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The sociologist and bestselling author at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center provides specific, research-tested tips for staying calm when fighting with someone we love.
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If you have real concerns about the health of your marriage, here are 7 reasons to begin Marriage Counseling NOW! 1. If you haven’t been able to improve the relationship on your own, it’s time to t...
Ignoring problems does not make them go away. Sometimes people fear being open about negative feelings will cause irreparable damage to the relationship. But how does hiding true feelings about valid concerns help the marriage? There’s a chance these hurts will resolve in time, but at what cost? When it comes to close relationships, open closeness always feels better in the long run. With love, healing is always possible!
Its important to recognize problems in relationships and get help! Friends and family members may not always be able to give guidance. Professional guidance can help figure out negative patterns in relationships.
Couples can be happier now than ever before. But it’s rare.
The good news is that our marriages can flourish today like never before. They just can’t do it on their own.
Interesting article about the history of marriage and current relationship trends backed by research. The state of marital satisfaction is like wealth in America...the gap is getting bigger. It IS possible to have a great marriage, but it will take time, dedication and effort.
"Those individuals who can invest enough time and energy in their partnership are seeing unprecedented benefits." I am grateful to be living proof of this statement. My marriage is flourishing because it is we are one in a complimentary sense and we are unitive and procreative, which are traditionally held values. And we have modern sensibilities to help us be our best selves within this context and the complicated culture in which we live.
We all want to be understood. We all need to be understood. Here are 3 important tips to avoid fighting with your spouse while still getting what you want.
These 3 great tips are really a challenge...because they are NOT easy!
He cooks, she cleans, they both work and take care of the kids. It’s the perfect egalitarian marriage. There’s just one problem.
If he helps out with household chores...he's likely to have less sex...read this fascinating article.
The turning of a year seems to beg us to reevaluate, revitalize, and recommit. We resolve to do better and to be better in almost every area of our lives.
These tips from Eve Eschner Hogan at Spiritualityhealth.com are right on...be curious, present and reach out and touch each other.
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With Deepening Intimacy, 17 acclaimed relationship and couples experts teach us their most valuable, must-know essentials for resolving the obstacles to healthy intimacy and creating a deeply fulfilling life partnership.
With Deepening Intimacy, we invited 17 acclaimed relationship and couples experts to teach us their most valuable, must-know essentials for resolving the obstacles to healthy intimacy and creating a deeply fulfilling life partnership.
This is a fun list of text messages to send to your loved one.
Love out loud and in your own unique style. Make it count when you say "I love you," and you'll watch your relationship blossom.
Clever and creative ways to say I love you...
So grateful to The RSA (Royal Society for the encouragement of Arts) for inviting me to speak in London this year and to animator and illustrator, Katy Davis, for this amazing short on empathy!
Lovely illustration of empathy and connection
A new survey confirms what your premarital counselor knew all along: the trick to staving off divorce lies in how effectively you and your spouse communicate.
Communication!!!! First of all communication MUST be inside ourselves, with our inner self! The "outside" is simply the reflection of the inside!
You change the inside.... thw world around you is going to change!!!
By Dr. David Schnarch
One of the most important things in life is becoming a solid individual. And another important thing is to have meaningful relationships. Two of the most powerful human drives are our urge to control our own lives (autonomy), and our urge for relationship with others (attachment). One of the biggest tasks of adulthood is being able to balance these two urges, and one of the most common problems is having too much of one, and not enough of the other. People often feel claustrophobic or controlled in committed relationships, or feel like they can't be their true self in their relationships, or feel like their sense of self is starting to disappear and they don't know who they are any more. Others are constantly worried about "abandonment," or "safety and security," and constantly press their partner for "commitment," and "unconditional love."
The 4 points of balance are: 1) a solid flexible self, 2) Quiet Mind and Calm Heart, 3) Grounded Responding and 4) Meaningful Endurance.
Schnarch offers a simplified understanding of differentiation and how to build healthy relationships through fostering a healthy sense of self when in close proximity to loved ones.
Here's the thing about love: it's hard to put into words. Love brings up emotions that run the gamut from agony to ecstasy. Here are 50 of the best quotes that ever passed the lips of famous lovers. We couldn't have put these better ourselves.
Recently there was an article in several marital journals as well as SmartMarriages.com suggesting that if only one of the partners of a troubled couple came to therapy it could save the marriage.
Wise Advice for women from Mary Jo Rapini
There is a popular belief in the marriage and relationship world that when the doldrums hit and you find yourself more numb than really alive, you should look for ways to get back what you once had...
How the "love drug" phenylethylamine and Oxytocin work in long-term relationships...good stuff.
Discover what scientists know about happy couples, and your relationship will never be the same--guaranteed.
Great Visuals backed by tons of Research! MUST READ for happy couples or wanna-be happy couples!
21 facts about what makes a marriage happy!
Traditional matrimony—he brings home the bacon, she cooks it—is dying. But college-educated couples are pointing toward a new model with children at the heart of the union.
American marriage is not dying. But it is undergoing a metamorphosis, prompted by a transformation in the economic and social status of women and the virtual disappearance of low-skilled male jobs. The old form of marriage, based on outdated social rules and gender roles, is fading. A new version is emerging—egalitarian, committed, and focused on children.
This fascinating article explains the transformation of marriage for the most highly educated into what he calls a HIP marriage (Highly-Invested-Parents) and suggests their focus on children could, if practiced among the least educated, save marriage in America.
Marriage is good for your health, according to a recent study by the Duke University Medical Center. Research drawn from more than 4,800 participants born during the 1940s found that those who had never married were twice as likely to die in midlife as people who had a long-term partner.
Couples who have celebrated their golden anniversary share tips for a marriage that goes the distance. - See more at: http://spiritualityhealth.com/articles/love-lasts#sthash.S6zDCEui.dpuf
I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Your wife doesn’t think she’s beautiful. How can she? The world is busy pointing out all of her flaws. Particularly at the beginning of the year, I have ...
Unfortunately, the reality is most women do not feel beautiful. The author of this sad but true blog advises husband to compliment their wives on appearance frequently.
While this is a great practice it's only one side of the coin. It's also important for women to learn to see themselves as beautiful whether their spouse builds them up or not. Any type of compare leads to despair...
This well written ebook contains 10 gems about marriage. I particularly appreciate how she dispells commonly accepted myths such as: Happiness is the goal of marriage, I married the wrong person, and love is a feeling. Although the author, Lori Lowe, does not provide a discusson of her research methods, she does claim to base her "gems" on research.
The renowned marriage expert explains that couples build trust in the small moments of a relationship, when we're emotionally attuned to our partner. Learn m...
Practical insights on how to build trust in a relationship and tell the difference between distrust and betrayal.
Mindfulness: How a meditation practice can help kids with ADHD, anxiety, autism and depression become less anxious, more focused, and more in charge of their own behavior
A remedy for all ages!
For kids, the holidays are supposed to be filled with joy and excitement. However, for some children who have suffered a recent loss, the holidays can be especially hard.
This is a good article about helping children during the Holiday season cope with grief.
The biggest thing parents, teachers and grief counselors can do is listen to kids and let them know its is alright to grieve. especially during these sad times. Helping children cope with grief is best done through new rituals or expressions during the Holiday season. A memory box is an excellent example found in the article.
in the end, remember, children greive like all of us over the loss of a loved one and not to ignore their grief.
If you are interested in how to become a grief counselor, then please review our program.
There are certain things in life you can't fully understand until you've been through them yourself. And marriage is definitely one of those things.
nice list...helps debunk some myths we have about "happily ever after."
Two new studies reveal how marital bliss won't just keep you happy; it'll keep you living longer, too.
By Adam Hoffman
Empathy can be painful.
Or so suggests a growing body of neuroscientific research.
When we witness suffering and distress in others, our natural tendency to empathize can bring us vicarious pain.
Is there a better way of approaching distress in other people? A recent study...
Pairing empathy with compassion helps us cope with difficult emotions.