What is compassion? How can we show compassion to ourselves and others? Begin by ditching judgment and practicing acceptance.
A common but frequently unrecognized side effect of traumatic life experiences is an excessive harshness toward oneself, which often coexists with a healthy degree of care and concern for others. While this harshness toward oneself can be expressed in a multitude of ways, a commonality is the existence of different standards for yourself than the standards held of others. Be it standards regarding fairness, worth, acceptability, or love, the standards for yourself can be far more stringent, unrealistic, and possibly unattainable.
Phrased another way,
you judge yourself with more
rigorous criteria than you use
for anyone else.