As a therapist, it’s clear that the fear of confrontation is at the root of many people’s distress. Workplace issues, relationship troubles, and interpersonal problems could likely be resolved if people were able to address their concerns in an open and direct manner.
People who avoid confrontation often make excuses for their behavior, such as like, “I’m a peacemaker,” or “I don’t want to ruffle any feathers.” Whether it’s an annoying co-worker who leaves coffee mugs all over the office, or a mother-in-law who makes inappropriate jokes, a fear of confrontation often outweighs an individual’s desire to address an issue head-on. Consequently, the problem never gets resolved and the distressed individual continues to suffer.
Confronting someone in an assertive but kind matter doesn’t have to be scary. In fact, you might find others welcome your input and agree to create positive change.
If you’re terrified of expressing your opinion in a direct manner, here are six ways to get over your fear of confrontation:
Via Roger Francis