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Have you been feeling a little emotionally drained lately? Have you been finding yourself responding to the emergencies of others as if they are your own?
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Betrayal can be dealt with by assessing the violation, moving forward with a renewed outlook, and effectively processing your feelings. Betrayal by so...
Concepts to think through when you feel betrayed.
Do you want to make your husband feel great? From sincere compliments to questions to help you understand your man better this list has 62 ways to do just that.
Nice list of "words of affirmations" for couples.
Click here for 3 basic communication skills (for couples) that will stop your disagreements escalating into a full-on screaming matches, accompanied by the sounds of slamming doors and one of you sleeping on the couch.
These are 3 great skills that I teach couples all the time in therapy and are explained very well in this article on Love at first fight. When couples actually begin to use these skills many relationships issues are naturally resolved.
Kindness is the state of caring about other people's well-being and taking action to help make other people's lives better and happier. Here are fundamental ways we can build more kindness in our everyday lives.
If you sit in a restaurant and look around sometimes you can determine who is married and who is still dating. A couple still dating hangs on each other’s every word, while the married folks someti... Fuller LIfe Family Therapy
A recent study has revealed a refreshing perspective on what really matters for couples is the sincere attempt to understand each other.
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW, a psychotherapist who specializes in couples therapy, believes that relationships don’t require hard work. They do require attention
A wonderful reframe from how marriage is "hard work" to the reality that marriage just takes both "attention and intention" like taking care of a plant.
Come creare un'unione duratura...
In particolare, il punto 6 mette l'accento su come dire le cose al nostro partner in maniera costruttiva anziché distruttiva.... In pratica si tratta di saper esplicitare i propri limiti invece di far sentire in colpa l'altra persona. Un meccanismo semplicissimo ma estremamente efficace!
Ulteriori approfondimenti sul vivere in coppia su http://www.thaatt.com/livelli/condivisione/
You're hard-wired for empathy, whether you like it or not.
"In fact, human beings are “hard wired” for empathy – it’s part of what makes us deeply social animals, and distinct from other animals on the planet."
Thank you Amy for rescooping this nice article! Our ability to empathize leads us to compassion, which is the key to change "negative" patterns in our life!
Blending two families? Get tips for easing the transition, bonding with stepchildren, and dealing with common challenges.
Excellent resource for blended familes.
For Blended Families.
I have a little secret. I am an inspiration junkie. As an entrepreneur, I want to get as much positive energy as I can in any given day. A few years back, I stumbled into one simple question that
I really identify with what Gina Bianchini shares as a way to get inspiration anywhere and from anyone. What a great practice.
ADHD and Marriage
Adult ADHD presents unique challenges for couples in particular to living interdependently. This website offers tools and resources for the couple where one or both sturggle with attention and focus issues.
Empathy is the ability to project oneself into the personality of another person in order to better understand that person's emotions or feelings. Through empathic listening the listener lets the speaker know, "I understand your problem and how you feel about it, I am interested in what you are saying and I am not judging you." The listener unmistakably conveys this message through words and non-verbal behaviors, including body language. In so doing, the listener encourages the speaker to fully express herself or himself free of interruption, criticism or being told what to do.
Extensive discussion about empathic listening with benefits, how to's, and guidelines.
BYU study shows that materialistic couples are less happy. New research confirms The Beatles’ lyrical hypothesis and finds that there are indeed som...
Money is one of the big 3 sources of conflict for couples (with sex and family)...so it makes sense that couples with a great love of money might have less love for each other.This interesting study stands in the face of what our culture says brings the good life.
Accepting others begins with accepting yourself. This means respecting others whether you agree with them or not. Accepting others is a concept that c...
The value of accepting vs judging is immeasurable.
The science behind social connection
Facinating talk about how being connected with others is good for us and secrets for improving connection.
How to build a great friendship with your spouse
Friendship in marriage is real important. It’s that place in marriage where two people are joined together in a way that they not only love each other, they really like each other.
When you like your spouse you will want to spend time with him/her. As friends you look forward to every chance you get to be together.
Nice explaination of how to build a better friendship with your spouse.
Great advice on how to be friends with your husband or wife. You do things with a friend that keep the friendship going, like being honest, and not criticizing too much.
"My work over the last 15 years has largely been devoted to exploding the damaging myths that we absorb about love, romance, and relationships from the time we're old enough to ingest information. Hollywood, Disney, People magazine, and now Facebook do a superb job at propagating false messages like, When you meet The One, you'll just know or, If you don't feel butterflies every day, you're with the wrong partner. On the surface, these messages may seem innocuous—ridiculous, even—but when the reality of a committed relationship falls short of the culturally-induced expectation, it's frightfully easy to fall prey to the insidious thought that there's something wrong with your relationship, which may cause you to walk away from a loving, well-matched partner. So let's deconstruct some of the most common myths (to deconstruct all of them would require a book-length article) that commonly create unnecessary anxiety even among the most level-headed, intelligent people..."[click on the title for the full article]
Avoiding Conflict is the Biggest Cause of Rage and Anger in a Relationship. As strange as this may sound,I have found working with my clients for the las(...)
I agree! Every emotion that we tend to suppress, comes back overstated! It is much better to take anger as it is, a pure expression of an emotion.
The trick is not to blame the other person to let him/her feel guilty! He/she is actually making us a big favour because through this mirror we can understand more what kind of energy we have inside!
And... by the way... let's learn from young children who are fantastic at expressing anger as it is!
Study tracked couple's sleep and their arguments to reveal how the damage was done.
"Marriage is an alliance entered into by a man who can't sleep with the window shut, and a woman who can't sleep with the window open." —George Bernard Shaw
People are usually at their worst after a bad night's sleep, but what does that do to their intimate relationships?
Just one bad night's sleep can lead to relationship problems -- just one night! This is pretty amazing information, and for any couples with chronic sleep problems, it does help to explain a lot.
Skipping out on shut-eye can mean problems at home. Place a priority on sleep for better health.
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Proponents of marriage may quote any number of reasons why couples should tie the knot instead of living a life of singlehood. A desire to raise children together is one reason many couples wed, but getting hitched might also be better for your health. That's right, a growing body of evidence has suggested marriage may be beneficial for men and women from a health and wellness standpoint.
this article lists the health benefits of being married...
Well, I'm pretty healthy, so it must be true!
Daniel Siegel, MD, is Clinical Professor of psychiatry at UCLA, Co-Director of Mindful Awareness Research Center, Executive Director of Mindsight Institute, author, and recipient of numerous awards and honorary fellowships.This talk examines how relationships and reflection support the development of resilience in children and serve as the basic '3 R's" of a new internal education of the mind.
Very informative explaination of the brain and how it works to help us manage ourselves.
Eye contact can signal love, hate, intelligence, creepiness, persuasion, sarcasm and sometimes lies.
Finding Common Ground: The Harvard Negotiation Project
Wonderful tool for navigating conflict in a healthy manner from the Gottman Relationship Blog:
Trust and Trust Building
Trust has been identified as a key element of successful conflict resolution (including negotiation and mediation). This is not surprising insofar as trust is associated with enhanced cooperation, information sharing, and problem solving.
The need for trust arises from our interdependence with others. We often depend on other people to help us obtain, or at least not to frustrate, the outcomes we value (and they on us). As our interests with others are intertwined, we also must recognize that there is an element of risk involved insofar as we often encounter situations in which we cannot compel the cooperation we seek. Therefore, trust can be very valuable in social interactions.
This essay on trust and trust building is quite through and very informative. Helpful for families and parents with adolescents and couples who struggle with trust.