ABCs of Resilience: Adversity leads to beliefs leads to consequences. Makes a lot of sense. Meshes well with the concept of growth mind-set. Will be good for stage three of our group learning next year. #GSIP
Neuropsychologists see empathy as the integration of body-based information and emotional signals and cognitive thought and beliefs about another’s experience, making sense, making meaning, creating understanding, and then checking out the accuracy of that understanding through a verbal feedback loop. I experienced the difference between attunement and empathy when my mother died. Many, many good people could attune to the grief and disorientation I was feeling.
A gerontologist with close to 30 years of experience, Pillemer, who is director of the Cornell Institute for Translational Research on Aging, realized that his research was “entirely focused on older people as problems.”
“It’s something a little bit embarrassing for me,” Pillemer told a crowd at the Harvard Graduate School of Education on Wednesday, as he described his work in areas involving chronic pain, elder abuse, Alzheimer’s, dementia, and problems of family care giving. “I got to a point in this revelation that it seemed like I was writing the ‘Book of Job’ for old people.”
But Pillemer, who is also a professor of human development at Cornell University, remembered that his job also engages him with “vibrant, engaged, healthy, exciting, and active older people.”
“ TEACHING character skills like determination and optimism is more important than raising test scores, argues Paul Tough in his new book”
Via Shary Lyssy Marshall
Set high expectations and high standards. Perhaps a system that disallows strict due dates and thus allows students to rush through everything they haven't done all semester in the last few weeks does the opposite of encouraging grit. Perhaps a system that doesn't allow failure also discourages grit. Need to give this a more thorough listen to consolidate my thoughts.
Why do some people seem to bounce back from stress while ohers succumb to depression, anxiety or even Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)? Are some people just better at pulling themselves up by their bootstraps?
"Resilience isn’t something we just “work up” on our own. It is rooted deeply in our first interactions with other human beings—and is watered and fed by the social connections we continue to make throughout our lifespan. Perhaps it’s no accident that we talk about “the milk of human kindness.” After all, just as milk forms the foundation of a baby’s physical health, a parent’s kind and responsive attention forms the foundation of the child’s mental health."