Here’s a scenario. You have a friend. Every time your friend makes a mistake, you point it out to her. You berate her for making that mistake. “I can’t believe you did that again! What a moron!” Then if she wants to try something new, you say to her, “Well, not sure you’ll really make it. Remember you failed the last hundred times you tried something new.” How long would this friend stick around?
Yet, do we stop to think how often we say these words to ourselves? Self-compassion is about being your own best friend, befriending who you are now, in this moment, with all your faults and failures. There is new scientific research that shows it can make you a better leader.