workplace, can this number be ignored?

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Researchers estimate that a third to a half of the population lean towards introversion. Applied to the workplace, can this number be ignored?
 
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Some positive ways to be quietly powerful...!

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Employee Burnout Is a Problem with the Company, Not the Person

Employee Burnout Is a Problem with the Company, Not the Person | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Executives need to own up to their role.
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Everyone knows the human toll of burnout. Unchecked organizational norms insidiously create the conditions for burnout—but leaders can change them to make burnout less likely. Giving people back the time to do work that drives the company’s success will pay huge dividends by raising productivity, increasing productive output and reducing burnout. Everybody wins.
 
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4 Kinds of Workplaces, and How to Know Which Is Best for You

4 Kinds of Workplaces, and How to Know Which Is Best for You | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
There’s more than one kind of successful organization.
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There’s nothing like doing work that matters, but that means finding a company, organization, or team with a workplace that’s right for you. In a world with so much interesting and important work to do, we all deserve the chance to be at our best and to be surrounded by colleagues who bring out the best in us.
 
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11 Ways To Beat Procrastination

11 Ways To Beat Procrastination | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Procrastination strikes everyone, but it doesn't have to. Dr. Travis Bradberry explains why we procrastinate and how to stop it.

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The key to beating procrastination is to understand that procrastination is rooted in emotions. The strategies above will help you to turn the procrastination doom loop on its head and to achieve greater productivity than ever before.
 
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If all this fails , or you cannot get round to doing it, get an accountability buddy or mentor. Often being responsible to someone else starts us on the road to taking responsibility for ourselves

Kenia Gonzalez's curator insight, April 11, 3:49 AM
Like I’ve said before, procrastination is something I really hate. I something I hate about myself and is something I hate just in general. “Procrastination strikes everyone.” This is true but I believe it has strike me the most. It has been happening to me the most the second semester of my freshman year. It annoys me so much because I want to success and feel accomplished at the end of the day. I usually start my homework late because I procrastinate half of the day on my phone and get distracted with every little thing I see. After reading this article I learned three steps that I know are going to be helpful to me in the long run. “Putting this off. Not in the right mood.” This would my phone and my music because I cannot focus on my writing while listening to music. “Too much time has passed. I rather start.” Realizing it on time is the best way to improve. “Can’t focus. Feeling guilty/cruddy about wasting time.” This should be another reason why I should start on my assignment so I can feel great and just finish everything on time and feel good that I accomplished my goal.
M. Philip Oliver's curator insight, April 16, 12:46 PM

Thanks Dan!

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How to Distinguish Fact From Fiction From Your Employees  

How to Distinguish Fact From Fiction From Your Employees   | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
As a leader, it's your job to recognize that not everything you hear and read from others is true. Feel confident about the decisions you make. Here's how.
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When your people are doing a great job at providing you important facts or if they’re courageously speaking up about important truths, make a point to reward those people and honor their actions. Don’t just say “Great job getting me all the facts,” but do let them know how their activities empowered you to make a great decision or shaped your leadership responsibility in a way that’s better for the organization at large. Make it relevant and meaningful, and this will reinforce those positive behaviors you appreciate and consistently need from your people. - See more at: https://www.mapconsulting.com/blog/how-to-distinguish-fact-from-fiction-from-your-employees#sthash.fFtAF8nl.dpuf
 
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Ivon Prefontaine, PhD's curator insight, April 5, 4:20 PM
As a teacher, I experienced the opposite of what is proposed in this article. Too many school managers want people to agree with them.
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Leadership In A Bubble: CEO Listening Is Harder Than It Sounds

Leadership In A Bubble: CEO Listening Is Harder Than It Sounds | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
CEOs need to get out of the "bubble" where all information confirms their beliefs, as a recent HBR article argued. But random questions are not as valuable as gathering information about the company's key assumptions.
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Getting out of the bubble is as important as the HBR article claims it is, but getting structured information will help the business leader understand what, if anything, needs to be changed in response to the information.
 
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