This week was terribly mundane.
It was one of those weeks filled with laundry and schedules and coffee pots and ticking clocks. I was never a schedule loving person, for my drive for freedom and adventure overthrew sameness like waves, swallowing any idea of such a dreadful notion in their foam.
Yet, I still do it. We all do. Structure. Rules. Routine. It gets draining, and naturally, I crave more.
Don’t we all instinctively crave more?
I work in an oncology program for women and my patients often talk about “feeling” and “being” more often than women who are not sick. In fact, in my time directly working with the energy and emotion of oncology patients of all ages, I have noticed that nearly all of them talk about their primal needs, even long after they’ve recovered.
They have been rocked right to the core by an unforgiving disease that causes great pain, even beyond recovery, yet also incredible humbleness. And while they maneuver that unpredictable jungle of medical treatments, charts, and needles, it is their spirit that they face head on, and most are astounded in what they find: a warrior.
They also learn early on that it wasn’t the cancer cells that made them a warrior; they were born that way. We all were born that way but sometimes it takes extreme diversity to unleash it again.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
That is why tonight I write from a fierce place, a place made of fire, and a slow burning truth. She inhabits my ribs and breathes her flames, sometimes quiet, and sometimes a roar I cannot purge. It is nights like these when she presses until I can no longer stand her howls, rising like the moon and forcing me awake. She is a force and familiar memory, the primal me, the warrior, and the human. The human in us all.
To be fully human is to be wild.Wild is the strange pull and whispering wisdom. It’s the gentle nudge and the forceful ache. It is your truth, passed down from the ancients, and the very stream of life in your blood. Wild is the soul where passion and creativity reside, and the quickening of your heart. Wild is what is real, and wild is your home.
Tonight, I throw my advice to the wind to reach those who feel painfully restless and forgetful of spirit. Our souls are naturally filled with great vitality and ageless knowing that flow through us freely until they gets blocked by modern living.
Right now, I urge you to unravel the listless, rigid parts and feed your wild, because it is the wild you, not the barely alive, embedded-into-routine, zombie-like you that is now struggling for air. For turn on. For sweet prana. Restore the wild and the warrior.
You shouldn’t have to get sick or halt domesticity to find it; you just need to remember that you are human, still very much alive, and wickedly, wildly extraordinary.
“We are all as much extraordinary phenomena of nature as trees, clouds, the patterns in running water, the flickering of fire, the arrangement of the stars, and the form of a galaxy.” ~ Alan Watts
“How,” you beg, “do I restore it? How can I truly be human in this modern society that keeps us so terribly tame? How can I manage the me that longs for fresh air free of concrete and traffic lights and ugly parking lots? How does one breathe life into the wild parts that crave connection to themselves, to others, and to the earth?”
“The way to maintain one’s connection to the wild is to ask yourself what it is that you want. This is the sorting of the seed from the dirt. One of the most important discriminations we can make in this matter is the difference between things that beckon to us and things that call from our souls.” ~ Clarissa Pinkola Estes
Let’s go there. To the primal place you can reach in every day life. Here are eight incredibly simple and direct ways to feed your wild spirit—for these are some of the very things that can call to your truth quickly, even if you don’t know it yet.
Gardeners are cultivators and regenerators, harvesting new life and replacing the old, stagnant energy with new seeds. Dig into the dirt with bare hands and breathe the essence of herbs and flowers into your wise body, for it will recognize them as home. Get earthy and gorgeously dirty.
2. Feed on raw food.
Energize, alkalize, and heal your body on a deep, cellular level. Nourish yourself with vibrant greens and fresh juices with nutrients you know the story behind; nutrients that heal illnesses instead of creating them with chemicals born in a lab.
“The food you eat can be either the safest and most powerful form of medicine or the slowest form of poison. ” ~ Ann Wigmore
Start buzzing with aliveness from food that is also alive, and feel your body’s wisdom beat with every breath.
3. Find live music.
Find the kind of music that makes your soul soar from the sound. From drum circles under ancient trees, to jazz on city streets, to underground clubs that keep people dancing through the night, music’s rhythmic beats exist to tell universal truths that awaken us from everyday hibernation.
Have you ever seen crowds of 60,000 people at music festivals? They sing with the bands under enormous summer skies, erupting into applause, dance, and smiles so large they ache. If that isn’t the wild, primal roar of the human spirit, than I don’t know what is. Find it, because music, my friends, is life.
Find the most hilarious person you know, whether it’s over social media, lunch, or the work water cooler and laugh. Even if you only have 20 minutes, take a random car ride to somewhere even more random. Dance to eighties music while you clean the house, paint the inside of your garage neon, or watch a Pixar movie with your favorite kiddo.
Personally, I love swing sets. I don’t care what your age is or how busy you are, play is essential to promote a youthful mind which is dynamic, curious, and enthusiastic, and that will open you to new possibilities which will feed your wild spirit even more. A playful mind is fluid, creative, and of course, wild.
5. Make love.
“Despite what you’ve been conditioned to believe, sexual desire is sacred and virtuous. When you and your beloved merge physically and emotionally, you go beyond the boundaries of the ego and experience timelessness, naturalness, playfulness and defenselessness.” ~ Deepak Chopra
Make love like it’s your last night on earth, gasping for air and sanity, frantic under clouds and stars and sheets. The kind of animalistic lovemaking that’s written in books that hypnotizes and captivates. The kind that’s made of heartbeats, intertwined flesh, and fiery, blazing, all consuming passion.
6. Get wet.
These are cures that open you in places you forgot could even open, for salt and water are a miraculous mix. Release disappointment through tears, sweat from awesome, bodily pumping movement, and swim in the soft caress of water.
These wild activities often launch you into the feeling of vulnerability and renewed power at the same time, while carrying you to a a clearer place inside your mind. Yes, there you are again, wild one.
7. Tell your stories.
Tell stories of your childhood, of deep rooted pain, of intense loss, of blood and of your greatest loves. Tell them by firelight under violet, star-filled skies, or by sending words into cyberspace. Tell them over cups of strong espresso or glasses of sweet red wine. Tell them with tears and laughter and faith in the human race. Tell them to friends, to lovers, and to strangers.
Everyone has stories that need to be told, and there is always someone to listen. Make sure you tell your stories while you still have the chance.
Show who you are, authentically, and completely unapologetically. Be fearless in your ambitions, goals and decisions. That energy will then spread itself into the universe and boost the human race, for one drop can indeed, raise the entire ocean.
“As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people the right to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others” ~ Marianne Williamson
And as you work on these wondrous things to restore your wild spirit, do remember that even when you’re still not quite there, you are a miraculous human warrior and that you are beautiful, wildly beautiful.