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How to Give a Gift

How to Give a Gift | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Selecting the right gift is important, how you give it is more important.

 

While gifts of all kinds are given everyday, we are approaching a time of year when we spend more time thinking about the giving of gifts than at any other time of the year. I thought of that when I read this quotation, and decided to share it with you.

 

Below, I will try to extend the thought beyond the traditional gift given on an occasion, but the thought applies to these gifts as well.

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Serving and Leadership on Facebook!

Serving and Leadership on Facebook! | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Articles and Ideas relating to leadership, serving, and culture.
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I have established a companion page to this curation effort on Facebook.  Could you drop by today and 'like' the page?  

The plans include a new blog debuting in 2015.

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Anne Egros's comment, April 23, 2013 7:55 AM
Done it Don, thanks for sharing great content
Patricia D. Sadar - Leadership Strength Coach's comment, August 15, 2013 7:49 AM
Thank you ....just liked the page Don. Love the elephants :)
Joe Boutte's comment, April 5, 2014 7:40 AM
Great page and thank you for creating it!
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4 Ways Your Terrible Job is Actually Helpful

4 Ways Your Terrible Job is Actually Helpful | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it

Terrible jobs provide some of the best learning opportunities that dream jobs just can’t provide. Here are four valuable lessons:

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Are there benefits from having a terrible job?  We have all had jobs that were less than desirable. If we are open to it, we can learn lessons that transcend the 'awfulness' of the role.

 

(From the article): Everyone has a breaking point. Maybe the copy machine was broken for the fifth time this month, or your boss has underestimated your talents yet again. For Selena, her breaking point was when her cubicle-mate took credit for an idea she had for an upcoming campaign.

 

Selena realized that putting in her time and doing tasks she didn’t want to do was an inevitable part of her job, but not being allowed to do the job she was hired for was a different story.

Selena got the motivation she needed to leave her terrible job after her idea a co-worker stole her idea. Once she saw her struggles in the office went beyond what she was willing to tolerate, she decided to make the change to find a better fit for her career.

 

Unfortunately, when you’re in a job you hate, it’s hard to see the positives in something that makes you so unhappy.

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Three Simple Steps to Resolving Conflict

Three Simple Steps to Resolving Conflict | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it

Is there a way to approach conflicts so they can be negotiated peacefully?

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(From the article): The 3 A’s of Conflict Negotiation go like this:

 

First, Acknowledge. Make them feel heard.


Actually listen to the things that are being said and repeat them back. “What I hear you saying is ______. Is that correct?”

 

Second, Align. Make them feel less alone.


How did the situation make the other person feel? Recognize that feeling and speak from their perspective.

 

Third, Assure. Let them know you have a plan.


With every conflict, there must be a resolution. Sometimes the resolution is immediate, sometimes the next step is acknowledging the situation won’t continue happening. Either way, have a plan and communicate that plan.

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What Can the C-Suite Learn From Thomas Jefferson?

What Can the C-Suite Learn From Thomas Jefferson? | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it

Like many historic leaders, Thomas Jefferson was a man who didn't fit into a specific mold. He was considered to be a visionary, often going against the grain in order to achieve the greater good.

 

It's no wonder I like him.

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There is much to learn from studying the stories of great leaders of history. Thomas Jefferson has been one of my favorite leaders to read about. It seems that I am in good company:

 

(From the article): Knowledge is power. Jefferson knew that. He would often spend evenings in deep conversations around dinner and wine. But it wasn't just about being social. It was about learning from his peers - taking their best ideas and applying it to his situations.


C-suite leaders should do the same. Seek out people who've done it before, and learn from them. And when you're at the top, repay the favor. I get requests every day to help others, and I rarely turn any of them down. You never know how your small act of kindness might help someone succeed and thus, repay you in turn.

 

Jefferson, I think, would agree. Get your Jefferson on!

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How management of limited time can liberate you

How management of limited time can liberate you | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
When you progressively approach work from the quality of output perspective, time melts into the background. You then take leadership of your time.
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I am becoming more convinced that it's impossible to be truly balanced with your time. You need to have priorities.

 

(From the article): Goals, on the other hand, help me to structure my time. From the onset, I can already identify potential pitfalls. It becomes possible to design strategies to deal with them. Any week I forget to set my goals often ends up in complete disarray. Getting back on track becomes a struggle of monumental proportions.

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3 Powerful Questions To Start and End Your Day

3 Powerful Questions To Start and End Your Day | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Your questions determine the quality of your answers. Powerful questions will get you a lot farther than quick answers.
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(From the article): Try these questions, see how they work, and find the questions that work best for you. Consider open-ended questions, rather than questions that have only one right answer or that can be answered with a simple “yes” or “no.” The most powerful questions are those that expand your thinking.

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Try these questions, see how they work, and find the questions that work best for you. Consider open-ended questions, rather than questions that have only one right answer or that can be answered with a simple “yes” or “no.” The most powerful questions are those that expand your thinking.

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What to Do If You Feel Stuck in the Wrong Career

What to Do If You Feel Stuck in the Wrong Career | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it

This crisis can be a profound one. You’ve invested a great deal of time, energy, money, and education in your career. You’ve established a solid network and credentials. You may have a certain lifestyle — and the accompanying financial obligations — to keep up with. Maybe you’re hoping to put kids through college and retire in the not-too-distant future. At the same time, you realize that if you don’t make a change now, you may never do it.

 

When you find yourself at this difficult juncture in your life and career, what do you do?

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(From the article): What’s your best advice for someone who needs to get out of a mid-career rut?


Start talking to people who are doing something you think you might like to do. Go interview. If you think the grass is greener somewhere else, go munch some grass on the other side of the fence. Finding work that you love is a fair amount of work. So, do the work.

 

I fundamentally believe that you own your career; companies don’t own it for you. You should be thinking about what you love to do — what you want to do — all the time. And you should feel comfortable talking openly about it. It’s your life.

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Why You're Not Going to Be a Thought Leader in 6 Seconds

Why You're Not Going to Be a Thought Leader in 6 Seconds | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Dorie Clark, author of "Reinventing You" and her latest book, "Stand Out," joins the Social Pros Podcast today to discuss standing out in a sea of freelancers by cultivating a following around your unique expertise and experience.
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(From the article): Thought leadership takes patience and hard work.  For example, Chris Brogan, a very successful marketing consultant, says it took him eight years of blogging to get his first 100 subscribers. We tend to measure success in terms of months instead of years in this digital age. But the underlying success formula really hasn’t changed that much.

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12 Ways to Deal with Your Incompetent Manager

12 Ways to Deal with Your Incompetent Manager | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it

You’re stuck with an incompetent manager who hides in the office, talks too much, has poor people skills, can’t delegate, won’t make decisions, or some other disturbing manager-malady.

 

How to lead up when managers are incompetent?

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What does leading up look like when you have a competent manager?

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A Dangerous Threat to Your Small Business: Mediocrity.

A Dangerous Threat to Your Small Business: Mediocrity. | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
I think it's safe to say that no one starts a new venture or a business simply to be average. There's a drive, a passion and a vision of possibilities. So how do you address the cult of mediocrity in a business and in marketing?
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(From the article): Many companies worry about competitors, their product quality and service – and rightly so. But I think for any growing business, the threat of mediocrity as a status quo is even more dangerous. Leading with inspiration and supporting passion and professionalism with a clear vision and strong company culture can help point people in a direction that supports the success of all involved.

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How To Apologize Like You Really Mean It

How To Apologize Like You Really Mean It | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Everything you need to know about saying "sorry" in the most authentic way possible.
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(From the article): When you think about it, it’s surprising that we’re often so bad at apologizing. After all, we are frequently on the receiving end of apologies ourselves—so we should know what works and what doesn’t, right? In reality, we often forget what it’s like to be on the other side—whether we’re trying to apologize, persuade, help, or motivate.

 

So when crafting your apology, remember to ask yourself, "Who am I talking to, and what are they looking for in my apology?" The guy on the subway doesn’t want to hear that you "feel his pain"—but when you forget your spouse’s birthday, your loved one definitely would like you to feel his or hers.

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Today’s Tough-Minded Leaders Must Increasingly Become Ace Relationship Builders

Today’s Tough-Minded Leaders Must Increasingly Become Ace Relationship Builders | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
The toughest and most results-oriented leaders are discovering that the answer lies in building relationships. Effective leadership is all about the people.

Via Anne Leong, Ricard Lloria
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(From the article) - Treat people with respect and influence them with honor. This one should really go without saying. But, astonishingly, it requires constant repetition.  When you’re the leader, people are remarkably aware of your actions and your tone. They notice if you never give them the time of day. They notice dismissiveness, lazy thinking, and lack of integrity. They also notice when you lead with listening, offer to help, behave in a trustworthy manner, and honor them consistently in a way that befits how valuable they are to organizational success. It’s simple. Honor others with your time and attention and they will honor you with their commitment, hard work, trust, and ultimately performance.

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Leader-follower Relationships will be the new currency in organizational performance enhancement in the future. It allows for maximizing human potential while providing dignity, and identity to all involved.

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Tony Robbins: Why You Should Always Want More

Tony Robbins: Why You Should Always Want More | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
The life coach and author says that no matter how wealthy you are, you should never be satisfied. It's not about greed, it's about maximizing your potential and helping others.
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I have not been a big fan of Tony Robbins in the past. At times, he tends to be too 'new age' and full of 'platitudes' for me. But this article has a great thought:

 

"...no matter how wealthy you are, you should never be satisfied. It's not about greed, it's about maximizing your potential and helping others."

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How to Discover Your "Authentic" Self and Live the Life You Really Want

How to Discover Your "Authentic" Self and Live the Life You Really Want | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Being yourself seems self-explanatory: just wake up and do what you want to do, without following the crowds, without fear of judgment. That’s not how the world works, though. We tend to stifle our authentic selves to fit in without even realizing it. And doing so suppresses our creativity, ingenuity, and self-awareness.
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(From the article): In short, to root out your authentic self isn’t just about being honest, it’s also about being self-aware, becoming more humble, and taking feedback from others. It’s a hard, never ending process because your identity is constantly evolving. But the payoff is a happier, more creative self. According to some psychologists, authenticity can also lead to better coping strategies, a stronger sense of self-worth, more confidence, and a higher likelihood to follow through on goals.

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How To Make Friday The Most Productive Day Of The Week

How To Make Friday The Most Productive Day Of The Week | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Handled right, Fridays are a chance to invest in activities that pay dividends the rest of the week.
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(from the article): GO AHEAD AND DO THE BRAINLESS STUFF

Even if you have paced yourself through the week, most people aren’t going to start huge projects at 2:30 p.m. on Friday. So set this time aside for any administrative work that needs to get done. A bonus: this can help lighten your mental load during the week. When you come across such work, you simply add it to the list for Friday. You can tell yourself there’s a time scheduled for all that, and now is not that time.

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Rushing through the day's tasks doesn't really make your Friday more productive; it just moves the work to Monday! I bet this article has better tips than,"delegate to the lowest man on the totem pole"!

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Leadership lessons from the CIA

Leadership lessons from the CIA | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Longtime analyst Timothy Kilbourn shares the management lessons he learned in his nearly three decades handling crises.
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How did you lead in times of high pressure or crisis? There are few places like the CIA to learn these kinds of leadership lessons.

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10 Ways to be a Mature Leader Even if  You’re Young

10 Ways to be a Mature Leader Even if  You’re Young | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it

What are the fundamental marks of mature leadership?

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It is always a good day to grow into a mature leader.

 

(From the article): Immature leaders circle the past. Mature leaders always press into the future.

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5 Common Unconscious Biases That Lead To Bad Decisions

5 Common Unconscious Biases That Lead To Bad Decisions | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
These mental shortcuts can unknowingly influence your thinking. Here's how you can avoid bad decisions.
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How can you avoid making bad decisions? Could it be possible that you have built in bias which are sabotaging your thinking? 

 

 

(From the article): The strong desire to make a quick decision can lead to a rush-to-solve bias, but people in a hurry often fail to consider all of the possible data before making their decision. Montague says environmental factors like time and budgetary constraints often put people on a rush to solve.


"If you’re in a hurry, you’re also more likely to fall prey to other biases," she says. Avoid this bias by slowing down decisions whenever possible. "Awareness is the first step to improving quality of judgment," she says.

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Leadership is Helping Things Grow

Leadership is Helping Things Grow | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it

It takes hard work and wisdom to help things grow.

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(From the article): The leaders who inspire me are very good at helping things grow. They appreciate the cycle of working and waiting. The leaders who inspire me have insight into what can grow where. They prepare the ground, breaking down resistance. Their leadership plants good seeds, then cares for the plants they produce. They are invested in the results of their efforts, and know the benefits of waiting to see what happens.

 

My friends know they cannot force things to grow. They work hard to help, but cannot control whether growth takes place. They plan well, work hard to do their best, try to make wise choices, and hope for growth. The leaders who inspire me have learned the importance of waiting to see what happens.

 

Each of us leads in ways that affect how we, and other people, grow.

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How to be a Terrible Boss

How to be a Terrible Boss | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
We can be really stupid leaders sometimes and that leads to being a bad boss. I can say this because I've done it. I can be a bad boss and you can too. Here's how...
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(From the article): When we don’t invest the time to think about what we’re doing as leaders, we slip back into boss mode. And boss mode is one small step away from, “Bad Boss” mode. The next time you think you might be slipping, step back and ask yourself, “am I a bad boss?”.

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Why You Should Watch Out for Your 5-Year Job Anniversary

Why You Should Watch Out for Your 5-Year Job Anniversary | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Don’t let yourself become a prisoner.
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(From the article): You can try to pull yourself out of the career ditch by shifting the burden from blaming the organization to raising the bar on your own efforts. If the organization won’t help you do it, use your own initiative. Taking on new and important challenges can change the dynamics of the game. Work may not have to be about feeling underutilized and disconnected from the organization. It can be about putting your best efforts to good use and making a discernable difference. That effort may not get the recognition it deserves. But it could bring the satisfaction back of doing important work, and doing it well. At the very least it will set you up for a better position at a wiser organization.

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Good Leaders Aren’t Afraid to Be Nice

Good Leaders Aren’t Afraid to Be Nice | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
There’s no advantage to being mean.
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(From the article): Keep it simple. Life is complicated enough. Clients and colleagues expect us to be expert enough to keep things simple and easy to follow. It’s a constant struggle to focus more on the story you’re trying to tell than on the slides. But by reminding myself and my team that we’re sitting down with a client to have a nice conversation, we might be able to avoid coming across as the type of people who overly complicate things or act in a way that’s self-important.

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In a world filled with agencies, most of which offer the same services at roughly the same prices, the ultimate difference between success and failure is whether people want to work with your teams or not. It’s the same on the inside.

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5 Ways Leaders Start Movements

5 Ways Leaders Start Movements | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Learn how leaders start movements in these 5 simple steps, demonstrated perfectly in this 3-minute video.

Via Tom D'Amico (@TDOttawa) , Aki Puustinen
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(From the article): With the power of social media, it’s easy for leaders to shine a light on the movement. Remember the Ice Bucket Challenge? Who started it? No one remembers, but that person is a true leader. Once you have a movement, share it with colleagues, friends, family and with the world. Remember, as Sivers explains, when the movement begins, others will join willingly, because most people will fear being left alone, if they fail to join the crowd. Again, consider the Ice Bucket Challenge. You had to join or risk being left out of one of the most powerful movements to come along in many years.

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Good stuff! Thanks to Tom D'Amico.

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Five Ways To Lead An Imperfect Team

Five Ways To Lead An Imperfect Team | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it

So why must leaders accept the team they are given? The answer is simple: most of our teams are filled with people who care and want to do a good job. 

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(From the article): The greatest gift a leader can give is to cultivate a culture of mentoring partnerships. These magical relationships will not only provide learning and growth but will also foster deeper working connections. Sharing our stories and mistakes we made along the way, empowers team members to dream and take risks as well. 

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Stop Trying to Find Your True Self at Work

Stop Trying to Find Your True Self at Work | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Let it surprise you instead.
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(From the article): While feedback may affirm our authenticity, it is love that frees it up. The kind of love that helps us to stop obsessing about, yet does not let us give up on, our selves.

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The 5 Best Pieces Of Advice Any New Leader Will Ever Get

The 5 Best Pieces Of Advice Any New Leader Will Ever Get | Surviving Leadership Chaos | Scoop.it
Back in 1987, my first boss gave me 5 pieces of advice that proved to the best lessons a new leader like me could ever get. And I used them well.
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(From the article) What were these awesome pieces of advice? Here they are:

1) Never, ever, be afraid to hire someone smarter than you.

2) Always remember the 7 most important words: “I don’t know but I’ll find out“.

3) Take the word “can’t” out of your vocabulary, it’s useless.

4) Be a doer, not a thinker.

5) Beware of those calling themselves “experts” – they really don’t knoweverything.

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